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So, I'm sure most of you have either read the book or seen the movie?!! Would you ever have a child to try and help save another? What did you think about the book? What did you think about the movie?

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Emma - posted on 04/30/2010

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I really enjoyed the movie, my hubby and i talked about this after watching it and said the only way we would is if they could use the stem cells from the umbilical cord, but never if they where going to use the kid as a one stop shop, i think that's tantamount to child abuse, both physical and Emotional

Rae - posted on 04/13/2010

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OK, I cried from beginning to end of the film, i would love to read the book. To answer the question, No i couldnt bring a child into the world who main purpose was to save my ill child. Would i consent to one of my children having surgery if it was the very last choice to save their sibling...maybe. I only hope that I dont have to face this situation intill my children are old enough to choose for themselves

Jodi - posted on 04/12/2010

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I watched the movie first and then just recently also read the book. I originally loved the movie, but having now read the book, have to say the book was MUCH better. I'm still not sure which ending a prefer, but I think the one in the book was more powerful and had a greater impact. Thanks to Jodi for giving that insight into the author's reason for that ending, I can see why.

Would I have another child for this reason? Well, I probably couldn't - my poor old eggs would be mostly shrivelled up defective things these days, I''m sure, but other than this, I'd never want to put that responsibility on a child. But having said that, I am not sure how I would feel if I was REALLY in that situation. It is all fine to say I hypothetically disagree with it, but if it was happening to me, I am not sure if I could look at it in the same way....

Charlie - posted on 04/12/2010

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havent read the book but i have seen the movie and my fiance came home to me and my dad sitting on the couch a pair of blubbering messes ! No i wouldnt have a child to save another , i think its a little cruel to farm children for organs and blood .

Kayle - posted on 04/12/2010

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The movie sucked but the book was amazing. I hope I would never be in the situation to make that decision. I could see where the mother was coming from but I think she took it to far. If it was a by chance thing that I just happened to end up pregnant and everything was right that this new baby matched with my son I would allow the cord blood donation but that would be all that type of responsibility should never be put on a child.

Jodi - posted on 03/22/2010

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I LOVED the book, not so much the movie. I couldn't really place Cameron Diaz in that role, and I spent more time saying "that's not how it was in the book" than I did actually watching the movie. I actually read a quote from Jodi Picoult (my fav author) stating that she made the ending that way to send a specific message and she wasn't sure why it was changed!

I would never be able to have a child to save another. It would be hard enough watching one child in pain, let alone two.

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I LOVED the book, but I did not see the movie as one of my friends told me the end was different (and not in a way that I think was a good idea since she told me how the movie ended... but then again, I rarely like both the movie and the book and I will usually read the book and not watch the movie... but I digress).



As to the original question. I don't think I could ever have another child for the SOLE purpose of saving my existing child. Now, if I had a sick child and got pregnant again and the new baby had the ability to help my sick child, that is another story. I, of course, would wait for the younger child to be old enough to decide if they want to help their older sibling, but I would ask and go with the answer they give (and if the answer is no, I would probably be upset, but it's their choice and it's their body).

Tah - posted on 03/20/2010

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I loved the movie, i don't think you should have a child as a parts machine, but i am sure i would run every option through my mind if i was in that situation..it was sad...

Ez - posted on 03/20/2010

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I haven't seen the movie on purpose. I loved loved LOVED the book and the movie is just never as good (think P.S I Love You).

It's such an awful situation and as a mother I would be tempted to do ANYTHING to save my child. But having another child to try and help save another would mean I was prioritising the needs of my first child over the new one. That is why I could never do it, no matter how much I wanted to. Everyone understands a parent's wish to protect their child at all cost, but not at the expense of another innocent baby.

Erin - posted on 03/20/2010

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It was a really good movie, I bawled my eyes out on some parts. But no, I would never have another child to help my sick child. How would that child feel knowing that's why you had them? I am going to pick up the book and read it, I'm sure it's even better than the movie.

Lisamarie - posted on 03/20/2010

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I watched the movie, would like to read the book though! Anyways, loved the movie, was so sad! But I would never, ever, ever have a child to save another!!! Your child is extremely ill and everything is taken out of your hands, you have no choice in the situation, so why would you willingly put another child through that pain.

I understand that the situation they were in is terrible and you would want to do anything to help your child but I don't see myself bringing another child into it.

Such a sad, horrible situation, I hope I will never have to go through.

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