Should pregnant women have there own parking spots?

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Laura - posted on 01/26/2011

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Exactly Mary! With my first 2 I was walking anywhere between 5 to 10 miles everyday at work (I wore a pedometer). I unloaded truck for a retail store up until the day I delivered my first and unloaded plant trucks up until the day I delivered my second. I know for a lot of people the mothers spots are nice. Especially for those with newborns still recovering. But I don't think they should have to be mandatory.

But it looks like this legislation also said they could park in "no parking" or "no standing" zones. Isn't that different that handicap spots? Even handicap people aren't supposed to park in no parking zones.

Mary - posted on 01/26/2011

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Amen, Sharon!

And Jessica, if you truly have pre-eclampsia you shouldn't be out driving around and shopping to begin with. In all the years I've worked in L&D, I've never heard of a pre-eclamptic who wasn't at least on bedrest.

I've said this so many times before, but I'll say it again. I was 38 years old when I had my daughter. I worked full-time as a nurse (delivering other women's babies, no less) up until 2 nights before I delivered. The day before I delivered, I walked my dogs 2 miles; I did this daily throughout my pregnancy. In no way, shape or form was I disabled, or in need of a "special" spot.

I'm not superwoman, either. Unless they had complications, pretty much everyone of my friends, family members, and co-workers were as active and mobile as I was. (although some may have been more whiny than others!).

Pregnancy is NOT a disability, it is an altered state of health!
There are SOME women who have legitimate complications that can render them temporarily disabled, in which case, they qualify for a temporary handicapped card. There actually is no need for this legislation; if you are one of these women who is truly disabled while pregnant, you simply have your OB fill out the forms, and take them to the DMV for a handicapped placard.

Jenn - posted on 01/29/2011

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Wow, good to know I'm lazy because I used the spots without a medical necessity. I had a 3 year old, and 2 babies in carriers - yep - that's fun trying to get into the store. Good times.

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I have been pregnant 5 times, and even with my miscarriage I used the parking spaces. Did I need them? No. Did I really want them? uh, didn't really care either way. I think it is just another way for people to be lazy. If a woman is honestly having health issues during her pregnancy she CAN get a temporary disability tag from her doctor. Otherwise get off your butt and walk a few more feet. IMO

Jenny - posted on 01/26/2011

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I think it's silly. I would be ok with temporary placards for those with complications to be used in handicap spots. But I'm the Mom who parks on the opposite side with my newborns on purpose so I can get more excercise and not have to do laps for a spot.

Unless you're the passenger, if you can't walk very far I'm skeptical of your driving abilities in the first place.

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MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 05/28/2012

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Yeah, I was thinking the very same thing, Sherri. As a currently non-pregnant woman, I would never ever take a pregnant spot. However, I do have a little one and could use one but I still wouldn't, I am quite capable of walking. That does not mean the next lady is. She may find it very difficult to tote around a huge belly or a bunch of small children. There is a reason for those spots and it isn't for anyone and everyone, just because.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 05/28/2012

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I think they are a great idea for those that want to use them. I for one, never used them. Only because I love my SUV and I always park way at the other end of the parking lot because I do not like parking beside anyone. Even if it is blizzarding or pouring out, I don't care. I walk it, even when huge with a 8lb 9oz baby inside me... heheheee

Dogdizzle2000 - posted on 05/28/2012

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no, there should not be parking spaces for prego women, they chose to get pregnant, it takes two to tango , when i see them i park in them anyway , they should get special privelages becuase they have a baby , pregnancy is normal and goes away , being handicap does nto and only gets worse, now as far as handicap people go , i agree with it 100% they should get a parking space cause there old and wel....handicap, but a prego women who CHOSE to get prego should not get a state passed parking spot, it not a medical condition , they will all be fine im sure , just because there feet are swollen adn there back hurts means they get a parking spot, well shit let me play a game of football and be sore , and il just go park in the prego spot and tell them my feet hurt....get over urselves, be prego stfu complain , drop the baby and then be normal again,

Jenn - posted on 01/29/2011

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No, I don't think it should be a law, but pretty much every store here has them. I used them when I was pregnant with the twins, and when they were just little.

Meghan - posted on 01/29/2011

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It is a good idea to have it but not to make is a law, I know some wal-marts have parking like that, and every toyrsus and babies r us I've been to have them and there are some malls.

Tiffany - posted on 01/27/2011

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I think every parking large parking lot should have them as a courtesy, but not to be made into a law. It is helpful when you're pregnant or have kids in the winter to be able to park close. I usually park the farthest from the store though and get in some exercise by walking...even when I was pregnant I didn't park in those parking spots until like 3 weeks before I had my daughter lol.

Cyndel - posted on 01/27/2011

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The special spots were really great my last three weeks with my son, my son was so big (9lbs, 15 oz, one day late, and my first! no one believed it. They had predicted 7.5lbs 8 at most.) and my joints were so soft that my pelvis kept slipping out of alignment and when that happened I could barely walk, and you never knew when it was going to happen, so they were wonderful. Thank goodness my husband was able to go with me on most outings and just dropped me off at the door to wait for him to park or pick me up.

Shauna - posted on 01/27/2011

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WHAT?! the babies r us store in my town has like 30 preggo and newborn parking!!!! they are always empty i LOVE THEM... they also have a nifty room to nurse in with more comfy chairs than i own in my house!!!! thats the only reason i shop there!!!! *thumbs up babies r us you rock*

Sharon - posted on 01/27/2011

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man oh man ...

I want to say yes. But how do you prove this woman has the need? I'm thinking a parking permit from her doctor.

When I was pregnant, I was puking ALL THE DAMN TIME. In between puke fests I tried to live normally. but each trip to the grocery store was a gamble. Could I get in and out before the smells got to me?

Then there are those moms who are in pain all the time. LOL that was me too. In the later months I was puking AND in agony. Life sucked. My whole way walking up to the store I was crying. My back hurt so much, my hips hurt and were grating on bones, I was exhausted and unable to cope with simple shit. Trying to find a parking space close to the store, my frustrations building... yeah a bomb in the making....

And I think these parking spaces should be on the outside of the handicapped spaces. After all, our "handicap" is only temporary.

But I can see this being abused. I can see this getting out of hand. all kinds of special needs (at least in their own minds) will be demanding their own spaces.

Lindsay - posted on 01/27/2011

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I don't think it should be a law. As many have already stated, pregnancy is not a disability, neither is having small children. Where I live, we only have handicapped parking spots and the rest of the parking lot is for everyone else. I managed just fine, and it never even crossed my mind to need a special spot. These spots are done as a courtesy but it seems to brred laziness and feelings of entitlement to me.

Rosie - posted on 01/27/2011

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no i don't think it should be mandatory that they are offered. i think it's nice :) and the asshats that use them without being pregnant piss me off to no end, but to make it mandatory seems pointless to me.
reading the article it makes it seem weird to me. they want pregnant women to use fire zones, or loading and unloading zones? i guess i don't know newyork very well, but here in iowa, lol, that seems rather stupid.

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eh, our mall had them and i was eight months pregnant when we last went but i didn't use them. one, they were filled up. two, i just didn't feel like bothering. i liked the walking and i never really accepted that i looked pregnant, even at that size. just felt fat :( not good self-image...

but i think big stores should have them. dunno about a law, but they'd be nice for those who'd use them.

Carolyn - posted on 01/27/2011

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well in my opinion , if you are in such a bad state during your pregnancy that walking an extra 20-30 feet is going to complete negate your ability to shop etc without being exhausted, maybe you need to reconsider going to the mall, etc ?? i dunno, if i were having that much difficulty that parking a few spot away made it impossible for me to shop, i wouldnt be going shopping in the first place. Or i'd be talking to my doctor about getting a handicap pass.

Peggy - posted on 01/27/2011

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well if it was such an issue for being pregnant with small kids or just having small kids and needing a close spot then shouldnt there be a whole front of a parking lot for people?.. seriously even at Babies R Us there is one spot next to the handicap spot which there is like 3 spots. The few spots that are designated should be for women who medically need it.. not for convenience. So every old person should have the right to park in a handicap spot because they are old and just dont want to walk?.. NO, its for those who medically need it.

Tia Melissa - posted on 01/27/2011

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It would be highly convenient to be able to get a pass to park at the front of the buildings and I certainly patronize businesses that provided me with a convenient parking space.

Honestly, I think that this is being proposed simply because we've lost the courtesy that was afforded women who are pregnant, nursing or raising small children. Many people don't understand the difficulties pregnancy can cause in blood pressure drops, blood sugar balance, loose joints, bathroom use, food restrictions and such. Should it be the cause of the day? No. Is it a disability? No. Is it a human condition that requires adjustment in physical activity and lifestyle? YES! Consideration for any persons state should be part of common human courtesy.

Laressa - posted on 01/27/2011

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My biggest issue with parking in the maternity parking is having to park beside vehicles that have children getting in and out of them. Had a brat wham my car with his door. I got out and told the mom what had just happened. And she was like, its just an accident. As hard as the door hit I was certain there would be a dent for sure. There wasn't and I was able to rub their paint off my car. Personally I think that is irresponsible to shrug off hitting other peoples vehicles. I like to park a "decent" distance from the door if I'm capable of walking it because I'm a little particular about my vehicle! And if I'm not feeling capable of walking far. Maybe I shouldn't be shopping in the first place.

And yes, with a brand new baby and paraphanalia I do like to at least park close to shopping carts so I can load it up asap and not have to lug big armloads of stuff all over.

Cyndel - posted on 01/27/2011

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neither, it is nice if a place has a spot or two for pregnant or new moms but shouldn't be law. I don't know what people with disabilities get with the handycap parking pass. in New york, but in most places I would thing that a pregnant woman with an extra difficult pregnancy/birth recovery time would be granted a temp handycap mirror hanger so she can use handycap parking. It makes since rather then changing laws or requiring stores to make parking lot renovations they may not be able to afford.

Jessica - posted on 01/27/2011

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Pregnancy is not a disability..but i also believe that during those months, we should also be offered closer parking..who the heck wants to walk 2 miles to run in to grab some groceries with two kids in tow plus being pregnant..i dont..
And i am on partial bedrest..im allowed to be up and about once a week, just nothing exerting

Peggy - posted on 01/27/2011

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I personally find the spots for lazy people... if you have a true need medical need your doc can fill out the required paperwork for DMV to get a handicap sticker ..or they should a special pass that a doctor has to give you just like the handicap ones. True need does not consist of having kids and being lazy... shoot a lot of people could use the exercise. There were places in England that had spots for people with small children but those spots were much wider than their normal spots for itty bitty cars and I have a large SUV. I really dont like parking around other cars because people arent always careful getting in and out of their cars or letting their small kids open the door and it hits my car.

Sara - posted on 01/27/2011

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Pregnancy is not a disability, so I don't think there should be special parking associated with it, or something that should be enforced by law. The new mom/mom with toddlers parking is helpful, but it's more a courtesy than something that I think HAS to be available.

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OK, just to throw this question out there....may be just a bit off topic but still semi-related: When you're not pregnant, is it REALLY an issue to park further away and walk? Yes, it might be bitter cold or rainy-but a smart person prepares for the weather elements. Is it an issue of not wanting to walk with children in a parking lot? Or, like someone admitted, it's just being lazy wanting a closer spot? Obviously, if you have medical issues, it is a challenge, but for the average healthy mom out there who might have 2+ kids.

Vegemite - posted on 01/26/2011

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oh my son's were big compared to my size, my first was engaged for 3 weeks and extremely painful, my second was also painful and was in a position that could put me into labour at any time. If I parked away from the door I would walk through to carpark and get into the shops just to have to sit/lie down on a bench because I was huge amounts of pain and sometimes I would have to go home with out any shopping being done. One time a man passing by got the shopping center police to come see me because he thought i might need an ambulance haha I think maybe he might have over reacted.

So yes those parking spaces for pregnant woman or a temporary pass for disable or no parking spots (needs assessed of course) would be awesome.

Shauna - posted on 01/26/2011

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OMG pyschos!!! yeah I had to pick this women out in a police lineup .. then i said FREAK that noise... she will prob come finish me off if i turn her in so i just let it slide.
Crazy ppl.

Nikkole - posted on 01/26/2011

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Yea i don't yell with the kids in the car people are nuts now a days! Down where my husband works my brother in law was at a red light and some women in a wheelchair was at the corner well all of a sudden she jumps up and runs up to there car and stabs the roof they ran that red light lol !

Nikkole - posted on 01/26/2011

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People park in no parkings spots at walmart all the time it makes me so mad ad its usually teenagers!

Shauna - posted on 01/26/2011

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HAHAHAHHA me and my husband both have road rage. But its no laughing matter, i had a gun pulled on me b/c i laughed at a lady that tried running a red light and got stuck in the intersection. YIKES. now i only act a fool when my son is NOT in the car. :)

Katherine - posted on 01/26/2011

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They do here in Michigan, and so do woman who have newborns. I think it's a great thing, it came in handy for me ;)



Edit to add: I had a bulging disc and was HUGE and weeble wobble like towards the end of my pregnancy (which is when I used the spot).

Nikkole - posted on 01/26/2011

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@Shauna i SOOOO need some of those especially when im waiting for a spot and some car whips around and steals my spot, i roll my window down and yell (my husband is embarrassed by me i have major road rage)!

Stifler's - posted on 01/26/2011

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I agree with some women having a disabled placard if they have severe pain/complications/whatever. But not everyone needs special parking. The mother and baby parks here are only as wide as normal parks, they're just closer to the shops. Only the disabled are wider.

Shauna - posted on 01/26/2011

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BAH! everyone knows pregnancy isnt a disability!!! ill admit im lazy!!!!!!!

Shauna - posted on 01/26/2011

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HAHA Nikkole ... makes me mad too im like seriously what the fudge. I just kindly put these little comment cards on there windshield that say some rude stuff on them. Someone gave me them as a gag gift and i love them!

Nikkole - posted on 01/26/2011

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My uncle had a van like that he had some disease that attacked his nerves drs around here duidnt know what it was but he drove everywhere before he got worse!! But he was a horrible driver lol always running into things even in his wheelchair :)

Laura - posted on 01/26/2011

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Jenny I know a man who can't walk at all, hasn't been able to my entire life but he drives. He has his pickup modified so everything he needs to do he does with his hands. I've also seen many people with broken legs driving...they can't walk very well. As well as morbidly obese people. Just because they can't walk very well doesn't mean they can't drive.

Nikkole - posted on 01/26/2011

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Yea actually we went to the mall today and some ass in a huge truck parked so horrible my husband had to back the car out then we put the kids in im surprised he got his door open! That makes me so mad!

Shauna - posted on 01/26/2011

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yeah ok .. i changed my mind MAKE IT A LAW... i hated trying to get baby car seat out and someone ALWAYS parks so close that you cant open your car door to even fit the carseat out the car!!! i want the extra space b/c i come with extra baggage!!!

Nikkole - posted on 01/26/2011

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@Joy yea just a temporary pass you could put on your car window or mirror sorry haven't been getting notifications that you all have posted

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No, I don't think there should be a law. Pregnancy is not a disability, nor should pregnancy be viewed as receiving special privileges. If a women is experiencing medical difficulties due to the pregnancy and a doctor recommends a prefered parking spot, then that is another issue. But being big and bloated, sciatica, swollen legs-they are all symptoms of pregnancy and doesn't scream out "Special Parking Please". There is a huge potential for pregnant women to abuse the system if this was made into a law. Prefered parking for mothers with children is also a nice luxury, but I don' think it's mandatory. I honestly think we have grown to live in a society of wanting special privileges. JMO though.

Laura - posted on 01/26/2011

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There is a specific paragraph in there that I agree with making law.

"The councilman plans to introduce legislation next week that would grant special parking placards to pregnant women whose doctors say they have physical or mobility challenges."

Physical or mobility challenges is the key words. I am 37wks along. I have to tote around 2 and 4 year old boys also. I don't mind walking from the middle or back of the parking lot. However I do know a lot of women that do have problems while they are pregnant. I think it should be like a temp handicap pass for the women that do have problems and have trouble moving around.

Carolyn - posted on 01/26/2011

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thats why i said wasnt showing much, etc... as you said your huge ;)

my point is , if you are having an average pregnancy and say like 3-4 months pregnant, leave the spot for women who need it. I suppose i feel that way because that was the courtesy i extended during my pregnancy. i didnt use the spot until i truly needed it. Obviously you do.

i mean, it would be like my using the expectant spot the day i took my pregnancy test ;) and then you come along, someone who actually needs it, and see me getting out of my car lol

Stifler's - posted on 01/26/2011

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I never used new mum/mum with stroller parking when I was pregnant. I could still walk.

Jessica - posted on 01/26/2011

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none taken..however..this is my 4th child, and i am huge..not to mention i have pre-ecclampsia and have ankles prob twice the size of a 9th mth preg woman..so i guess i wouldnt give a shit if another woman further along than me would bitch about it...besides all signs i see say expecting or new moms, not moms 7 mths or further along...no offence

Becky - posted on 01/26/2011

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I like the idea of having to have a tag for them. One of our supermarkets here does that - you can get the pass inside the store. I'm not sure about making it a law, but I agree, I sure appreciate when they're there!

Carolyn - posted on 01/26/2011

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no offense but if i were 9 months pregnant and saw someone either didnt look pregnant or wasnt showing much, and i couldnt get one, i would be enraged.



I never used them until i was retardedly huge. and used them mostly just after my son was born. its nice to have, but not necessary. I am sure most make due when they are not around or are full anyways.

Jessica - posted on 01/26/2011

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I think it should be a law that every shopping place have the stork signs especially for new moms/preggo moms.
I dont mind the walking unless its bitter cold..but sometimes its just nice to park close being 18 weeks pregnant myself. There are those days when everything hurts.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/26/2011

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I think it is wonderful when stores offer them. I don't think it should be a law, but it sure was nice when I needed it.

Barb - posted on 01/26/2011

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I like that pregnant moms and new moms or moms with more than one kid or toddlers have those enlarged parking spaces. It gives Mom and those kids room to swing those doors all the way open and not ding into my car.



Edited to add.. yes, i park far away from those parking spots too.

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Do you mean a pass, like a temporary handicap pass made (only a pregnancy one, not a handicap one)?

Nikkole - posted on 01/26/2011

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Yea i agree we have a few at our local mall and it was VERY nice to use when i first had my kiddos especially if its Freezing outside :) i think maybe getting like a temporary tag to park in those places so not just everyone can park there would be good

Bonnie - posted on 01/26/2011

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I think it is nice as a courtesy to have expecting mother/new mom parking spaces. I think they should have more of them actually. Some parking lots here don't have any, while others only have may be 5. It really bugs me when I see people parking in those spaces who don't fit the title.

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