Stealing baby names

Bondlets - posted on 03/26/2011 ( 123 moms have responded )

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Forgive me if this has been asked before but it's something that bugs me to no end and, being newly pregnant, the issue is starting to come up in my due date club.

I am of the opinion that baby names cannot be stolen because one cannot steal what another does not own. It used to be that children shared family names - one might find half a dozen "James" or "Laura" kids on one branch of a family tree. Now it is to the point that we cannot use even a middle name if some distant cousin many times removed used it years ago. I've read of women giving up their dream name because a woman in a playgroup or mom's group used the name first. In fact, 4 weeks ago I heard a woman apologize (??) to another woman who had named her baby Ethan over a year before because the first mom (also having a boy) was going to use that name. Hello...Ethan is on the top 10 and has been for how long?? Who apologizes for using a name?? I actually knew a woman who gave up her dream girl name (Carissa) because I named my baby that 2 months before her baby was born. We haven't seen each other more than 5 times since then (1998) and I thought what she did was incredibly foolish (her reasoning was she didn't want two Carissas in the nursery). Ironically she gave her baby the name Emma...guess how many Emmas were in the nursery?!

A few years back a woman I knew online actually thought about sending a letter to her cousin (who'd just had a baby girl) with names this woman was considering using for her future baby if it was a girl. I was appalled! What kind of audacity does it take to think a letter like that is OK? Further more, if her cousin used a name that was on the list, who the heck cares if the woman uses it in the future?? What is the big deal about having kids with the same name in a family? Is it really worth giving up a name you've loved and settling for second best?

Seriously, this makes me so angry. I refuse to give up a name I love for my child just because someone else is using it and I don't care if it is an acquaintance, friend or family member. I named my daughter the same name my sil used knowing she would throw a tantrum (which she did...I told her to get over it). Now she loves the pictures she takes of the two Megans together and says how cute it is.

If I came up with a name and someone else used it after me I would be honored. I love my children's names and to me it would be a compliment to be "copied".

What do you all think? Can baby names be "stolen"? Do women have the right to be upset if their name is used by others or should they grow up and get over it?

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Tshanna Ele - posted on 03/29/2011

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I have issues with people using the names i pick, because i crave originality for my children's names. But its a really simple fix... don't tell anyone your names.

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My godson is Felix :D



I think if a family member or friend tells you they want a particular name for their baby and you name your baby that name before they get the chance they have every right to be upset ......That is a douchbag thing to do .



Naming a baby the same afterwards like a namesake is not the same though , it would be acceptable in my books.

Jenn - posted on 03/26/2011

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Marina, there was no reason you couldn't still use the name. She didn't "take" anything from you. You chose to not use it just because someone else did. If we all felt that way, then there wouldn't be people with the same name. Look at all the Jenn's on here, or Sarah's.

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Sarah - everyone's going to have that problem because I don't think there's a language out there that pronounces 'ieu" in any way except "oo"

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Brittany - posted on 10/16/2011

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My children have unique names anyway but, I have met lots of little girls named Kaylin or Caylynn or Klynn but none spelled Caoilainn.

Rauri (Rory) is not too common here. Caoleb became popular but, there is not another Caoleb in the Kindergarten class where my son goes to school.

Lisa - posted on 10/16/2011

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How stupid is it getting!!
I and my hubby only decided on two names for our baby girl and I chose the one I thought suited her regardless of if it had been used before.
We had problems with boys name and I love henry and harry, when my sister in law had henry i thought thats cool we can use harry but low and behold, they call him harry, This is a price harry thing, he is actually by birth henry. so I thought thats it both names out the window, but considering how much they dont see their cousin I think who cares if I call my son one of those names. Saying that my choice of boys name has now changed completely I love oscar.

If you think about it name stealing is normal, everyone has a name that has been used by someone else regardless of who it is famous or otherwise. So in my opinion I would be honoured to have a neice nephew, friends child or otherwise with the same name as anyone of my family!!!

we all should be proud after all its our official name. If they hate it CHANGE IT BY DEPOLE

Jessica - posted on 04/01/2011

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I think it depends. To do it to piss someone off, is one thing. To use the same name because you LIKE it and would've like it anyway is fine. To give it up because you don't want to offend someone... foolish. When you, I, or anyone speaks, SOMEONE is offended somewhere. My boys are named Rowan and Rohan. We liked the names and used them. If someone names their kids those, I won't be pissed. I will however admit, that my husbands family has cracked more than one joke... but I think that was more to the effect that they hate me.

Krista - posted on 03/31/2011

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No way -- you could have called yourself "SuperFly!"

That's what I would have done, anyway...

Lacye - posted on 03/31/2011

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My niece was pregnant at the same time I was and we got into a huge argument about what MY daughter's name was going to be. I had chosen Lily Grace and she had wanted to use the name Grace. I told her to go ahead and use it because I was going to call my daughter Lily. Nooooooo! She informed me that I had to pick out another name because she wanted Grace. I told her flat out right that she can kiss my ass. So because my daughter was born first, she got Grace as her name.

Another example, I was pregnant at the same time as this other chick. I didn't like her. I had thought about naming my child if I had a boy, Lucas or Bailey. This stupid bitch finds out that that's the name I wanted and she decides that she wants that name. Oh well. At least I had a girl.

I guess what I'm getting at is it's kinda childish to argue over a name. Nobody has control over a particular name just because they like it. Growing up, there were 2 other Lacey's in my class. To make it even funnier, I was the oldest, the one after me was a week younger, and the one after her was 2 weeks younger than me! LOL For a while it got really confusing, even though my name was spelled different than theirs. So eventually we were called by our last names and that seemed to work out better. I think I got the shit end of the deal considering my last name was Fly! LOL

April - posted on 03/31/2011

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if we ever have another boy, we will probably give him the same middle name as our son. it's just a middle name, who cares! lol!

Stifler's - posted on 03/31/2011

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LOL Julianne, my husband has a brother with the same middle name as him. He reckons if we have another boy he and Logan will both be Logan Damian and whatever Damian.

Jacquie - posted on 03/31/2011

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I think I was misunderstood- under normal circumstances, my sister wanting to name a child after my grandfather, even if I was planning on doing it first, would be an awesome thing- he was a great guy.If she truly was doing it to honor him, then that would be wonderful. She told my cousin that she was doing it to make me mad. (FYI, my grandfather's name was Jack, and mine is Jacqueline. Jack is a very common name now, and it doesn't make me mad that everyone else seems to have that name, but to take the name out of spite is a different story)

April - posted on 03/31/2011

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I DO think names can be ruined (stolen only in the literal sense, as in you got it copywrited and someone used the name anyway).

Before I had Zach, I wanted to name him Jayden. My mother hated the name. Everytime I would refer to my unborn child as Jayden, she would say, "You mean Gay Jay?" Not that I have anything against being gay but it TOTALLY ruined the name for me. Even when she wasn't around, I would still hear Gay-Jay in my head.

(hey becky, our sons have the same name and I LOVE the name cole for a boy. plus my sister is Emily and I'd love to name a future child after her, but she won't have it)

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My mom named her kids the same thing
John-Robert
Jon-Nathan Thomas
Jeffery Thomas
and my fathers kid Blake Robert.
talk about name stealing....she stole the names off her other kids.

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emma - yeah im not sure how she got it either at first i thought it was her phone using auto spell but no its pronounced like that and she made me all embarrassed when i said to her "so how do you pronounce that" "It's Amelia!" me: "ohh i thought it was Am-e-loo" her: "How in gods earth did you get Am-e-loo out of amelieu!? are you stupid or something" yeah apparently im stupid cos i didn't realise thats how you apparently spell amelieu...something tells me her teachers are gonna have the same problem

Stifler's - posted on 03/31/2011

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LOL I read that and pronounced it Emilio and then had to read it a few times to get Amelia hahahahahhaha

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Jen -- ahh the "original" parent bit like my friend's daughter's name "Amelieu" apparently its pronounced "Amelia" she's always going to be "Am-e-loo" in my eyes we went uncommon over anything else :) Marshall people can spell it AND pronounce it and i haven't come across a Marshall his age yet :) my ex had his heart set on Sienna until i told him it meant reddish brown...and how that reminded me of period blood so he wanted Skarlette-Liarni for a girl thank christ we never had a girl to this day im not sure if anyone bah him could pronounce the second half

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Sarah, the name Jennifer was the top name for about 5 years when I was born. I know exactly what it is to have multiple people with your name both in school and at in my professional life. I don't think it's a major deal and frankly I have no sympathy for people who freak that someone else might have their name or their child's name.

When both I and others in my call center deal with these 'unique' names for newborns (work in medical insurance so we see the newborns regularly), there's always an eyeroll as we try like hell to pronounce it without irritating the new parents who are all proud of their originality. They are usually the ones who freak if there's a typo made. The worst I came across and I couldn't figure it out nor could THE PEDIATRICIAN was "Peyschiennse". Mom got really peeved when the nurse finally said, "And how do you pronounce that?"

"Patience".

sigh

Perhaps if she had thrown in an extra Y or a K things would have been even more original.

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Emma - yeah i was either sarah i was never aggressive so i was more or less number 5 or sarah s which worked until another sarah s came along so it was sarah s 2 for a while nothin like feeling like you're nothing more than a number at aged 6 and they wonder why i have low self esteem. Mind you when I was working in a supermarket there was another sarah on check outs but cos i was her supervisor they called me supervisor sarah yeah nothing like authority :D

Kristineatkins - posted on 03/30/2011

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well for me names cant be claim...but if it was intentionally like a made up name or something then that is very annoying! but like you said if someone copied my baby's name i would take that as a compliment but if i made it up and i told it to someone and that someone used it because she gave birth first than i will be annoyed but it wont mean i wont give that name to my bub...i think whoever said sorry for stealing and using the names blah blah is pretty much stupid thing if you think about it...i have more than 70 cousins like real first cousins and tons more niece and nephew and this are all on my mum's side...everyone tries to have different names for everyone coz it is very confusing but i know that one of my niece has the same name as me and when she got pregnant everyone was like which kristine? so i think people just try to make names different because of the confusion it causes...my hubby wanted crystal for our daughter and i found it too common...and change it to kryztal and everyone thought "ooo naver seen anhyone with that spelling" but when i search on fb alot has kryztal too but didnt stop me from using the name or the spelling...

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You know ive been thinking more and more about this i think my baby's name is really unique ive never ever heard it before and never seen it together as one whole name and i do have to be honest i would be bother if someone ( i knew related or not) was pregnant at the same time as me especially if she was due before me and decided to use my baby's name that i created for her. Yea you know what i would be pissed. Foolish or not i would be. So i can understand peoples anger but it doesnt apply in all cases. If i really was set on a name for a long time and then my friend or whoever gets pregnant and chooses that name without knowing my love for it i wouldnt get mad but i also wouldnt change my mind i would still name my kid what i wanted to name them

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Sarah, are you kidding me? Was there nothing else to distinguish yourself beyond your name? I've worked in departments where there were 6 Jennifers yet we all managed to handle it. There are worse things. if you need an usual name to be different and to show the world that you're unique, then there's something else going on there that has nothing to do with a name.

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Veronique - obviously you've never been in a class with 5 other people with the same name..god i hate my parents for giving me such a common name

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I don't understand your anger. Isn't your beloved relative being honored more now by having multiple children named after him? What an amazing person he must have been when so many people want to remember him in this way. Why not think of it that way instead of thinking it as something harmful?

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Jessica, you're so right! It's like my eldest's name is Seth. You don't hear it here very often, but it's fairly common in the states from what I've been told.

But, your Kieran's in good company. There's an Aussie Olympic champion swimmer named Kieran!

Jacquie - posted on 03/29/2011

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In cases of unrelated people, it is stupidity to consider it name stealing.... however when your sister, who was never raised with you decides to name her son after a grandparent that you adored (and are yourself named after) and that she only briefly knew, I consider that stealing. Especially when you tell her that you are naming your next child that and she has a son before you, and responds that she had a son first. HAHAHA Sorry- this post brought back some repressed anger

Veronique - posted on 03/29/2011

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I agree with you at 100%.......Like really,who cares if there's 2 Emma's in the samme class or 2 Jennifer in the same family or whatever the name is. If you love that name, then name your kid that. Common really people can be soooooooooooo anal about stuff like this.

Mel - posted on 03/29/2011

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no they def need to get over it, one of my friends just called her daughter paige the same as my girl I didnt have a problem with it, I do have a friend though who got angry when I had my first child because she siad the middle name was something she had liked and when I had my second she said "I cant believe you stole my baby name again" I said I didnt know you even liked the name I had no idea, so now for her daughter she said she had to decide on a different name so her baby would be unique. I geuss this is friends though not family. Everyones different in our family except my cousin named her daughter Melissa after her friend that died. We still get confused what mel people are talking to when we are around each other lol

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I think if people feel 'put out' then they have serious problems. Unless you are a corporation, names are not proprietary data. They're a combination of sounds that humans recognize as meaning something. If you are put out by it, then you are self-absorbed and need to really get over yourself. I'm sorry but I have NO patience for that sort of silly thinking.

Becky - posted on 03/29/2011

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I do think that taking the exact name that you know a close friend or family member is planning to use is rude. But I also don't think you can "claim" a name if you're not even pregnant. That's just silly. Especially not if it's a common name. Our boys' names are fairly common, so although I might think it was a bit odd if a close family member named one of their sons Cole or Zach, I wouldn't be offended by it. If they used their exact names, double middle names and all, I wouldn't be offended but I would be thinking, "Ummm, get your own brain!"
If we ever have a girl, her name will be Emily Grace. I know, both very common, but I love the name Emily and Grace is my mom's middle name, and I think they sound pretty together. About a year or so ago, I found the blog of a friend from highschool and her daughter's name is Emily Grace, and the funniest thing is, my friend's name is also Becky! Really though, aside from reading her blog, we're no longer in contact, so I'll still use the name if I ever have a daughter. My best friend is also trying for a girl right now and is thinking of using the middle name Grace too. I don't think it would bother either of us to have our kids have the same middle name though, if we both have girls.

Nikkole - posted on 03/28/2011

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I could care less if someone used one of my kids names the names i liked are popular! My sons name is Jayden Eackie (his middle name is German after his fathers middle name) And my daughters name Is Isabella Elyse i was going to name my son Isabella if her were a girl so i have ALWAY loved that name (not because of twilight lol) Another name we ALMOST went with for my daughter is ElliAnna if we ever have anymore kids ill use that one for a girl!

Jessica - posted on 03/28/2011

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LOL well, that's cool! Its a cool name after all ;) I knew it was more common in some other countries, but you never hear of it in the US.

Jessica - posted on 03/28/2011

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That's why I give my kids "odd" names, so its less likely that someone else will want to use them! Seriously, how many Kierans do you know?

I do think that stealing a name is possible, depending on the circumstance. Like, if you share with someone that you're using a certain name, and then you find out that they use it. I don't think its "stealing" when its someone you know online, or someone just happens to pick the same name by some wierd crazy happenstance and its just a coincidence.

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Boy, George Forman's family must be in strife! He and his wife named all their kids George or Georgia. I think he's got like 4 or 5 Georges.

I don't think you can steal a name, but in situations like Marina, you can be a dick and use a specific, sentimental name. I can totally understand someone in Marina's position being pissed as all hell. You could have still used it though.

I had the opposite problem. When we were pregnant with our first and arguing over names, my husband says jokingly, "you know, if it's a girl her middle name will have to be Rose." I blurted out, "over my stinking, rotting corpse!" you see, it's my MIL's name and both of my husband's siblings gave their girls the middle name of Rose in her honour. So of course it was assumed to be the "tradition". Ha! I had decided that the middle name was going to be my DEAD mother's surname regardless of gender. When his mother karks it, then I might consider it.

Thankfully I have had boys, so it was never an issue. Our 2nd son's middle name is my husband's grandfather's middle name. He was one cool old man, so I agreed with that easily... Not to mention he had died not long before Wyatt was born and was my husband's favourite grandparent.

The way we avoided any possible name stealing was we would give our top three names at the time. We did agree on a girl name, Dahlia, pretty easily. (feel free to steal, we're done having kids) I actually had a lady on CoM want to use the name. Dunno whether she did or not.

Elfrieda - posted on 03/28/2011

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No, that's so lame. I think it comes of finding out the sex of the baby, so instead of everyone speculating on whether it's a boy or a girl, they pry about what you're going to name it. Then finally you give in and tell, and now you sort of feel like you already named the baby that, and now if your sister names her baby that, she's STEALING MY NAME WE MUST FEUD!

It's just silly. Just choose a name, keep it secret, and tell people once the baby is born, whether somebody else used that name too or not.

Caitlin - posted on 03/28/2011

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My first pregnancy I never really thought about it that much, perhaps being the first in the family to have kids (on both sides) and being young so none of my friends have kids has it's advantages. We didn't decide on a name till after the baby was born, we brought a list of the ones we liked most and looked at the baby and deiced there (the first time we didn't know the gender).. The second time I knew it was a girl so I had a list of 3-4 girls names I liked and this time we don't know the gender either, so I'm bringing a list..

Oh, by the way, I'm writing down all your "I love this name" selections and adding them to the list! (kidding)..

The only change I made to my preferences is that I loved Braeden as a boy's name, and totally would have pushed for it, but we had a girl, and after she was born I was hearing that name everywhere and I decided it lost it's sparkle..

My girls are Kayla and Zoe.. The only requirement for a name for #3 is that it cant start with a "Kay" sound, since in our family we have a Karen, Kim, Kayla, Kaleigh, Kyra, Caitlin and Craig.. We get a little tongue tied sometimes... I'm sure if I fell in love with a "kay" name, we'd figure it out, nobody would really care, I only avoid it because it's tough on the grandparents!

Brandi - posted on 03/28/2011

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I think you should keep your baby names to yourself until the last week.. I do hate when people steal baby names.

Anna - posted on 03/28/2011

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a friend of mine introduced me to one of her cousins once. she was like "Lance, this is Anna" and he said "hi. thats my dogs name" nice...hahaha



me and my partner had heaps of trouble agreeing on a name. in the end we decided that if we had a girl i had final say and if we had a boy he had final say. we ended up having a girl and named her Daniella Rosa-Maria. i always loved the name Danielle, but her having a latino daddy ment it HAD to end in an A. Rosa Maria being her grandmothers name. if we had had a boy we would have named him Armando Antonio (my partner is from argentina, so go figure he choses to honor Diego Armando Maradonna lol) and Antonio to represent my grandfather (whos name is Antonius, but i just wasnt having that, so changed it a bit...)



i dont know anyone called Daniella, but i get a lot of shit about her having a long name. comments like "Daniella Rosa-Maria etcetera..." but its my babies name and i like it!

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I don't think you can steal a name either but in my case I did ask my sisters if there were any boys names that they loved and would like me not to use.Luckily the names that they love I don't personally care for. I just wouldn't want to do that to my sisters. kind of like "well I had kids first so I'll use what ever names I want" My older sister loves the name Dylon but her and her husband have been trying with no success for over a year to get pregnant. It has been really hard on them, so I wouldn't want to make it worse by using a name that they love. But my sisters are the only ones I would care about upsetting.
As far as my kids having the same name as lets say kids they go to school with, I went to school with 3 other Erins in my class.

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Friends of ours used the name we'd just given to our baby daughter for their dog. Wouldn't have minded, but it was a horrible dog!

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i don't think you can claim but if you do have a friend and you are expecting a baby around the same time and shes got her heart set on Lily and then you have a girl a week before her and call her Lily then I'd whole heartedly expect your friend to be majorly pissed off.



note to add: my grandmother's name is sarah and so is her mother...and my mother's grandmother's name is serafina and went by sera got really confusing when we were all at a gathering together so in the end my grandmother went by anne her mother went by Elizabeth and my mother's grandmother went by maree (all their middle names) i would of gone by middle name too but my middle name is my mother's first name and my mother's middle name is maree. we have a lot of naming after an older family member sometimes the names are completely identical and one has to go by their middle name to avoid confusion



ohh and a friend of mine that i had fallen out of touch with had a girl on the same day as marshall and she called her scarlette i laughed and said if marsh was a girl we were gonna call him skarlette...we shared the same hospital room and didnt know each other was pregnant. I think it would of been really funny to have Scarlette and Skarlette in the same room but i don't consider it stealing as neither of us knew...lucky we had a boy and lucky i talked my ex out of calling him Crimson (i rode the crimson wave last night *cringe*)

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i don;t think you can steal a name, if you love the name, have always loved the name then go for it, but copying is pretty bad form....i wouldn't use a name that was overly popular, and if people in my tiny community had an ingrid and ursula right after my girls were born i'd feel a little pissed, i chose them because there weren't everywhere , i wanted to call my son matt, but his dad hated it, i was really glad as i girl i went to school with had a baby the same day and named him that, and i would of called my 1st daugter william, but she was a girl, just before she was born my friend had a baby veronica, i love it but had never thought of it, if i had then decided to use it it would of felt like i stole it, when my next baby was born a friend had just had a william, but i had pretty much given up on the name by then as there were just too many, the same with the name issabella (or any of the versions of bella/isolbel names) i just love the name but there are just too many for my liking. My sons name is alexander nikolaus, but goes by nik, when my sil was pregnant she was consdering alex as a boys name, she simply rang and asked if it was ok...of course it was, (if she had just used it i might of been put out but she was open and asked me) she chose james in the end as it went so great with the family middle name she chose (james francis)

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Krista, my PawPaw was Felix. That name was one of our top picks for a middle name if baby had been a boy. It didn't make the final cut, but it was highly considered.

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@ Nikki S
My daughter's name is Isabella and I too had EVERYONE ask me if I had named her after the character in Twilight. I've always liked the name Isabella and personally I detest the twilight series (I've read all the books and they are poorly written tripe) so no I did not name my daughter after the character in the book. On the flip side we call our daughter Bella for short but everyone always tries to call her Izzy which neither I nor my hubby like.

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I named my baby BellaEstrella Marie Avalon. My sister in laws daughters name is Randylin Marie Avalon. Her daughter is 2 years old my baby is 8 months and now let me tell you that me and her are not on good terms and we are not involved with my husbands side of the family at all. We gave her that middle name because my name is Maria and it was kind of similar without being the same and it just flowed smoothly. Well i remember she made a comment like wow really our babies have the same middle name. . . i was like uh and?? i didnt even realize until she had said something and i was like look im not thinking of your daughters name every second of the day and when we named her we ( my husband and i) made that decision together and it had nothing to do with her! Even when i told my husband he was like oh for real? and i was like yea and then that was it i really didnt think it was a big deal its not like they are really family anyways and i didnt do it intentionally.I think sometimes it can be considered "stealing a name" like others have said if someone told you the name they were gonna name their child and you being pregnant at the same time decided to name your kid the same thing and it wold only be inappropropriate if you guys were close other than that i really dont think that is possible.

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I named my oldest daughter Celena Diana. My little sister apparently wanted to use Diana for her daughters middle name and for whatever reason she didn't just because I had already used it. Stupid I know & agree. lol
Fast forward years down the road. I used our grandmothers names in my youngest childs middle name. (Louise) My sister has now dropped that as a middle name for her future children because I used it first. IT IS A MIDDLE NAME. LOL If you think first names are bad think of the people that do it over middle names. She freaked when her step sister liked the middle name Jean that my sister used for her daughters middle name and used for her daughters middle name as well. I finally told my sister she was being stupid and to get over it. It wasn't a big deal.

Johnny - posted on 03/27/2011

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I love the name Isobel too. Don't be mad, but it's my cat's name. When we got our cats, we believed we were infertile and would never have kids, so I wanted to use one of my favorite names.



My husband always wanted to name a son James. It is his absolute favorite name. So he named our male cat that. When we were finally expecting, he wanted to name our child James if it was a boy. I refused to have a cat and a child with the same name, so he suggested we change the cat's name. I refused. It wasn't the cat's fault that the doctors were wrong, lol.



As for stealing names, no, I don't think it's an issue. I know some people think its a huge deal, but it's not for me. I had the same #1 girls name picked out since college, and I used it. I couldn't have cared less if someone else did before or after. And as it turns out, one of the closest friends I have made since my daughter was born has a daughter with the same name, different spelling. I just think it shows what great taste she has.



I do agree with keeping the name a secret as the best way to avoid potential drama. We did not tell anyone, although most of my good friends weren't surprised. Her middle name is Rose, and I actually had an acquaintance ask me if it would bother me if she used it for a middle name too. I thought that was funny. It's pretty common as a middle name and I certainly don't own it.



I really hope if we have another kid it is a girl. My husband and I have never been able to find a boy's name that we like. We've been discussing it ever since we first talked about conceiving, and still, nothing.

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@ Jessi. I've got to side with your husband on names. Johnny is a great name! ;-))

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My husband loves the name Preston and was set on it. Since I really did not want to use that name I was complaining to my work mates about it. They all said they didn't like the name....now two of them have called their sons Preston hahah i don't care they can have it. We really like the name Morgan for a girl but a girl I also worked with had called her daughter that so i asked her if she would mind if we used it, she is one of the ones who called her son Preston. She was happy for us to but we had sons so we never did get our Morgan.

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