Scary Baby Stories

Natasha - posted on 02/22/2011 ( 28 moms have responded )

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Ok, so I have a pet peeve that bugs the crap out of me. I want to know if it's just me, or if it's something that bothers other pregnant women.

Right now I am 33 weeks pregnant and have been pregnant twice before. Once successfully, I have a 3 year old son, and once ened in a miscarriage at 14 weeks. I know that all pregnancies are different and that people share thier experiences to help prepare new moms for anything that might come thier way.

That being said, please stop telling me the scary things that happened to you or someone you know during thier pregnancy. I do not need or want to hear about the woman who thought she just had a cold and ended up dying because she had H1N3. Yes, I feel horrible that she and her unborn baby died, but you don't need to give me details about it. Yes, nothing would be worse than going to the dr 2 days before your due date to find out that your baby had died in utereo and that the mother then had to go through all the pain of labour with none of the pay off.

I do not want to hear that your friend's sister's cousin went through 46 hours of labour an ended up with a brain damaged baby because of lack of oxygen.

Is it just me, or are these things that one would think twice about telling someone who is pregnant? I would never look at a friend or coworker and think that giving them this type of information would help ease the uneasiness of being pregnant.

What do you think? Would you tell your friends stories like this? Especially if you knew that they had alreay gone through a miscarriage and was suffering from all the anxiety that comes with that?

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Isobel - posted on 02/22/2011

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I don't believe in telling horror stories, but I do believe in telling the truth.



I know I felt like a gigantic failure in many aspects of my first being born because everybody blew sunshine up my ass, that labour was easy and that having a newborn was all sunshine and roses...some parts of being a new parent suck, and we should be prepared for that so we don't feel like gigantic assholes when we feel that way.



I tell anybody who will listen about the fact that I didn't bond with my baby right away, and that it's fairly common...or that I didn't plan on getting an epidural but that was exhausted and in so much pain that I would've taken a brick to the head if that was all they offered.

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Here's a good one..'Don't run when you're pregnant or the baby will fall out.'. That came from the same person who said don't lift your arms over your head or you'll strangle the baby lol.

I had a miscarriage and my in-laws said (to each other, not to my face but it of course got back to me) that 'a witch stole the baby bc she didn't wear red during an eclipse'. My question is if they knew there was going to be an eclipse why didn't they tell me i was supposed to wear something red??? Kind of late to mention it dont ya think? It's nonsense anyway but really, it's a bit late.

Natasha - posted on 02/23/2011

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I got told that I would cook my baby if I sat BESIDE a hottub. Not in it, just beside it....

Stifler's - posted on 02/23/2011

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Someone told me that too about making sure I wound the clothes line down in case I strangled the baby when I was working.

Jacquie - posted on 02/23/2011

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One lady told me that if I lifted my arms over my head, I would strangle the baby WHILE I WAS REACHING FOR SOMETHING ON A HIGH SHELF! I was nineteen and it FREAKED me out, Wish I could have slapped her but she was an elder at my church.

Natasha - posted on 02/23/2011

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Definately Emma, if it's something that you went through I am totally ok with hearing it. I am not OK with scary stories just for the sake of sharing them. Does that sentence even make sense? I haven't been sleeping well lately and it's starting to show lol.

Stifler's - posted on 02/23/2011

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I don't mind if it's *your* birth story and you're just telling me to recall a happy time or for info's sake, but don't tell me the horrors of everyone you ever knew who was pregnant. Or that... *omg if your feet swell it means you have pre eclampsia if this happens you have some other major complication*. Especially if it's not true!

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It's not just you. I would never tell a pregnant woman any stories like that. Some people just don't think before they speak. A pregnant woman has enough to worry about without having to hear horrible, tragic baby stories. When I was pregnant, a friend of mine knew another girl (who I had met a few times) that was due the same day as me. She miscarried at 6 months and my friend didn't even want to tell me. I had to weasle it out of her because I could tell something was wrong. To me, that's a friend. She didn't want to upset me by telling me something so horrible. If I were you, the second someone's story started taking that "turn" for the dark side, I'd say something like, "OK, stop please. I really don't want to hear this." If they are your friends, they'll do a mental check and realize that what they were about to say may not be the nicest thing for you to hear.

Bonnie - posted on 02/23/2011

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I agree that these things should be left unsaid. A pregnant woman is suppose to avoid stress and I don't see how hearing about things like this would make her life any less stressful.

Natasha - posted on 02/23/2011

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Ashley, I am glad that the information you got was helpful and resulted in you having the knowledge to keep your baby safe. And I know that the story I was given about the H1N3 case was because I have had a cold for a couple months. However, I have also seen my drs and they ran tests to make sure there it was nothing more serious.

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She did scare the crap out of me at the time but when i experienced the complication, all i could hear in the back of my head was her voice.:-)So glad she told me tho in the end lol.



Some women really do take the biscuit alright..its just rude i feel, especially when you know the past experiences of the pregnant woman& still feel the need to tell them scary birth stories etc.They really dont need to hear it.

Natasha - posted on 02/23/2011

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Thank you. I am glad that I am not the only person who feels this way. I just don't get why people feel the need to tell the worst stories they know.

Yes, I understand that there are complications, and that being honest about pregnancy and labour is best for everyone, but that doesn't make it ok to scare the crap out of people.

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I agree, although one ladies story shared with me when i was 6mths,was one that saved my unborn i feel, when i got the same complications she did and was determined to have the hospital team listen.

As i knew what she had and the doctors tried to assure me it wasnt that, turns out it was that serious complication, she had.

It ended in the birth of a very healthy little girl who thrived so well.Shes 2 now.



I do understand what you are talking about though and i really do respect that.Wishing you the very best.

Ez - posted on 02/22/2011

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I hate the fear that surrounds pregnancy and birth. I must say I didn't get bombarded with too many horror stories, and I certainly don't go around telling pregnant mummas my own. I have a pregnant co-worker right now who is utterly clueless and asking lots of questions. I simply tell her that 'yes, it's hard work, but it's one day of your life and then you meet your baby. You'll be fine'.

Pregnant women need encouragement and support. I really don't know what would possess someone to tell such horror stories. If a pregnant woman asks, then by all means I think honesty is the best option. But just coming out with random horror stories is retarded.

Nicole - posted on 02/22/2011

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I left a prenatal group when the women there just wanted to exchange SIDs stories and rant about third hand smoke. It was not the right atmosphere for me, and this was with my second baby. If I had been pregnant with my first child, this group would have upset me much worse.

Carolyn - posted on 02/22/2011

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i had a co worker tell me all kinds of horror stories about miscarriages, still births, different people she knew whos babies died during labour or in the third trimester etc. I remember thinking to myself this exact same thing, Why the hell are you telling me this shit ??? What are you hoping to accomplish other than making more nervous that i already am about this whole thing??

i think some people genuinely think they are "helping you" by preparing you for worse case scenarios , " arming you with all the information" blah blah blah in their own twisted minds....

i really dont get it either.

Sneaky - posted on 02/22/2011

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No! And it's weird, as often as you hear the 'horror' stories you know that the chances of anything like that actually happening to you are TINY! Why would anyone need (or want) to be prepared for that???? That logic astounds me, they are just selfish, shit stirrers. Ignore them.

PS I have had four pregnancies. One, three and four resulted in my beautiful girls, number two was a miscarriage at 12 weeks. And yes the third pregnancy was extra anxious, but your doctors have reassured you, I am sure, that statistically you have nothing to worry about :o) Congratulations in your pregnancy!

April - posted on 02/22/2011

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People who do that are nuts. I heard some stories when i was pregnant with my first. Drives me crazy, i always ask them while they're in the middle of their story, "What's your point?". Shuts them up pretty quick.

Becky - posted on 02/22/2011

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Gall stones do hurt worse! And the recovery from gall bladder surgery is a million times worse than recovering from birth! Anyways.... I don't know why people think it's okay to try to scare the crap out of a pregnant woman. I suppose maybe they want her to be prepared for anything, but really, that's the job of her doctor and the childbirth education classes, not everyone who notices that she's carrying a child! I keep the horror stories I know to myself around other pregnant women.

Stifler's - posted on 02/22/2011

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i only really have positive experiences with pregnancy and birth so i have no trouble telling people it's not so bad and they'll be right.

Kate CP - posted on 02/22/2011

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I try not to tell pregnant women the horror stories...there's no point except to scare the shit out of them and that just makes everything worse. I usually tell first timers the same thing "Labor and birth really aren't that bad. Gall stones hurt worse. You'll do great."

Shauna - posted on 02/22/2011

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I was scared shitless to give birth after all the crazy horror stories people told me!!! But also so many women told me "just get the epideral you wont feel a thing' YEAH RIGHT!!! my body reacted to the epidural and it failed 3 times .. i went natural and was "expecting to not feel a thing" i say take others words of wisdom with a grain of salt, b/c everyone has a diff experience.

Angela - posted on 02/22/2011

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I Would never tell my friends stories like that! thats horrible! And No one ever told me bad stories, well I didnt give them a chance too.

Friend: "Angela, my friend had her baby and it was horrible"
Me: "Dont want to hear it, Shut up or you can leave"

Yeah Squashed that shit real Quick!

Some people just have no tact or consideration anymore! Stupid Asses!

Well, I wish all The best for your pregnancy,Natasha! :)

Tara - posted on 02/22/2011

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Dumbass people who don't think before they open their blow hole.
I would never share horror stories with anyone pregnant or not.
It's just not right. Even if they are true, in some place, it is truly some one's tragedy and not to be shared around the neighbourhood etc.
I would tell them politely to fuck off.

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That's just wrong. People should share the GOOD stories. I do understand if you've just gone through something traumatic that it might be reassuring to hear of other's that have been through and survived the same thing... But to share horror stories w/ someone who is either having a GOOD experience or who is nervous about a bad experience.... WHY would someone do that to you?

Stifler's - posted on 02/22/2011

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No. When I was pregnant with Logan I heard all the horror stories... my sister in law having a stillbirth at 38 weeks, listeriosis, "don't tell anyone yet in case you have a miscarriage"... I get it people have had miscarriages before but do you have to stress me out?!

Katherine - posted on 02/22/2011

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Some people don't think worth a DAMN. People used to tell me shit with my first and I would stop them mid sentence.
I don't know what it is. It's like they don't know what to say so they say the most shocking horrible thing they can think of.

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