Newly-wed Bickering/arguing normal or not?

Allie - posted on 03/25/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Me and my husband have been married for 6 months (together 3 years total) and the last few months have been NOTHING but bickering and arguing over everything from whose washing dishes to paying bills. I have a short temper when it comes to someone barking orders at me, and he gets mad when i jump and defend myself to his berating. His dad did it to his mom and i watched my dad do it to my mother..and i know i should probably bite my tongue, but i told him from the beginning i was not the meek little housewife he wanted. I stand up for myself. I didnt appreciate my dad yelling at me and barking orders like i was his built in slave, and my husband doesnt do it all the time but sometimes he gets unbearable. I know i can be a hard-@$$ too sometimes, but its because he expects me to come home from my 9-10 hour day in the office and be at his beck and call AND get all of my housework done. I know they say the first year is the hardest, but shouldnt we still be in the "honey-moon phase"? i just dont want to spend the rest of our married lives fighting..when its good its GREAT..but when its bad...its HELLish.

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ISABEL CARRION DE - posted on 03/25/2014

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Your trying to become one culture, this time is hard, but this is part of marriage. You should try to be smart all the time if you love your husband and he loves you´re bearing eachother. Man is head of the family and woman neck of the head, and It can´t function separately.

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Allie - posted on 03/28/2014

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I know...its just like the man i married and who he is now are two completely different people. He gets mad at me for not being at his beck and call. I work 9 hours a day in an office as an engineer. I am exhausted when i get home, but i still do my household duties and cook his supper and lunches for the next day. what does he do? sits on the couch and watches tv..he is in that 50's state of mind where everything is my responsibility since im the little wife...but what he doesnt understand is that most wives in the 50s did nothing but stay at home...its just frustrating to have everything on my shoulders and no help.

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