Pet names.

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I know a few parents that have pet names for their children. Some of which I think are cruel. One mom calls her son tubby or tubs(he is larger). Another calls her daughter piglet and her son meatball. The other mom calls her son ears(because he has larger ears). Do you think this is cruel? I think it can be a form of child abuse. If the childs ego was injured by it.

If I were overweight and my mom called me tubs, I would be insulted. It could cause a low self esteem IMO.

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Charlie - posted on 08/22/2011

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I call my boys baby buddha because they are all rolly polly and smiley ( well they were when they were young )

Mrs. - posted on 08/21/2011

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But we would have no Meatloaf without them...I know for some that might be a good thing.

We've been calling my daughter Vivi Piggy since she was a month old. She was always a healthy eater, but also because of something random from Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure. I also call her Shillelagh Legs because her legs look a bit like a shillelagh. Then we like to also call her "Boogs" like booger, mostly because my dad called me that (and still does sometimes).

Now, my daughter is two and doesn't really understand those names. If, when she is older, she gets sensitive about one of them or actually ends up having really weird looking legs/has a weight problem, I'm certain we'd phase 'em out.

However, I don't think it is abuse unless it is done out of malice and is not retracted if the child is upset about it.

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I think this is a subject that is over thought by many people, pet names are subjective, so cannot be judged by people on the outside. If someone doesn't like being called a name or shows signs that it is affecting them than the name should stop, like In Salli's example I would stop calling her daughter bear because she has shown a dislike for it.



We call our children a whole host of pet names, neither of them are upset by them, in fact Ethan actually grins from ear to ear when I use his pet names like my little monkey.



On the other hand, I was called sponge by my mom and dad because believed most of what they told me because I trusted them, I hated it, it belittled me, I told them but they still called it me because they thought it was funny I don't want to do that to my child, if they tell me they hate a name they will not be called it again. I can see how names like tubs or meatball could be derogatory though.

Rosie - posted on 08/21/2011

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i don't think it's abuse, but calling an overweight child a derogatory name isn't the greatest. these people probably don't have a clue and think they're being cute. maybe someone should tell them?

Lacye - posted on 08/21/2011

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Eh. Some of them aren't that bad but I wouldn't call my fat child Tubby or Fatso or anything like that. All that does is ruin that child's self esteem and maybe down the road cause the child to have an eating disorder.

Oh! But my sister has a great nick name for my daughter. She calls her Spitter because when she was younger she would spit up alot. And I mean a lot.

Elfrieda - posted on 08/21/2011

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I think it probably would depend on the child. And people have different things that they're sensitive to. For example, my sister is almost 6 feet tall with enormous feet, but "bigfoot" and "giraffe"-type nicknames have always rolled off her without any damage, but any mention of her nose or her long neck really makes her self-conscious and miserable.



I wouldn't risk it. I think piglet is a cute nickname, but only if they call her that because she's small and pink instead of because she eats a lot. I used to call my son "Mr. Round", but now that he's 1 and understands a lot of what we say I stopped. Actually I think I probably stopped because he now looks more like a toddler than a cute ball of fat baby. :)

Kellie - posted on 08/21/2011

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I don't think calling an overweight child tubs is facilitating great self esteem, particularly when it's coming from home and from their parents :/ it absolutely can be Child Abuse. Abuse is more than Hitting someone, it's Emotional, Verbal and more. Poor kid!

Lol Emma, I call Rayne a Turd, and I'll say to her 'are you being a Turd?' and she'll grin her little cheeky ass off :)

Sal - posted on 08/21/2011

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yes it is mean, child abuse maybe not.....my daughter gets called bear, (her name means bear) she dosn't seem to love it at the monent and won't answer to it and tells me flatly 'i am not a bear, i am a princess'

Stifler's - posted on 08/21/2011

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Haha meatball. I think it's funny until they can understand what you're talking about. We called Logan the turd for ages but now that he is starting to understand what we say we don't call him that anymore.

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