Revenge peeing!!! (Not a debate, but I need your help!)

Krista - posted on 12/08/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




My son just turned 3 and is very recently potty trained. Just lately he's started to have accidents that are definitely not accidents, and it's driving me crazy! It's not "oops, I didn't make it to the potty on time" it's "let's see how many things I can pee on!"

I don't know if it's because he's angry with me for something, or if it's just for fun. He's been peeing in his toys (he'll pee in a bucket and then pour it into other things...) and today he peed in my workout shoes! He's worse than a damn cat!

Anyway, I don't really know how to deal with this properly and was hoping you'd have some tips. I've read that accidents should be dealt with matter of factly...just clean it up and change their clothes, no scolding. But these are deliberate acts of pee-gression, and not accidents, so I feel like I should be doing something more to deter him. Any ideas?? Better run before he pees on something else...


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Stifler's - posted on 12/08/2011




My nearly 2 year old deliberately spills milk if I give it to him in a open topped cup which he has known how to drink out of since 18 months or before. So he can get a tea towel to blot it up. Or get attention. I also agree, throw it out if he pees on it especially if it's his toy he will get the message.

Ez - posted on 12/08/2011




I agree with the others. If he pees on his stuff, throw it out. If it's your stuff, make him clean it up. I agree that this sort of behaviour needs to be handled differently to genuine accidents.

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Not sure if this applies, but my sons (who are almost 4) have had a water obsession for a while. They will actually deliberately spill water and milk so they can clean it up. They are currently dumping out water on the kitchen floor as I speak. I'm wondering it's more a water thing than a pee thing (that is, he's peeing so he has some water to play with). Have you tried setting out some pouring pitchers for him to play with? Or beans or split peas?

I agree with making him have the consequences -- whether that means taking the toy away, making him clean it, or throwing it away.

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Yeah, if he pees on his stuff it's trash. If he pees on other stuff... he cleans it up.

Sorry... kids are weird.

Kate CP - posted on 12/08/2011




Make him clean it up. His pee, his stuff, his mess...he should clean it up.

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This is kinda tough because it sort of sounds like he's trying to get your attention by misbehaving. When my son was that age he would strip down to the nude and go streaking through the house laughing his head off while I chased him down to tackle and redress him. :)

I understand that he's only three, but can you possibly have him help you clean it up, so that he can be part of that process? It may change his mind if he has to stop having his fun every time to help mommy clean it up. Obviously he won't be a ton of help, but 3 year olds have a really hard time seeing a world outside of themselves until we show it to them.

Jane - posted on 12/08/2011




Anything of his own that he pees on gets thrown out. Then he gets time out. My son did the same thing. Unfortunately he also developed poop-gression, which is much worse. He is more or less over it now but it took a long while.

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