My child was circumcised but it doesn't look like it!!

Tawny - posted on 12/03/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Im looking for honest help here, with not anyone telling me that Im a bad parent or anything.. But when my little guy was born my milk wouldn't come in because I had a erupted placenta. So my little one lost weight so they couldn't do the circumcision. So we had to wait and do it at the Ped. office.. Since this is my first child I didn't know what their little wee wee needed to look like. I know that is silly but I wasn't sure... So we brought him back to the Dr. office and they said that they didn't cut enough off. They told me not to worry about it and when he starts to walk he will lose the fatty area around is wee wee and it will start to look normal....I even brought him to a specialist. OKAY so now my little guy is 2-1/2 years old and it still looks uncircumcised, and he gets a bath every day and I am trying to potty training him (but he is a slow learner) I have done everything they told me to do to keep it clean but it still gets red around the tip and swollen. It hurts him because he will grab at his diaper and when I change him he says ow. So my question is what would you do in this situation would you take him back to the Ped. office and demand them to do it right and make them pay for it because I personally do not think I should pay for it again. But if we go ahead with it they would have to give him anesthesia and that worries me with him being so young but I don't want to wait till he is older that can be traumatizing... Please remember Im not asking for someone to tell me that Im a terrible mom for doing the circumcision I would like honest answers from other mothers.,.. thank you

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ME - posted on 12/05/2009

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I was also going to suggest calling a urologist. My son is not circumcised, and he had a similar problem around his first birthday. The urologist told us that it was like a diaper rash on his penis, and nothing to worry about, but his assurances made me feel a whole lot better. Good luck!

Mary - posted on 12/03/2009

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Not an expert here, but I would highly recommend taking him to a urologist. I believe that is who typically does circumcisions after that 6 month window. Pediatricians do not routinely do them, as they are not surgeons (in the States, it is the OB who does them in the hospital, because THEY are surgeons). My sister ran into this with her son...he was born at 36 weeks, and weighed about 5lbs. Her wanker of an OB refused to do him prior to discharge because he was "too small" (at my hospital, they routinely circumcise our NICU babies a few days prior to discharge, and some of them are smaller than that). Once he was out of the hospital, her ped told her it would have to be done by a urologist, under anesthesia, after 6 months of age. Luckily, I knew an OB who was also a practicing Moyle (sp?), and was willing to do it in his office at 3 months of age. Her insurance did cover the cost.

At over 2, I believe that a urologist and general anesthesia are your only options. I understand your anger at your Ped, but at this point, you need to forget about that, and take him to the appropriate person to fix his problem Sounds like this is not about cosmetics, but that he is having issues with infection that need to be rectified. Worry about the blame game after his issues have been resolved.

Crystal - posted on 12/08/2009

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My youngest son had similar problems and ended up being "circumcised" four times..I say it like that because each time they took off a little more skin..his problem was that the skin kept growing back up around the tip and he ended up getting urine and yeast infections because it was harder to clean than just not having him circumcised. I would definitely ask for a referral to a urologist or something along those lines. Good luck hon I know its hard to see your baby hurting.

Tawny - posted on 12/03/2009

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Thank you all for responding Im going to call the Ped. office tommorrow and set up an appointment....

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My son wasn't circ'd at birth either, he was too small (only 1lb 13oz) and due to some confussion over whether or not he had a hernia he didn't get done before discharge. He went to hospital 2 months ago (I should say that he's 22 months now) to have an undecsended testicle pulled into place and while there he was circ'd. It's still not totally healed but to me it looks as thought they mightn't have taken enough off - our family doc mentioned it as well but told us not to worry too much until the bell (the thing they use to pull back and tie off the skin) totally falls off. We go back to the hospital for a follow up with the surgeon next week. We'll see what she says.

That's my story, now I was told that a little redness on the tip was normal but if it's hurting him - that's not normal. He may have an infection. My guy's circ got infected and it was nasty looking - he had two different infections. Definately go back to your ped and get a referal to a urologist (as mentioned already). They may have a solution that doesn't require surgery. Anesthesia can be scary but more so for mom and dad, my son was put under for his operation...he was fine, I was a wreak. The anesthesia did disrupt his sleep pattern so we had sleepless nights around here for a week or so but I think the infection he got afterward caused more of an issue than the anesthesia and original surgery. If it needs to be fixed than I would say to do it now and not later.

I hope I've helped in some small way. Good luck.

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Dana - posted on 12/03/2009

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Take him to a Urologist for sure. I would not have the ped touch it again. You'll obviously need a referral from the pediatrician but, he should understand why you'd want him to see a Urologist, remember he works for you. My son had to have surgery to fix a slight hypospadias and they used his foreskin to repair it. It can be frightening to have them go under but, it is worth it to have it fixed and to see why it's hurting him. Good luck! Let us know how it goes.



Oh,Traci, our OB's do it here in Ohio too.

Mary - posted on 12/03/2009

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Quoting Traci:

I would talk to the doc and see what your options are. He shouldn't have to live with that and the younger he gets it taken care of, the better.

Mary, that's interesting that you said the OB usually does the circ? I've never heard of that...I only have one boy and our ped did it. Is that typical?



It is in the states of Maryland and Virginia.  Technically, it involves cutting, and is therefore a "surgical" procedure.  OB's are trained surgeons, pediatricians are not.  I think it may vary from state to state, but most probably mandate that the OB does it.  Trust me, they hate it...I think they only get about $50-$75 bucks for it, and it's jsut one more thing for them to have to worry about.  Should there be any complications, it gets a bit confusing, since they are not baby docs.

Debbie - posted on 12/03/2009

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Hi I would definately take him back to your doctor and talk to them about it. He may have a urine infection which is causing the burning. If it is just a urine infection and thats easily fixed then wait a little bit so that he is older for the anesthetic...but do get it fixed whilst he is young...good luck for you and the little man

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