Preparing Separate Meals?

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My mom continues to make snide remarks to me that I cater to my son by preparing him "special" meals because he won't eat what I serve for myself & husband. I am not in the business of forcing him to eat what he simply does not like, so it's no big deal if I make him a PB & J or turkey sandwich for dinner, or a bowl of cereal & milk. I made a great pasta dish last night with crab meat & pesto sauce, but all I asked my son was to try it. If he didn't like it, he could spit it out. I reserved a plain bowl of pasta for him and added red sauce. Plus a separate bowl of veggies. Tonight I am making a beef roast, which I know he won't eat either. I am going to make him quesadillas and sneak some grilled chicken in it. He doesn't like chicken either, but when he doesn't see it, he'll eat it. Also, it's just the 3 of us so it's not like I am making extra meals for multiple kids. How do you handle meal time in your house when your kids don't like a meal?

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Sharon - posted on 06/29/2010

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You're spoiling him. lol

I don't cook seperate meals. The kids eat what we eat. On rare occasions that I make something that doesn't turn out well, they can have a pb&j sandwich or plain cereal - not a sugary cereal. Thats it.

I MIGHT make a seperate sauce if my preferred sauce isn't everyone elses (I love basil pesto, hubby doesn't and my daughter follows his lead) but that is really the extent of it.

We always sit down as a family unless there are extenuating circumstances.

Krista - posted on 06/29/2010

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I'm really leery of catering too much to fussy kids, because I know a lot of fussy adults whose parents did that. You can get away with being fussy when you're 4. But when you're 34 and at a work function, and you don't eat anything but plain pasta or fish sticks, then that can be a real problem. My husband's uncle will come for Thanksgiving dinner, and will only eat the mashed potatoes. How in the hell can you go out for a nice meal with someone like that?

Growing up, my dad had a rule that we had to try a food on three separate occasions before we were allowed to say for certain that we didn't like it. And even then, it would still be served to us, but in smaller quantities. I didn't like liver, but Mom would still serve it. She'd just give me a tiny piece, and would give me extra veggies and potatoes. I'll probably operate in a similar manner.

Krista - posted on 07/04/2010

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It can be disturbing/embarrassing to be out with someone when they're super-super-fussy though, Teresa. For starters, it limits where you can go.



I'm not talking about things like sushi --- I don't expect everybody to like that. But there are some people with whom you can't even go out for Italian, or Mexican, or ANY place that doesn't serve chicken fingers or plain hamburgers.



I'll give you an example: a friend of mine will not eat any meat except for plain chicken breasts and hot dogs. She will not eat any vegetables except for canned corn, plain lettuce, or mashed potatoes. She will not eat any sort of cheese.



Needless to say, we just don't go out to dinner with her. I mean, where the heck would you even take someone like that? So I really feel bad for her husband, because I'm sure he'd love to go out for a nice meal sometimes, but because she's so picky, it's pretty much impossible.



And I will say that in the business world, if I were to go out to lunch or dinner with an associate who ate like that, as unfair as it is, it would make me question their maturity. And it would definitely make me question their sophistication, and their ability to function at other business events.

Lucy - posted on 06/30/2010

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I make one meal, and the family will eat it or they won't. But the latter happens very rarely!

We have always eaten together (unless my husband is working late) and made it nice social event, a time to chat and enjoy each other's company. I find that if kids associate dinner with positive feelings, the food is almost secondary and they will eat without really thinking about it. It also means that trying new foods becomes fun instead of a trial- my two year old son loves to try new foods, especially on the rare occasions we eat out.

We are vegetarian, so the kids have eaten a very wide selection of veggies from day one of solid foods. If they genuinely seem to hate something new, I won't force them to eat it (as long as they try it), but I will keep serving it and provide no alternative if they turn it down. I did this when my eldest disliked raw tomatoes, and after trying a small amount each time she now enjoys them.

Because we have encouraged the kids to enjoy lots of different foods, so they aren't stuck in a rut of eating specific foods and needing separate meals, we now allow them to each choose what one of the family meals will be each week. This week my daughter chose vegetable risotto and my son chose spinach lasagne, both with salad.

We also grow most of our own veg and the kids help with the cooking, which I find makes the "event" of dinner more enjoyable, and the kids more likely to eat up!

Jenny - posted on 06/29/2010

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Not a chance in hell would I prepare seperate meals unless it was for health reasons. You eat what we eat, or you starve. Well it turns out, I don't have picky eaters lol. I do give a teeny bit of leeway. My daughter is allowed to dislike 1 food item and she chose onions. I still cook with onions but I allow her to pick them out which she will only do when she's in a mood. If she tries to say she doesn't want to eat something else I threaten her with a bowl of onions and suddenly she's hungry enough to finish. I refuse to pander to picky eaters, they should be very thankful they live in a home that can provide healthy meal choices.

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Wow! Another thread I started a month ago and this is amazing to look back and re-read. Since I've been back at work and not even getting dinner started until 6-6:30ish these days, dinner has been easier! My son is eating what is served. Yeah, there's some whining but he eats his meal. Maybe not every single last bite but I haven't catered to him since I wrote this thread, with the exception of salmon. I am so damn proud of myself! I discovered that while most kids like dipping their food in ranch dressing or ketchup, my kid prefers to dip everything in apple sauce! I'm certainly happy to let him dip his meat, chicken, pork chops in apple sauce and no harm with that. He always liked shrimp too. My son definately likes his veggies more and again, another discovery that he likes the broccolli stems and not the broccolli heads. He pops the beans out of green beans and he thinks it's hysterical, but he eats them. So nice to see what I wrote a month ago and to see his progress now.

Danielle - posted on 07/30/2010

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I agree...I've seen a lot of mom's give up on a food after their kid tries it once and refuses. I've learned with my son that some days he'll eat certain foods and some days he won't so I always try again every time I make something. For instance, the last time I made him eggs he gobbled them right up. This morning I made him eggs and he would only eat 2 bites.

Stifler's - posted on 07/26/2010

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The nurses at the clinic told me it takes 20 tries to get them used to a taste and I'm inclined to believe that.

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Personally I don't give a damn whether my kid likes my cooking or not, he'll eat it out of politeness or starve.

Danielle - posted on 07/23/2010

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My son is 15 months old. He'll eat what he'll eat and that's it. There's no reasoning with him. Of course I offer what my fiance and I are eating for dinner FIRST. But if he clamps his mouth shut and flat out refuses to let me give him food I'd not going to pry it open and force feed him. Otherwise he'll just start to hate food and mealtimes. He has to eat so I'll give him something he likes. When he's a little older I will be a lot less lenient about this and let him know that mom's kitchen isn't a restaurant with a menu to choose from. But right now, as long as he eats a good amount of healthy food, I'm happy.

Veronica - posted on 07/10/2010

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Oh - when they are babies learning to eat -- i simply put food on their tray and let them have at it -- I dont say anything or make a fuss about it either. So many people feed their babies new foods, the baby makes a face - and the parent assumes its cause they dont like it -- what baby truly knows what they like or dont like??

My kids like having a lettuce salad, they eat broccoli, carrots, cauliflower, radishes, (my oldest likes onions and mushrooms), and cabbage -- spinach, romaine, and iceburg lettuce -- I simply gave it to them, or they wanted to try it -- and they liked it -- they prefer raw over cooked too -- strange kids!



Edited to add: My kids are more willing to eat food that they watch or help prepare. Then they know whats going in it - how its cooked/prepared --- and they always eat everything. Maybe involve your kids in the cooking process :) Let them watch, tell them what you are doing -- or let them do age appropriate stuff (peeling potatoes with a peeler, etc.)

Veronica - posted on 07/10/2010

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I have enough to do in a day, than to cook seperate meals for my children. I make a meal, they are expected to eat it. I don't force them to finish the plate though - usually I will be like, "eat three more bites, then you are done." This has helped with less waste of food - but I feel that it also helps stop overeating as well - i dont truly know if they are full or not -- and do not want them using that as a scape goat out of eating -- so making them eat a few more bites of it makes a difference.
When they whine about what is on their plate - I simply tell them, Kitchens closed!! Now eat! (lol)
I also take time to tell them why the food is healthy for them, and yes I do the guilt trip too, "poor children would give anything to lick the can your dinner came from" --(etc.) Get them thinking about how greatful they should be to have food at all.

Cyndel - posted on 07/10/2010

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Personally I very rarely make seperate dishes for my son, He learns to eat what we eat. We can't afford to make seperate meals. Also, Though food can be and is good and enjoyable, we should also learn to eat what we don't like so our bodies can have energy. Though I see we see things differently on this issue I don't think your mother should be snide about it. He is your son, it is you decision. If you have money and time to prepare two meals, go right ahead its your choice.

Melanie - posted on 07/07/2010

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My mother and I do not agree on parenting skills (she did not raise me) and this came up recently. My 4 year old daughter has a developmental delay and has sensory issues and made a comment on how picky she is. I told her that i will not force my child to eat and I know my child and have some great doctors who agree that her sensory issues and has problems with certain textures.

I think as parents we need to follow what we think is best for our children. All kids are different.

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I can't say for the other ladies, but I know that I make meals I'm not sure the kids will like because I want to introduce them to a variety of foods. Who knows, they may end up really liking liver, but I would never know if I never made them try it (and if I just asked "Do you guys want liver tonight?" without them trying it, I am sure they would say no right off the bat).

I think it's all about diversity and exposing my kids to other foods so they don't get in a "food funk" as I have seen people get into. Let me tell you, there is NOTHING more unattractive than trying to make a nice dinner date with a guy when ALL he will eat is chicken strips or burgers! lol

Marabeth - posted on 07/07/2010

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if the cook doesn't mind making separate meals then why not? it's their job to cook food for the family. if they're not willing to cook separate meals then they better make sure the one meal they do make everyone will enjoy. it's not like they can just decide since they don't like what you make that they will go make something for themselves (assuming they aren't old enough for that). if i had an ill relative staying with me and they didn't want to eat what i made for the family i'd accomidate for them so why should the children be any different?

Kathy - posted on 07/06/2010

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most times kids need to eat what the family is eating. if after trying it multiple times (really trying it, not being a whiny kid saying i don't like this) then mom/dad can work menus that accommodate everyone on the FEW items. however, i have seen way too many controlling kids that start with being picky food eaters who then end up being bratty little kids that are a pain in the ass to be around. many times it is "control" over the situation versus a true food dislike. and i agree with some of the others here...they also grow up to be pain in the ass adults. hey kid...you don't always get what you like, whether it is the food on your plate or the toy at the store. there are a lot of kids and adults out there now-a-days that could have benefited from their parents being a bit less tolerant at the dinner table and taking the easy way out. =]

Becky - posted on 07/04/2010

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When it's just the kids and I for breakfast and lunch, I generally ask my 2 year old son what he wants and make him that. Although that results in us eating macaroni and cheese several times a week! Sometimes I'll eat the same thing I make for him, sometimes I won't.
We all eat supper together every night, and typically, we all eat the same thing. But, I do not force my son to eat food he doesn't like. So, I either make sure we're making something he likes for at least part of the meal - pasta (which he loves), with pork chops (which he's not such a big fan of), for instance. Or I'll modify his meal a bit, for instance, if he won't like the sauce on the pasta, I'll just put plain jarred spaghetti sauce on his. I won't make him a separate meal - well, very rarely - but if he absolutely refuses to eat what we're eating, I'll let him have yogurt or cottage cheese or something like that that doesn't require me to actually cook two meals.
Our younger son gets what we're eating if he can eat it, but since he's only 9 months old, he often gets his own meal.
I don't force my kids to clean their plates, but my theory is, if you're not hungry enough to finish your meal (I always give them small portions), then you're not hungry enough for treats afterwards. I'll make exceptions when they aren't crazy about part of the meal - you have to eat your chicken and your carrots, but you don't have to finish your potatoes, and then you can have dessert.
My oldest is a pretty good eater, but we struggle with vegetables. Of course, I have a hard time getting his father to eat vegetables too! Sigh! I've resorted to pureeing them and hiding them in things. I put pureed cauliflower (which my husband HATES) in manicotti a couple of weeks ago, and my husband had no idea. He still doesn't know, and I plan to do it again the next time I make manicotti! LOL!

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Our son does not usually eat what we do, and I usually make something just for him. Here is my reasoning.

When i was a child, my parents made me eat what ever they cooked that night, whether I liked it or not, and more often than not, I did not like it. At some point, it became this huge power struggle and I started to feel empowered and strong when i didn't eat. When I did eat, I started to feel defeated, weak, and guilty. I ALWAYS chose to go hungry. I very rarely caved and ate what they wanted me to.

Over the years, those feelings got stronger and stronger so I didn't even want to eat the things I liked--I didn't want to eat anything at all. I knew I needed to eat to survive, but the horrible feelings that accompanied feeling full were enough to make me avoid food almost all together. When I was 7 yrs old, I was hospitalized for the first time for anorexia.

I turned 30 yesterday and I still struggle with anorexia. For me it was never about body image, or thinking I was fat--I know I'm thin--it is about controlling what I put into my body, enjoying the feelings of hunger and hating the feelings that come with eating and fullness.



I'm not going to do that to my son, so if he wants peas for dinner every night, it's not too much trouble for me to heat some for him. Our only rule is that he eats a fruit, a veggie, and a grain every day. If he grows into a picky adult, so be it, I would rather him be a picky adult than to suffer the issues I have with food.

C. - posted on 07/04/2010

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Well, Carol.. At least you know your daughter won't inhale just about everything in sight lol (my son almost does and he's 2.. it's frightening).

Alright, Meghan A.. Not trying to be a buzzkill or anything. My son used to be the SAME EXACT WAY w/ his vegetables. However, in past months he has been putting them on his lap and mashing them on his pants/putting them in his seat and mashing them with his leg/thigh/butt.. Or my favorite.. He'll actually 'eat' them.. Well, he'll stick them in his mouth, chew them up, suck on them until there is literally no flavor then come up to me and spit them out in my hand- regardless of whether or not I have a napkin ready to catch the mess.. Just beware :/

Johnny - posted on 07/04/2010

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I often fix our daughter something separate from us. She is 2. We often have spicy foods or stuff that is just not appealing to 2 year olds. She has a fairly wide range of tastes, but a spicy Indonesian soup is just not something she is ready for. And she has a hard time chewing meat that is not ground, so I don't serve that to her either except for something to experiment with. And besides, she usually eats more veggies than we do, so frankly, we should probably follow her lead.

Rosie - posted on 07/04/2010

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yes it is loureen.:) you can't taste the mayo at all and it makes it SUPER moist. it's very good! :)

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OK, yeah... I see your point. I've just always considered myself an extremely picky eater, but I can find something to eat at just about any place I've ever been.... as long as it's not too fancy and there are non spicy options. :)

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I seriously do not understand what is wrong w/ being able to eat what you want/like... as long as you have relatively healthy choices MOST of the time, of course.

Is it really that disturbing to eat at a restaurant w/ someone who doesn't eat to your standards? Personally I pay attention to the company when we're at dinner... not what they eat.

Charlie - posted on 07/04/2010

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Oh gosh , what a surprise Lea , another well thought out post , sheesh .

Meghan - posted on 07/03/2010

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I don't make seperate meals for J..he is served what I make. BUT I always make sure one part of the meal is something healthy that I know he likes. Or I will add extra veggies or fruit to his plate because THANK GOD this kid loves loves loves his veggies!

Andrea - posted on 07/03/2010

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I do depending what I make. If it involves cheese and it kind of hard to leave it out of what I'm making like lasagna. I will make something else for my son that hates cheese. If I'm making lets say porkchop mac& cheeese, and veggy I will make him eat extra veggy to replace him not eating the mac & chesse. I'm not going to make him eat cheese cuz if someone made me eat Mayo Id throw up. I dont see thee purpose in making your kids eat something they dont like. Not everyone likes them same thing and I'm sure as a parent theirs things you dont like you just have the option of not making it so why cant they have the option of not eating it.

My boyfriends is more a pain in the ass then my kids when it comes to food if I make pork chops his had to be cooked in cream of mushroom soup with is just gross so I have to make his way and mine and the kids another. He doesnt like chicken I could go on.

Sharon - posted on 07/03/2010

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Mayo is the BOMB!!! I even use mayo when I'm cooking baked fish... freaked hubby out when he found out. HE takes mayo addiction to a whole new level... omg he just SLATHERS it on his sandwiches until its dripping off, ick!

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Since I return to work on Tuesday, I'm gonig to start my menu planning today. I'll have my son sit down with me and help get his ideas on what we should eat for dinner. At breakfast this morning, I casually asked him what we should have for dinner. He said "pizza". OK, I'm fine with that so my follow up question was "Should we buy pizza from the pizza place or make it homemade?" His reply was cute. He said we should get pizza from Papa John's AND we should make homemade pizza too because he likes to put the things on the pizza! So...I have a frozen ball of mozarella cheese to defrost, whip up a quick batch of sauce, and run to the store for dough. I might as well make a calzone at the same time and stuff some brocolli & ham into it. OK, gotta get 2 doughs & riccotta cheese!

C. - posted on 07/02/2010

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Back to the sauce thing.. I always order it on the side. Not b/c I don't like it, but there are too many hidden calories, sugar and sodium, so I like to be in charge of how much of it goes on my food.



I will admit, there is ONE thing that I absolutely will NOT eat. Mayonnaise. The smell of it literally makes me want to vomit. I had to quit making my husband sandwiches to take to lunch b/c I almost up-chucked on them one day from the smell.

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We had another successful night at dinner. And no, I didn't make him clear his plate but I made him come close to it! Now when it comes to his "salad" my son is so funny. He does not like lettuce, and I'm always getting him to try it-different kinds of lettuce. He reminds me to make his salad but with no lettuce! Actually, it's the one food he really does help to make but I get so nervous with the knife. I do hand over hand with the knife, but with any kind of food, all it takes is one slip.

Jenny - posted on 07/02/2010

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I don't make them clear everything on their plates either but they best eat some of everything on their plate and not ask for food again till the next meal.

Great reward choice Sharon. I can get behind that, over offering something like pie to finish eating, for sure.

Rosie - posted on 07/02/2010

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oh god sharon, my oldest does that crap. drives me batty!! he'll be sooooo full he won't hardly eat anything and then right after he brushes his teeth he insists he will die right then and there if he doesn't eat!! oh the drama...
another favortie of mine is when they claim they can't hold on another minute to eat, they must or they will wither away to ashes, and as soon as it gets to their plates, they eat two bites and suddenly are so full they're going to puke.
mmmmmmmm, dooooooonuts..glalahhahahhhah (homer voice)

Sharon - posted on 07/02/2010

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hahahaha Yeah, I'm not a fan "eat everything on your plate either." Eat until you aren't hungry any more. What I find hysterical is when they come back 15 minutes later "I'm hungry." GREAT!!! I've got left overs! lol. Actually I only do that when I think F'O'd during dinner.

But we do have dessert every night (almost) after dinner. Usually icecream. Now I want a donut dammit.

Rosie - posted on 07/02/2010

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duh!! i read this thread like 3 times trying to figure out where it came from, lol!! i'm a little slow sometimes!

Rosie - posted on 07/02/2010

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i'm confused, where was sharon talking about her mom? anyhoo.............

i'm not a big fan of seperate meals, nor am i a big fan of forcing them to eat everything on their plate, or sitting there till it's done like my dad did with me. there is a balance to it all, and the other ladies have given some pretty good advice, well most of them, gqtm! i make my children try at least 2 bites of something, and i try to not make things they don't like. however with a child as picky as yours sounds (no offense, lol, my oldest is like that! ) i just try to cater to his wants a little. it get's really hard with multiple children cause 2 will want something and the other one will hate it, you're lucky you have only the one, lol! if my picky one doesn 't want what we're having he'll eat the sides pretty easily, and then he has to eat at least 2 bites of the thing he doesn't usually like (meat usually). try different sauces as well. my middle boy hated steak until i gave it to him with A1 sauce, now he asks for seconds. there's heinz 57 sauce as well that my boys like. good luck!

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OMG Lea! Who ever said my mother raises my child everyday?! SHOW ME PROOF that my mother raises my child! And my mother needs to "shut up" and "show me respect"? You have a lot of nerve for your shallow and unwarranted comments that are beyond useless to this thread. I value my mother's advice after raising 3 children over my limted 5 years of raising only 1 child. Yes, she makes snide remarks over my mealtime routines, which is why I posted this thread to seek changes. Your comments add absolutely nothing and and offer no advice to the issue at hand. So, I'll go ahead and tell my mom to shut and respect me! How about that? If it wasn't for the ladies who offered actual advice on how they run their mealtime routines, I would not have had the motivation to change our own routines. Had I followed your advice and tell my mother to shut up and respect me, I bet I'd get backhanded! (Yup.....and I would deserve it too)

Lea - posted on 07/02/2010

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Your mom doesn't have to raise your kids everyday. She needs to shut up and show you some respect.

September - posted on 07/02/2010

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If our son does not like what we are having then I make him something that he does enjoy. Who wants to eat something they don't like? Our son enjoys most of the foods we eat but there are those nights that he would prefer something different and I'm ok with that.

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That's awesome Sharon! I think the reward thing is not necessarily a problem in this context... If you twist it to say something like: "If you don't eat, you'll be hungry when we go to the gym and it won't be as fun or you won't have as much energy to go all the way up the wall..." Which is not a bribe and still the truth. It doesn't always work mind you but it's worth a shot! Worked for my step-sons (most of the time anyway). You can remind him that he was super hungry after the last time!

I do agree that you have to pick your battles. I also find it's amazing all the changes you managed with your son and his diet!

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Hey! I'm not a fan of foods with sauce on it either and I also order food at a restuarant with "no sauce" :-)

I don't expect an instant change with my son's meals, but I am hoping for progress. I realize that for several years I did cater to him. I will most likely cave in again at times, but I am trying now to correct my mistakes. Last night he played around with his food for 15 minutes and therefore I set the timer. Of course I bribed him with a reward and he chowed down on his dinner ! I won't be doing that reward thing either, but it was to go to the local gym to climb the rock wall & shoot hoops. That wasn't too bad at all for an after-dinner activity. And lo and behold, when we came home from the gym he was so hungry that he asked for a sandwich! I suppose in the grand scheme of parenting, you have to pick & chose what works best. Tonight is grilled chicken, and I already told him what's he's going to eat!

Sharon - posted on 07/02/2010

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For you ladies who want to expand your kids eating habits to include other cuisines...

when we go out to eat the kids have to order something that is native (only word I can think of at this early hour) to the restaurant. If we go to a seafood restaurant - they have to order seafood. Not a burger or pizza or mac-n-cheese.

If we go to a japanese restaurant - they have to order japanese food. etc. They don't have to eat sushi. My youngest doesn't really care for any of it, but my younger son is coming around and trying a few his older brother says are good. My oldest loves sashimi (raw fish) - sushi can be cooked items - fish, eggs, etc

And a sad note... lol... my brother was raised the same as me. We ate what was put in front of us. The only thing my brother ever flat out refused to eat was a raw tomato.

When my brother moved out of the house - lmao - he reverted to being about 7 yrs old gastronomically. Nothing but burgers, fries & milkshakes but he preferred soda most of the time. Oh and he ordered "No veggies" on his burgers!!!! For about 15 yrs that is what he ate. His biggest concession to "exotic" food was taco bell!!!! When we went to ANY restaurant he ordered fettucini. Chicken fettucini usually sometimes shrimp!

This all culminated in his dumb ass getting a fatty liver and blood in his stool and scaring the hell out of himself. Dumbass.

His new girlfriend now makes healthier meals but in general they still eat crappy diets.

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After seeing how my brother and my husband turned out.. I will never do that.



Both of them have palates of a 10 year old. My dad catered to my brother if he didn't like what was made for dinner, he let my brother pretty much eat whatever- We think it was b/c they were the only 2 males in the family.



My MIL did almost the same thing with my husband while he was growing up. Though, now that my husband is deployed and has limited food choices compared to when he's home.. His palate is expanding while deployed and shrinks back when he's home.



I want my son to not be so dang picky b/c I see the frustration it causes when we are going out to dinner as a family. What do both my husband AND my brother order when we're out?? Chicken strips and fries, UNLESS there is a steak in sight. Seriously?? I want my children to know what all types of foods taste like. If I make something for dinner, they're going to eat it b/c I took my precious time to make it. It's very rude to not eat what your parent makes for you unless your parent doesn't know how to cook- that may be a special case.



But I cannot stand seeing 20-somethings and older eating kid food and that's generally what happens when you are always catering to what your child wants.

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When I'm good about my meal planning and have leftovers the rule in my house is you can object to your meal but only if you eat leftovers... The way I figure it, sometimes I just don't feel like spaghetti again either? Or what have you? Maybe last nights roast was soo delicious I would like more of that? IDK... I don't tend to go to super lengths to feed him something different...sometimes it is simply "this is what you are eating" and he'll go to bed and ask for food, so he gets his dinner again. Eat it or not? Breakfast is @ 8. He's almost 4 now, so its a little easier being more adament about his diet. When he was 2 there were phases he went through. He started out LOVING spaghetti, would eat it UP! No problems, well, he didn't like the onions...whatever? Then I told him how I carmalize the onions and they are sweet and delicious, he tried them and THEN all he'd eat was the onions and tomatoes...? Now I make sure to chop my onions large, as he ♥s them! A couple weeks ago he ate almost 2 bowls of straight spag sauce! He's a nut!!!

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My son eats whatever we make that day. I don't prepare anything separate. If he doesn't like the food, then he is allowed not to eat it. I do try to prepare meals in different ways to get his palate used to different flavors and also increase the chance that he will actually eat what I am making. Some days I make a meal for all of us that is only made up of his favorite items but then we still all eat the same thing anyway.


I don't think making separate meals for the kids is a good idea.. My daycare provider did that for a while. and we had to deal with the worst tantrums EVER when my son wasn't getting the meal he wanted. We made sure that wasn't happening again.

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I cook some nights, and my hubby cooks some nights. Miles is required to try it, if he doesn't like it, he doesn't have to eat it, but he only gets pb and j, or a bowl of cereal instead. I won't make separate meals. The ONLY exception is if there are left-overs that I know he will eat, then I'd rather warm those up then waste them...

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****UPDATE****

Well I am happy to report that meal time was served, and Matthew pretty much ate what was on his plate. He whined a bit, but I stuck to my guns about eating what's on his plate. I sliced up a very small piece of meat for him and he liked it. He ate some broccolli-not a whole lot, but maybe 2-3 pieces. And his usual stand by of mac n' cheese as a side dish as opposed to it being a main course. We're having leftovers tonight, and I still expect some more whining, but I hope that our meal time rules will be slowly changing for the positive. Thanks for your input on the subject ladies!

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Menu planning saved my life! gqtm...not really, but it's made life a whole lot easier. It's better on the budget too. I typically plan for two weeks at a time. I get everything in one trip to the store (or stores). The next week I go to the store (or farmer's market) and get only the perishables, milk and fresh produce. I used to be the person to start making dinner, rush to the store to get one single ingredient I needed, and rush home to finish cooking. I also used to waste a ton of food that had spoiled because I had no plan to use it. NO MAS!

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