Sick Kids

Christa - posted on 06/26/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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So my 2.5 year old was sick this past week. She was totally crabby and would cry and whine about everything. Now I felt bad for her because I knew she wasn't feeling well and I didn't want to fight about every little thing so I let many normal rules slide. But it got me thinking, is it ok to teach our children that when they "don't feel good" they are allowed to not follow the rules and excuse bad behavior? I've met adults who can not function when they have a cold. I worked with a woman that when she was pregnant in her first trimester she would go to her mom's house and her mom would rub her back until she fell asleep. I thought this was extremely bizarre and made me wonder how the hell she was going to handle a newborn. Anyway obviously we should be sympathetic to our child’s needs and obviously we will treat a sick 2 year old differently then a sick 12 year old, but what do you think the line is? What rules are ok to break when sick and what aren't? When is a child old enough to "suck it up"? What do you think?

*Side Note* Obviously different illnesses would be treated differently, but lets focus on run of the mill colds and flus.

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Jodi - posted on 06/27/2010

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Loureen, so does my mum!!! My hubby is going in for surgery in a few weeks, and my parents are coming for a couple of weeks to help us out. When I had my wisdom teeth out (about 108 years ago now), my mum came and stayed with me to help me out for a week.

I really think that sometimes, no matter how old we are, we need a cuddle and some special TLC :)

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Loureen, I still feel the same about MY mom too! I am so lucky that she lives so close to me and helps me out when I am not feeling well. She gives me snuggles and I am 37 years old and a good 7 inches taller than her! But I still love the snuggles!

Charlie - posted on 06/26/2010

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I think there is nothing wrong with a little TLC when your feeling crap , its part of the healing process IMO , i dont think it should excuse being a little terror and destroying the place but i think even then a little discipline mixed with understanding is nice .

My mum still takes care of me when im sick ( or in my last days of pregnancy ) and my fiance is at work , she will bring me lunch or dinner and sometimes rub my back when im all achey , i do love that im still my mums little girl :D

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Gah....sorta like me right now?! lmao....Roxanne and Chad are on the mend and I should be in bed right now.....I can feel it comin!

Jodi - posted on 06/26/2010

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LOL @ Dana...probably except if she's miserable in the middle of the night? THAT part of sick kids sucks :) So does the part where just as everyone else is getting better, you come down with it!!

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Is it wrong of me to admit that I kinda sorta like it when Roxanne is sick? lmao. She's super cuddly, which she's normally not so much, and it gives me an excuse to not be a hardass about the rules!

Tanya - posted on 06/26/2010

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I agree with Sharon. Everyone likes a little special treatment when they are sick.

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There's nothing wrong with extra special comfort & treatment to your child when they don't feel well no matter what the age. Even if it is a plain old cold with sniffles, it's enough to give special attention and bend the rules. Even with older kids, there's nothing wrong with caving in a bit because it's a temporary thing. But the older child is also more capable of handling illnesses better than a small child. The older kid also knows how to manipulate the parents to let them stay home from school ;-)

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If it is a run of the mill cold i don't generally treat them any different but thats because they don't act any different. Just have to wipe their noses constantly.
Anything else and they do get a little bit of special treatment. They get to snuggle to go to sleep and eat what they want within reason because as long as they are eating i am happy.
And if it is something bad then they may even get to share my bed with me. Like when my son had a chest infection that caused him to have febrile seizures or when he fractured his skull and we had to keep a close eye on him.

Jodi - posted on 06/26/2010

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I treat my kids a little differently when they are sick. I don't care so much whether they eat their meals, I will generally let them have a little ice cream anyway. I don't go nuts about bedtime, and will let them snuggle until they fall asleep (although my son is too old for that now). If they cry over something, I am less likely to tell them to stop being silly.



Yes, a sick 12 year old is different. We have just gone through illness in our house, and it spread through everyone. It started with my step-son. I think he must get pampered at his mum's house when he gets sick, because when we had to take him home, he pretended he was too sick to put his own shoes on. We soon fixed that - he is 11!!! Old enough to suck it up a little bit!! My son is 12, and if he is truly sick, he stays in bed all day. Once he is up and about, no fever, no cough, and back to eating well, I figure he is well enough to go back to school. My 5 year old, I generally just keep her home a little extra time because she gets so much more tired, and needs a lot more cuddles to get better.

Rosie - posted on 06/26/2010

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i think it's alright to treat a child differently and let them get away with things when they are sick. now, if he's a little hellion and doing horrible mean things then i will correct him, but if he's overly whiny, and just a crabapple, and wants things done for him, i will. i know i like it when people help me when i'm sick, why wouldn't my child. :)

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