not a debate: how does your baby sleep?

Joanna - posted on 01/12/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )




Eva is 12 weeks old. The last week she went from sleeping for 4 hours, then 2 hours, then 1 hour (her normal night), to sleeping for 20-30 minutes at a time, all day long. She is swaddled and will only sleep in her swing. I put her down, even in her swing, unswaddled, and she wakes up right away.

I'm at my wits end. I've had maybe 4 hours of sleep in the last week.

So tell me - how does your baby sleep? things like, swaddled/unswaddled, back/side, tummy, yourbed/crib/bassinett/swing, age they started sleeping through the night, how they slept at 12 weeks, etc. Anything that might help me out. My first was happily swaddled until she was 7 months, slept for a couple hours at a time until then when we did a soft version of CIO, and started sleeping through the night. So I'm not used to this every-half-an-hour-and-doesn't-really-want-to-be-swaddled thing.

thanks ladies :)


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Shauna - posted on 01/23/2011




I used to swaddle my son b/c i thought he liked it.... he actually hated it. He slept in a sleepsack untill the age of 8 mo when he outgrew them. He slept in his own crib starting at age 3 mo and slep through the night since.

Candi - posted on 01/23/2011




My daughter is almost 2 and I just now know the feeling of getting up every couple of hours and its hard to get through the day sometimes. She doesnt get up fully or to eat but she comes in our bed and I get a horribe nights sleep.
When my daughter was born for the week we were in the hospital she was up every 2 hours like a normal newborn then the night we got home she slept from 10 at night til 8 in the morning for that week then once my fiance went back to work, overnights, she started sleeping from 11 at night til 11-1 in the after noon with out waking up once, we just got lucky then. But she never liked sleeping on her back so we put her on her tummy and to this day she still sleeps on her tummy. I use to leave her in her carseat some nights and she would sleep just as good. Ive always giving her a blanket or 2 to cover up with depending how cold I was or how warm her pjs are. SO my advise to you would try putting her on her belly and see how she sleeps, try unswaddling her and give her a blanket to cover up with. You can also try putting cereal in her milk if you bottle feed, if not then try feeding her the cereal it fills them up more and she may just still be hungray even if you just fed her or she may just be ready for food and milk together. When my daughter was 3 1/2 - 4 months I started her on the vegetables stage 1 foods and she is perfectly fine. I also give my daughter a bedtime bath with Johnsons and Johnsons bed time bath and that works great, now I use the aveeno sometimes the baby one or the adult one but she's almost 2 so with your daughter only being 12 weeks Id stick to baby products.Good Luck hopefully something works for you soon :-).

April - posted on 01/13/2011




My 2 year old still wakes up frequently at night to nurse. He has always slept in either his bassinet, crib or his pack n play, right beside our bed.

Actually up until last month, he hated being in bed with us. He'd throw a fit if we tried to bring him to bed. For whatever reason, he has changed his mind on this and now enjoys bedsharing.

I only enjoy it when it is just us 2 because we have a very small bed. When my hubby is at work, we bedshare. If he is home, I try to avoid bringing him to bed.

He nurses anywhere from 3 to 5 times a night. That's the only way I can get him back to sleep. No form of CIO has ever worked and I refuse to do it anyway.

i have never had a full night's sleep even once since I became a mommy. i do not know what it is like to have a child that sleeps 10 hours a night and seriously have no advice on sleep.

Oh btw, he HATED being swaddled from day 1. He HATED his baby swing (he was terrified!)

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Roxanne typically sleeps 12 hours right through the night, except for recently because she's been sick and teething. She goes to bed immediately. She LOVES her crib!

Stifler's - posted on 01/13/2011




He slept on his side when he was a teeny baby and still sometimes does. Sometimes he goes on his back though.

Joanna - posted on 01/13/2011




See, Eva is the opposite, she loves to kick so her legs have to be unswaddled.

Update - she took an hour nap today in the swing followed by and hour nursing/sleeping on the couch!

Amy - posted on 01/13/2011




My kids were almost always side or fell asleep ON me after nursing/rocking and then I laid them on their backs in the crib until they were old enough to roll.....they were tummy sleepers. My kids hated swaddling. If anything, legs could have been swaddled, but they sure wanted their hands/arms out.

Joanna - posted on 01/13/2011




I wish I could put the swing in our room. Weekly have room.., we bought a king sized bed in hopes of cosleeping for awhile, and it takes up most of the room.

Last night she had 4 1-hour stretches though. 2 while laying on the couch nursing, one swaddled in her swing, and one suprisongly in her pack and play, lying on her side propped in her boppy.

Melissa - posted on 01/13/2011




my daughter also slept in a swing as a newborn only way to get het to sleep. I tried to stop it but I couldnt. After literally 12 or 13 hours of her being awake (she would fall asleep while breas feeding for few minutes here and there) I gave up and just allowed her to sleep in the swing til she got older now she is juts perfect at nearly6 months

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I had a cradle that rocked. Eliza slept there, right next to my bed. If she needed to nurse, I didn't have to get out of bed to get her. I just rolled over, picked her up and put her on the boob. When she was done, she went right back into the cradle. If she had trouble settling, I could rock the cradle with my hand while I was half asleep in my comfy bed next to her. It was also easy to put the paci in her mouth if she lost it. She slept on her back, not swaddled, with a pacifier. She was sleeping one 6 hour stretch each night at around 6 weeks. The rest of the day she had 2-3 hour sleep/wake cycles. there anyway to put the swing next to your bed so you can swing it while in bed? I may not have been completely rested, but resting in bed sounds way more comfy than laying under a swing.

Ez - posted on 01/12/2011




I could never get Milla to settle in my bed either Joanna, which sucked because I had planned on co-sleeping. She was swaddled until 6 months and LOVED it. She was a fabulous night time sleeper, and slept 6hrs straight the first night home from hospital. By 8 weeks she was doing 12hrs. BUT, she would only sleep through the day if I was holding or wearing her, and it was only ever for that 45min sleep cycle. I did manage to transition her to take naps in her cot at around 3 months. It took a lot of patting and 'sshhh'ing, but definitely no crying. But again, it was only 45mins at a time. That didn't change until she was crawling and I guess physically more tired.

Joanna - posted on 01/12/2011




Nope. She never wakes up crying. She just wakes up, sometimes if I hurry and push the swing faster she will fall back asleep again. Some nights I sleep under the swing and when I hear her stir I push the swing for upwards of an hour until she goes back to a deep sleep for another 20-30 minutes. Sometimes I just keep doing that and she will sleep for 3 hours. It's like she just needs to go uberfast.

Katherine - posted on 01/12/2011




When my daughter was a newborn she slept in a swing. She had acid reflux though and we didn't know it. When we found out we sat her upright for 30 minutes and THEN laid her down, but with a towel under her mattress so it was elevated a little. Is she waking crying hard?

Amanda - posted on 01/12/2011




mine doesn't..... he is now 9 months old and never sleeps more than 45 minutes at a time :( he starts off in his crib and then after a couple wakings moves into our bed.... his older brother was the same way, and somewhere in his 10th month of life started sleeping 6-8 hours per night.

Maddie - posted on 01/12/2011




My daughter has slept on her tummy since 6 weeks and has been sleeping 8-10hours a night...

Nikkole - posted on 01/12/2011




My daughter slept swaddled till 4 1/2 months then she flipped and flopped too much so now shes EVERYWHERE lol she usually sleeps on her belly with her butt in the air! And since she was 2 months old she has slept in her pack n play from 9pm to 8am to im lucky but she wont take naps during the day unless i hold her!

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My youngest still wakes up every 4 hours at 8 months. Around 3 months he went through a stage where he didn't sleep and I just made it a point to put him down whenever he fell asleep. Eventually after a couple weeks he got back into a regular sleep schedule and I just stayed consistent with putting him down, if he woke back up I would get him to sleep and put him down again. He hated being swaddled and wouldn't sleep in his crib til he was about 4 months, he liked his bassinett.

Joanna - posted on 01/12/2011




My big problem is she will not sleep in the bed with me. Sometimes I can get her to sleep up to an hour with me on the couch when she uses me as a pacifier, but she will not sleep in the bed. I haven't slept in my own bed in a couple weeks! ugh!

Melissa - posted on 01/12/2011




mine started sleeping through the night (7 hours) at 2 weeks and is breast fed. my first started sleeping through the night eary as she was formula fed. Now at 6 months sleeps usually 9-12 hours (last night she was up at 4.30am not sure what woke up but she didnt even really want a feed) She doesnt cry though only plays so its hard for me to say when she actually wakes up but I usually here her playing on the monitor. I wrap her still with both arms out

Charlie - posted on 01/12/2011




My first slept through the night at 3 months old my youngest Harry is 6 months tomorrow he sleeps through most nights and we bed share with both , Cooper was moved into his own bed once he slept through all night every night and Harry will too but for now he still occasionally wakes so he will continue to snuggle with us for now .

Oh yeah we did swaddle Harry up until it hit summer time and he wasn't interested now he prefers to sleep curled in a ball on his side , cooper hated swaddling probably because he was born into a hot summer and just loved sprawling out .

I find bedsharing really helps everyone get more sleep in our house.

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My son napped in his bouncy seat most of the time til he was too big.... and never more than 45 minutes at a time (that was MAX) until he was only napping once a day. For the first 5 months of his life, during the night he slept upright on his belly on me while I was propped upright in the middle of the bed.

I hope you figure something out soon!

Minnie - posted on 01/12/2011




My two year old has only started not waking as much to nurse during the night. Several nights now she's gone 6-8 hours without nursing! Yay for me! LOL.

I've found that in the past her waking more frequently, having trouble staying asleep and having a more difficult time getting to sleep all had to do with some sort of upheaval in her life. Things like becoming more aware, becoming mobile, teething, illness, stress, etc.

I remember her waking very frequently around 4 months, 6 months, 10 months, 14 cycles.

She has always slept right next to me in bed, no swaddling, and she either slept on her back or side. She's quite creative now in the positions she likes to sleep in :).

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I feel for you. Up until any of my children were around 4 months they refused to sleep anywhere but with me or in the arms of someone which is why i do bed share because it helps me get some sleep while they were feeding.
I have heard that there is a major growth spurt at 12 weeks and if i recall correctly all of them were even worse at that age.
I swaddle and then i would go through a routine type of thing where once they were asleep i would put them down on their back if they woke i'd settle them back to sleep and then try them on their side both time on their bassinette. If none of that worked then i would put them in bed with me if it was possible.
My 6 month old has just started sleeping through the night. he goes to bed at 7:30ish and hasn't ( touch wood) for the past 2 weeks been awake before 5am. I also no longer swaddle him but thats because it's summer here.
I'm sorry if none of that is very helpful but it's all i have.
Good luck with it all, i hope she starts to sleep for you again soon.

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