No Dating Without Martial Arts Combat Training

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I was chit-chatting with another teacher at dance duty the other night. She told me that she grew up in a shady part of the inner-city. In her family it is a requirement that all females have some kind of martial arts combat/self defense training for at least 2 years prior to dating. Most of the girls start training around 7th grade/8th grade. Not karate training for trophies or competition, unless that is something to pursue AFTER combat/self-defense training. But actual training. The boys in the family have to take 1 year of training. This teacher's 13 year old son is starting his training after the new year, even though they no longer live in the middle of Phoenix. Part of the program for the all-boy training teaches "man skills" and mentorship, in addition to the martial arts training. Any opinions?

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I think its a great idea. My mom taught me how self defense so i could protect myself if i ever needed to.

Tracey - posted on 12/06/2010




Good idea as long as you also teach them how to deal with emotional pressure from their dates to do something they are unhappy with.

Meghan - posted on 12/06/2010




I think its a great idea...seeing as MOST rapes and assaults are done by people that you know.

Tah - posted on 12/06/2010




a hit to the throat, knee to the groin, headbutt to the nose...i think it will at least slow him down...i fight people taller than me and who outweigh me, and trust me they are not playing...there is a girl in there that comes everyday because she is in the teacher's program, she fights the men in there and they don't show her mercy and she gives them a run for there money, she does things that stop them in their tracks and they are cutting her no slack as our sinsai says.."if you don't attack your opponent with full force you are reaching in their pocket and taking their money" She is a little girl and she will flip a grown man over, she has also been doing her weapons training so goodness help you if she gets to a tree think it just gives me piece of mind, and it gives them confidence and tools. I don't expect them to leave an attacker bloody in the street(it would be nice) that's a bonus, if they know how to get out of a hold, give a good hard Shin kick from any side..poke a eye, head butt, gut punch anything to buy them a minute, i am with it. I am 5' 6'2 nephew always wants to try me because he thinks how you do...he came and grabbed me around my neck and my right hand..there was little left to do with the left hand so i kicked his Shin with my heel(as hard as i could..his grip loosened, i then stepped back into him, grabbed his arm and next thing you know i was behind him with his arm in a twist...and yes he was holding me tight, like cutting off my air tight, but the practice taught me how to think in those situations which is why we attack each other in class...he hasn''t tried since..just

Sherri - posted on 12/06/2010




Honestly I think if something truly happened in real life not in a controlled environment in will not do any good. Honestly when a possible woman is outweighed by 200lbs a hit, jab etc. will have zero results.

P.S. I am very knowledgeable when it comes to Martial Arts as my son attended for over 8+ years.

Tah - posted on 12/06/2010




in our class, we focus on alot, like getting out of certain things, one thing he teaches is that if you block, you have to follow it up with a hit..WHY?..well lets see, say you swing at me and i block it...your adrenaline is going, you may not be thinking straight, you don't know that i just blocked your attack per may interpret my block as a hit, so you mind tells you to what?..hit me again...or try if i block it, i have to finish the attack...a hit, knee, head butt or just sweep the person and put them down to get their shows them how to move and how to anticipate a certain situation...there is definitely some good stuff there, he also teaches self defense by it self. Weapons training..but the children have to be blue belts to start that..i will probably start my weapons training at the beginning of the year. He is also starting a mixed martial arts class soon, he wants my 13 year old and another boy in the class to do that as well...

Katherine - posted on 12/06/2010




I think they should be trained to get out of certain situations. I think it's a great idea. I was trained a little when I was a freshman in college, but I think there should be training for kids too. We have safety town here and they teach them a lot.

They don't teach them how to fight back though.

Tah - posted on 12/06/2010




i'm all for it...ya'll know i am...i made my 13 year old niece take it..i asked her..What else are you doing besides on your phone with your cousins?, you are here 2 hours a week anyway with your sister, you might as well get a uniform and learn how to kick something, it's gonna cost my sister the same amount anyway. I explained to her that i want her to be able to protect herself because firstly..i couldn't pay anyone to believe she isn't 20 just by looking, overdeveloped, about 5'6..if not more(her dad and older sister are tall) soon you will be visiting the mall with your friends, maybe working there, you walk to a bus stop down a little tiny alley of a street at the butt crack of dawn, and who knows what boy in school may think it is cute to grab you or worse(look at the girl who was raped in the bathroom last week and the principal sat her in the office for hours before calling the cops). I know we can't always be there with her, or the other girls, so i want them to be able to protect themselves or at least do enough to gain them a little extra time to run, yell or get away. I also do it for bullies that think it is good to pull hair and throw things. I love the confidence i have seen in the girls,my son i put in it for some of the same reasons but the skills and mentorship were also a good thing..

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