Ok a lesson for all of us & a question

Sharon - posted on 07/11/2010 ( 42 moms have responded )

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1. PLEASE if you're easily grossed out do not watch this

2. If you're exceptionally hormonal (like I am) do not watch this

3. If you're depressed or lost a loved one recently - oh god PLEASE don't watch this...

My question - this video is a driving lesson for us, one I'm glad I saw. sort of. I have a peripheral friend on FB who recently lost his daughter. I'm not sure I want him to see this but I think this is SO important for all of my friends. So many of them have kids almost ready to drive. And we ALL need reminders now & then to WATCH THE ROAD!!!! I think I have a solution - and I'm going to post it... but my question was "Should I post this knowing THIS is how he lost his daughter?"

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Nikki - posted on 07/11/2010

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I read all your warnings, yet I watched the video, ive been crying since the mother was hit and the little boy was standing there saying Mommy, I cant even stop now. When my son was born, it took me months before i would even get behind the wheel, in fear of careless drivers. I am so beyond careful and I even make sure to pay attention to every car around me . My son still seats RF and will until its impossible ( he's 13 months) the video of the little 18 month old boy who now wears a full brace because of an accident and he was FF scared the hell out of me. When my son was 6 months we were on the highway and there was a guy watching a movie and turned right into me , I managed to somehow avoid him, I have no idea how he was flying , I also had a lady almost hit me head on when she turned a corner on a side street and was speeding, she went into my lane to avoid a parked car, and I luckily turned the wheel in time and ended up on someones front lawn

PEOPLE REALLY NEED TO FOCUS ON THE ROAD , WE HAVE A CELL PHONE BAN HERE, WHICH NOONE FOLLOWS, AND A TV IN THE CAR REALLY HOW STUPID IS THAT. NOT ONLY DO WE NEED TO FOCUS ON OUR DRIVING BUT WE NEED TO BE AWARE OF EVERYONE DRIVING AROUND US

My brother lost his 3 best friends to drunk driving they drove off a cliff, my brother was supposed to be in that car heading up to the cottage with them, but I had asked him if he could help me move and Id drive him up the next day. In a second things can change thats all it takes, this video hopefully is a wake up call for a lot of people, its sad that this is what needs to happen for people to understand

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I just have a question to ask. To all you idiots who run red lights, speed, drink and drive, don't focus on driving, are so impatient that you have to forcibly pass others; "Is it worth it?" Because all I know, is that it's those idiots who are the reason for things like this. And it is always those idiots who survive. And as a warning, even if you think that you are a safe and decent driver, if other's are not, then you aren't safe. If other people cannot follow the rules, then it is other people that suffer.

FYI, I cried all the way through. D:

Sharon - posted on 07/12/2010

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I find it hard to believe that it would affect no one. Surely someone who is a chronic driving screwoff - will see that and think "damn, that could have been me" and make SOME effort to fix their driving habits.

We had two neighbors out here who enjoyed driving to fast. For our closest neighbor who was a complete moron - we we heaved giant friggen rocks into the road just at the turn - so that when he came around the corner - he had to slam on the brakes or tear out the underside of his car.

Other neighbor - we hid in some bushes and threw rocks at his truck - both times was after they had killed dogs. Not ours, just dogs in the neighborhood. None of us let our dogs roam but shit happens. Someone leaves a gate open, kids open the door at the wrong time, etc. Each of them tried to cover up what they had done. We kept up the rock things off and on for a while. Back then the lead in road was dirt and we dug trenches during the monsoon (heavy seasonal rains)- since they aren't city/state/county maintained/owned roads - they're private - we can do what we want.

It PISSED THEM off. But they didn't know who had done it, everyone hated them. And one of them is a minister. UGH - you'd think at the least he'd be interested in fostering good neighbor relationships but nope. Jerk.

I showed my son the texting while driving video last year - that seemed to have made an impact on him.

He's on the verge of getting his learners permit and i'm tempted to show him this one when he starts.

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Tah - posted on 07/16/2010

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i didnt sobb...but i was a little shocked by this..def wakes u up..i have gone on youtube a few times and looked at memorials of people who dies, i found it by acidnet. i was typing something in and it came up..there were so many..esp young kids that died in car accidents, speeding, not nuckled up...just sad...i would def. let him know before hand, or not post it where he can see it because i am sure he wonders what her last moments were like and this is not the image he needs to have in his head when thinking about his baby girls last seconds..

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Wow Holly! What an innovative and powerful idea to truly educate kids on something that far too many people take so lightly. My son is highly sensitive to people's pain and sorrow so I know this would have upset him to the core but like immunizations, sometimes some pain is worth the cost of protection.

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My heart is breaking from this. My best friend's 9 year old daughter was playing hide and seek and ran into a street where a guy was going 45 in a 30 in his Ford F150 without watching where he was going. He clipped her and dragged her under the wheel. I was in the ER with her family because I'm her like an aunt to her. Her leg was turned completely backwards because her femur was shattered. She's very lucky to be alive and she can walk. It took 22 surgeries to fix her leg. She has hypertrophic scarring from hip to ankle. She had to have a large portion of muscle cut off her shin because it atrophied under a 2 pound hematoma. She spent 7 weeks in the hospital unable to leave her bed for most of it.

The young man declared bankruptcy so he couldn't be sued for pain/suffering. Her family got all of 50K dollars to pay her over 300K in medical costs.

This video, while horrifying to watch should be mandatory in driver's education classes ***AND*** when people go to renew their licenses as well.

Sharon - posted on 07/13/2010

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ha! I kind of learned from my dad. I remember being about 4 or 5 and a guy on a motorcycle came racing down our dead end street with a LONG chain dragging & whipping behind him.

We were having a party of some sort, my dad and the other guys there got upset and confronted him. The guy laughed him off and tore off.

Dumbass didn't realise our party was staffed by upper rankings and some officers. They chased him down, kicked his ass and then he got booted out of the military. dumbass.

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I agree the video's will have an impact and the will feel affected watching it how can you not feel in some way moved and saddend by them but the still get behind the wheel and carry on driving like twatts.



For those who do change there ways from watching the videos etc thats brill but again i feel some will never change and thats why the roads are so lethal.



Wish you lived in my housing estate lol.

Sharon - posted on 07/12/2010

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Damn Holly - that sounded powerful! To bad they quit.

When I took drivers ed they showed a lot of movies and we heard from guest speakers. They drilled responsibility into our heads. Scared us silly. I got my license at 15 and I didn't drive until I was 19 and that was half a mile & back and I didn't drive again until I was 21. And my first job was as a delivery driver.

nerve wracking. I was/am more sensitive so those movies and guest speakers made an impact on me. I can only imagine how a more powerful message will impacts others.

Of course these movies, shows, guest speakers won't make an impact on everyone. Some people are just to stupid for words.

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I remember in high school we had something similar to this. It was so impactful that I remember it to this day (I was a freshman when they showed this and I am 24 now).



We were all called out to an assembly at the track/football field on a Monday about 2 weeks before prom night. There was a big lump covered with a sheet on the track in front of where we were all sitting. After everyone was seated the sheet was torn off and it was a severely wrecked car. After further investigation, we saw that it had 4 students in it. All seniors, all popular (and therefore recognized instantly), and all dressed in prom gear. Then, over the speaker system we hear a 9-1-1 call from the driver (who is slightly moving in the car) saying "I just crashed... Oh my god..." over and over again. Then, two firetrucks, 3 police cars, and 4 ambulances come careening onto the track and get to work. The firefighters start using the jaws of life to get into the backseat. The driver is taken out first and loaded into an ambulance and taken off because he is the only one concious and easiest to get to. The police are puting flares all around the car and directing imaginary traffic. We were all on the edges of our seats. Finally, the person in the front passenger seat is freed and whisked away in an ambulance. After about 5 minutes the firefighters finally get the top off the car (with the jaws of life) and the two in the backseat are pronounced dead on the scene. They are laid out on tarps and covered with sheets after the ambulance drivers check them.



There are seriously students sobbing in the bleachers at this point (I was one of them!). After they cover the "dead" students and the ambulances leave, we are all escorted back to our classrooms. The classes where the "dead" students were are visited by a teacher in a grim reaper cloak and told that their classmates are "dead." Then the principal comes over the PA system and informs all of us that ___________ (driver's name) was driving home from prom drunk and crashed, killing the two passengers in the backseat and critically injuring the other passenger.



The next day we hear another PA announcement saying the other passenger died (and her class at the time is also visited by the grim reaper).



The next day (Wednesday) we are all told that the driver is being charged with 3 counts of manslaughter for driving drunk (in Nevada it is considered manslaughter if you are drunk driving and get into an accident that kills anyone). That afternoon, we all go to an assembly in the multi-purpose room and watch a mock trial of the accused student over the projector (obviously recorded at the courthouse earlier). He is found guilty and sentenced to three life terms in prison.



The next day (Thursday) is a memorial service for the 3 "dead" students. Their parents and families are there, and so is the driver in an orange prison jumper and chains with a police officer on each side of him, and the whole school is sitting in the bleachers of the multi-purpose room watching. Almost everyone is sobbing and the sight of the 3 coffins in the front of the multi-purpose room (with the 3 students in them, as if it is a real open-casket funeral). After the memorial service (at which my dad spoke since one of the "dead" student's families goes to the church that he is a pastor at), all the students filed past the coffins and looked at their classmates in the coffins.



The next day (Friday) the "dead" students and the driver are all back in classes and went to each class during 1st period to talk about the week's events. It was a very powerful message, and it is one that will stick with me forever.



That year is the only year the school has done that demonstration. The original intent was to do it every 3 years (so all students coming through the school would see it at least once), but many parents were upset that they weren't notified of the emotional effects the week woul dhave on some students, so the school hasn't done it again. I think it's a shame they gave up on the demonstration that easily since I feel it taught a very important lesson that is hard to get through to teens in any other way (how many times can you tell teens it's dangerous without actually showing them in a manner that will affect them?).

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I watched the video and it only reminds me of why I'm terrified to get my license. I just turned 30 last month and I always get jeers from people about not being able to drive...but in all honesty I'm truly terrified and even more so for the safety of my son. It's not that I don't think I can be a good driver, I'm worried about everyone else on the road. Just recently my 17-year-old cousin and his dad were street racing (his dad was the passenger--and drunk!...oh and my cousin wasn't insured to be driving and only has a learner's permit). They were racing my cousin's girlfriend and her dad (who didn't have a license or insurance on his truck). My cousin ended up hitting a woman and destroying her car (she was okay thankfully) and my cousin's drunk dad was bruised from the air bag...he's fucking lucky that's all that happened. I was absolutely livid when I heard what had happened. Street racing? WTF? My cousin is lucky that he didn't kill the woman he hit, but because he wasn't insured on the vehicle he was driving, they are now claiming bankruptcy to cover the legal costs...I'd say that's a fair price to pay for being a total fucking dumbass! I love my family, but if they had killed that woman, I don't know what I would have said to them!

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In australia i know they have played most of those on TV not some of the real stuff but they played an add with most of it in it and i remember at the time when watching it got to me then.

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Damn it i knew i shouldn't watch it but i couldn't help it. I have only just started it and i already have goosebumps.
Although from the looks of it i have seen this type of thing before.
If he lost his daughter ecently then i may not post it. But if you feel showing it would benefit more of your friends then maybe just warn him before posting.

Rosie - posted on 07/12/2010

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i would let him know you are going to post this and ask him if it is too soon for him or what. but i do think it needs to be posted.

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Sorry, to answer your question..the video made me mad and thankfully i am blessed to have never lost a child to this or a family member..so i think if it made me that mad and upset if i had lost a child due to this,it would be so painful to watch.Its a hard one to answer, do what you feel Sharon.If it were my child and depending on how long the child had passed..i would find myself being very angery, watching it.

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I watched it and in my country i have seen many like these on my tv and to be so honest the dont work,the upset the familys who have lost loved ones and the ones who always takecare while driving but sadly the do nothing for the ones who drive with no care or consideration for other drivers and pedestrians.



Just today we went for a family drive and was passed by a young lad going extremly fast overtaken in a dangerous spot.Some drivers dont care and wont until its to late and there behind bars or 6ft under but again its never the driver that dies its the innocent victims and i am so sick of it,accidents happen and thats so hard but most accidents are caused by silly drivers with something to prove, why the do it i think i will never understand.



I live in a housing area with many kids and my neighbour has a friend who loves to drive fast into the place and my partner set him straight to be laughed at and then my partner said you can laugh all you want but will you be still laughing when a child is under the wheel of your car..he still goes fast.:-(

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That is an awful watch - I ignored your warnings Sharon ;-) I think that all drivers should be made to watch something like that because I have seen some awful drivers (I spent a lot of time driving with my job) - they are oblivious to others on the road.

The thing that made me sooooooo much more wary was my best friend - she killed a motorcyclist - even though it was not her fault she has to live with this for the rest of her life. She was driving down one of the lanes near where we live when this motorcyclist came round a blind bend on her side of the road - luckily she was not doing the speed limit (60mph) and managed to brake but she still hit him at over 30mph . As he landed on the driver side of the windscreen the police said if she had been going any faster she would have died as well - scary!

Julie - posted on 07/12/2010

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Ok, I couldn't watch more after the first two clips ... BUT ... that should be Mandatory Drivers' Ed viewing. I think it'd have a lot more impact (pun not really intended) than that hokey Conrail" one we had to watch. There are infinitely more distracted drivers than train crossings.



To answer the question, I would tell him you are going to post and wait for him to acknowledge it so you KNOW he won't accidentally watch it.

Caitlin - posted on 07/12/2010

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Haven't watched it yet, I have a feeling that it's pretty much the same thing as I saw last year. It was a texting while driving advertisement and it was quite the shockign wake up call. My husband lost his first wife to a car accident 8 years ago, so I wouldn't post it. It's so important to pay attention. I respect the car, I knwo whwat it can do, I had a pretty bad accident 4 years ago, I was speeding (but barely - no kids a tthe time, I wasn't even 10 km/hr over the limit) and on an exit ramp, I had a blowout in my tire, and there was no way I could have maintained control of my car, I hit a lamppost doing about 75km/hr, luckily passenger side first, ended up with the passenger seat basically in my lap, my car was totalled, crushed completely (thank god I didn't have a passenger) and it gave me a serious wake up call, I kwno why they have those suggested limits on exit ramps now. I never have talked on my phone while driving, even before it was banned, I just don't have full concentration, and it's so important to have, especially with kids in the car, if someone calls, they can leave a message, it wont kill me to wait a few minutes to find an exit if I think it's important or wait until I get home, but it might kill me to answer.

*Lisa* - posted on 07/12/2010

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I think I'd better not watch it. But I think it is important to watch. Some childhood friends were in a horrific crash a few years ago. They weren't wearing seat belts. The mum and son died instantly - he flew through his windscreen and into another cars windscreen. The daughter broke 16 bones. I'm more scared of being in a car or bus rather than flying on a plane these days. I think we think that we're invincible sometimes... driving while sleep deprived... drunk... distracted. It's so dangerous.

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Wow. That's REALLY difficult to watch, but I think everybody should.
I'm just learning to drive at the moment, I've got my test next month. I guess as I'm still learning, I can't imagine speeding and I especially can't imagine texting or making a call!! (jeez, I can't even imagine having the radio on!) There's SO much to concentrate on and be aware of, that trying to do anything else seems impossible to me.

Very powerful video, I think they should make people watch it once they've passed their test!

Andrea - posted on 07/12/2010

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. I drive the same way as you very seriously. I do get some moment's that freak me out and my heart jumps. When someone is coming from my side and they are coming up on a stop sign and they are flying I get this quick moment of panick that they aren't going to stop. I can say that i am more aware of other drives than I was before. I do NOT speed. No phone no way. The people that text and drive shame on you



My son doesn't remember the accident he was 3 plus I don't think he ever remembered anything. After he woke up the next day in the PICU he asked how'd we get here mommy. I said in a helicopter he said were's your car. I told him a guy in a red car made mommy hit a house. He said YOU HIT A HOUSE like he was surprised . Then for about a year after wards he go around pointing to his scar and say my mommy did this to me. That was so embarrassing I alway's felt like I had to explain my self after he said that.

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Andrea, that is harsh experience. How are you driving now? Is your son afraid of vehicles at all?

I lost my dad in a car accident when I was 6 and my brother was 10 months. We were at a demolition derby and he was a mechanic on a friend's car in the derby. They had to run to town for spark plugs. A guy he knew pulled up behind him on a motorbike and they decide to race on the backroads. My dad let off when the road got to the windy part and the other guy put his foot on the gas pedal. They hit some railroad tracks and went over an embankment onto a riverbed. A large rock went through the windshield and pierced my dad's brain. I am very thankful he died instantly. The passenger was just fine.

I take driving very seriously. I drive like everyone is trying to kill me and many times it seems like they are. We have a cell phone ban here too and they still use them constantly which enrages me. Respect my fucking life and put your goddamn phone down. I have had drivers veer into my lane three time just yesterday.

Kimberly - posted on 07/11/2010

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I watched it and I was crying by the first clip yet I kept watching it. I would tell your friend not to watch it yet as I lost my friend 8 years ago in a car crash and had to watch as they told her partner that she and there unborn baby died at the seen. We all need a wake up call sometimes to the way we drive and to be aware of the way others drive. Too many lives are lost because of foolish mistakes of people. Glad you posted it

Andrea - posted on 07/11/2010

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Oh and I have to add you always hear that you shouldn't put any lose objects in your car there is a good reason. The car accident I was in with my son I had a unicorn sculpture that I had just bought for my daughter birthday in my car. I had places on the floor board of the car. Which the speed I was going and the force of hitting the house the unicorns horn penetrated my son skull causing it to fracture and buclke in. It misses his brain by a few milameters. He was med flighted to the children's

hospital. In the trauma unit I notice a clear fluid slowly leaking out of the spot that it had went in I asked what it was it was his spinal fluid. He had neurosurgery to remove the object and repair his skull. They said the area of his brain that it almost got would have killed him or left him a vegetable for the rest of him life. By the grace of god it stop just before. Every day I think god for my son and I know how close I came that day of losing him. I'm telling you this because you never know when something will happened. I couldn't have prevent the guy that ran the stop sign but I could have prevented my speed ( i was speeding) and the object that was in my car, by placing it in the truck. I also wasn't wearing my seat belt if the air bag had failed I would have gone throw the windshield ( the state trooper told my mom this). I wear my seat belt every time I'm in the car now.



The mother touching the window in this video reminded me of this day because I was walking around with blood all over my clothes from my son and I.The neurosurgeon gave me a set of scrubs to wear so I was able to go in the recovery area to see my son.



It's been almost 5 years later and he a very health little boy. He just stopped getting CT scans done and seeing the neurosurgeon about a year ago. The only effect that he was left from it is a huge scar on the side of his head and his left eye droops down a little.

Sharon - posted on 07/11/2010

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Driving is such a huge responsibility.

I've scared myself a couple of times. I slept well, got up, not thinking about much - but just my brain wandered off into the ether and I suddenly just "woke up" while driving. I wasn't asleep, I just wasn't paying attention.

I sobbed off & on for a good long while after that video. I also figured out why I always have a headache after a major crying jag. Its the lack of oxygen.

We all need to wake up, pay attention. Those of you who are really good at never being distracted. God bless you.

I wish we could force all distracted/drunk drivers convicted of murdering (manslaughter) someone to watch this video with a clip - if possible - of their own accident dubbed in. They should have to watch this once a month while their serving their time.

One of the near misses I had that still causes me to catch my breath..

I was 6 months pregnant, and getting ready to make a turn through an intersection. I got the green light and moved out when this giant semi cam barreling through the light. He blew a red light big time. If he had hit me, I would have died. No question about that. Between his speed & size... no way would we have lived. I still curse that man. I saw him, saw him smirking as he passed me. Some things color you for life.

Andrea - posted on 07/11/2010

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Yep that made me cry and I haven't watch the whole thing but will. The mother in the window touching the glass reminded me of the day I came really close to losing my son in a car accident. A guy went throw a stop sign with out even slowing down I panicked and end up hitting a house. It got my emotions going that for sure. The baby and the guy touching dash I started crying. I think this video has a really good message I can see why you want to post it on your facebook. I think I'm going to do the same thing.

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Oh my gosh that is so sad.. I was crying before the first minute of it when the mom and son were struck and the little boy was in the ER.. Just thinking about if something like that happened to my baby.. I can't stop crying and then the baby in the back seat.. That just sent me over the edge..

I can't stop crying from watching that video..

Thanks for posting that, Sharon. I think that's something we all need to watch. I'm about to post it to my FB page.

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Such a sad video ! I deal with this on a daily basis because of my job. Cleaning up the mess thats left behind, dealing with loved ones, its awful and it makes so angry when I see people taking stupid risks on the road ! You might save 2 minutes on your journey this time, but next time you might not ever make it home !

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Thank you Sharon for sharing this vid. It is a rude wake up call but one we need. We are to often caught up in our day to day lives to the point we forget that we are in control of a very dangerous piece of machienery (sp?). Again thank you, Life is so precious.

Sharon - posted on 07/11/2010

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I sent him a private message - I meant to post "don't watch chris" as my header before posting but forgot.

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Like others have suggested, I would maybe PM him and let him know ahead of time............ I think we all tend to slip into the feeling that things like that won't happen to us. The sad truth is, even if you ARE a safe driver, those around you may not be. The ones that bothered me the most I think were the pedestrians that were hit. It's a sobering video that kind of makes you think a little about how fragile life really is, and how it can be taken or changed in an instant.

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Its a montage of real life footage and some cgi/mock up accidents.

All of them leaving you gasping with the power of a vehicle hitting a body or a vehicle coming to a sudden crushed stopped after hitting a telephone pole.

OMG jessica.. the mom in the backseat holding the baby, after the accident the dad is wide eyed and reaching for the dash board... I'm still crying.

I just messaged the man. We aren't good friends. We met through a cause and we've been friends for years. He's such a proud happy daddy. Posting pictures of his daughter all the time. Just a few months ago, she was at her jr. prom. He posted pics of her and her friends in their gowns. Then he posted a picture of himself and her with their heads together for the picture, she was so young. Its been barely a month. May 23 or so. He's getting angry now, his last post (he posts rarely) simply said he was angry and no longer believed it was in gods plan for her to die now, this way.

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I saw this video the other day, I sobbed through the whole thing, especially the one with the mom in the back seat with the baby...

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Okay, I'm not going to watch it (becuase I am an overly emotional person and I have lost friends to car accidents when I was a teenager), but I can guess that this is a video of a young man or woman who lost their life in a car accident, right?



I would post it, but I would also send your friend a personal message (and maybe a note attached to the video when you post it) telling him not to watch and explaining what it is and how you feel it is importnat for others to see it and understand. I am sure he will understand where you are coming from and want others to get the same understanding without having to go through his pain.

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I didn't watch the video, not sure I could handle it.

Are you close enough friends with this man that you could message him privately before posting the video link? If his daughter was killed this way, he may want it to be posted to keep it from happening to another family but a warning would be nice for him.

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As per my comment to the friend who posted this...
I couldn't stop the tears 3.15 mark and by 4. mark I was SOBBING.

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