Spanking- boys vs girls

Merry - posted on 03/27/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )




For those of you who spank

Do boys need more spankings then girls? Do girls get lighter spanks then boys?
Does dad only spank the boys, or is he allowed to spank the girls too?

Is there different protocol in spanking when it comes to a boy or a girl- and a mom vs a dad?


April - posted on 03/27/2011




As kids my sister's and i got spanked. I always felt awkward whenever i saw my dad spank my sister, maybe because we hardly ever saw him (because he worked abroad) so we were shy around him whenever he came home. He never spanked me but he did about a handful of times with my sister.

My mum was the one who spanked. A lot. I actually got mad at my mum growing up because of it. We confronted her, she stopped. So it's all good now.

I have a son and a daughter, i haven't spanked them being my daughter is only 2 and my son is 7 months. I don't have any brothers so i never knew what boys would be like around the house until i met my brothers-in-law. LOL boys are definitely going to be a handful. My daughter though is a sweetie. So i hope she stays that way LOL

Jenni - posted on 03/27/2011




idk... when I was a kid my sister got the least spanks. I was somewhere in the middle and my brother got the most.

My sister rarely acted out. My brother was ADHD so he acted out the most. My mom didn't like spanking, really. She said she spanked me once when I was 3 and when I cried she felt so guilty she never did it again. My dad usually administered the spankings. Although with my brother she did spank because she knew no other alternative and he was so out of control. Eventually, she resorted to a wooden spoon because my brother would just laugh in her face and say it didn't hurt. When the wooden spoon became ineffective and he responded to it the same way, she introduced the metal spoon. Not saying this is in anyway the same as just spanking but it was a different time we grew up in. Not much was known in the way of behavioural disorders and my mom was at her witts end with him.

So in our house growing up it was purely based on behaviour not so much gender. Spankings were not gender exempt and force was used at the level of which it was effective, no more, no less.

Btw... my spankings didn't hurt all that much but I would scream like a banshee to pretend they did. That way they went easier on me and I would only receive 2 or 3 spanks. My brother wasn't as clever. ;)


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Johnny - posted on 03/27/2011




We don't spank, so gender makes no difference. I suppose I had assumed it would make more difference what type of personality the kid had and how they responded to various sorts of discipline. It concerns me that people make discipline decisions based solely on gender. That seems extremely antiquated. And highly ineffective.

Desiree - posted on 03/27/2011




No difference at all it depends on the situation. Both my kids have ended up with a smack when it has been required, which thank goodness has been very rarely.

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No difference. Except my son doesn't get spanked by his father, but then.... he also only sees him a few times/year.

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Now I've heard it all....

Who cares if it's a boy or a girl....spanking is ridiculous and ineffective. You don't intensive the "spank" to get your point across better.....ugh.

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Sorry, I can't really provide any input since I have one son and no other child to compare/contrast against. I do think my husband is the one to spank/swat quicker than I am though. I seem to use a spank/swat as a last resort. For example, the other day I asked my son to help put the silverware away from the clean dishwasher. And again, like 3 times before I went over and took away the toy mototrcycle he was playing with. My son then started to turn on the TV when my husband popped him on the butt and said, "Go help your mother NOW!"

Merry - posted on 03/27/2011




I don't spank either, but I saw another post saying that someone spanked girls lighter etc. And also I know in my family my dad never did any spankings, but my mom did. Later she said it was because she didn't think he could keep his cool while doing it. So it got me interested if anyone else has specifications as to who gets spanked and how often or hard and who is doing it!

Bonnie - posted on 03/27/2011




I agree with Jessica. I don't think gender matters. If you are going to smack, you are going to smack. Not saying it is right to smack, but it would be really wrong if parents have both sons and daughters, but only the daughters get smacked or vice versa. Some would say that depending on what the child did wrong he/she might be smacked harder compared to other times. Otherwise I don't see what difference it makes.

Jessica - posted on 03/27/2011




We don't spank and won't even when they are older... but I am curious as to why one would have different protocols for boys vs girls, and whether mom or dad does it. Why should it matter? I'll be curious for someone to answer this. Hitting is hitting, right? If you're already hitting your child, why does it matter who does it?

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