Pictures on Facebook?

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What's your opinion on posting pictures of your children on facebook? Most of my friends do it - bar ALL of my german friends, who seem to be super-paranoid about it. I don't want to ask them why, because they are a little opinionated and will think I'm naive (I might be, but I'm ok with you guys thinking that).
Anyway, am I missing something? Is there great evil lurking out there I should protect my 20 months old from? Only my friends can see her pictures, though I have been told there are ways around it.

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Krista - posted on 05/27/2011

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Like the other ladies, I've got gobs of pics of my kids on my FB, but my settings are "friends only". Considering that an awful lot of molestation is committed by family or close friends of the family, I think people are giving themselves a false sense of security when they prevent anybody from seeing pics of their kid.

Jenni - posted on 05/28/2011

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Yes. Like everyone else my FB is on high secruity but that's mostly because I don't want my father seeing their pics. He IS a pedophile and I want him to know as little of my life as possible.



I don't have fear of 'random' sickos targeting my kids through FB. Pedophilia is more about access to children. That`s why most cases involve a family member, neighbour or family friend. Pedophiles are more likely to target children they *know* than children they don`t. It's more likely to be someone on your 'friend's list' than some random who is just cruising FB pics. In which case they probably already do have access to your child in real life or knowledge of your address.



And that's where the fear is I think. If someone knows your last name they can look you up in the white pages and find your address (we are unlisted)... if they take a liking to one of your children. But the chances of that happening are extremely rare and I refuse to live in fear. Your children are far more likely to be abused based on opportunity than abduction.

Jodi - posted on 05/27/2011

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I post pictures of my kids, but I have my privacy settings so that only friends can see my pictures (unless it is my profile picture here :D). I'm not fussed.

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Sarah - posted on 05/28/2011

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My security settings are on "friends only".

I really genuinely don't worry about having photos of my kids up and stuff.........it just doesn't worry me.

Becky - posted on 05/27/2011

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Like everyone else, I have tons of pictures of my kids on FB. People probably get tired of them, lol! Dh's family and many of my friends live far away from us, so it's nice to be able to share pics this way. But I also have them set to friends only and have the highest privacy settings on my page. And I don't post my phone number and address on my site. IMO, that one is kind of stupid. Even if you do set your privacy settings high, there's no guarantee someone won't hack it.

Amie - posted on 05/27/2011

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I have my kids on my FB. I need to make a couple new albums soon. LOL I haven't updated anything since Christmas. =O

My security settings are set to "friends only" like everyone else's here. I'm not worried about it.

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I have TONS of pictures of my son on FB. My account is locked down like Fort Knox and "Friends Only" can view them. I even have the albumns customized so that "Friends Only Except (certain people)" can see them. I'm picky about who I allow to even see my wall. But I live far from all of my family and friends and FB is my only way to share. Well, the easiest way to share. Besides, it's not like I won't be on FB farming anyhow lol



I don't keep it set this way because I'm paranoid. I play a few FB games and have people on there just for the games. So I've got them on a seperate friend list and they don't see anything but my name and profile pic.



I have to say though, that my MIL and FIL are REEEEALLY paranoid about FB. I'm not allowed to mention them (they don't know I talk about them in CoM from time to time lol) and I'm also not allowed to post any pictures with them in it. I literally have a ton of cropped Christmas, Halloween and Easter pictures, some of which were really super cute, but I can't show the whole thing because my in-laws are afraid "they" (whoever "they" are) will find them and break into their house. No lie.

Lady Heather - posted on 05/27/2011

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I post them for family and friends. I don't see what the big deal is. I take my kid out in public anyways. At this point I'm a little more worried about the weirdo that might live next door than some random person online who probably doesn't live anywhere near me.

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I have my pics set to "Friends Only" as well. But for those of us who have been around message board forums for 10+ years now, you'll know that there are some very SICK peopel out there. Trolls that steal your pics and claim your family as theirs. OMG...anyone post on the old AOL message boards? There were some really nasty trolls on those boards!

Mel - posted on 05/27/2011

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I post lots of picture of my kids on facebook but they are set to private no one can see my photos except people on my list

Amanda - posted on 05/27/2011

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I have plenty of photos of my children on facebook, like others I have my privacy settings on the highest.

I would like to point out one thing about photos on the internet. Once you have uploaded your photo to a website, you no longer own the rights to that photo. Anyone can dl it, anyone can post it else where. That is why many people dont post photos of themselves or their children. The pedophile thing is silly, theres plenty of real child porn (sadly) they dont need pictures of your children.

Carolyn - posted on 05/27/2011

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lol seriously people are that paranoid ? i mean if the baby seat and booster seats in your car arent a dead give away that you have kids that decal on the car sure is gonna let those pedo's know for sure you have kids ....

people dont realise a pedophile isnt going to see a diaper box and think "oooh kids" and target you all of sudden, they already know you have kids, they have seen you come and go from your house, the park, watching your routine for openings on when to get to your kids.

so unless you are hauling your kids out in a suitcase to and from the car, loading it in the trunk, driving 3 blocks and then putting them in their carseat, the pedophile already knows you have kids.

some people amaze me. they really do !

Krista - posted on 05/27/2011

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I post a ton of photos too, and have it set to friends only. Most of my family lives several hours away and we don't see them often. My grandparents even go onto my cousin's FB to look up my pictures and then take photos of the computer screen (I guess I should be a good granddaughter and mail them some photos once in a while!)

I'm actually surprised that no one has said how dangerous it is yet. I remember a thread on here a while back where super-paranoid moms were saying that they make sure that there is no evidence of children living at their house (like they won't put an empty diaper box on the curb with the garbage or have toys visible through the living room window) so that pedophiles don't target their house. Other women were talking about how those little stick figure family decals that you put on your car can alert pedophiles that you have kids and they could follow you home and molest your children! I suppose it's because that conversation was likely on the Welcome page where all the lunatics hang out!

Sarah - posted on 05/27/2011

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My son's pictures are all over my facebook & my setting is "friends only."

On the other hand, my husband's brother & his wife refuse to put up pictures of their 5 month old son. In fact, my sister-in-law doesn't even have a facebook, because she doesn't trust it. I'm not allowed to post pictures of him on my facebook either, which makes me sad. I wish all of my friends could see how much of a cutie pie he is. It's a bummer.

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Oh thank goodness everybody is in agreement. Krista - good argument, I might just use that if someone gives me shit.
Anyhow, off to bed now. Looking forward to bombarding people with super-cute photos of my LO on fb tomorrow. I'm sure, they can't wait...

Jenn - posted on 05/27/2011

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I have lots of pics on FB, but my account is set to friends only. I don't see what the big fear would be.

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My kids are all over my Facebook (though not on my profile pic anymore since anyone can see that). Like many others have mentioned, my privacy is set to friends only.

Ez - posted on 05/27/2011

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I have lots of pictures of my daughter on my FB. Again, my privacy settings are jacked to the max so it's only friends who can see them.

I don't understand the paranoia either TBH. I refuse to live my life in a constant state of fear that something horribly random may happen. So I take reasonable steps to protect myself and my child (ie, set to private, no nudie shots) and get on with it.

Carolyn - posted on 05/27/2011

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i have tons of pictures, but my stuff is on lockdown ! My husbands entire family is in a different country and its the easiest place to post pics and vids so they can atleast see him grow.. sort of. And i can see my neices an nephews that i havent met etc. I also trust the people on my friends list to not download the pictures and repost them. .

Rosie - posted on 05/27/2011

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i post a ton of pictures as well, i don't really care if other people see my children too much. settings are on friends only as well. that's kinda the best part of facebook, lol. everybody NEEDS to see my cute ass kids, lmao.

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I post a lot of pictures on FB. I have out of town family, and FB is the easiest way for us to keep in touch. My account is on the most secure setting.

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Elaborate. Or...are...you...joking...? (I won't get any fb-related jokes or any tech-language, I'm seriously deficiant that way)

Jenny - posted on 05/27/2011

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I have chosen a stranger's family to represent my own for privacy and safety's sake. I'm actually Latino.

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