My daughters Gay :,(

Lille - posted on 11/19/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have a problem. My daughter has recently admitted that she believes herself to be gay. I don't know how to react or how to handle it. Any advice? xxxx


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User - posted on 11/23/2013




Shes your daughter, respect that she told you. Tell her you love her either way and glad she felt comfortable enough go tell you. Good luck! :)

Annie - posted on 11/23/2013




I am happy to know that she was open to you..which shows how much she trust you and the kind of bond you both have...most kids keep it a secret and hide from parents and society and do dump thing and get depressed go on drugs and stuff...plz be by her side she will have her own fear..explore the possibility ..see why she feels so she on a steady relation ..or is she saying this due to some experience?? analyse the situation with your heart and brains..if you stay strong no one will make it hard for u guys..friend and community reacts when we have a problem..protect your baby..if god made her that way accept her for what she is..this is one rule i am also living with daughter is 5 and if chooses to be a lesbian i am gonna totally stick with her...he world had changed ...stop worrying and help her ..

DonnaMarie - posted on 11/22/2013




With how the world is today, I see no problem with this. Having a daughter that is gay is perfectly acceptable, I know if my son ever came out I would approve no mater what the choice was. Know that she feels comfortable enough to talk to you and that could be a great thing, her confiding in you is proof that you have done a great job raising her and she wants you to help her along her journey.

Danicia - posted on 11/20/2013




wohoo! no unexpected babies! lol that would be my initial thought if my daughter admitted to preferring women.
if it makes her happy and she is being safe (as far as relationships go in general) why not be supportive? it's not your preference or lifestyle but it may be hers. she may like orange, you may like purple but your differences in taste shouldn't affect your relationship with her. as long as she's in a healthy relationship with whoever she chooses to love, you should be happy you have given her the tools/life lessons/confidence to find someone who treats your daughter right, regardless of their sex. I wish you luck in this plot twist, you guys will get through this :)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/20/2013




Do you love your daughter?

If so, then you "react" by continuing to love her, not criticizing her lifestyle. You don't lecture her about her morality. You don't lecture her about the "correctness" of her lifestyle.

If you cannot do that, then at least be adult enough to be honest with your daughter, tell her that you cannot accept her lifestyle, and let her move forward.

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