Save the spermies??

Kate CP - posted on 09/26/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

8,942

36

758

A bit of background for you ladies: My husband and I are expecting number two and when this one is born we're thinking it's time for hubby to get snipped. He's 31 and I'm (soon to be) 28 and we feel we're done having babies. BUT! Should we save some sperm just in case? My husband asked me this and my first reaction was "What for?" But we started talking about it and the awful thought of something happening to one of our kids entered my mind. But then, would we be conceiving another child to "replace" the one we may lose God forbid that should ever come to pass? So I ask you...save the sperm or let it go? Which would you do and why?

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

[deleted account]

My personal opinion is that if you are having doubts of 'what if' at all.... then permanent birth control may not be the right answer for you guys at this time.

Heather - posted on 09/26/2010

389

17

18

This may be a very nieve question, but can't you harvest sperm even after a vasectomy? The only thing the vasectomy does is prevent the sperm from traveling to the penis. I think this is why a woman can get pregnant if the proceedure reverses itself or is medically reversed. ??

This conversation has been closed to further comments

25 Comments

View replies by

Louise - posted on 09/29/2010

5,429

69

2322

Thirty one is very young for a man to have the snip. My husband had it at 40 and I think he regrets it. I think just the fact that he has asked this question is enough to reconsider this op. It is final and although you can have it reversed it is not always successful. Are you really sure this is what you both want? When we made this decision we thought about what if one of our children died and how would we feel if we could not have another baby. The decision was made worse by the fact that I was 8 months pregnant. We decided that we did not want any more children and nothing could replace our children. If I were in your shoes I would want to wait until you were 100% sure this is what you both want. These days people are having babies into there 40's.God forbid if anything happened in your marriage and you decided to divorce and start again your husband could not have another family yet you could go on and have more children. He needs to think about this long and hard before having this done. So if you are thinking about saving the sperm I don't think your ready for this move just yet.

Kate CP - posted on 09/27/2010

8,942

36

758

Okay, I just have to clarify: WE DO NOT WANT MORE CHILDREN. I don't want three kids. Period. End of discussion-no more babies. The ONLY reason I brought this up was an "what if" situation which will probably never happen. I *DO NOT* (double underline, circle it, draw arrows at it) want more kids after this one.

Amie - posted on 09/27/2010

6,596

20

412

Ah, that's what the consultation sessions are for beforehand but vasectomies are not for everyone.

For us this works. I don't want to be taking BC for years upon years and I refuse to have major surgery when my husband can walk into the doctors office and be done in a few minutes. He feels the same way I do though too so that has helped us in our decision.

Speaking of this... for those who have hubbies (or yourself) that have been fixed. Did you/he need to sign a consent form? I'm trying to figure out if this is his doctor's thing, a Canadian thing or standard practice in most places. I was surprised I had to sign a consent to let my husband get it done. haha

[deleted account]

Amie: The risks are very small. I was referring to erectile dysfinction mainly but whilst it is maintained that a vasectomy does not cause this it can occur after having one due to psychological reasons. The persons who are in two minds before the operation might experience ED after the operation. Sometimes some people feel that they have lost their virility and sex drive after vasectomy. These apprehensions also lead to erectile dysfunction. For us it's just not something we'd consider as it's totally unnecessary for us to do so and personally I know no one who has had one.

[deleted account]

I wouldn't save the sperm but then my hubby probably won't have a vasectomy due to our joint fertility issues, we are just going to keep trying having babies (we want 3 in total).

As th eother ladies have said if your questioning it, I wouldn't do it yet, it does no harm to wait a while. Oh and vasectomys are not always successful my uncle had a vasectomy, then a couple of months later they found my aunt was pregnant (definately his, my cousin is the spit of my uncle).

Amie - posted on 09/27/2010

6,596

20

412

Vasectomies can be reversed but are advised to be looked as a permanent procedure. It costs a butt load (5K here) to get them reversed with only 20-50% of couples actually getting pregnant after that, depending on the type of reversal chosen. (there's 2 options)



What risks Jennifer? The ones we were told about are all very minor.

Amie - posted on 09/27/2010

6,596

20

412

We're not saving any sperm. We have 4 kids, we're done.

My husband is getting his done as soon as he can fit it in with his work schedule. We've already had the consultation. He's getting the new(?) no scalpel vasectomy. It's no big deal for us. He'll live for the week without sex to make sure it doesn't screw it up.

[deleted account]

Personally I wouldn't save the sperm but I wouldn't want my husband to get a vasectomy either. I'm happy using birth control because I have to take it to control my PCOS anyways. Plus I'd be too worried about the risks involved - I'm sure he would rather it still worked and I used birth control than problems occuring afterwards.

C. - posted on 09/27/2010

4,125

35

242

Wow.. Congratulations on baby #2!

Vasectomies are reversible and they aren't 100% effective to begin with. I'm not sure. What if you saved the sperm, only saving it for too long that it doesn't even work anymore?

I don't think I would save hubby's sperm if we were in that situation. If something happened to one of our children, that would be devastating. However, I have always wanted to adopt at least one baby, so I guess that would be our chance to do so.

Becky - posted on 09/26/2010

2,892

44

93

I wouldn't save the sperm, I just wouldn't go with a vasectomy if I wasn't absolutely sure we were done. We want to have a third, and then my husband says absolutely no more, so he will get a vasectomy then. I refuse to get my tubes tied. My feeling is, he is the one who wants to be done (I want 4), so he goes through the discomfort of surgery. If I wanted to be done, I'd get my tubes tied!

Caitlin - posted on 09/26/2010

1,915

5

172

Vasectomies can be reversed.. and my doc wont tie tubes till i'm 35.. *sigh*

Sharon - posted on 09/26/2010

11,585

12

1315

I don't think its replacing a child as it is maintaining the family dynamic and birth is a joyous thing. When sadness is at its deepest, why not find joy in what you miss?

Getting another dog after your old friend passes away isn't "replacing" but you find joy all over again right? Save the sperm.

Kate CP - posted on 09/26/2010

8,942

36

758

Oh, I can't get my tubes tied or have a hysterectomy unless medically necessary. The risks of me going through abdominal surgery are far too great to warrant the procedure. :/

Jenny - posted on 09/26/2010

4,426

16

129

I was fixed at 28 too. My rational was if we truly desired another child, we will adopt. But I don't see that happening, Almost 3 years later we're still 100% comfortable with our decision.

Charlie - posted on 09/26/2010

11,203

111

409

How long can you store frozen sperm?

Cryopreserved specimens, when properly stored, will remain viable for an indefinite amount of time. Pregnancies have been reported for cases in which the sperm has been stored for 20 years prior to thawing and insemination.
Is the freezing process harmful to the sperm cells?

Approximately 50% or more of the sperm cells survive the freezing/thawing process. The fertilization capability of the surviving sperm cells is not jeopardized during the freezing/thawing process.

Fee Schedule 2010

Semen Cryopreservation Services
Semen Analysis Only $125.00
Semen Specimen Analysis & Freeze (unwashed- ICI) $305.00/specimen
Semen Specimen Analysis & Freeze (washed- IUI) $410.00/specimen
Initial Visit Consultation $150.00

Thats per year for freezing .

Rosie - posted on 09/26/2010

8,657

30

321

my hubby was too, but it wasn't that bad. the second day he was begging me to give him head-gently, lol. i think after like 4 days he was pretty darn good, and maybe after a week completely back to normal. right after the surgery i looked at his balls, and i could not tell where they cut into him. it seriously is very nonevasive, waay less costly than you doing it, and it doesn't mess with his hormones like it may or may not with you.

Keri - posted on 09/26/2010

10

50

0

I would decide based on cost. I would like to have some set aside just in case, but it would depend how much uh.. storage? is LOL

Kate CP - posted on 09/26/2010

8,942

36

758

No, I really don't want any more babies. The idea of three children terrifies me, actually. And the more reading I do the more I'm coming to the conclusion that the snip is the way to go and to NOT save the spermies. I think my husband is more nervous about getting the surgery than anything else.

Rosie - posted on 09/26/2010

8,657

30

321

if you want to save the sperm than you probably don't want a vasectomy. my hubby had a snip right after our third child was born, and while that exact thought crossed my mind, i just KNOW i don't want anymore kids. sure i'm sad i don't have my girl, and that will always haunt me, and i will always get that feeling whenever i see a newborn baby, but i just cannot bear the thought of me getting pregnant again. it horrifies me, lol! ask yourself do you KNOW?

Nikki - posted on 09/26/2010

5,263

41

574

I would probably save some sperm, you are still young and you never know how you may feel in the future.



I have been thinking about this lately, as in in I lost my child would I wan't another, and I think I would, I can't decide if that's selfish or not?. Probably just human nature I suppose, you lose something so dear to you and you want to fill that void.



Yeah, I would keep your options open, can't hurt can it?



Congrats on bub by the way xx

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms