Parenting the parents

Lisa - posted on 04/22/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Oh you all know what i mean when i say this ;). When grandmom and grandpa come on over and let you know the 'correct' way to parent. And we aren't talking about give little tidbits of advice to help out. I mean when they made since comments,tsp,and suck the air between their teeth. Usually followed by making passive aggressive statements on how they would do things but won't 'interfere'. Okay ladies, let loose the stories ;).

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MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/22/2012

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Yeah, that old wives tale of spanking being needed, is messed up if you ask me. It is absurd and there is absolutely no requirement for it EVER. There are so many other ways to discipline that I fail to see any reason to ever resort to violence, well unless, you are hoping to teach your children to be violent too. ;)

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**Jackie** - posted on 04/23/2012

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Oh Jodi I know that one. I've actually told my MIL that my daughter didn't get vaccinated just so she would shut up. Sometimes when she talks I picture sticking her with a sedative and it puts a smile on my face :)

Jodi - posted on 04/23/2012

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I think the only thing I disagree with my parents about is vaccinations. My mum is quite vocal on how she thinks its stupid to vaccinate for measles, mumps, chicken pox because everyone had it when we were kids and no-one's kids were ever hospitalised with it.

I just bite my tongue and don't bother saying anything. After all, she's not making the decisions for my kids (or anyone elses), so I really don't see the point in debating it.

Dove - posted on 04/22/2012

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My grandma-in-law accused me of accusing her of trying to poison her family since they were raised on white bread and I only bought whole wheat. @@ That's the best 'story' I've got since my mom thinks I'm an awesome mom (at least that's what she always tells me) and my dad pretty much never says anything. After my son turned a year he did ask me if I had any plans to wean. All I said is 'no plans yet' and that was the end of the conversation.

Stifler's - posted on 04/22/2012

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Yes if spanking isn't working I"m not doing it hard enough. I shouldn't let my kids eat with their fingers (the oldest only just turned 2), I should give the baby water by 4 months during the night and just other bullshit ignorant things.

**Jackie** - posted on 04/22/2012

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Oh about the spanking...thank the lord my parents and I are on the same page about spanking...we all feel it does nothing and that there are other forms of discipline. About the heartburn, my daughter was born with SO much thick black hair that the first thing the nurse said when she came out was not "it's a girl" but "look at all that hair"! ....I barely had heartburn...maybe a little but not even enough to take a TUM or even tell my doctor.

**Jackie** - posted on 04/22/2012

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I have to say...I am very very very proud of my parents for keeping their mouths shut. My dad has never been one to give me unwanted advice. I can't ever remember a time where he told me what he thought without me actually asking him. My mother, on the other hand, will tell you exactly what is on her mind.

I'll never forget the conversation I had with her when we were in Olive Garden (yum!) and I was about 8 months pregnant. I told her that I was confident in my knowledge so far with newborns but that I am also aware that I am in no way a professional and I will make mistakes, I made her promise me that UNLESS she saw me doing something that would hurt my daughter, she must keep her mouth shut and let me be a mother.

So far....she has yet to say ONE word. I have only called her for 2 medical questions and that was when my daughter was sick (she has only been sick once), she has never had diaper rash and even during her colic period my husband and I figured it out on our own :)

Lisa - posted on 04/22/2012

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I have the same issue with spanking joy. I just don't see it being all as effective as parents claim it is. The kids do the same things mine do with time outs with the sam frequency and i don't feel the need to resort of physical violence.

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My MIL is convinced that my son is going to grow up and end up in trouble because I don't spank him. And because I won't let HER spank him either, she refuses to babysit. Her loss. Well, mine and hubby's too because we have no one else to watch him so we never get to go anywhere without the boy :-(


Elfreida ~ I had HORRIBLE heartburn while pregnant and my son was born with hair, but not what I would call a head full. Peach fuzz all around the sides and about a quarter inch on top. Still an old wive's tale as far as I'm concerned :)

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 04/22/2012

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Elfrieda--Sometimes they're right, like that "heartburn while pregnant means your baby will have a full head of hair." Some university did a study (who knows why?) and it turns out it's true!



No, this is far from true. I had the worst heartburn with both of my children. With my second it turned into GERD. Neither of my children had much hair. They were pretty much bald. ;)



You can also research it and see that the census is, that it holds no truth.

Elfrieda - posted on 04/22/2012

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I'm all for giving old wives tales a chance. If it doesn't do any harm, why not? Sometimes they're right, like that "heartburn while pregnant means your baby will have a full head of hair." Some university did a study (who knows why?) and it turns out it's true!

Lisa - posted on 04/22/2012

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LOL those old wives tales. My mother still things sticking olive oil in a pot of water 'lubricates the spagetthi.

Elfrieda - posted on 04/22/2012

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To protect against the wind... you know, even a slight breeze is just full of ear infection potential! ;)

Elfrieda - posted on 04/22/2012

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My parents are pretty good, they're just paranoid about ear infections. "Don't you think he should be wearing a hat?" all the time. I just say, "Okay, give me the hat." My son likes hats, so it's no big deal to put up a hood or put on a hat if it'll make them happy, and if I don't have a hat I say, "Oh, I think he'll be fine." and ignore the pained expressions.



You know, they love him and mean well, and who knows, they might be right. I try not to let it bother me.

Corinne - posted on 04/22/2012

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From the GM.I.L 'Should you be giving her fruit before meat and veg? Tut, I wouldn't.' Erm.... you know what, she's 6mnths old, I'll give her a four course banquet should I? From the M.I.L 'I wouldn't let that little madam speak to me like that, I'd wash her mouth out.' Like hell you would, she's 2yrs and said 'don't want to'. Sheesh.

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