So.. Just a question.

C. - posted on 08/28/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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Ok, I was on the thread about when is it inappropriate for your child to see you naked.. Anyway, for some reason it made me think back to this.

When my husband came back from Iraq in July, he was surprised when he went to change our son's Pull-Up. Our son grabbed at himself and said clearly 'Penis! Liam Penis!' Our son had just turned 2 the end of June, but he had been saying that since about March or April. Even when my husband was home in May, he never heard our son say it.

How young did you tell your children what their body parts were? Just curious. I know in our family, as soon as they start exploring, we tell them what it is every time they touch that part of their body until they know what it is. But when did you tell your kids?

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Charlie - posted on 08/28/2010

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I have no problem if the child wants to call their genitals by a different name as long as their parents have taught them the right name first , there is nothing so worrying as a child who only knows their vagina as a cookie going to tell a teacher or adult "so and so touched my cookie " the teacher will have NO idea of what her cookie is except to think perhaps someone tried to touch her lunch .

Krista - posted on 08/28/2010

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I don't mind euphemisms as long as people know (and are comfortable with) the proper names for their body parts. I usually call my breasts by other names, like "boobs" "rack" "knockers", etc. And I find some euphemisms for primary sexual organs to be hilarious.

But, it's crucial that people know what the right terms are, and that they're comfortable saying them. When talking to my girlfriends, I might say that my underwear was riding up in my Very Thing. But with a doctor, I have no problem saying "my vagina" if the situation calls for it.

Jessica - posted on 08/28/2010

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I go through a game with my son since he starting 'exploring' himself. I would say he was about 16 months old when we started this. I say 'Hands on your head' and he puts his hand on his head and so on. I also say 'Hands on your willy' and he will put his hands on his crotch area. A bit silly I know but I find the best way to teach my son is through games.

Tara - posted on 08/28/2010

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From the day we start talking to them. Even as infants when I changed their bum I would say things like "now we wipe your bum, and your scrotum and penis." Or " now we wipe you vagina from front to back" etc.
That way they grow up knowing the proper terms for their body parts, they are after all just other parts. Like toes and belly buttons and ears etc.
No biggie.
My little girls call their breasts boobs, mostly cause I'm nursing and that's what they are; boobs, as in the baby needs a boob, or mom boob that baby he's hungry etc.
:)Tara

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My daughter was 1& a half and learnt from the one and only OPARH lol..i was watching it and it was an episode with doctor oz and they were talking about the body.She started to ask about vagina and penis from there.I told her a boy has,a girl has and thats it.If she is sore etc she will refere to her private with the correct word all the time since the age of two.Shes six now.

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My son has just started exploring when I change his nappy he's 9 1/2 months old and I say to him "Marshall's penis" I believe you should use correct names rather than euphemisms as it shows you're not embarrassed to talk about sex, which I'm not.

Ugwunwa - posted on 08/30/2010

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well i have a chart for body part of each gender, and for my first child, i began at 18 months. and as Katherine said, Call it the name, dnt make use of slangs..

Joanna - posted on 08/29/2010

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Funny story that just happened tonight that reminded me of this topic... We were standing in line at the grocery store, and Paige just pointed to my husband's crotch and said "daddy's weiner!" and then to my crotch and said "mama's bagina!" and then to her crotch and said "no Paige weiner - Paige bagina, too!"

my husband was so red but me and the lady behind us were just cracking up. Gotta love 2 year olds!

Petra - posted on 08/29/2010

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I think that starting as early as possible and not treating them any different than hands, feet or eyes is important. I don't know about many of you, but I grew up feeling a certain shame and embarassment about my "girl parts" and was loathe to call them by their proper names. Teaching euphemisms, in my opinion, plants the seed that there is something wrong with your body parts and sets the stage for that shame associated with sex and sexual organs. My boy, who is 8 1/2 months now, will grow up knowing what his penis is because, like a lot of others on here, when I change his diaper and bathe him I refer to everything by its proper name.

Jenni - posted on 08/28/2010

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I started as soon as my son started pulling on his penis all the time during diaper changes. Now when he sits on the potty i remind him to point his penis down. I don't recall exactly what age it was i started referring to it. Probably long before he was ever able to comprehend the word or body part. He still hasn't said 'penis' yet though. He still refers to his entire diaper region as 'poopoo'. Including his diapers themselves.

Ez - posted on 08/28/2010

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My daughter is 18 mths and has just started pointing and asking 'what's that' in the last month or so. I tell her it's her vagina, and she calls it her 'gina. I think it's really a case of following your child's lead, and once they express an interest and a desire for information, you give it to them.

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Tara, my son refers to it as baboo. I always used 'milkies' for nursing, but he has always said baboo ever since he started talking. We use boobie and nippy a lot, but also breast and nipple.

Charlie - posted on 08/28/2010

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When Cooper first started exploring very early on we told him the body part names , when he grabbed his penis i would say " thats Coopers penis " when he grabs his feet i say" thats Coopers feet" he is almost 22 months now and nows all his parts .

I cannot stand cutsie names its creepy .

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We'e been using the proper words since birth. No peepee or whatever else. A penis is a penis and a vagina is a vagina.. End of story.

Tara - posted on 08/28/2010

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lol @ carol. My one daughter called them Baboos, and bras were "baboo bahs" which was hilarious!
But even now my 10 year old daughter knows they are breasts and nipples but still says things like "mom your boob is leaking" or "why is that baby over there crying? his mom should boob him" lol
:)

Johnny - posted on 08/28/2010

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Ack, Tara, at least yours call them boobs. I've been trying to teach my daughter the words nipple and breast but she still insists on referring to all nipple/chest related areas as 'nursies'. I used that word because I didn't want her yelling out boobie every time she wanted to nurse, but now she's got to unlearn it. She even calls bras 'nursies'.

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When the girls were little I was uncomfortable w/ the word vagina, so I just referred to it as the part of the body they went pee w/.. That backfired when we would be in the shower cuz I would tell them to wash their bodies and that was all they'd wash. That's when I introduced the word vagina (probably a bit under 2). They were 2.5 when they asked about 'Daddy's tail' and that's when the word penis was introduced.

It's been penis for my son since day one. He says 'Pee Nee' though cuz he doesn't pronounce S's yet.

Johnny - posted on 08/28/2010

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My daughter figured out about her vagina a few months back. It was great. Suddenly in the middle of the grocery store she started pointing to her crotch yelling "Gina! gina!" I decided to go with pride over humiliation. I just smiled at the nearest old man, "Isn't she a peach?"

Joanna - posted on 08/28/2010

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My daughter is almost 3 and just recently we started teaching her more about them, instead of just calling everything down there "butt." We had to start naming them when she saw my husband out of the shower and she said "Dada... butt?" and looked really worried. So now she knows boys have penises (or weiners since that's what daddy calls it, but she says "beana" since she doesn't speak well) and girls have vaginas ("bagina" to her).

Krista - posted on 08/28/2010

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I do pretty much the same as you -- as soon as Sam noticed that he HAS a penis, I told him what it is. I really don't see any difference between that and telling him what his feet were when he noticed them.

Jodi - posted on 08/28/2010

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I've always referred to my kids body parts by their correct names. I can't recall at what age they were able to say it themselves, but they were words that were part of their early vocabulary.

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About 2 years old. We were at the library every Friday and came across a toddler body part book.

Katherine - posted on 08/28/2010

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I tell mine now. Mine are 18 months and 5 years. No reason to come up with some cutesy weird name for 'vagina' call it a vagina!!! Sometimes I say privates but my daughter calls her vagina her butt, so I have to correct her.
So I say immediately.

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