Really need advice

Rachelle - posted on 10/24/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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So I am 35 weeks pregnant with my second baby, a boy, and I am having such a hard time. I had None of these problems with my now 2 year old daughters pregnancy. I know I have siatica and have the horrible back, hip and leg pains that come with that, but It goes so above an beyond that. I cannot walk, I cant turn or shift my hips at all. My pelvis and vagina area is having the most excrutiating pain I could ever imagine. It feels like it is the bones and the pain is internal not on the outside. I dont sleep, I cant walk most days at all, It is so bad I am constantly in tears and its so bad its actually making me break out in sweats, just from the pain being so bad. I go to doctor often and the baby is perfectly fine and my cervix is still nice and long and where it should be. They are just telling me to do some pelvic lifts. I cant imagine this much horrible pain is normal. I read online about something called Symphis Pelvic Disfunction, which sounds like what I have but im at a loss. Anyone go thru this and what was the out come. Any advice on what I can do to just live and not be in tears from pain. On top of this I am a stay at home mom of a 2 yr old with no family around to help besides my husband who works alot. Not easy

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/25/2010

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I had the pubis symphisis and it hurts like hell! It was on my pubic bone and across. It would feel like bolts of fire, or stabbing pain. If you are going to roll over in bed, do it with your knees together. Sitting on hard surfaces can make it worse...sitting with your legs apart is painful also. Talk to them about this becouse it is no joke! There are certain positions during labor and pushing you need to avoid or it could make the tear worse! Avoid squatting, and lying on your back. The best position to deliver in for this specific problem is on your side. I occassionally still have pain and my daughter is 7 months old. Go on line and research the "belly band" It is expensive but it really relieves the pressure. You probably have Sciatica and the Pubis Symphisis Seperation. They can check it out and should NOT take this lightly! If you have any further questions please feel free to contact me. The pain will subside after the baby is born. just take it easy, get off your feet!

Louise - posted on 10/25/2010

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I hear what your saying as I had SPD and boy does it hurt. Go to your GP and tell him what you have said here because this is SPD and will (sorry to say) get worse until the baby is born. I was fitted with a pelvis belt which took the weight off my pelvis and did help me work around more comfortably. The good news is as soon as the baby is born you will have relief and within 10 days the pain will be gone forever. All you can do is try and rest as much as possible (which I know is impossible with a 2 year old) I found that warm deep baths helped take the pressure off at the end of the day and having a pregnancy pillow helped me sleep. My obstetrician actually induced me two weeks early because of the SPD and it had to be written in my notes as certain postitions in labour are more painful because of it. Go and see the GP for help.

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ME - posted on 10/25/2010

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I have degenerative disc disease...and I have ALL of your symptoms. It started after my first was born, and will never go away. After your baby is born, i would ask for an xray or mri of your back. Good luck!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/25/2010

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Keep using that pillow, it is helping more than you know...you are in too much pain to see any difference yet. If you get a band from the maternity store, they are not ment for extreme problems like this is. It goes above your hips in the back, and under the belly in the front. It does and will help. Go to the website I gave you and look it up. i did not need the over the shoulder straps, but I did need the ones between the legs...I also had the variscosities (vaginal varicose veins...ouch) this band really helped. Mind you nothing is going to get rid of it until the baby is born...but it will really help!

Ez - posted on 10/25/2010

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There are specific pelvic bands for SPD. I got mine from the physiotherapist, but a chiro should have them too. They are totally different, and much more heavy-duty, that a Bella band. They are specifically designed to stabilise the pelvis while walking.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/25/2010

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www.babybellyband.com



sorry bout all the posts ; 0 This band was recommended by my mid wife.

Rachelle - posted on 10/25/2010

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I tried the pillow and it isnt helping at all for some reason, and I have a Bella band but how to I use it to actually lift the belly. I have it cause i used it with my daughter to wear my non maternity pants, but how would I wear it to actually lift. cause it seems to be just holding my belly in not lifting

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/25/2010

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PSS sleep with a pillow between your knees, I liked a body pillow. It helped relieve the pressure also...don't forget the belly band...really helps.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/25/2010

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PS I did not have this with my first, but did with my second. With each child after this it can get worse. Good luck!

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I had a lot of pain caused by sciatica during my pregnancy. I went to see a chiropractor. She adjusted my hips which were about an inch off!!! One of my legs was an inch shorter than the other. I would go every week until the last week of my pregnancy and it REALLY helped. Maybe you should look into that. Being in this much pain is no way to live.

Jackie - posted on 10/25/2010

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Siatica can be EXTREMELY painful. I, myself, had the exact same problem although not as severe. I know what mean by shifting weight, and can't walk and can't sleep. It's very very painful. Not to say you dont have something more serious going on my maybe not.

My Dad had his siatic nerve pinched years ago (my dad is a very tough guy) and I have NEVER in my life seen my dad in so much pain. We had to call the ambulance and they had to carry him to the truck, out of the house, in the chair he was sitting in. He just absolutely couldn't move.

Jenni - posted on 10/25/2010

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With my first pregnancy I didn't experience any pelvic pain. With my daughter it was a different story... I don't think I was as bad as what you described. I had "bad days" where walking was extremely painful. Near the end of my pregnancy from about 38-42 weeks (yes I went 42 weeks, with both my pregnancies actually) i was definitely spending most of my time in a warm bath or on the couch. I don't recall any pelvic pain with my son, I think I did a little but it was minimal. I brought my pelvic pain to the attention of my OBGYN and described how bad it was and she didn't seem concerned. So I imagine it's pretty normal probably because our first pregnancies caused a lot of strain on it that this time around it's much worse.
So warm baths helped me and I would also suggest resting whenever possible.

Rachelle - posted on 10/25/2010

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I do have Siatica but this is definately more then that. I really do think its SPD, from what I read and looked into, it sounds just like that but even worse, but Im not a doctor so I dont know and my doctors arent being as helpful as I wish they would. I have my prenatal appt tomorrow and I am really going to push the topic because like you just said Loureen, I am on my hands and knees crying my eyes out most days

Charlie - posted on 10/25/2010

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You just described my last pregnancy after a perfect first pregnancy , towards the end i was on my hands and knees in pain crying my eyes out just letting hot water run over my hips .

I hope you find out what it is , my doctor basically told me to suck it up , grrrrrr.

Ez - posted on 10/25/2010

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Go to a chiro!! Like... right now!!
You need a proper diagnosis before you can even begin to try and treat it. But it definitely sounds like more than just normal preggo aches and pains. It sounds like SPD (I had a variation of this after birth), and if it is, there is treatment. There are supportive bands to wear around your hips to hold everything in place. There is chiropractice adjustments. Even acupuncture. There is help, but you need someone to diagnose you first. Good luck!

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Are you sure it's Siatica? I had a problem with my pelvis when I was pregnant because I had to bend over a lot at my work. It felt like the pain was in my butt cheek and when it was really bad, especially at the end of the day, I could hardly walk. It can also manifest at the front of your pelvis, deep in your crotch. My midwife referred me to a physio and they recommended some exercises. They also recommended bending properly (or not at all). Floating in a pool was also recommended but I never got around to doing that. I'd ask your doctor about it again. I think it was called Pelvic Girdle Pain but I might be wrong.

Sharon - posted on 10/24/2010

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i didn't have the disease you have or the one you think you have.

But I did break my hips, shatter my pelvis, both my legs and break my back.

So I know what you mean about the pain. Towards the end the agony was unreal. I never took so much as advil for it - not because I'm above such things or anything about polluting my body but because I still had the full on all day hurling fest. And I had this with all 3 kids and like you my hubby worked alot and I didn't have any family nearby.

The pain, the lonliness, an active toddler or two.... I thought I was going to lose it.

Talk to your doctor again. If he doesn't get it, find another one, I swear it helps to have one that just acknowledges your issues and commisserates with you even when there is nothing they can do.

If your doctor won't look further into your suspicions then you really need to find a new one.

I got lucky with my first, but I VERY carefully chose my next two OBs.

{{{{ hugs }}} to my sister in pain.

Katherine - posted on 10/24/2010

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Good Lord tell them you need some pain meds or something to function!! Between my two pregnancies I developed a bulging disc, which is really painful.
I remember with my second feeling sooo much pressure in my vaginal area, it felt like it was in my bones too. I stayed off of myfeet as much as I could ( I had a 3 1/2yo) When I slept I had one of those big body pillows tucked under my stomach and between my legs. That helped a little with the pressure. Good shoes help too. The new skecher step ups ( I think they're called) have awesome arch support and they really help my back. If you have a belly band use it, that will help with the weight and pressure too.
Other than that, that's all I've got!!! I feel you though!!

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