My 19 mo. old daughter always wants her Mommy. I'm exhausted! Are their any tricks to make her more independant?

Patricia - posted on 05/14/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




I am a stay at home Mom and my daughter is always wanting to be in the same room as me whether it is the bedroom, kitchen or even the bathroom. She starts crying "MOMMY!" if she does not see me. She is like this even with my husband and her 9 and 10 year old siblings. She does not want to play on her own or without me. I cannot cook, shower or rest for very long. It makes any time away from her a nightmare for the caretaker and myself, because I can imagine her stress of not having me there. Is there any advice or tricks you can provide to make my daughter more independant?


Sarah - posted on 05/15/2010




Hi Patricia, My youngest was very much a Mummy's girl, she still is to a certain extent!
It IS exhausting to have them want you there literally 24/7 and i think you have every right to feel exhausted by it.

Maybe try just saying her "Mummy will be right back" leave the room, and then leave it a minute and go back and say "Mummy's back!" Try to get her to understand that you WILL come back, that your not leaving her forever lol. You can gradually extend the time you leave for.

Does she let your husband do things for her? Like get her dressed or change her nappy and stuff? My little one always wanted "Mama" to do EVERYTHING! In the end though, my husband just did it, so she would get used to the fact that it can't always be Mummy.

It's really stressful, because you want to just be there all the time for them, but it's not always practical and in my opinion, they need to learn that.
Hope some of that helps, best of luck, and it won't last forever! (not to that extent anyway! lol)

Shelley - posted on 05/15/2010




hi Patricia,
Do you have a play pen i've found this to work really well
place your daughter in the play pen and explain that you will be back in 5 minutes give her 3 toy's/ activities maybe a cause and effect toy, a book and her favourite doll Set a timer where she can see it leave when the timer goes off come back if she cries let her go you will only be 5 minutes she will get the hang of it do it twice a day then as the week goes by slowly increase the amount of time once she gets a little better you can get up to 45 minutes of room time as she'll stay in her room without the play pen. it;s hard at first but i promise it will work if you are consistant. Every mother needs a little break good luck

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She's a baby. What do you expect?
Seriously. Have a little patience. All she will every know of love and trust is how she's dealt with at home. You are a VERY big part of that. Be calm, be there. Believe me, she will be grown in no time and you can get all the rest and "me time" you can stand.

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