sweet sixteen...

Tah - posted on 03/27/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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So i am watching super sweet sixteen and watching these brats cuss and fuss at their parents..Tell these parents to send back the "mercedes" they ordered and get me the "range rover"...and all other manner of craziness. So i started to wonder..



do we think that children that are more priveleged are raised to be brats because the parents appease them with things?



If you won the lottery right now, would you spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on a b-day party?



Would your children ever be able to disrespect you rich or not?

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Jessica - posted on 03/29/2010

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HELL NO!!! I watched this one where the girls mother gave her a brand new car (my son wouldn't get one till he could pay for it himself, or at least save up half the money and I would add the rest) the day before her party and she went MENTAL saying that her mom had ruined her LIFE! that she had to cancel the party, she was throwing a proper strop and the mother was actually APOLOGIZING! If that was me, I'd have clipped her round the ear and sent the car back to the dealer!!!!!



EDIT: Must add that the reason her life was 'ruined' was because she didn't receive the car on the night of her party when there would be hundreds of teenagers watching!

Jocelyn - posted on 03/28/2010

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If I had a bunch of money laying around, and I didn't have anything else to spend it on (*sigh* wouldn't that be nice :P ) then I would certainly spend it on a party....for me!!! Well, I would TRY to spend loads of money, but I am a sucker for a low price and a good deal.
If my kids ever asked for a partly like that I think I would fall over laughing. I might consider doing something like, how ever much money you can earn/save I would match, but to flat out pay for the complete party, ha yeah right.
But no way in HELL would I ever allow my children to behave like these kids do!!! They would get a slap upside the head and loose what ever privileges they had. And if they threw a hissy fit and crashed their car (like someone said above me) then they would be riding the bus ^_^

Rose - posted on 03/28/2010

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I hate them dumb shows. I would never in a million years do that even if i was rich. Especially if the child talked to me like that. If they want something big and extravagant like that they can find some way to do it themselves. I would be totally embarrassed if my child talked to me like that on national television much less in private. My child will not disrespect me ever!!!

La - posted on 03/28/2010

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Those kids are rude and bratty because they don't appreciate anything (including their parents) and have never had to work or want for anything. I do think a lot of it is the parents giving in to whatever the children want. I haven't seen a single parent on that show that put their foot down with their child. Even if I had the money I wouldn't spend that much money on any party, even a wedding. Half a million on a one time event? Ridiculous and frivalous...

Tah - posted on 03/27/2010

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you mean your kids can't call u names and say they hate u and u are ruining their lives as they storm off to their bedrooms that are as big as yours.or grab the keys to their 80,000 dollar truck and speed off and spend ur money in the mall until they calm down.......huh..interesting..lol..one girl crashed her car only to get another, they showed that on the update....and some of these kids got more than one car....

Sharon - posted on 03/27/2010

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My kids are not allowed to disrespect me EVER.

I don't see having money changing that for us. yes, gifts might get more extravagent, parties bigger but I put time & effort into my kids gifts and parties they'd damn well better appreciate it or get the hell out and do for themselves.

Lea - posted on 03/27/2010

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I don't think certain material things are necessary no matter how much money you have. I think that no matter how much money you make, you can still spend your money on healthy, non-materialistic things. As for buying expensive cars, I don't think thats necessary. Why couldn't you go backpacking through Europe with your teen, or go do charity work in Africa, or pay for a semester of study abroad, etc. I mean, put your money to good use giving your child an EXPERIENCE, a feeling that there is something bigger than themselves, that they are part of something, that their lives can mean something. These parents think that they are giving their kids something, when in essence they are taking something more important away - the ability to find joy in themselves.

Esther - posted on 03/27/2010

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I was once driving on the interstate and there was a car next to me with a mom and a teenage son in it. Mom was driving and the son had pushed his chair all the way back and was lounging with his feet up on the dashboard. I found that to be so disrespectful to the mom. Like she was his chauffeur or something. Imagine how I would take to this kind of behavior. Yeah, not having it. That being said, if I had millions and millions of dollars, undoubtedly I would do some spoiling. I grew up in an upper middle-class home and I never wanted for anything. We took regular vacations, I got nice brand label clothes etc. But with everything I got, my parents instilled in me how fortunate I was to have these luxuries. And when I turned 16 I was ordered to get myself a weekend job (my mom said I had 2 weeks to find something or she would find me something). So when my dad lost his job and all the luxuries had to go, my brother and I never bat an eye. We never had any sense of entitlement. I think it is possible to give your kids a good life and spoil them to a point, but not turn them into brats who think the world owes them.

Lisamarie - posted on 03/27/2010

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I would never let my children disrespect me like that, ever! No amount of money in the world would change that. Man, I wish I did have that money though. Me and the hubby have spoken about this once or twice. (his side of the family are hard workers and are doing extremely well for themselves) We sort of said well, if we ever did have that sort of money we would not spoil our children, although I think it's hard not to when it's new money, if you never had it before you'd want to splash out, well, I would, lol.

My hubbys uncle are quite well off and their children are very respectful of their parents and their children do get WHATEVER they want, they may have to wait (and when they do they don't maon the whole time) but they'll get it eventually and are grateful for everything they get. However, his other uncle, equally as wealthy has children who get away with murder and run riots around their parents and always want want want, nothing is ever good enough. 12 yearold gets a laptop for christmas and complains because it's not the top of the range one she wanted in the wrong colour!!

My point is it very much depends on the parents, you have to teach your child respect, no respect, no treats!

Carolee - posted on 03/27/2010

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If my kids ever tried anything like that, I would slap them upside the head!



The most I would do as far as the car thing would be to co-sign for a car that they would pay for and help them get a job. My husband, on the other hand, would buy them anything their hearts desired without a second thought! It's a good thing that we have another 13 years before then...

Laura - posted on 03/27/2010

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Did anyone see the show that was a spinoff of the super sweet sixteen show? I forget what it was called, something like Banished but I don't think that was it but it was a long that line. Anyhow, they went back to these bratty girls when they turned eighteen and surprise, surprise they were spongy loafs on a couch with no plans for their future and the parents were frustrated (really, how did that happen?) with no clue as to what to do. So, they sent these girls to other countries were they had no and I mean NO luxuries. Some had to collect animal dung for the fire, some had to do the "house" wash of the manure water mix, they had no privacy, shared huts with the family, no bathrooms, bugs everywhere. The basic premise being that kids their age in other countries have to do so much more for so much less and that they should appreciate their parents and all that they have worked so hard to provide them with. The show was hilarious but I haven't seen anymore of it. I can't stand the sixteen birthday party show though. How ridiculous to do that for your kids and then expect them to not be a brat.

Tah - posted on 03/27/2010

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what wedding...when they came in engaged, i would hope the parents would say, yeah remember that big blow-out when the script came and sang how they couldn't be moved and hearts not breaking even while you sat on stage in your 5,000 dollar dress and then hopped in your new range...yeah..that was your wedding money..so go to the corner and make a left and 3 rights and there is the JOP...kisses and good luck...

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I would be willing to bet that the majority of those parents are swimming in debt. Appearances are very deceiving.

If I had millions of dollars, I would spend some on my daughter...for things like her college education.

I want my daughter to be grateful for what she has and not take it for granted. So rich or not, I will teach my daughter the value of a dollar and good work ethic and how to save. What good is it going to do her to provide everything for her? So when she gets in the real world she can feel entitled and get herself in serious debt?

I have a friend whose family is very wealthy. She grew up to become a teacher. Great teacher, but the job doesn't pay well. She has no concept of a dollar and is spending her way into financial ruin. I don't blame it on her family's wealth, but their failure to teach her about money and always giving her what she wants. Incidentally, she does not disrespect her parents like the brats on the show.

And speaking of that, disrespect is a serious offense. It really bugs me how entitled people think they are.

Tah - posted on 03/27/2010

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thats how i feel, i mean what would make your child think they could they could behave and talk to the parents in such a manner, i would no doubt strip them of everything and sing a happy song while doing it...i was doing a paper for school and it just happened to be on and they have to bleep put half the things they say, they tell the "planners" there is no budget...like when did u get a job kid....they pay stars hundred of thousands of dollars to come serenade this brat that just cussed them out and snuck out and threw a tantrum in a store in paris that you flew them to in your private jet so that noone else would have their dress on for their party, and i almost had an attack of some sort wanting to climb in the t.v...it was horrible...

LaCi - posted on 03/27/2010

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If my son ever wanted a party like that I would die laughing. Fat chance. I don't care how much money I have there are much better things to spend money on than that. The price of one of those parties could help a lot of people who are struggling to survive. But I'm a cheapskate. I don't believe anyone should be so over the top. It's disgusting to me.



I really hope my son is never so disrespectful. The punishment for that kind of behavior would be severe. I'd take everything he had away, no luxuries left. I think those kids deserve a good beating, from their parents of their classmates. Whichever. Somebody needs to knock them back into reality.



It's absolutely the parents fault though. You reap what you sow I suppose.

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