should i stop berast feeding? Please read, need advice

Kacy - posted on 02/08/2011 ( 47 moms have responded )

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My son is 2.5 months old now and i have been bf mostly, i hate pumps though so when i cant get him to eat from me i give him formula. I am thiking about weaning him but i feel bad about it. The thing is i am married but me and my husband didnt get a big wedding so we are having one in june. I just cant seem to get back to the size i want to be for the wedding and iwant to go on a diet. So is it wrong for me to stop bf so that i can get the body i want for my wedding?

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Sharon - posted on 02/08/2011

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Eh, its a little selfish. You can diet & breastfeed, talk to a dietician - a good one. Mostly you don't need a diet. You just need to get off your ass & exercise.

~Jennifer - posted on 02/10/2011

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Hon...no offense...,and this is from someone that didn't breastfeed...



You're doing the best you can for your baby...your husband loves you NO MATTER WHAT.

Don't worry about baby-body....he LOVES you, and you should feel DAMN PROUD of the body you have that gave you a wonderful family.Go have a wedding, and a great life....no matter what 'size' you might be.



Much ♥

Kylie - posted on 02/09/2011

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I would stick with breastfeeding, it burns callories and is the best food for your LO. Get a pram you can run with and start exercising, do an hour a day and you will see a huge difference and you will feel better.

Nicole - posted on 02/08/2011

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If you want to get the body you want for your wedding, keep breastfeeding.



You lose 500 calories a day breastfeeding and it is good for your baby.



Keep nursing, everyone will benefit

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Charlie - posted on 02/11/2011

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You actually burn 500 more calories breastfeeding than not breastfeeding just eat healthy and exercise and should be able to have the best of both worlds ..

Mrs. - posted on 02/10/2011

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Some people actually do get their shape back. They are usually younger and naturally slim to begin with.

I'm neither of those things. Still, I managed to get back down to a size 6 after gaining 70 pounds with only 3 months of bf. I exercised like a beast and continued, as during my pregnancy, to never eat sugar, dairy or gluten. Now, I was underweight to begin with and a size 2. I've come to terms with no being a size 2 anymore. However, I have way more muscle tone now and my face doesn't look as old.

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I agree. Get off your butt and move but DON'T stop breastfeeding. You lose more weight faster by breastfeeding. As for dieting don't do that either. No point. Just eat healthy and avoid those snacky fatty foods. You will NEVER be the size or shape you were before you had your child either so if that is what you are looking for then forget it. You may get close but honey when a woman has a child her whole body reshapes. :) lol

~Jennifer - posted on 02/10/2011

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I bought a Gazelle so i could 'lose weight with little to no impact' - fuck you Tony Little - ........it's a coat rack now.



Fuck it.

Just be happy.



=)

Melissa - posted on 02/10/2011

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Ive only read a few posts since I posted but I agre with Jenn , I eat whatever the hell I want I stay the same dress size but Im untoned as hell but I dont care. Im not gonna change myself to get married. Plus you honestly can eat whatever you want if you exercise enough. My cousin who was like 25 at the same had mcdonalds EVERY meal every day he never cooked because he worked all day every day but he went to the gym every day to. Just exercise. It works better. But I cant really talk. I bought an exercise machine once. Its now an ornament. Pretty much always was actually. good luck with whatever you do

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Girl breastfeeding will get you back to that size trust me!! It made me lose alll of the weight and more!!

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If you feel bad about weaning.... maybe it's not the right choice. IF the reason you want to wean is because you want to be a certain size for your wedding.... I don't personally think that is a good reason to wean cuz what if you STILL don't become the size you want? Will you regret weaning if that happens?

It is entirely YOUR choice. Just think about it from every angle first. While I dropped the pregnancy weight SUPER fast, I've also heard the saying.... 9 months on, 9 months off, so expecting to be back to prepregnancy size already is setting yourself up for disappointment.

Good luck!

Mrs. - posted on 02/10/2011

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Yes, sacrifice your well being, your body and your sanity to commit to a breast feeding agenda.

It's your choice, you body. If it is stressing you out, your husband is going off into the military or it's just not for you...you get to choose, as is our right as women, if you'd like to breastfeed.

The poster above said, "its best for the both of you". If this is the case, that it is best for you-then by all means continue. Doesn't sound like it though.

Amanda - posted on 02/10/2011

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keep with the beast feeding. its best for the both of you. i lost almost all my baby weight after both my pregnancies by nothing more then beast feeding. i was always told by my doctors that the more water i drank the easier my milk would come out for my so maybe if your child is having a hard time with feeding off of you then you just need to drink more and relax. dont give up, even though its easy to. it will pay off in the end! who cares if your dress size goes up one or two sizes, im sure your husband still loves you and everyone at your wedding knows you just had a baby.

Bexterwhite - posted on 02/09/2011

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In england we have a club called weight watcher's you can do the diet and bf, some of my friends have done really well on this, as your loosing the weight from both angles, also we have various clubs for exercising with baby, [running with a buggy, using baby as a weight etc...]
Your doing so well now to have got past the tough first bit, if you keep going and incorporate your nursing into your pre wedding regime, you cant go wrong, as all the other ladies have said bf uses up a huge amount of calories.
[And don't forget the big boobies, a good cleavage enhances any dress]

Kacy - posted on 02/09/2011

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Thank you asll for your comments. I would pospone but my husband is going off to basic training soon after the wedding.. i do exercise but right now my son snacks all day long so its hard to do much of any thing during the day, so its hard to take care of him, work out, eat right, and plan a wedding.

Kristin - posted on 02/09/2011

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breast feeding actually helps you shed pounds. i read once that it burns between 500 and 1000 calories a day because your system is burning up calories and such to produce milk. so the more you nurse the more your body burns up.
going on a diet doesn't mean you should stop bf. eating healthier will help your body shed pounds and give you what you need to bf.

Bonnie - posted on 02/09/2011

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Crap, I think I confused myself bahahaha. I could have sworn I saw that it said that the OP's son is 2.5 years old, but quite clearly it does not lol (sorry for confusing you Kate).

Either way, the mom who thought my comment was towards her and her son (April maybe), yeah lets go with that, that fits....he is closer to 2 than 2.5, but really I still say you have done a great job. I was going through the cracked bleeding nipples and bacterial infections as well. I quit when my son was 11 months. I definitely commend you!

Joanna - posted on 02/09/2011

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Keep Breastfeeding... And just a suggestion - when I cut dairy out of my diet, I started shedding lbs like no ones business. Maybe cut down on dairy (but take a calcium supplement).

April - posted on 02/09/2011

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I don't know why my picture never comes up, lol! Yes, I agree...Bonnie is referring to my son who turns 26 months old on February 22. Technically, he is just over two...he won't be considered 2.5 until June (6 months from his birthday). I don't know how long we will be nursing for. I'm leaving it up to him. I'm thrilled to have made it this far...it wasn't always easy. The bottom line is he loves it and I love it too...so we keep going until he's ready to self-wean. I just want the OP to know that you have to do what feels right for you and your baby. I kept on going because it felt like the right thing to do.

Krissy - posted on 02/09/2011

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breastfeeding is your decision, no one can ride you for it... I stopped early with my first because of a serious case of thrush that caused me to bleed bleed bleed into her mouth when she fed... it was so painful. But I could have technically took care of the problem better and kept nursing. But I quit... I'll be honest, I feel I wussed out.

With my second, I also wussed out... he hated being "in my face" and it made him cry when he would feed. He and I were NOT bonding, and I had PPD and my husband was working from about 9am til 10-11 pm doing contract work... I was stressed, baby was jaundiced and not eating... so I caved after 6 weeks... I don't feel as guilty with him... it felt more of a relief...

Then my third, I started babysitting a lot at 5 months and slowly, after several bottle feeds because it was easier than trying to bf and take care of other people's kids... she just kinda preferred the bottle... but she was starting baby food, too, so I was content with how long we nursed.

((side note, I love all my kids, but my son and i really bonded later... finally... it just took a while))

Shelley - posted on 02/09/2011

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I put on weight while breastfeeding so it doesn't always help you loose weight. Breastfeeding does save you alot of money.

Bonnie - posted on 02/09/2011

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Technically your son is 2.5 years old now. You did good breastfeeding until now. You breastfed longer than the average.

April - posted on 02/09/2011

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I get the sense that dieting/planning a wedding isn't really the reason why you want to wean. It seems more like you're just not enjoying it but feel afraid to admit it? It's okay not to enjoy it...it's not always enjoyable! I am still nursing my 26 month old and I do love it...but it wasn't always so. I had blocked ducts, milk blebs, cracked/bleeding nipples, and several nursing strikes. You name it and I experienced it...but I persevered just for the sole reason that I knew it was the best thing for my son. I still think it is important, even now.

Now...you can still have your big wedding and be able to nurse too. You can also still lose weight while breastfeeding. My son is nursing less and less and I'm finding that I am starting to put weight on because I'm not the same calorie burning machine I once was when he was an infant.

Jenn - posted on 02/09/2011

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I personally gained weight when I stopped bfing. I wouldn't base the decision to wean on your body image. If you want to stop, then stop, no excuse needed.

Mrs. - posted on 02/09/2011

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You know, it's funny, I always hear moms on CoM say things on the breastfeeding threads like, "it strikes me as selfish" when people offer various reasons for giving up bf. I think it's a bit more selfish to tell a mom that is struggling for whatever reason and may want to give it up, that she is selfish because you believe in a pro breastfeeding agenda. I mean, you may tell her, it's the wrong way to loose weight or give her support on how to continue and get fit...but telling her she's selfish-not really helpful except to shame her (and perhaps get an agenda across). Just sayin'.

Rosie - posted on 02/09/2011

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do you want to stop solely so you can lose weight? cause breastfeeding helps you lose weight. if you just don't want to do it anymore because it's making you miserable then i say give it up. it will only get worse.

Jocelyn - posted on 02/09/2011

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Strikes me as a little selfish that you want to wean solely for the purpose of dieting.
Breastfeeding burns calories.
You can eat healthy and exercise while breastfeeding.
You can put the money that you are not spending on formula towards something for the wedding (like getting your hair done!).

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My opinion is to keep breastfeeding. I'm also one of those crazy women that not only lost all the pregnancy weight SUPER fast, but I'm also still breastfeeding my almost 3 year old son. ;)

Bonnie - posted on 02/09/2011

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If you are looking to quit breastfeeding so you can lose weight, it may not work and then you may feel even more guilty. I lost my pregnancy weight fairly quick with breastfeeding. You are suppose to eat more when breastfeeding, but not excessively. Just eat a bit more healthier if you may not be already.

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It's your choice hun people quit BF for all kinds of reasons but I gotta agree BF made me lose all my pregnancy weight and I did start to gain weight back when I stopped. I didn't stop by choice but once I switched to formula I did realise Aiden was no better or worse for it. I will warn you though when I did stop breastfeeding my boobies went with it (I went from like an F to a C in no seconds flat it sucked) so I personally would keep going so that my knockers would look nice for the wedding lol. There's my superficial moment for the day.

Amanda - posted on 02/09/2011

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well, if you legitimately want to continue breast feeding you can do so and loose weight. you don't really need to "diet" just eat healthy, skip the cake and ice cream, chips, and junk and load up on fruits and veggies. also, start exercising 3 or more days a week and the weight will come off! remember you just had a baby 2.5 months ago! it takes some time. stick with breastfeeding and there is a good possibility that it will play a big role in getting you back to your size by june. Breast feeding not only burns the calories, but breast feeding also decreases fat stores in your body, particularly in the thighs and hips. but if you are not happy breast feeding then go ahead and quit, there's no shame in that

Shauna - posted on 02/09/2011

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I would just exercise if i were you. Dont diet. Just eat healthy and exercise!!! then its a win win for everyone! including the most important person in this scenario YOUR BABY!

Tara - posted on 02/09/2011

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You can continue to breastfeed, exercise and lose weight. Although Rebecca was right when it came to me and my 6 kids I always carried around at least 10 pounds while nursing until my menstrual cycle returned at about 12 months postpartum and then it all just started dropping off without much effort.
My midwives explained it to me like this.
You are using an extra 900 calories each day just to produce milk, so because I was tiny to start with, my body holds onto that extra maternal weight to ensure I have enough fat stores to produce high quality milk.

That said, you can speed up the process by taking a mom and baby yoga class, walking with a good stroller, restricting the unhealthy calories from your diet and drinking lots of water. Try to find time every day for a workout at home, Pilates is my current exercise of choice, I can do it at home and there is no cost to me and it is great at strengthening your core muscles (abs, ass and chest muscles) which will help you at least tone up the problem areas.
Regardless of what you choose to do, you will look FANTASTIC on your wedding date. Moms always glow....
:) Good Luck

Amanda - posted on 02/09/2011

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The best way to do some weight lost is to exclusively breastfeed!



For the mother who weaned early then lost the weight, you didnt breastfeed long enough to get any weight benfit from it.

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Stick with breastfeeding, postpone the wedding. In the meantime you can get yourself on a regimented exercise routine. Watching your junk food and fat intake, yes, we should all practice that. But a nursing mom does need more of a specialized diet. Good luck. I'm sure some of teh other moms will give you more details, but just to be simplistic and basic, I say stick with nursing as long as you possibly can. A wedding can always be postponed.

Melissa - posted on 02/08/2011

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I thought breast feding helped you lose weight? Ive been the same weight since I was about 12 bar pregnancy lost it the second I gave birth so I wouldnt have a clue if its right or wrong. Im sure as hell untoned though. Cant you exercise instead of dieting?

Mrs. - posted on 02/08/2011

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You know what, I know the bf moms will say it burns calories keep going. I do notice and a public health nurse agreed with me, among moms I know, the ones who long term bf never really dump that last 10 pounds till they wean. People will tell you differently-it's just my opinion, which I know a lot of people actually share-still my opinion. And yes, I was able to loose more after I stopped bfing at 3 months (I didn't produce enough and had health issues).

Here's the deal, planning a wedding, all that is a lot of pressure. I know, I'm doing it this year too. If you're finding it all overwhelming and looking for support to make the choice you want to make in your heart and gut....you go and do it. It's your body, your baby and your wedding. I support you, some strangers here won't but it's your life and you life it as comfortably as possible for you!

Sal - posted on 02/08/2011

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you are a very brave lady to ask that question here, IMO do what is right for you at the end of the day the decision you make is about you, if the dress is soooo important for you then try and diet and exercisewhile bf if it works you are a winner, if it doesn;t at least you tried, I got married when my daughter was about 4 months old and i bought the dress 3 days before the wedding as i had no idea what size and shape i would be and on another note all together a wedding isn;t about looking hot in the pics its about having the chance to stand before you family and freinds and declare your love to each other and thankfully you can do that at anysize, good luck and don;t take the bf natzies to heart....

Nicole - posted on 02/08/2011

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also don't diet! Please do not diet! Eat well, drink lots of water and exercise. Enjoy your lover, enjoy your baby and celebrate your wedding! You will be beautiful regardless of weight!

Ignore the f**cking scale!

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