School Parties and Young Siblings

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I know it's the middle of Winter Break, but I was curious about your opinion on this. I rarely ever cross-over a thread from another board, but I do think it's an interesting topic to debate. A mom was upset about not being allowed to bring her preschooler to the 3rd grader's school party, but was a llowed at th 5th grader's party.


Lindsay - posted on 01/01/2011




It amazes me the petty things people get so worked up over. I didn't read the entire thread but I did read the OP and a few of the comments below. My feelings are that these are parties for the kids. The extended invite to parents is a courtesy but most definately not mandatory to attend. If a parent has that strong a desire to attend, they need to cough up a little cash and get a babysitter for the younger child. It's not a family party. It's a party for the students in the class. That's it.


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Nicole - posted on 01/01/2011




It sounds like this mom needs better social supports, but it's her responsibility to work to get these in place.

Your response was well thought out and informative:)

Becky - posted on 01/01/2011




I can understand the school's reasoning for banning younger siblings. They have limited space and if everyone brings their other kids, it's going to get crowded and chaotic. Not to mention, if there's food involved, it's pretty hard to tell a 2 or 3 year old that they're not allowed to have any because it's only for the big kids. So you have to have more food, which means more expense. I think it's a silly thing to feel "discriminated against" over! I mean, it's not like they're telling only her she can't bring her younger children! Sure, it's frustrating if you can't go because you have no babysitter, but, if it means that much to you to be there, maybe it's time to suck it up and find a babysitter, or a drop-in daycare.
Now, if she had a young infant, who wasn't going to take up any extra space or eat any extra food, and they were saying she couldn't take him, I could understand being upset a little better.

Stifler's - posted on 01/01/2011




I agree with Bonnie, why is the mother going to a grade 3 party? How fun... not.

Bonnie - posted on 01/01/2011




I think this is a strange think to get worked up over. She is the mother, so I don't really get why she feels she needs to go to the parties. I also find it strange that the third grade teachers say no, but the fifth grade teachers say it is okay to bring a sibling. I honestly don't think siblings need to go period. It's more kids, younger ones have to be watched over more. They will have their time and place.

Sharon - posted on 01/01/2011




Mostly I took my younger kids to the older kids parties. Our school/the teachers were reasonable about it.

The only time we were asked to not bring toddlers/babies/preschoolers was when my younger boy had a presentation to make. Everyone in his class had made a mini crime solving film. It really wasn't something a baby/toddler would sit through. Pizza and lettuce salad was served, lol. They had very limited quantities and space. I totally understood why more people weren't welcome.

People need to stop sniveling and just accept the rules.

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I dunno what to think? I think people need to stop whining and follow rules. They've been enforced for a reason and if you don't like it, don't send your kid? Like I said, I'm not sure how to feel about it, as Roxanne is only two.

How can we teach our children that life isn't fair, if we expect exceptions to be made for us?

WOW! My thoughts are all over that. That's all I got right now...

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