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Lisa - posted on 06/17/2012 ( 53 moms have responded )

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Lisamarie - posted on 06/19/2012

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Love it! Want more of it! Had a very high sex drive both times I was pregnant and have recently become a "new" woman (I went counselling a few months ago for certain issues) I feel confident and sexy again but wish my husband could keep up! :-D

Mrs. - posted on 06/17/2012

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Just so you know MeMe, because of my health issues and it affecting my sex life with my ex, we went to a sex therapist and they are not what you might think they are. They are not sex "educators", in that they teach you how to have sex or offer up new positions or something. Sex therapy is just like most couple's therapy, but with a focus on the emotional issues that stem from sexual disfunction or dissatisfaction. They also help you to negotiate what your wants and needs might be with a mediator.

I had many of the same thoughts about "sex educators" before I went and I gotta tell you it was just nowhere near anything I thought it would be. I was quite helpful, even if that relationship didn't work out.

I no longer have as many physical issues with sex...although I am still chronically ill and that can slow me down on my "flare ups" and I have a partner now who is a way more patient lover (and less demanding than my ex). However, I still use some of the tools I learned going to sex therapy when it comes to communicating and negotiating what I want out of my sexual life.

Cass - posted on 10/29/2012

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I used to be crazy for sex with my hubby before I got pregnant. Before it would only take me a few minutes to orgasm with no foreplay. Since then (baby is now 10 months) I haven't really wanted it at all. I'm not confused in a sense that my mind wants it, but body can't perform. I don't have fantasies, am happy without it, and I don't masturbate either. I pay a lot of attention to my diet, and I practice yoga at home, but I do think its a hormone thing caused by pregnancy. I do engage in sex about 5 times a week with husband, I don't always orgasm because I'm not dying for it like I used to. I'm okay with this, but husband wishes I would orgasm all the time, and be the initiator more often. I know with a bit of time it will come back as my body balances those hormones out again.

Becky - posted on 06/19/2012

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Right now, meh. Don't hate it, but I don't love it either. I used to, but since I've had kids, I have very little sex drive. I've been either pregnant or nursing basically since about 2 weeks after we got married, so I am hoping once I wean this last one, that will change. Some of it is emotional too though - if I don't feel appreciated and valued, then I have absolutely 0 desire to meet my husband's needs for sex, especially when I often find it painful.

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2012

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Well rarely people are i think like 1 percent of the population are one. And probably half really aren't bust just think they are.

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Everdeene - posted on 06/11/2013

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LOVE sexx!

I was having sex with my bf, Adson, and he cummed in me!!! AHHHH! no more kidz thnx

Jamie - posted on 03/08/2013

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When ours were little we co-slept with them. Talk about a sex inhibitor. Then we discovered that early in the morning we could sneak away to another bed and snuggle and have sex without them waking up. We were both just too tired at night for making love.

Hannah - posted on 03/07/2013

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Love sex and wish we had it more often. With a 12 month old girl and endless chores around the house we usually only can get to it after she is in bed. Quite often I'm so tired I fall asleep before my husband gets around to things.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/04/2013

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:) Love it? Only if it is "making love" and the it is suitable for the situation. My fiancee on the other hand could go for it anytime and much more often than me, I put too much emotion behind it. Sometimes I cry after sex if I feel like it was emotionless for my fiancee and he has to try to cheer me up and tell me I mean the world to him and he loves me so much and he wouldn't do it with me if it meant nothing...

I went through a period of having VERY LOW hormones and sex felt awful to me, I have also been attacked a couple of times, this may be why I have an emotional connection with sex and it must truly mean something in order for it to feel good and for me to be willing.

Jamie - posted on 03/04/2013

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Love it! I married this man because the sex is so good. >:) We've been married 13 years now, two kids and we still have fun sex.

Jessie - posted on 02/10/2013

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Last time I had sex was....2 nights ago?
The two of us aren't too fond of oral.

And he's always on top xD

Kathy - posted on 10/30/2012

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I love sex and would like more. Dh and I are on fairly different schedules, though, so it is tricky to fit in.

Amber - posted on 07/28/2012

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LOVE IT...want more...i threw up on my husband one time when i was down on him...lmao he freaked out and went and took a shower then we tried again ;)

Stifler's - posted on 07/15/2012

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I think the amount I want sex emasculates my husband, as in he feels like if I didn't want it so much and ask for it all the time he'd feel how he used to about it.

Rosie - posted on 07/15/2012

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i like sex when i get it..but i really don't go out of my way to get it. i could take it or leave it unless i'm ovulating, then i get horny, so he gets it 2 or 3 times a month. i would want it more if i felt like he appreciated me, or valued me in anyway...but since i don't feel that way i don't feel like giving myself to a man who makes me feel like he only wants sex, dishes, and laundry from me.

Jenny - posted on 06/21/2012

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I couldn't care less about it, but do it to keep the hubby happy, occasionally I love it, but mostly its just a chore that needs to be ticked off.

I think it comes down to not having the time or mental space to get sexy, given that we live in my inlaw's back yard in a house that is too small, I never feel like I have enough privacy to be myself.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/20/2012

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Sherri I feel for you. When I moved up to BC last year my baby was just over 3 months old. The only reason I wanted sex the first night was because I hadn't seen my husband in 2 months and the last time I saw him I'd just had our baby and we couldn't have sex.

The only time my husband doesn't want sex is when he's too tired or when his shoulder is bothering him.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/20/2012

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My husband just wishes I'd want more. Hmm... maybe I should go jump him now :)

Mandian - posted on 06/19/2012

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LOVE SEX! I am the one in the relationship that craves it LOL. My husband thinks I need to go to a sex rehab.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/19/2012

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I think my husband wants it more than I do. Usually I'm too tired for sex because our 15 month old doesn't like to sleep. I would love to have it more often, but sex is like sleep it's not important unless you aren't getting any. However I can't decide which is more important.

DH was a virgin before I met him, so I actually had to tell him to go ahead and take control. But on the bright side at least I didn't have to deprogram him at all. And he likes to do research on the computer for stuff to do... now if only our girls would sleep and stop barging in so he could try them out

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I love it and always want more of it. I have a high sex drive and it got higher everytime when I was pregnant too.

Barb - posted on 06/18/2012

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Love it just wish my pregnant belly wasn't in the way it's a lot hard now the farther I get on in my pregnancy.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 06/18/2012

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Jen - I only marked it as funny for your last sentence... ;)

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The morphine has utterly killed my sex drive. Prior to that, I was utterly anytime/anywhere as often as possible please and I was aggressive to the point of scaring some men away.

Jodi - posted on 06/18/2012

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Love sex, on average, we have sex at least 7 times a week, sometimes more. lol We both have very healthy sex drives. We've been married 5 years, together for 9 years, and still goin' strong! lol :)

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 06/17/2012

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If it ever becomes a problem, I may consider it. It just hasn't (in the 6 years we have been together). My husband may want it more but he is not scorned by not getting it as much as he would like. He mentions it very infrequently. It does work for us, so I don't have many concerns at this point.



I don't think we need a counselor for any reason. I just could careless if I get it. Although, it does not mean I don't do it. I am just not going to do it everyday. LOL



Really, I wanted to say Sex Freaks for my reference but then I wasn't sure what Lisa does. She just may be a sex therapist and I didn't want to offend (just in case). So, I settled with "educator". Probably a poor choice of words. I do realize they don't teach you technique or positions. Sorry for being unclear with my verbage. ;)



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Sex therapy is just like most couple's therapy, but with a focus on the emotional issues that stem from sexual disfunction or dissatisfaction.



Been there done this, just not about sex. No interest on this at all. This is where they become "quaks" for me...

Jurnee - posted on 06/17/2012

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Love it, wish I could have more, but lately Ive been so tired, I prefer cuddling and sleep.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 06/17/2012

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I agree Lisa. I can say, I am definitely not asexual. So, I will just go with mental problems. LOL

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2012

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Yes stifler that probably is the biggest reason behind it. That type of stuff alters how we view sex and relationships

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2012

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Well it's normal for drive to drop as people get older. Also given the current health of most 1st world countries this exacerbates it. I was pointing more to it generally not being normal to have zero drive whatsoever. That is normally linked to something, mostly being low production of hormones, and mental issues being next. If not it's possible for the person to be asexual which seems to have zero explanation to it.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 06/17/2012

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Yes and I was abused as a child/teen, so perhaps there is a connection. I wouldn't doubt it...

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2012

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Oh and i'm not trying to say there is something wrong with you or anything if that's how it came out. It's also possible how you were raised might of affected how you view things. Abuse too can do that as well.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 06/17/2012

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When I actually get around to it, I enjoy it. I am also a very busy person. When we do have sex, it is scheduled. When we first got together we did it everyday, 3-5 times. You know, life kicks in and things take over. The Honey Moon has to come to an end someday...;)

My doctor is a multi-doctor. Not just an MD. She is also a pediatrician and a gynecologist. I trust her. I have been going to her for 12 years. She said, she has had the very same questions and mind-set from many women in her 40 years of doctoring.

However, she said that if it bothers me, then we would need to go to a sex therapist. Yeah, well, I have an issue with just regular psycho babble, I am far from interested or concerned enough to go to some sex educator. LOL It's not that I don't know how to have sex (been doing it for many years (22 to be exact). It is just not a "need" for me.

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2012

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No its not very common really. Doesnt it feel good at all to you? It's possible you might be asexual actually.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 06/17/2012

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Lisa---meme have you been to the doctor about it? You might have some low hormones that can be changed through diet.



Yes, I have been actually. All blood work is spot on. It is just how my mentality works. I get everything I need through particular companionship ideals. I get a lot more from knowing my man is there for me regardless and how him making sure he is an equal of mine, in all ways. Him being supportive, in all areas and being able to talk with him about everything. It is really all I need. However, he "needs" sex. So, I make sure he gets it, just not as much as he may like (you know, like EVERYDAY!)...LOL



For me, sex is for making babies. I know that is not true for everyone. It is for me. Actually, my doctor said, this is very common, so I feel OK about it. ;)



Oh and we eat very healthy and exercise daily.

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2012

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Yep give it a few weeks and his levels will raise. Also cut out the sugar,salt and junk and buy some l-arginine for him to take.

Stifler's - posted on 06/17/2012

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Like 2 weeks! Hahaha. A guy and a chick from his work come over and we all go on the cross trainer, do weight and ab circle it's easier when someone else is over to talk to it doesn't feel like you've been going for 45 minutes.

Stifler's - posted on 06/17/2012

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Yea I read an article about men with children having less testosterone once. It explains a lot. He's also unfit. We're working out most nights to get fitter so he feels like it more but yeah, we're doing it less than ever.

Stifler's - posted on 06/17/2012

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I have always been like a rabbit, Damo is the one who doesn't want it.

Johnny - posted on 06/17/2012

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I love sex. I wish we had more and so does my husband, but our schedules have been so crazy in the past year or so that we usually talk about it and fall asleep. Now that I'm pregnant, I'm hornier than usual (probably similar to a 16 year old boy), but also more tired than usual. When I was pregnant the first time we had lots of midday or after work sex, when we weren't so tired, but that's impossible with a 3 year old running around. We do enjoy making plans to have sex when our kids are older and can go to sleepovers. We are very pro-sleepovers, lol.

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2012

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meme have you been to the doctor about it? You might have some low hormones that can be changed through diet.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 06/17/2012

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I could take it or leave it....I get my needs met through other means. My husband would like more of it, so I am trying for him. Otherwise, when I was single, I was quite content without sex.

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