Organ Donation in Families

Lady Heather - posted on 12/30/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )




Saw this on Dr. Phil a while back and have been meaning to ask - if you needed a kidney and your siblings were eligible to donate, would you expect that they would? Is there an obligation there? Or would you think it was weird if someone chose not to donate to a sibling (or even be tested for compatibility)?

He had this guy on who had some brothers and sisters and NONE of them were stepping up to the plate to save his life. They were all saying crap like "I love you and everything, but it's just too scary to have surgery." ????

I found this pretty shocking and made sure to confirm with my brother and sister that they can have a kidney if required at any time. I guess I don't understand the mentality that is more afraid of surgery than a dead brother. My sister said she probably couldn't even live with the guilt of not trying to save a mere acquaintance. Ha,

Anybody on the side of the siblings?


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Caitlin - posted on 12/31/2010




I'm torn.. I'd love to give what I could, they wouldn't take my lung (even a lobe) because I have asthma, that would be too dangerous.

If it was to my sister, it may sound horrible but she's a selfish bitch. She has no kids and the rest of the family in incredibly pissed off because she uses everyone (mostly my dad). Luckily, I don't think I could help may people with my organs, because i'm AB+ blood, so I think i'd be off the hook, I believe my sister is another blood type.. If I could and did, I don't even think she'd say thank you, and then she'd go and drink her new organ to death..

Tara - posted on 12/31/2010




I would donate my parts to my brother in a heart beat, even though I don't really like him, I still love him.
And I would expect the same, to do anything but that would be the ultimate selfish act.
Who wouldn't save their siblings life? Who would choose to leave their nieces and nephews parentless??
Only the most selfish of people would, in my opinion.

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Sadly, this is my family's situation now. My mom was on dialysis for 10 years, and thenreceived a kidney transplant. 4 years later, my older brother went on dialysis and needed a kidney. My family AND my brother vehemently refused my offer. At that time, we were TTC, and I was going throug hmy multiple m/c, so I was undergoing my own medical issues. Then he received his kidney transplant. 2 years ago, history repeats itself, and my little sister is on dialysis and needs a kidney transplant. Now I have personally been checked, screened, kidney ultrasounds, biopsy, regular pee tests. My kidneys are perfectly healthy & functioning. I'm not having any more kids and would love to give my sister a kidney. But, same thing. my sister, my parents, my brother all are against it. While the doctor says my kidneys are currently healthy, the disease is obviously genetic. But my sister & parents are terrified of any potential problems with surgery and leaving the outcome of 2 dead daughter and 3 motherless boys. I'll still push fo rit though-maybe my sister will let me donate if she doesn't get a kindey in the 5th year.

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Sadly I can't donate to anyone in my family :( Rh-negative none of my organs would last since I'm the only one this way other that my Dad but still our blood types are different so even with him I couldn't. If I could I would but I know my family wouldn't for me (even if we were compatible) it's against their beliefs and I respect that, except for my mom but we already have an agreement. Strangely enough my son and mother share the exact same blood type Rh factor and all so we already have an agreement not only does she have to stay healthy and alive on the off-chance he needs her but also Aiden has a body-full of organ replacements if ever he need. My mom struggled all my life with the thought if anything had ever happened to me she could never sacrifice for me in that way, the same way I feel. It is a very difficult thing to realise that when your child really needs you in a life or death situation like that you cannot provide for them. The day he was born the first thing she asked the doctor was his blood-type when they told her she was absolutely exstatic and said right there on the spot that if he ever needed an organ, blood, tissue, or anything she would be there. I hope one of my hypothetical grandkids has the same bloodtype as me so I can enjoy that feeling and responsability. I guess it may seem strange why something like that would make her so happy but I understand it completely.

Nikki - posted on 12/31/2010




I wouldn't think twice about donating an organ to my brother's or sister. Pretty sad state of affairs if you can't count on your own family to help you out in a life or death situation.

Kylie - posted on 12/30/2010




I'm going to need a kidney one day and my sister has told me i can have hers, she even told me she doesn't drink much because wants it to be in perfect condition when i need it. I'd be supremely hurt if she said no because she didn't want the scar or was afraid of dying on the table. I dont understand those people.

Sharon - posted on 12/30/2010




I most likely would. if the surgery were highrisk and i had small kids still ... maybe not.

Tiffany - posted on 12/30/2010




If it were my sisters/brother who needed it I would most definitely do it. I however would not expect my oldest sister to do it at all and wouldn't allow her to. She has 5 small boys and their father died 3 years ago...I would never let her risk leaving her children behind to save me. I think it's a hard situation and it would depend on a lot of factors...would I be healthy enough to help? Would my brother/sisters be healthy enough? But to say no because they're scared, I don't agree with that.

Charlie - posted on 12/30/2010




I would do anything for my little sister so no I do not understand them not doing it purely because it is scary .

Mrs. - posted on 12/30/2010




I would. Even for my asshole brother. I don't I would be allowed with all my health problems...still if I could I would. It's the same reason I sign the organ donor line.

Shauna - posted on 12/30/2010




i wouldnt give it up to my only sibling my sister, we havent talked in yrs and have never got alone. Shes crazy and she would not even appreciate it, and im sure she wouldnt do it for me either. Other family memebers however i would in a heartbeat.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/30/2010




I would in a heartbeat give up whatever organ that a family member could take from me that wouldn't kill me...a lung, part of my liver, a kidney...hell yeah! I wouldn't be able to live with myself if they died and I could have saved them.

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