Need prayers, not a debate

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I know I mentioned prayers, but if you don't pray... think of us at least. ;)

Went to court today. My son IS going to the Big Island w/ his sisters for the last week of Christmas break. At the moment, the concept is really exciting him, so HOPEFULLY he will surprise me and be ok.

And, of course, my ex filed a motion against me that was 99% lies, but whatever. That stuff is just a minor annoyance since I think the judge is tired of listening to him come up w/ that nonsense. He always says these really stupid things about how I'm withholding his kids and interfering w/ visitations and phone calls and that he's got all this evidence against me.... Funny that my lawyer and I have never received a shred of this 'evidence' that he supposedly has.

Anyway, it's going to be an extremely rough next 3 weeks for me and I'd appreciate and prayers or good thoughts you could offer. Thanks. :)


Meghan - posted on 12/14/2010




Teresa, I have always felt I can kinda relate to your situation...maybe our ex's know each other?
J is scheduled to be with his father for 5 days over the Christmas break, and while thats not a week, given our situation I feel it is waay too much.
I will be thinking of you. Keep your head up!


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Jodi - posted on 12/14/2010




Teresa, I will be thinking of you, at least you know you have somewhere to hang out and keep you from going insane, LOL.

From my experience with these things, kids are actually amazingly resilient. I know I used to be worse than my son was when I first split with my ex and had to send him away on overnight, weekend or week long visits. Now it's just part of the routine. My son always coped with it much better than I did. So try not to stress, he might surprise you :)

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I'll keep you in my thoughts girl. Oh, and I thought the same thing about Katherine's comment too at first. Took me a second to realize..."Ohhhh she's talking about HIM!"

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Thanks everyone. I do pray for my ex... and not the 'I hope he drops off a cliff' prayer like many of my friends do. I pray that he will be the dad my kids deserve and will think of THEM over himself (and other things too, but that's the most important one). I do want my kids to be able to have a relationship w/ my ex. All I was asking for was that my ex attempt a couple (or at least one) overnight visits w/ our son over here before having him away for 7 nights straight. My son has never been away from me overnight before, freaks out even when we sleep someplace that ISN'T home (even when he's sleeping w/ me), has never been w/ his father for longer than 10 hours straight and has only spent 19 hours total w/ his father in the past 8 months.... and my son is only 2 years 8 months old. :(

Oh well... I've tried everything I can possibly think of to get the courts or my ex to work WITH me to make this visit a pleasant one. Now I've just got to do my best to prepare the kids... and PRAY.

April - posted on 12/14/2010




Teresa...I will pray AND think of you!! I also want to say that I have a good feeling about's just a feeling but I hope it gives you hope!

PS...I think your son will be okay without nursing and i do think he will return to nursing. :)

Rachel - posted on 12/14/2010




I'm new here and I hope you don't feel I'm overstepping bounds...but you have every ounce of prayers and support I can send.

I just completed my final hearing, my ex was selling drugs and tried to do the same thing to me that is happening to you...the lies and crap. The drama of dealing with an ex when trying to raise your children is horrible, frustrating and terrifying when you send them off with someone you don't trust. Keep faith (in whatever you have faith in, even your children) that everything will be okay. Even during their heartbreak they know you are their rock; it's your job to put the pieces back together and to show them what the world is really about and what makes it happy and well.

My stepson has an emotionally and physically abusive mother. He's 18 and when he visits her, even at his age, he comes home broken. I cry every time he leaves, he doesn't know that, because I know what he will be dealing with and I can't protect him. All I can hold on to is that he's coming home to be and I'll be there to help put him back together, cry with him, and to remind him of all the wonderful things in life to be happy about. My baby girl is only 18 months, and I dread the day I have to do the same with her.

It's a horrible thing to go through, you and everyone involved have my prayers.

Tara - posted on 12/14/2010




Trust that you have raised your children well and that they will take the confidence and sense of self with them when they go.
You have given them a great base of love and trust and security. Now you must trust that they can be okay without you.
Your son needs his dad, (unless he is a complete tool who beats them or ignores them or neglects them) even if he isn't the best dad or ex, they still need their father, and believe me, you will be glad one day if they have a relationship with him. It truly does help to have an ex who is involved, perhaps this will change his attitude about being an ex.
Good Luck,
You are in my thoughts.

Gina - posted on 12/14/2010




Teresa, I'm really sorry you're going through such a bad time.Just remember everything passes,and I pray that God helps you through this tough time.I hope your children cope OK with this too.

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Teresa, I'll hold your family in my prayers, I hope you and your son are ok, and both adapt well to this new situation **HUGS**

Tah - posted on 12/14/2010




you, the kids and the ex are in my prayers...i know we forget but we have to pray for our enemies too..even when it's hard and we would much rather throw something at their heads....

Petra - posted on 12/14/2010




I'll definitely send some positive vibes your way, Teresa. Hop on & vent any time - keep us updated!

Becky - posted on 12/13/2010




I'm sorry you're having to deal with this nastiness. I will be praying for all of you. I hope your Christmas is really special in spite of everything!

Katherine - posted on 12/13/2010




Btw, I meant him, sorry if that sounded bad :/

I'm with you, I'm going through a similar situation.

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{{{HUGS}}} Teresa....I hate to see a nasty divorce get even nastier. I have a good friend going through this too and it takes such an emotional toll. Hope you have an awesome attorney!

C. - posted on 12/13/2010




Aww, Teresa!!! I'm sorry you're going through that. I'll definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers!

Katherine - posted on 12/13/2010




Usually the more you flap your mouth, the less you're heard........

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