Rude kids

Samantha-Jo - posted on 11/15/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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There is this kid who is about 8 years old, and everytime i see him he is SO rude to me. And his father doesn't even care how disrespectful his child is. This boy has no rules or regulations, and his father takes him everywhere with him, no matter if it's a party, or over to his dad's friends, or where it it is. This kid could stay up until 2 or 3 in the morning if he wants to! Not to mention his dad would rather have his child tag along then go to school! I am on the fence about calling CPS. i don't know what to do. I feel he is being neglected, but the last time i tried to talk to his dad he said it was not my business, what do i do?

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Tara - posted on 11/17/2010

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I think you should mind your own business unless there is some evidence of real harm coming to the child. Staying up late isn't abuse or neglect, going with his dad places isn't abuse or neglect, you and I may think he needs to be in bed earlier but that's our opinion.
If he's rude, well that's too bad, but again not abuse or neglect.
Leave yourself out of this one. It's not worth the time and really all you're going to do is piss him off some more.

~Jennifer - posted on 11/17/2010

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When my mom was a single mom, I went everywhere with her too.

She went to a friend's house, I went.....if they had a party, I was there. HOWEVER....I was still put to bed on time (woken up to get in the car to go home) but in bed on time.

If my mom wanted to keep me out of school for the day, she did. If the school had an issue with my absence, she would give me a written excuse.....so , no offense, but so far....nothing major going on there.



As far as them being rude (and this is just a 'what if', since I don't know much about your interactions with them)...

Is it possible that they are rude to you because you look down on them and insult his parenting? You don't even have to say anything to them, but tossing some dirty looks their way, talking to others about it (things DO get around- even when you think you speak in confidence), or just the fact that you make your disdain for his parenting QUITE clear?



Kids will protect their parents, as we would protect our kids.....if the boy sees you or hears about you cutting down his dad - (if he's single then you're cutting down the ONLY parent that might love him in the boy's eyes)- he';s GOING to be rude to you.



I may be way off here.....but it's just my "maybe it's this" reply.

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Amie - posted on 11/17/2010

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I don't see the need to call CPS. He doesn't sound like he's being neglected. Staying up late, can not be proven that's just you saying it, so they (CPS) will ignore it. Going to school, if he misses enough, THEY will call CPS to investigate. So if no call from them, I doubt he's missed all that much.

It does sound like it's just a drastically different idea to parenting then your way. It's drastically different than my idea of parenting but I wouldn't be calling CPS without proof of real wrong doing.

Isobel - posted on 11/17/2010

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Jenn's theory sounds likely to me. I was a single mother, and the situation was never perfect...my kids are fine.

Although I would never tolerate rudeness to ANY adult, it would be difficult to discipline them for hating a woman who MAY be being a little judgmental or rude (by looking down her nose at him) herself.

Though I'm sure this is not the case :)

Jenn - posted on 11/17/2010

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How do you know that he has no rules or regulations? Or that he goes everywhere with his Dad? Unless you are living with them or stalking them, there's no way to know that. Personally I would not call just because some kid is rude to you, it doesn't sound like he's being abused from what you said.

Johnny - posted on 11/15/2010

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Does his father feed him, clothe him and look after his hygiene? Does he live in a safe home? Is his father abusing substances leading to neglect? Does he treat the child with care and not abuse?



It is a problem with him missing school, but at least where I am, it would be unlikely that CPS would intervene for a few missed days.



If you are answering my opening questions with no, then it's probably a case of you having drastically different ideas about the right way to parent as opposed to it being a case for CPS intervention. A parent has the right to keep their kid with them if they choose. And there are no laws about bedtimes.... CPS generally doesn't focus on misbehaving brats, they like to assign their efforts to kids suffering serious abuse and neglect.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 11/15/2010

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You could call in about the boy missing school… If you tired to talk to the dad and he wants none of it, then there is not much you can do…

Stifler's - posted on 11/15/2010

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I take my kid everywhere with us (except licensed establishments where minors aren't allowed) and sometimes we go home at 1am. That doesn't equal neglect. Not sending your kids to school does warrant a call to CPS though. I've reported people before for not sending their enrolled, school age, perfectly healthy kids to school and letting them play in the drain out the front.

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