Should I go back to work?

Lacye - posted on 01/29/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I really need some advice. I posted this in another community and I was wondering what you ladies thought.

Some of you know that I am a college student and a stay at home mom. This past week I had two different job offerings. One was from my old boss at the gas station I worked at when I was pregnant and the other was from a friend that is quitting her job and suggested to her boss that I would be great for it, mostly secretarial work. If I take one of the jobs, my bf and I would lose our food stamps, which is a good thing, but we would have to figure out what to do with our daughter because of my school and me working and he works at night so he can only watch her part of the day so he can get some sleep. It's been pretty stressful thinking about all of this because I do want the secretarial job but if I take it, I'm worried we might go in the hole because we can't afford some of our bills, the job doesn't pay much and only pays monthly. I know I'm not going back to work at the gas station because I would not be able to handle it. I was stressed out a lot of the time when I worked there and the owner of the place screwed me over more times than I can count. What do you ladies think? Should I take the secretarial job and worry about paying bills or should I continue to be a stay at home mom and keep the food stamps? Either way I'll still continue to go to college, which is another reason why I'm worried about taking the job because I'll be away from my daughter for a long period of time.

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~Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2011

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no benefits and not in line with your schooling.....blow it off, keep the food stamps.
Don't give up a good thing for an 'ok' thing.

Jenny - posted on 01/29/2011

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Stay in college and work your way towards the job you really want. You don't want be stuck in a cycle of working just to pay the bills, you will be miserable.

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You need to find out exactly how much the job pays each month, then exactly how much you will be spending on child care, wardrobe, additional transportation, and your food budget to replace the food stamps--remember, if you are working ft and going to school, you will have very little time to cook and thus will likely buy more convenience foods and prepared foods, which are more expensive that raw ingredients for cooking.
Subtract the expenses from the expected pay and decide if it is worth your time. You do not want to add another 30+ hours of responsibility to your schedule if you are only going to net $300 a month after all of your expenses. It simply wouldn't be worth your time, or the added stress of being away from your child, scheduling conflicts, and exhaustion the job would bring on.

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That's a tough one there! Trying to be supermom by working & being a student is going to take a toll on you and your relationship with your family. But when all is said and done after you obtain your degree, you did plan to work, right? So perhaps this secreterial position could be a trial run to see how you would manage. Is it possible to drop your courseload for school? (I'm not sure if you are a full time student or not) Is it possible that even if you no longer qualify for food stamps, you could still get the basics through WIC? This job pays monthly...strange that I only thought the miltary pays monthly. Perhpas yo ucould speak to the owner/boss and see if there is any possible way to do payroll bi-monthly. Being away from your daughter is also a challenge and there is no real good age to be away from a child. But in order to get ahead in life, sometimes you need to make sacrifices. It might have to be this sacrifice of time away in order to get ahead in the long run. What were the suggestions from the other board?

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I personally think that you need to stay at home with your daughter and go to college. Let your BF pay the bills and you get through school. I say this because I know first hand how hard it is to be a mom, full time college student AND work full time. It sucks, it stresses you out beyond belief and you can't do it for long without the grades showing it. I know and understand the desire to get off of food stamps and get a job. However, if you can stick it out until you get done with college then you will be able to find a better job in the field of your choice, get off of food stamps, AND be home with your DD. Don't over work yourself. Trust me. It will take it's tole on you and everyone around you if you do.
With that said. If you absolutely HAVE to you can do it all but if you don't HAVE to then don't.
good luck,

Lacye - posted on 01/30/2011

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Thanks everybody! I've talked to my honey about it and I'm not going to take the job. Thank you all for the advice. Really appreciate it! You all just confirmed what I was thinking.

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Now that I read more responses and your further explanation, I'd say decline the position. The job has no connection to what you're going to school for and will lead you no where. I am sure someone who truly NEEDS and is desparate for the job will be grateful for an open position. Concentrate on your studies. Good luck!

Jenn - posted on 01/30/2011

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Without knowing all of the details of pay and what your job related expenses would be, I'd say don't do it. You said it doesn't pay much, you would be paying some sort or babysitter, extra transportation costs to get to and from work, work clothing, etc. I say focus on school and keep your eyes on the prize.

Jocelyn - posted on 01/30/2011

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I'm gonna say stick with college and the food stamps.
Why bother going to a job that has nothing to do with your interest and possibly put you in the hole?

Sal - posted on 01/30/2011

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do what is right for you, if you want to work to get ahead in you future career do that, if you are only working to get finacial benifit make sure that there will be one and what else do you have to give up for that finacial gain, time with your child, wil you have to cut back on classes and there for take longer to get qualified and make real money and what impact will it have on your marriage? see if you can have a trial period with the secretarial job to see if you are able to make it work for you before committing...

Lacye - posted on 01/29/2011

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I'm in school for accounting, so really it kinda does but it doesn't. There are no benefits. I couldn't be that lucky. lol

~Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2011

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If the job has benefits and advancement potential....i would consider it. Jobs aren't that easy to come by these days.
Does the position fall in line with your schooling, or is t a completely unrelated field?

Lacye - posted on 01/29/2011

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I haven't received any suggestions from the other board yet. At school I'm taking a full load. I have 6 classes 4 days a week. The job is working with the people who do the 911 calls. I'm not sure exactly what all it calls for but I know it's filing and working on the computer, which is part of what I'm studying for at school. I do plan on going to work after I'm done with school, to me it's kind of silly if I went through all this hard work and not do anything with it lol. I think the thing I'm most uncomfortable with is being away from my daughter. The last time I worked was when she was 1 month old and from then on, I've always been around. Thank you for the advice.

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