Swearing!!! €¥%#!!! Not a debate

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Do u think Swearing is important to get your point across?Does it make you feel good? Do you think it is cool? Or would you prefer not to swear but simply can't as it has become a habit? Do you swear in front of your kids?

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Sarah - posted on 02/08/2011

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Swear words are only words, I'm not offended by them at all.
I try not to swear in front of my kids, but I have done. I've also, however, told them that they are "grown-up" words that they are not to repeat. Neither of them swear by the way.

I'm a bit confused as to why you've put the heading "not a debate", you've asked questions about our feelings on swearing and our thoughts on swearing, so it's bound to turn into a debate! :)

Rosie - posted on 02/08/2011

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i swear like a sailor, and i do it in front of my kids. they don't swear they have been informed it's an adult activity, much like driving a car, or having sex, or drinking alcohol.



yes it makes me feel good, no i don't really think it's cool, nor do i think it's uncool. it just is a way to express myself that makes me feel better, lol. sometimes i just need to say fuck every now and then. what's the big deal? it is just a word,



all that crap about how uneducated it makes you look is ridiculous. sure you may think that, but i'm not uneducated. what harm is it causing anybody else if i'm not swearing AT them? personally i think implying someone is uneducated because they choose to use a different word of our vocabulary than others, is alot worse to me than someone saying "oh FUCK, i forgot the mail!!!!" aahh, but i digress, some people just can't get over the stigma attached to swearing-which is a damn shame! :)

Krista - posted on 02/08/2011

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You have to be able to turn it on and off, really. I don't swear in front of my son, or in a setting where I think people might be offended.



However, if I'm with just my husband or with friends who I know aren't offended by swearing? Then yes, I can cuss like a sailor.



I don't think it's necessarily "cool", per se. However, it CAN be extremely satisfying (much more so than "oopsy daisy" would be!) I take umbrage with people who suggest that those who swear do so because their vocabulary is lacking. My vocabulary is excellent. However, sometimes a good, hearty curse word is the EXACT word I seek in a given situation, and any euphemistic pretend-cuss words would just be pale substitutes.



Sometimes, you just have to say "fuck". Say it loud, say it proud! Fuck, fuck, fuckity fuck! :)

Jodi - posted on 02/08/2011

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Just words. I do think there is a time and a place, however. Do I think it is cool? Seriously? I'm past that shit. I'm probably more of the ilk whereby it is habit. Do I swear in front of my kids? Sometimes, yes. I try to be careful about it and the context in which I swear *shrugs*



My kids know they shouldn't swear, although my teens tend to drop one every now and then. As long as it isn't in general conversation, it isn't AT anyone, and it isn't done with the intention of offending, and it is not a frequent thing, then I kind of turn a blind eye. Although it does depend on the word, the context, etc.... I mean, I'm not going to kick up a stink if my 13 year old decides to say "shit" when he drops and breaks a glass.....and that's probably about as bad as it gets around here, so.....

Johnny - posted on 02/08/2011

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I'm not sure where people get this idea that there is a correlation between education and swearing. Obviously, people who repeat any word too often in their speech sound like numbskulls, be it the teenybopper "like" or an adult saying "fuck" every 3rd word. But occasional use of swear words in context does not indicate idiocy or stupidity or lack of vocabulary. It may just be that the speaker feels they are choosing the word that best suits their current situation. Many great writers have liberally sprinkled swear words throughout their writing. Are you calling Shakespeare uneducated? He used many of the "coarse words" of his day through his plays.

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MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 01/20/2012

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For me it is a habit but I know when to use it and when not to.. I would never swear at work, except when with work friends... I don't walk down the street swearing so everyone can hear me, I respect those that don't like it. I DO swear at home in front of my kids... They know they had better not until they earn the right as an adult! ;) Mine are 13 years and 15 months, my 13 year old does NOT swear, around my husband and I, she knows better. It's not a monkey see monkey do, if you teach them right and wrong... However, I will tone it down a bit now that my lil' one is just learning to talk, as he doesn't understand the right and wrong yet... ;) And I am from AB - lived there 24 years, now I am in NS...alot of young and old people here.... all depends on where you are at the time for who swears but in AB it doesn't matter it is a part of the socialness of the province! LOL

Proud - posted on 01/17/2012

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I don't swear and cringe when I hear someone else use such words. We do not allow swearing in our household. The rule in our house for visitors is if you swear then you can step outside until you cleanup your language.

Stifler's - posted on 02/09/2011

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I know bahahaha but still, he is just portraying the way some real people carry on. "give me back my purse ya fucken dickhead! JUST FUCKIN RELAX AYE!"

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Emma - I LOVE TRENT! funniest thing is that its all acting and it was his audition clip for NIDA he got in

Becky - posted on 02/09/2011

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LOL Petra, I must sound weird then, I live in AB too, and almost never say fuck. Good ol' redneck Alberta.

Jodi - posted on 02/09/2011

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Interesting YouTube clip Sarah....it's just a pity it really didn't disprove the theory of people with a lesser vocab using the words :)

Disatistfaction = Dissatisfaction

Incompitance = Incompetence



Oh well......it was fucking funny anyway :P

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lol "fuck the fuckin fuckers and theyre fuckin little fuck fuckers" - some guy at the pub...but the fave saying in my hood has to be "ahh ya fuckin white cunts fuckin don't need no fuckin white man fuckin money fuck me i don" the next day you see them at centrelink waiting for their "white man money" not being racist but its true. i can't win living behind a pub thank the Lord i'm moving in July



edit has anyone seen the history of the f word? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FvPbxZmZx... for your pleasure. i might also note that before i had marsh i used to swear like a sailor

Petra - posted on 02/09/2011

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Oh yeah, this fucken guy with his fucken dog that was fucken trying to fuck my fucken dog (it's definitely "fucken", not "fucking")... add in the newfies (whom I love!) and you get "ay there ya fucken by!" Good times.

Stifler's - posted on 02/09/2011

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Ditto, I live in Emerald and most bogan miners are like 'So I was fucken... down at the fucken pub.. and some fucken dickhead comes up to me and fucken.. ahh ya cunt".

Petra - posted on 02/09/2011

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I live in Alberta, where the men are men and the women are objectified :-)

You sound weird here if you don't say "fucken..." before every noun.

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petra i think its almost a requirement in townsville to say some sort of expletive in every sentence...mind you i live in a town full of rednecks and well drunk natives to put it nicely

Petra - posted on 02/09/2011

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Whether you use "fudge" or "fuck" to express yourself in an unfortunate situation, the intent is still the same. If someone referred to me as a "doo-doo" or an "excrement", I'd take offense just as I would if someone called me a piece of shit. I'll watch the general intent of what my boy is saying, rather than pick apart his diction. If he's calling me, his father, friends, teachers or whathaveyou, morons or jerks or dummies, I will take issue with that. If he drops something, stubs something, and follows up with the odd expletive, I don't really see a problem. People sound low class not because they pepper their language with swear words, but because of how they speak/express themselves as a whole. My brother is one of those guys who employs colourful words in nearly every sentence, but the other words that make up the sentence are anything but simple. I wish he'd watch it a bit more, but I think my kid is going to be asking "what's a polycarbide resin?", rather than "what's a fucktard?" after hanging out with his uncle.

Give them a healthy vocabulary and they can find numerous ways to express themselves - just teach them how to express themselves appropriately. And yeah, there are those rare instances where nothing other than "FUCK fuck fuck fucking fuck" will suffice.

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i try and not swear at all especially in front of marsh i tend to use substitute words like "sugar" and "fudge" and "crayons" yup yup im imaginative my fave would have to be "you! see you next tuesday!" ive also noticed i say "gosh" a lot more

Sharon - posted on 02/08/2011

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I don't swear much on front of the kids. A "shit!!" here or a "god damn it!" there is about it.

Mostly i dont fucking care.

Veronica - posted on 02/08/2011

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HAHAHAHA - ok - i dont mean to literally hold a class with your kids, and teach them the dos and donts of swearing either! hahaha that is what my post sounded like I was saying -- so now we have English class, Grammer, and now Profanity 101 hehehehe

Veronica - posted on 02/08/2011

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I dont want to say that its 'OK' to cuss around your kids -- but I certainly am not going to beat myself up about it either, and worry about it damaging my kids --- i will not be the first or the last person that they will hear say a swear word - my kids hear swear words on tv, some movies (and then they arent allowed to watch that anymore), my family, my friends, etc. They will hear it at school, at friends houses, and throughout life -- I am in agreeance with the rest - if you are going to be the horses mouth -- then at least teach your kids the right 'etiquette' of swearing -- time and place, and context/content in which to use it. And teach them respect as well. Cunt is one ugly ass word that will never be allowed, and same with jesus christ, or god-damn -- those three words hit some nerves.



Edited to add: I am not going to sheild my kids and put wool over their eyes/ears -- same goes with other things in this world.

Medic - posted on 02/08/2011

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This is cracking me up....yes I swear, no I don't think its cool, yes its probably habit and because I was raised that they are just words as long as your not calling someone it. Like I could not call my mom a bitch...but I could say she was acting like a bitch. I usually don't say fuck I tend to say effin. Unless some major pain is involved and no "oopsy daisy" makes me feel like a moron and "FUCK" makes it feel better. No I usually don't curse infront of my kids. They prolly hear assssssssssss drawn out like that from joking between me and their father. No it does not bother me the main thing that gets me is people dropping the "f-bomb" around my kids. They have never repeated anything they have heard unless you count my four year old saying he wants to go to the Dam Dam or the Dam Store or the Dam Restaurant...which are all actual names of actual places by the dam.

Melissa - posted on 02/08/2011

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I swear because its just how I talk so more like a habit but my inlaws dont use those words so sometimes its really hard for me not to, and when Ive been angry I have let slip a couple of times but I think only a few times in 5 years is pretty good. I swear in front of my kids try not to sometimes because she thinks its ok to say "shit" whenever she drops something or whatever so now I try not to or go to say it and change the word around, then when hubby says it I say dont say that word it teaches Brianna to use it. I guess the way I see it when she's older she will know I say those words she isnt allowed. I still swear. I use every word in the book.

~Jennifer - posted on 02/08/2011

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Or should I say, "I do, however, curse quite often." ?



Does that statement make me sound a bit more educated?

Veronica - posted on 02/08/2011

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Jenn - you swear in a very educated, and eloquent way - - when i see that you've replied to a debate - i cant wait to hear what you have to say! And its very educated vocab - with cuss words!

~Jennifer - posted on 02/08/2011

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Swearing, huh?



....I'm from New Jersey - it's a requirement here.

...never really thought about it, I just do it.

I guess it's a way of life.

Trust me...when some asshole on the GSP Jersey slides into the front of you at the off ramp, you're going to say 'fuck'....usually to them, not because of them. Flipping the bird is optional, as long as you can drive with your knee because you're probably holding a coffee and eating a buttered roll while putting on your makeup and driving.



(....and I'll happily allow anyone to challenge my vocabulary, should anyone wish to play the "I'm more educated than you" game.)

;)

Veronica - posted on 02/08/2011

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I had to really pay attention when i got a teacher's note that my son was saying shit and damn at school -- ooops.... that was NOT cool. So even though i like colorful language too - that was one thing i knew i had to change up.

Veronica - posted on 02/08/2011

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Krista - when my husband pisses me off, and i cant explain anything anymore clearer to his dead-brain times -- i like the phrase - "fuck fuck, fuckity fuck fuck" hahaha

Veronica - posted on 02/08/2011

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Yea, my little girl gets picked on by the older ones, and will scream, "you fuckens!!!" i cant help it - and she has this tiny little voice, and her teeth are a little bucked from sucking her thumb, and she has these little knock-knees -- so the site of her, and the sound of her, and then the words -- crazy little girl!
Kids can say the darndest things!

Katherine - posted on 02/08/2011

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My older one when she was little would run around saying shit, fuck intermittently.
I had to ignore it.
She tripped and said it.
She ran into something and said it.
Now she knows they're bad words

Krista - posted on 02/08/2011

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Yeah, it's definitely not cute when a toddler curses habitually and the parents don't even make an effort to nip it in the bud. But the odd, in-context outburst from a kid? It's damn hard not to laugh.

My FIL used to own a lobster pound, and one sunny June day, this fellow and his little girl came out on the wharf to buy some lobsters. The little girl was about three, blonde curls, just absolutely angelic-looking.

She sees a bucket of shiners (tiny fish used for bait) on the wharf and that one managed to get out of the bucket and was flopping around on the wharf. So she figured she'd rescue it.

However, picking up a small, live fish is definitely easier said than done, particularly when your fine motor skills are still developing. So she was having no small bit of trouble getting hold of this fish.

Finally, in exasperation, she blows her bangs out of her eyes and mutters, "Hold still, you little fuckface!"

My FIL ran like hell around to the back of the pound so that nobody could see him laughing his ass off.

Veronica - posted on 02/08/2011

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I use swear words in a lot of context -- in joy, "hell ya!", in sex, "damn!" when things go wrong, "fuck!" or my fav. "fuck it" or "what-the-fuck-ever!" I made the mistake of saying 'fucking asshole' in front of my daughter while i was chatting with my mom about a particular person, and now when my daughter gets mad (she is 3) she will say fucken or fucken asshole' -- I really regret it - but sometimes its funny how she says it --- like she didnt want to come home, she wanted to go to Amma's house (grandma) - the whole time she said, " i hate this stupid house, i dont want to go to this fucken house' -- my mom busted a gut - she couldnt believe it --- Finally - its part of the lingo -- but we work harder to keep it out of the kids' lingo - other than the fucken incident with my daughter - the only other words ive heard out of my kids was 'damn it'.

Stifler's - posted on 02/08/2011

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One of my friend's kids went through a phase of telling everyone to "fuck up!". It was so bad because none of us could stop laughing long enough to tell her it was naughty. I don't think we realised how much we swore until then.

Jodi - posted on 02/08/2011

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Oh well, I'll fess up. I DID laugh :D

My husband works in a very blokey environment, so he tends to sometimes say fuck when he doesn't realise it. Well, obviously he also says *fuck that* because when Taylah was about 3, I asked her to please help pack up her toys, and she swung around gave me a dirty look and said "Fuck THAT" (emphasis and everything). What could I say (other than to kick my husband's arse)? I mean, she DID use it in context.



After I had finished laughing, I did explain to her that it really wasn't very nice to say that, and that I didn't want to hear her say it again. She never has said it again.



Her latest if we swear is "OI, that's enough of that".

Katherine - posted on 02/08/2011

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My LO repeated FUCK after I said it when I walked into her poop smeared room.


She was like *sigh* FUCK!!!!!!

It was amusing, but, I.did.not.laugh.

Krista - posted on 02/08/2011

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@Esther: Fuck is really reserved for very special occassions only.

Appropriate for weddings AND bar mitzvahs, no doubt...

Charlie - posted on 02/08/2011

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they are words , all words are used to express oneself it is how you use it that matters .

When I hurt myself it does feel good to say FUCK!!
Do I think it's cool ? No does anyone older than ten think it is cool ?
Is it a habit ? probably like it is habit to answer " good " when someone asks how I am .
DO I swear in front of the kids ? occasionally but never at them or any other person .

Becky - posted on 02/08/2011

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To be honest, I don't really like swearing. I didn't hear much of it growing up and was brought up to believe it wasn't right, so, while I don't believe it's "wrong", I'm uncomfortable with it. I wouldn't say I'm offended by it, unless it's directed at me, but it does bother me when a person's conversation contains a lot of profanity.
I do think it can have it's place - although I don't really think it's ever truly necessary, I do understand how sometimes, it's just the only thing that really fits. I do swear, sometimes. I'll say shit when I drop a glass - which I do quite often :/ or "get out of my way, jackass!" when I'm driving. Actually, I use ass a fair bit. And I use crap, but I don't really consider that a swear word. I try to watch who I use it around because I know some people do find it offensive. I don't like fuck or cunt, so I very rarely use the first and never, ever use the second. I try very hard not to swear around my kids. Occassionally I slip up. My husband swears quite a bit and I get on his case for it a lot. HOwever, I don't think his swearing is any worse than the fact that he calls people stupid, idiots, etc. Those aren't words I want my kids to think it's okay to call people either!
While I don't think it makes people sound any less intellegent to say Fuck or shit when they slam their finger in a door or break something, or to say, "Move it asshole!" I do think that when someone uses a swear word every second word in casual conversation, it makes them sound low-class and uneducated.
The words we don't use in our house are Oh my God, Jesus Christ,(as an expletive) and God-Damn. Cole picked up Oh my God on TV and thought it was great fun to go around saying that for awhile. We were at my cousin's wedding and standing out in the foyer of the church and he was playing and saying that over and over. It was a little funny, and embarassing! I just ignored it and he's quit saying it now.

Lysandra - posted on 02/08/2011

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I was brought up to believe swearing was something that was bad and that only a certain type of person used that kind of language and I still completely agree with that. Yes they are only words but it is foul and I would be disgusted if my child had a foul mouth when he is older, It drives me mad when I hear toddlers swearing and parents laughing. Things seem to have become so lapse with potty mouths almost as though it's just how things are now, but I believe swear words are for people who have not got the necessary vocabulary to think of any other words. I swear very rarely only if I'm so annoyed that I feel I'm gong to burst but I still always apologise to anyone around for my offensive language.

Nikkole - posted on 02/08/2011

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Yea my son will say oh crap or something like that :) i cant stand seeing 4-7 year olds cussing like sailors drives me nuts.

Nikkole - posted on 02/08/2011

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I usually dont curse especially in front of the kids i dont want them doing to school ad repeating those words!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/08/2011

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It is much easier to say "you fucking ASSHOLE!" To someone that cuts you off in traffic instead..."gee whiz" It is more satisfying...I also like to flip the bird...I suppose that falls under swearing...and honking my horn....I usually mean it to say "move you FUCK ASS!" , or "look out DOUCH FACE!" or "GO you DIPSHIT!" so does my horn swear to?

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