Potty training

User - posted on 03/19/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I need some advice. My daughter started training herself at 19 months potty training. I would let her run around the house naked and when ever she needed to poop or pee she would run to the potty by herself. She is now 23 months old and for the last month has started having accidents and it is getting worse. She will still go and use the potty but several times a day she will pee and poop in the floor. She also will pee on the couch if she is sitting there. I have told her that is wrong and that she needs to do that in the potty and will take her to the potty. Most of the time after she does it she will tell me that she has pee-pee or poo-pood.When she does use the potty, I have started making a really big deal about it and giving her treats and she loves it and when ever she does it in the potty she will come ask for her treat, but then 5 minutes later she at times will go have an accident. I have tried putting clothes on her and it doesn't seem to bother her it being wet. I am at my wit's end. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should put her back in pull-ups and try again later, but what about all the training we have done for 4 months? Or should I just clean up the messes and tell her no and keep doing what I am doing? Has anyone else run into this problem with their child? Please help me, any advice will be greatly appreciated!!

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Brittney - posted on 03/19/2012

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you could try plastic pants that go over underwear or cloth training pants, that way the wetness stays inside or you could get the ones that have a built in plastic around them.

Krista - posted on 03/19/2012

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I went through the same kind of thing with my son, only he was closer to 3 when it happened (he was really resistant to starting potty training for the longest time). Once he finally decided he was ready, he started peeing and pooping on the potty and was having very few accidents. We were using a sticker chart and every 5 stickers he would get a small treat or prize. Then, all the sudden, he started having accidents left and right, sometimes 5 or more a day, and he would pee on the furniture, on the carpet, on his toys... It stressed me right out and I started having a bigger and bigger reaction every time I had to clean up his pee, until I was yelling at him and giving him a time out and taking away his toys. I knew that the negative reaction wasn't helping at all and he was just getting worse, so we took a little break from all of it and I let him wear pull ups for a week. I think taking all the pressure off helped a lot. A week later we started using the potty again and I made sure that I didn't have a reaction to the accidents, I just cleaned it up and changed his clothes. He started having less and less accidents. Now it's been a couple of months and he's not having any more accidents. So, you could always try going back to diapers or pull ups for a little while to see if it works for her. I don't think it'll make her "unlearn" what she already knows how to do, but maybe she needs a little break. Good luck!

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Mommy - posted on 03/20/2012

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Did you try a star chart next to the potty? Everytime she goes she get to put a star on the board and gets a prize at the end of the day?

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Amy, that would be why my girls weren't totally out of daytime pull ups til about 3 months before turning 3. As I said, they were 100% successful right from the beginning (around 18 months) when they were naked, but ANY types of bottoms on them and it was really hit or miss on if they would go to the potty or not. They just did not care and there was no way I was going to risk dealing w/ multiple accidents out in public. They still had accidents in public once the pull ups were gone, but at least it was only every couple of weeks instead of daily... times two. ;)

User - posted on 03/19/2012

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Also, on the good days when she uses the potty for the most part, she does a lot better when she has no bottoms on. But has more accidents when I put panties and/or pants on her. Any advice as to how I can get her to realize that she has clothes on and not diapers? If I don't I want be able to take her out in public without a diaper.

User - posted on 03/19/2012

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Thanks to everyone for your advice. I really appreciate it. It just gets so frustrating sometimes. My daughter is so advanced in everything including the early potty training and then all of sudden this. To Rebecca K. at times when I put her back in diapers she just takes it off or sometimes in the morning she will throw a fit if I try to take her diaper off. Krista, I see your point. But I have noticed that when ever we go out for long periods of time we always put a pull-up on her since it will be harder for her to use the potty and then the rest of the day and the next she has more accidents, like she forgets she doesn't have a pull-up on. But I agree with you about stepping back and not yelling. I was at the point where I was nearly in tears and I am sure she picks up on that. Louise, I have never pressured my daughter into going to the potty. She showed me that she wanted to use the potty and now 4 months later she goes 50/50. I guess I do put pressure on her now to use the potty because she has proven to me for the last 4 months that she can go without even being reminded and was totally accident free until just a little while ago. I know that she can and she holds her pee for a long time and then will flood her diaper until it comes out of her clothes and on to the floor. So, I know that she is capable of it, there is just some reason that she is not doing it. At 19 months she was trained in less than 3 days. I like that idea Erin, I will check on that. I know if she pees in her pants it doesn't bother her, but then again it usually is in the floor or the couch and not soaking wet up against her. Brittany, that sound a lot like my daughter. When ever she has an accident she will come tell me and then sometimes she will go on her own and clean it up.

Brittney - posted on 03/19/2012

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My daughter is 17 months right now. We used cloth training pants for 3 weeks while trying to potty train her, we also put plastic pants on her, but I thought it was too much work to have both. I would rather clean up pee. She could feel herself peeing/pooping. She has peed on the couch, I make her clean up any pee on the floor. She is sick right now and having problems with accidents again. But she refused to sit on her potty, she likes ours for some reason and watching the potty go down the drain.

Erin - posted on 03/19/2012

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3/4 of my children were potty trained before the age of 2 & fully in control of their pee/poop.

If she has shown she has that ability(was doing absolutely fine for a long period of time) I would not allow the fact that other children are not to create "mom" guilt.



Here is a thought... I sort of agree with Rebecca... But, instead of pull-ups, I would get a pair of either plastic lined cloth training pants (check JC Penney & the like or online) so she can feel the wetness & be a bit uncomfortable if she has an accident w/o ruining your furniture ect... (& you have a contained mess). Allow the natural consequences to take place (instead of your anger & frustration). This worked for my daughter when she was being resistant. Better to have that extra chore for a short time that than a house that smells of urine & being frustrated all the time ;)



Good luck :)

Any advice for my 4th child who is nearly 3 & still only 50% on BMs... Let me know :)

Barb - posted on 03/19/2012

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Her the pull ups my daughter is 27 months old she use to tell me all the time when he had to and I started trying with the underpants and she just peed and peed through them and it didn't bother at all. After that I just put her back in the pull ups and now she won't even tell me she has to go I have to ask her and she will go. She can still use the potty, but she won't make all the mess. I am still trying to get my daughter to go more then 5 times and day and tell me. It takes time. Good luck!

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I agree w/ Rebecca. My girls had 100% success while naked, but if they hadn't.... they would've been in the pull ups at home (that we used for sleeps and trips out of the house). They were naked and pull up trained and my son trained himself in diapers (refused to wear underwear at all until he had been fully trained for a month).

Louise - posted on 03/19/2012

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A child is not in full control of their bladder or bowel completly until the age of 2. All this has been hit and miss and the poor thing is having a lot of pressure on her to get it right to please you. My advise is put her back into pull ups and if she can tell you great if she has an accident it is no big deal. I would leave this until she is over the age of two and ready before attempting this again. A child that is ready can be toilet trained in two weeks with the very occasional accident.



When you are ready again to toilet train donot use pull ups as it teaches her that she can pee and that it is ok. Use only knickers, take her to the toilet every half an hour and praise her if she pees, if she does wee then wait an hour and take her again until she pees. It really should not take long to potty train if your child is truely ready.

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I would put her back in the diapers and tell her she will have to wear them until she stops having accidents. She might just be too busy at her age to go when she needs to go. Hopefully, she won't like the diapers and will want to get back out of them again. I wouldn't treat it like she is doing something wrong; I would couch it more in the terms of, "Whoopsie, Mommy thought you were ready to stop wearing diapers but I was wrong, so we are going back to these until you are ready!"

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