My daughter is gay

Monica - posted on 07/15/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My adult daughter, after having been married for two years, in the relationship with her now ex husband, for 12 years, told me in february 13 of this year.that she is now with a woman. I dm having trouble especially since we have always had a tumultuous relationship. Any advice for me? I can't change my feelings or beliefs about this. Please help!

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/21/2014

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Rather than praying for your daughter, how about pray for yourself to learn how to become the loving, accepting, non-judgmental person that you should be?

MommyInc - posted on 07/20/2014

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Listen I am 32 years old and now im married and have a beautiful baby girl however prior to meeting my husband I was only in relationships with women it could of been my abusive boyfriend from the past and I didnt want to habe anyone who could physically hurt me plus I was alwats the dominate in the same sex relationships but it took me meeting tge right man to sway my sexual preferences I always was attratcted to women untill I met my now husband . My parents never understood I was judged at 12 yrs old my mom caught me with a girl and instead of accepting me she pushed one of my older brothers friends to date me HE ewas 21 he was a pedophile hemy parents put me out he had me stripping AND doing addictive substances before I was 13 it drove a wedge between my parents and I . However afrer 10 -years of being someones property I made my own choice and left and unfortantley with a.7th grade education and my only skill was stripping and extortion of married men my lifr was filled with horror for almost a decade and a halg untill I made the changes against the grain I dont know u I hace no clue y im sharing my most personal part of my life with u maybe because I hope u dont want ur child to feel unexpected and do things that are counterproductive . U care or u wouldnt of posted that question u love HER. Is she happy... would u rather have ur child live a happy fufilling life or live a life u want to live a life u want for her. Ehatever u decide its your choice . Grr choice could be a way to deal with something yhst happend in her marriage or she could of always been gay and was to scared she eouldny be accepted by who mattrrs....U. so its ur choicr to mske but pld sccept her and see where it goes before u possibly push ur daughter away . One thing in life I is constant CHANGE... THINGS CAN CHANGE MY LIFE DID MY OADT IS JUST THAT JUST THAT MY PAST SND NOW I HAVE A BEAUTIFUL FAMILY IM.IN LOVE WITH MY HUSBANX AND BEING A MOM IS THE MOST REWARDING EXPERIENCE I EVER HAVE THE PLEASURE TO BE . SO MU FUTURE IS NOT WHAT I EXPECTED ITS BETTER THEN I EVER IMAGINED ...

Lori - posted on 07/20/2014

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you can love your daughter without condoning her behavior or decisions. she is an adult so her decisions are hers. I am sure she understands your position on this so just try to be civil (the relationship is already strained from what I am getting). being civil does not mean condoning.

and if you are religious, pray for her....everyone always can use some prayers.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/15/2014

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It is not for you to judge her for her sexuality.



Be honest with her. If you cannot accept that she is gay, don't put on a mask and pretend. If you cannot be happy for her being in a relationship, then don't say anything.



Basically, this is where the phrase 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all' applies.

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