OOO...that explains it...or does it....

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Caitlin - posted on 10/30/2010

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I don't know, i'm overly critical of them trying to label everything. Everything is a disorder these days, it doesn't make sense to me, nothing is that persons fault. I think it's much more rare than they think, and it doens't really deserve it's own name for a "disorder". How about they are just cheaters..

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Desiree - posted on 11/02/2010

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Ahhh another excuse to get out of trouble and not take the blame. The only personality disorder here is the Psycho wife when she finds out.... Can you imagine Husband, "Sorry love not my fault I have a personality disorder,"

Wife "Yes honey not a problem will sort it out for you with my cast iron frying pan on the head".

Please if its no one thing its another. Leave the people with the true disorders alone in peace and quite. These people are making the truely ill ones look pretty sane.



It's like the reformed cheater turning to all those who will listen that he has never done this to his wife, they have never had a problem with their marriage (OF course he didn't cheat on her while she was pregnant with their first child for a full 10 month to be exact) they are happily married (hmm yes and) well and any man who does it should be drawn and quatered. (hmm sounds like fun) just so you know he was caught red handed by the lovers husband only. they only reason they are ever sorry is because they got caught. Please once a cheater always a cheater. Not apersonitly disorder. At least his father was more up front and said to his daughter's husband "Any man who hasn't cheated once is no man at all".



Maybe its actually a family thing?

Rebecca - posted on 10/30/2010

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I agree with Jodi A. Seems people these days are looking for something to blame their own actions on other than themselves.

Jodi - posted on 10/30/2010

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The trouble with the lebelling things is that it gives them an excuse for their behaviour and means they can turn their back on personal responsibility. So basically I don't give a shit about the label, or for any damn explanation anyone can come up with - they are still cheaters and they still need to be held responsible for their own actions.

Bonnie - posted on 10/30/2010

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I think cheaters in general do it because they think they can get anyone they want.

Jodi - posted on 10/30/2010

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There is a world of difference between your garden variety, unhappy husband who cheats and the people this lady is talking about...she isn't defining ALL cheaters, she's defining the narcissistic control freaks. Many cheaters, men and women, are actually very submissive...a world apart from what this lady is talking about.
But, for the types of people she is describing, she has probably hit the nail on the head for the vast majority of them.

Tah - posted on 10/30/2010

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i think some people can just be selfish...men in general...i figure we cheat for different reason...some women may cheat because he isn't hitting that spot...but usually for a woman..it's emotional...he isn't making her feel a certain way...neglectful..unappreciative...etc..men i thnk it's more simple sometimes..some of them do feel self-important and entitled..some are greedy..you can have a rock star for a wife then you go cheat with a wayback up singer...WHY????...some women do cheat for emtional reasons as well...but not as many i think...

Katherine - posted on 10/30/2010

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Makes sense to me. If needs are being met with the person you're with(based on this article) they have to go elsewhere, by this assertion, to meet this need. That's why they say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater."

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