Reward for lost teddy

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Johnny - posted on 03/25/2011

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It's not about the money. Who cares what the reward amount really is? The response from dad should have been a sincere and deeply felt apology, an explanation that we all make mistakes, and a big hug. This loss is not going to be causing irreparable harm to the child. The dad offering a $1000 reward for a freaking teddy bear is going to teach the kid some weird stuff.

Why should kids not be learning that sometimes shit happens? Are they never supposed to learn this? Are we going to fix absolutely everything for them? What happens when one of their friends mistakenly breaks one of their toys?

I think I'm beginning to see why it is that when I take my daughter to the play room it's crowded with parents following their kids around over every inch lest someone bump into little Janie and make her upset. Argh!

Isobel - posted on 03/25/2011

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Unfortunately or possibly fortunately...I know plenty of people who could afford this type of reward.

I don't see any reason why the child would be "learning" a lesson...for the FATHER losing the bear.

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If the child had lost the bear, then no, I would not offer a reward, but since it was the father who lost it, and he is trying to right his mistake for his daughter, I see nothing wrong with him offering the reward. I hope someone returns it.

I see the bear as a sentimental item, not just some replaceable possession. Sure, he could buy her another bear, but it would not be the same bear. It would be like telling someone who had lost a family heirloom, "You can buy another one." Sure, they could buy another one, but it wouldn't be the same one passed down through their generations, that had seen their family through it's ups and downs.

I have stuffed seal that my father gave me the day I was born. For most of my childhood, this was my only toy and I LOVE that seal. I don't tote it around, I never did, it was too valuable. In fact, it spent about two years buried underground. Sure, it's just a stuffed seal, I can buy another one, but I love THAT one. THAT seal that my dad gave me before he fell apart. This bear is probably similar to that little girl. I know if I lost my seal, I would certainly offer a reward for it.

Vegemite - posted on 03/26/2011

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if i had the cash i so would, my sons would be heartbroken if their little G.G. or Raffa were lost and I would be sad too. I still have my cuddle toy I got at 3. I remember my dad getting my rocky raccoon from Tokyo airport for me and ever since his death that worn out stuffed toy has had its pride of place on my bedside table.



....But this is why their cuddle toys are only allow two places Home and Nana and Pa's



The only life lesson i see here is that if your heart is broken mum and dad wont care enough to do anything about it. They'll just comfort you for the day and say oh well did you learn some sort of lesson. HARSH

Johnny - posted on 03/26/2011

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I agree with you on that one Teresa. There are certainly some circumstances where I could understand the parent going to great lengths to retrieve a comfort object. But in normal circumstance, which this case apparently is, I think it's bad form.

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Children can become so attached to there toy/teddy etc, i understand why the parents did that, why any parent would do that for there child.
I got a call one day from my other half, he said "I lost Alaina", our daughter is Alaina.He said just before i was going to say wtf.."Its okay i found her, someone put her sitting on a shop window".
I was like again wtf, then i got it.
My sister had got Alaina a doll on holidays, it had her name on it.Alaina would call the doll..Alaina.lmao.I was going to faint before i got what he was saying.
I could then finally breathe easy.I gave her so many hugs when i saw her after that.

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On the other end... I do know of a boy who lost his beloved stuffed puppy and his mother went through great lengths to find it, BUT... his little sister had just died (horrible accident that he witnessed) and he just couldn't take any more loss at that point. THAT I can fully understand. I'm not sure if a reward was offered or not, but I do know that the story got out and the puppy was found and returned.

Johnny - posted on 03/26/2011

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When I was a child, I lost my Zaza (pink checkered dolly) twice. I left her behind in a hotel room once, my parents called the hotel but they couldn't find it. I was very upset, but just when I'd forgotten about it, the thing showed up in the mail. Next I forgot her on an airplane. By the time we got home from the vacation, the package with her had already arrived. The last time she was stolen by the crazy boy up the street and he set her on fire. That was the end of Zaza. And I learned that some people are crazy.

Isobel - posted on 03/26/2011

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I should explain that I wouldn't do it myself...I just understand why some people would.


Q lost his blankie when he was three or four and we never did a big search for it. It was a rough few days BUT he got over it and yes...he did learn that sometimes shit happens and there's nothing you can do about it.

Amy - posted on 03/26/2011

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I think it's part of life/life lesson because things you love do get lost, broken, stolen. It's a small step in learning to cope with loss.

I love my teacups. When my daughter broke one when she was three, I cried. Silly, but it was a 180.00 teacup!! And it had tons of sentimental value - my mom got them for me. But, my daughter learned from me. I cried - why - it hurt my heart because it was something I loved. We talked about it. I got hugs and got over it...because I loved her MORE and told her that. Even though things we love break/lost/stolen, it's the people we're with that matters, not the "stuff".

Stifler's - posted on 03/26/2011

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I remember losing my favourite teddy when I was a kid. Boris. I lent him to my sister and some feral kid stole him off her at the shops. There's no life lesson to someone else losing your favourite toy! Except don't trust anyone but yourself to hold onto it and don't share!

Amy - posted on 03/26/2011

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Only way I'd offer a reward - if I had money - was if it was a family heirloom.

Otherwise, it's a life lesson.

Sal - posted on 03/26/2011

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no not about the money,i'd accept a poster for a lost toy no reward (pay cod delivery at a push), if a people only return things for money the world has gone completely to shit....children do have to learn that money can;t fix everything too...i was very mindful that my kids didn;t have any one toy/blanket etc that they were too attatched to, ment we never lost the fav toy, mind you in 15 years i would of only lost 1 or 2 things.....one was a game boy, and it was my sons fault, i rang the lost and found of the railway, but no amount of money was going to get that one back...

Jane - posted on 03/25/2011

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Well, it wasn't the child that lost it so why should they have to learn anything the hard way when it comes to this situation. If I had that kind of cash, I'd do it for sure.

Meghan - posted on 03/25/2011

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Is it the amount that bothers everyone? I agree 1000.00 is a shit load of money...what if it was like 50.00?

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My 4 yo has lost a couple toys already. He's had to learn that this is why mummy says no toys to take to the shops. In fact, he still occasionally talks about the first toy he lost at the feed store and that was a year ago! Truth is, I asked the people in the store and someone had seen it, but we couldn't find it. Sometimes you lose stuff.

I thought the comment from 'over here now' was funny. His cousin carried around a bit of elastic from his mum's bra!

All in all, I think this is a good opportunity to start teaching a child about forgiveness and why it's important to value people over possessions.

Johnny - posted on 03/25/2011

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The child would be learning the lessons that other people make mistakes and we can find ways to forgive them for it. Sometimes things out of our own control go wrong and effect our lives negatively and we need to learn to deal with those too. Parents don't do everything right all the time and that's okay because they still love you. Any of those lessons resonating here?????

Yikes, I heard this on the radio the other day and totally rolled my eyes. I find it appalling. Put the money into the kids college fund or something worthwhile. He's not going to be holding it against you for years to come. The dad needs to grow some character to pass it on to his kids.

Sal - posted on 03/25/2011

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not "learning the hard way" as such but kids do need to learn to accept things happen, accidents, toys get lost, they have to learn to deal with loss and things that are out of mum and dads control...

Nikki - posted on 03/25/2011

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Some people have too much money. Yes my daughter would be devastated if she lost her beloved teddy, and I would feel bad if I had left it on the car roof. But not guilty enough to shell out $1000 to try and find it, it's a bit extreme. You would think a free add in the lost and found section of the newspaper would suffice!

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This is a lesson the child should have to learn the hard way. Or if you are to wussy to teach your child then just go buy a new one. Run it through the cycle a few times and presto.

Isobel - posted on 03/25/2011

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It's an effort to ease his own guilty conscience...can't really put a price on that I guess.

Jenny - posted on 03/25/2011

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If it was my situation I would use it as an opportunity to teach about loss. Yes, it is hard but it happens and it is important to learn how to deal with it. This child will learn that Daddy will buy her way out of bad situations. If he's willing to shell $1000 for a teddy bear I can imagine how much other stuff this child likely has. Happiness is not found in things, even the frog my daughter has slept with for the past 8 years.

Meghan - posted on 03/25/2011

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I have mixed feelings on it ONLY because J's fav bear is a bear that my brother gave me the day I was born. I gave it to him and he sleeps with it every nite. But then again, I will NEVER have a 1000.00 laying around so it does seem really silly

Katherine - posted on 03/25/2011

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That's kind of funny that he put it in the paper IMO. I mean it sucks but, it should be replaceable. I know it's her bear she's had for a long time but he could just as easily buy a new one. A bit ridiculous really.

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