Should I call CVS on Sister and Brother-In-Law

Katey - posted on 09/05/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I hate to even consider this but both my sister and B.I. L are physically abusive to each other and they are mentally abusive to my nieces. He says to the children "you ruined my life I hate you little bitches I wish you were never born." I know parents get angry but this is constant. He and my sister hit each other all the time and have told the kids not to tell me. In addition, he drinks excessively and smokes pot. They have filed bankruptcy twice and have had their power shut off numerous times. She drives without insurance or a license. She is a shopaholic but there is never money for food. They make good money but spend it on drugs and toys for themselves. I want to help my nieces. Please help me

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Rosemary - posted on 09/05/2013

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Oh, dear God, yes! I know it must be heart-wrenchingly hard for you because c'mon, it's your sister! But your nieces need you to step up for them. That is what you're there for, to care for them when mamma doesn't. I've always viewed aunts as second mothers. You need to call for help (the police, CS, etc)
This kind of abuse can scar them for life, leave them with low self esteem, or worse if it gets phisical. If they've told the girls not to tell you it's because they KNOW what they're doing. It's not an innocent "I got mad and yelled" thing, especially when it's constant. Please, for them, you know what you should do...

Ev - posted on 09/08/2013

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YES! By all means do call them in. You can do it without saying who you are or tell who you are. Those kids are your family and should be cared for and worried about. It does not sound like the parents do that. If you are worried for the well being and safety then by all means call and get them out of there if at all possible. Offer if you can do so, to take the girls in as you are family. This way they are not with total strangers long. ANd if things are really bad consider guardianship too.

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It's a difficult situation to be in and it is debatable whether they would even end up in a good place after being removed. It's not unheard of for kids to be verbally/physically/emotionally/sexually abused in foster and group homes. They are also prime recruiting grounds for getting kids into drugs and prostitution. That being said, your neices are clearly not safe in their home and it would be a good idea to have them removed from the home. If possible, another family member should try and take them

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Debbie - posted on 09/20/2013

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Take care of your nieces as much as you can, this will give them a break and show them another way of life..Do it for the kids not the adults..

Melinda - posted on 09/18/2013

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if this was me I would be ringing child services and getting them help even if that ment not talking to my sister again

Nelida - posted on 09/18/2013

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YES !!!! This shouldn't even be a question !!! If he's exactly how you described then by all means do it !! The kids should be in a safer place like your house !!! Do IT !!!!

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