Regifting- Do or Don't?

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The homemade gift thread go time wondering how many of you do, or don't regift.

Is regifting considered tacky? What if there was no absolute way of the new recipient ever learning it was a regift?

I do regift. Most recently, a box of chocolates given to me, and I regifted it to someone else. Hell, I already put on the extra Christmas weight, I don;t need an entire box of chocolates! So I regifted it. My hubby received more chocolates, so I am regifting tomorrow morning: they are going to the veternarian's office!!! I have also regifted candles & lotions that I did not care for the scent. I regifted a picture frame that just wasn't really my style. I regifted a sweater one time, to my grandma! She liked it too! It was really "old-lady" style and it was given to me by one of my husband's customers.

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I don't think I've ever technically re-gifted. I have passed on gifts to other people, but not as an official gift.

I have, however, used free gifts that I've gotten from companies by keeping up with their reward points online (diapers and baby yogurt) to give as presents. I got several of the same board book for yogurt points, so I threw them into gift bags for kiddie birthday parties. Oh, and once I won a basket of children's books at a silent auction. I paid $30 for over $100 worth of nice hardcover books. You better believe I broke up the basket and used each individual book as a gift. This was over a year ago, and I still have two books left.

Also, I have a "gift closet." When I find a bargain on a nice item, I'll buy it for the closet. When a baby shower, wedding, or birthday party rolls around, I'll shop in my closet first. I've done pretty well. Recently I found Carter's brand onsies for 80 cents each. I bought several and have used them (along with diapers!) as baby shower gifts.

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Becky - posted on 12/31/2010

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I've never done it with something I just didn't like, other than as a white elephant gift. But I have regifted things that we- mostly the kids, got that were exact duplicates of things they already had. For instance, at my husband's Christmas party, Zach got a little Fisher Price puppy that we already have, so I gave it to my niece for Christmas - along with some stuff we'd actually paid for, of course. I've given duplicates - unopened of course - as baby gifts too. You just have to remember who gave it to you so you don't give it back to them or to someone who would know it was a regift!

Katherine - posted on 12/31/2010

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Totally regift. If I can't use it and I know someone who would enjoy it, why not?
I'd rather do that then hurt someone's feelings telling them I didn't like it ;)

Petra - posted on 12/31/2010

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I would kind of feel tacky doing it, unless it was a "bonus" gift that you know the person would like, as in Krista's example. Otherwise, charity. Many, many a nasty sweater or pj set has gone to charity.

@Sara - my Grandma has a gift couch; she piles flea market and sale stuff onto it throughout the year and puts random stuff into "care packages" for us. Personally, I wish she wouldn't waste the money, and my 12 month old doesn't need a set of Hello Kitty pencils, but she seems to enjoy it, so I just thank her and put them away or pass them onto charity.

Jocelyn - posted on 12/31/2010

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I haven't yet regifted something as an "official" present, but if I get something that I don't like then I will generally just give it so someone (who would actually like the item) as a random present.
I have no issues with it. I WAS going to regift a bath set that I got, but my kids managed to open it...damn them lol

Tiffany - posted on 12/30/2010

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Absolutely. If it's not something I'm going to use, I will regift if I can't exchange if I know someone will like it. If not, then I donate it.

Bonnie - posted on 12/30/2010

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Yup I love that idea Sara. Don't know if I actually will do it, but definitely something to think about:-)

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Sara - my best friend's mom does the gift closet too! I used to always think she was so on top of all her kid's friend's birthdays and such when in actuality she would buy all year long and just pul it out as needed! lol

Great idea though!

Bonnie - posted on 12/30/2010

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Nothing wrong with re-gifting. We do it here and there, not often. Just need to make sure we are not re-gifting the same item to the person who gave it to us LOL.

Lady Heather - posted on 12/30/2010

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I totally would if it was chocolates or something because that's not a very personal gift. If you don't want them, someone else may as well enjoy them! As far as other things go, it would have to a scenario where I had something that I knew was just perfect for someone else. If I knew they would love it, then it's not a bad thing at all to send it their way.

Joanna - posted on 12/30/2010

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I recently regifted something... I only regift it if I know the recipient will love it. I got some suncare products from my aunt-in-law, but I have a different brand I use and love, so I gave them to a friend who loved the brand I received. I see no problem in it! But I hate when people regift "stuff", like knick-knacks, that you know no one really wants. I don't want a plastic fish sculpture, neither did you, or the aunt who gave it to you, or the friend who gave it to her, etc etc.

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My grandma gave me Aquaglobes (I don't have houseplants because my kids eat them...) and she gave my hubby a self cleaning heavy duty grill brush... I love my grandma to pieces, but I have no idea what she was thinking this year... We immediately rewrapped the gifts and gave them to my hubby's dad and step mom within hours for their Christmas presents. Those are things they really like and we were never going to use them anyway...



Aside from that and the occasional really nice item I just don't want but I know someone else will enjoy, I usually give things I don't like to the Goodwill...

Amanda - posted on 12/30/2010

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I support regifting: ) as long as It's something useful to the person on the receiving end. I've done it and I don't think I would mind if I received a regift

Caitlin - posted on 12/30/2010

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Joy - I always give diapers to my pregnant friends as part of a gift (usually a cute outfit too) but since I was a mom first I go with size 3 diapers, because in my experience they are in that size for a while and an outfit either size 3-6 or 6-9 months (usually PJs, because they tend to not change with the seasons) and they always go over great.

Sure, giving away some of those diapers is re-gifting, but it's an amazingly useful thing to get!

Stifler's - posted on 12/30/2010

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if it's something good you know the person will like it's good. not giving a gift is better than giving a gift you don't particularly care whether they like or hate.

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Now, I know this is kinda different but....at my baby shower for Jacob, I got a TON of diapers, many of them the small sizes that he would only fit in for like a week or two. I ended up with a bunch of unused (but perfectly good) diapers. A friend of mine had her baby 3 months after me and as PART of her gift (I did get her something she had registered for), I passed on the unused diapers. Is that really considered regifting? LOL

Lindsay - posted on 12/30/2010

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I have regifted and I'm sure I will again in the future. If I'm not going to use something, why not send it on to someone who will?

Kate CP - posted on 12/30/2010

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I don't think I've ever re-gifted anything but I guess I'm not totally apposed to it. Unless it's obvious. If it's obvious that it was a re-gifted item then I'd be a little insulted.

Dana - posted on 12/30/2010

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I guess I could see doing something like you've mentioned Krista. It's like a little bonus gift to go along with something that you'd had already gotten them.

Krista - posted on 12/30/2010

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I've regifted if it's something small and not particularly valuable.

My mom recently bought me some lavender body wash, forgetting (I hope?) that my husband is allergic to the scent. A close friend of mine loves lavender, so I popped the body wash into the gift bag alongside of the scarf I'd already bought her. She was thrilled with it and I was happy to be rid of it. Win-win.

I also agree with Caitlin that as long as re-gifting is done with discretion and thoughtfulness, it is better for something to go to someone who will enjoy it, rather than for it to collect dust in my home and wind up in the trash. But if you're just passing it off on someone to get rid of it, then that's no good. You have to be giving it because you really do genuinely believe that the new recipient will enjoy the gift much more than you would have.

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I've regifted before and I'm positive I've been the reciever of a regift. One year for my friend's birthday, I bought her a basket of bath stuff (soaps, oils, salt, candles, a loofah). That year for Christmas she regifted it back to me (unintentionally, I'm sure). I didn't say anything but I ended up regifting it again to someone else because I didn't like the scent lol I would never do it with things either hand made or something pricey. But I'm a lot like Caitlin on this one. I'd rather see someone else enjoying something that I maybe just don't care for (not my style, etc) than to see it collect dust somewhere in my house.

Caitlin - posted on 12/30/2010

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I don't think i've ever done it, but I would have NO problem doing it. I prefer the stuff gets used than sits collecting dust in my basement or going in the trash. If it's 100% useless to me or family and friends, it goes to the local charity (in fact, the girls got 3 things this x-mas I will not let them have, so those are getting donated.. I'm not mean, but the paints that were bought for her make her eczema flare up like mad!)

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the way my family is, if we didnt like the gift, we say so, the person returns it and gets something different, i have yet to receive a gift i didnt like. My family knows me really well.

Dana - posted on 12/30/2010

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I've never done it, I would just feel uncomfortable. I put a lot of thoughts into my gifts and I'd feel like I was just pushing off something on someone else.

Jenn - posted on 12/30/2010

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I don't think I've ever done it, but I don't think it's a big deal. As long as it's still "new" and the person doesn't know, who cares?

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Yeah absolutely! Why ever not? Actually, more often I give stuff to charity shops.

And if I find something good at a charity shop, I give it to my kids for a Christmas present - all the stuff goes around and around!

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