Tattoos and being a mom

Nikkole - posted on 01/22/2011 ( 36 moms have responded )

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Do you think others judge you if you have tattoos or body mods and your mom? (thought id ask cause of the other threads about tattoos and body mods)

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Sal - posted on 05/10/2012

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Jen, the southern cross Emma and I are talking about is the stars on the aussie flag. It is ment to show prariotim but had been hijacked by some elements if society in my opinion now I feel it is getting a bit racist

Laura - posted on 01/22/2011

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I only have ear piercing and an ankle tat but I do think people judge no matter what you do so you can't worry about it. Weather it's what you wear, if your kid decides to throw a fit in the middle of the store, you breastfeed in public, you name it some one is going to be there judging it so if you want to do body mod more power to you. I personally want another tattoo but I don't have the money for it right now.

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Sal - posted on 05/10/2012

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Ohh Emma I so get the southern cross tattoo thing I don't think Aussie pride I think red neck....
And I dont judge people for having tattoos, but I do sometimes judge what they have tattooed on them selves.... Like the southern cross

User - posted on 05/10/2012

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I dont feel judged, by anyone, in fact ive never noticed people looking or anything. But then i too preoccupied with my son to notice anyone else around me :)

Jenn - posted on 06/05/2011

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What is a "southern cross"? If you look at this pics, you can see my back piece. I also have a small heart with a tattoo gun through it between my boobies, and my lower abdomen is covered in a tribal/kokopelli - I got it as a fertility symbol because I knew I wanted kids one day and didn't know if it would happen as there tend to be a lot of female issues in my family. Obviously it worked and then some - I got twins! :P

Jenn - posted on 06/05/2011

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I'm sure I get judged for having tats (I used to have piercings, now just regular earrings), both before I had kids and after, but I really don't give a shit what people think. I got them because I like them, not for anyone else. Most of my family isn't fond of it either, but they don't say anything about it or make me feel bad about it, it's just not their thing. Although, my Grandad has a large tattoo on his forearm from when he was in the army, and serves as a reminder of his twin brother who died while they were serving during WWII.

Corinne - posted on 06/05/2011

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I'm in the middle of designing a full back and leg piece that I've been wanting for years. Unfortunately it will mean that I'm less employable if I return to dancing, but that was the only reason I'd not done it before. Now I just don't care what people think of how I look and what I wear ( today it's a floor length floaty dress, biker boots and leather jacket ) I'm also getting my nipple re-pierced :)

Jessica - posted on 06/04/2011

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I'm sure I get judged because of them, I also don't care! I'll be getting my 13th done in November for my baby boy and I also was actually talking to my hubby about half sleeves the other night! Once my youngest is a year I want to go do the 4 year midwifery program now offered in my city and upon graduation get both half sleeves done, and I have both tats picked out, they are beautiful pregnancy artwork. :)



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Joanna - posted on 06/04/2011

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This thread bump got my excited for my new tattoo tomorrow :) it'll be lucky number 24... Though soon many of them will turn into one since my sleeve is coming together nicely.

Yes, I do get judged. No, I don't care.

Amanda - posted on 06/04/2011

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Yes I think people do judge... I have them and I don't care wat they say... I know I'm a good mom and my art work doesn't change that

Amy - posted on 01/23/2011

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I do henna - a lot in the summer. It goes on hands and feet -quite obvious. My daughter has it too. She's 4. It's just a tradition that we do in the summer. She loves it. People look at us like we're nuts and like I'm a terrible mom. They don't even understand it's not permanent, they just look at me like i'm awful and if htey see hers, their eyes get huge. I don't think what you look like, what kind of jewelry you wear, what tattoos you have...makes you a good or bad mom. The only time i don't like mods/tattoos is when people are complaining about not having money for kids' this and that, but JUST got a new huge tattoo that you know costs lots of money. But that would be the same if the parent spent tons of money on anything, then turned around and said we have no money for blah blah blah..whatever.

Stifler's - posted on 01/23/2011

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BAHAHA I hate Southern Cross tattoos. There are like 20 nations with it on their flag and that can see it, it's not Australian! It doesn't represent Aussie pride it's so ridiculous.

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Yes I do because I do and even I have a tat. I am always curious how moms explained it to their kids. I make it sound horrible and beyond painful. When I get my kids names woven into my wolves I have on my back I fully plan on having all my kids there so they can see what kind of pain, blood, etc. is involved. I am a nurse so I don't see a problem with it. As a child I witnessed my mother (also a nurse) using maggots to treat an open wound & I thought it was both disgusting and neat. Sorry but the logic leap makes sense in my head. :) lol

Rosie - posted on 01/23/2011

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all this tattoo talk is getting me excited for my next one that i'll get when taxes come back!! lol!

Shauna - posted on 01/23/2011

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I dont think i feel judged at all. People stare, but mainly just b/c they are trying to read what they say or what they are.
Society is accepting these things far more than the past. 10 yrs ago i had to take out all of my pericings and cover my tattoos when i worked at PETCO!!!!! Now that im older being a preschool teacher i can expose any of my tattoos and mothers of all economic diversities, still come to me for advice on their child. And still respect me. So no i dont feel judged at all. I like when ppl look :)

Krista - posted on 01/23/2011

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I definitely want to get another tattoo.

I'm going to wait until we're done having kids, first.

Then, I want to get this heart: http://www.tiffany.ca/shopping/Item.aspx...

Except, instead of the letters spelling "Tiffany", I'm going to have them spell "Famille" ("family" in French, as a nod to my background). And there will be three keys attached to it instead of just one. And engraved on the keys will be my husband's name, and my kids' names.

I've been thinking of getting another tattoo for awhile, but wanted it to be something meaningful. And nothing is more meaningful to me than my family.

I was originally going to get it small, but now I'm thinking of getting it made as a fairly decent-sized back piece -- maybe about the size of a salad plate.

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I'm sure they do, but I don't care. I only have one--a monkey climbing around my ear on the side of my skull. You can't really see it unless my hair is up, but I wear it up a lot.

The truth is, I got the tattoo to say something about myself. I WANT people to see the tattoo and know a little something about me, so I don't mind if they form an opinion or judge me for it. I like what it says about me and it was well thought out, so most people come to a similar opinion about me when they see it.

Iris - posted on 01/23/2011

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No I don't feel judged. I'm planning to get one across my back, just still working on what it will be...

Stifler's - posted on 01/23/2011

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I think people with kids are heaps cooler if they have tattoos. Although I have seem some pretty ridiculous southern cross tattoos on mums. Ew.

Jocelyn - posted on 01/23/2011

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Haha yeah Sarah I can sympathize; I've had fingers poked thru my nose hoop before :S

Jocelyn - posted on 01/23/2011

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Oh and I wouldn't care even if other people had an issue with my tats and being a mom. Kids LOVE my tattoos and my piercings ^_^

Jocelyn - posted on 01/23/2011

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I don't think people judge me for having tattoos. Generally if someone is judging me just by looking at me it's because I'm a "young mom" :P I only ever get complements on my tattoos, but I've gotten the "young mom" trash talk under their breath a couple of times.

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i have a tattoo on my wrist (which im adding to so it goes up my forearm) and my son's name on my left foot i have three piercings in my ear and used to have a nose piercing and three naval piercings. I think people judge me but hey i can cover up my tats and take out my piercings whenever i want

Bonnie - posted on 01/22/2011

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No, I don't think anyone judges me because of it. I have two piercings in each ear and one tattoo on my lower back. No one as really ever said anything to me about them, just they were kind of surprised to see that I had a tattoo. "Bonnie, you have a tattoo? Sweet innocent Bonnie has a tattoo, really?" So what I have a tattoo. That doesn't change the person that I am inside and doesn't really change the person I am on the outside either. Definitely doesn't change my abilities to be a great/loving mom. Besides, I am not all that innocent anyways! lol

Krista - posted on 01/22/2011

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I don't think I'm judged on my tattoos. In fact, I get a lot of compliments on them. I'm also going to be getting a back piece this summer (hopefully) when I lose all my baby weight. I also have at least 3 more tattoos planned in my head. I'd have 6 tattoos if I got all the ones I want at the moment. All rather large ones as well.

Sarah - posted on 01/22/2011

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I don't feel judged for having tattoos and being a Mum.
If I was judged for it, I wouldn't care, it's only a tattoo or 5 lol!

Tara - posted on 01/22/2011

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I find it is accepted by society to have tatts in this day age.
I don't have my yet but have spent the last 16 years thinking about it. This summer is my time!
And I have told all my mom friends, and my kids. No problems around here, unless they're talking behind my back, in which case I still don't give a rats ass.
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Charlie - posted on 01/22/2011

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No I don't feel judged but then again I couldn't give a shit really and if for some reason my tattoos show a persons true colors , that they are shallow and judgmental then goodbye and good riddance and thank you to my tatts for exposing them .

~Jennifer - posted on 01/22/2011

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I really don't give a shit what anyone thinks of my tattoos.
My tattoos are part of who I am, being a mom is part of who I am, and there are more than just those 2 parts....
If someone chooses to judge me poorly because of the way I look or the things I like rather than my actions or personal integrity, well, then they're just a shallow person whose opinion would not have mattered to me in the first place.

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yes people judge me. My sister said when i was pregnant. "So your going to get normal hair and take out the piercings now right?" hahahahaha nope.
I dont care what people think of me :P

Joanna - posted on 01/22/2011

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I have been, but it doesn't bother me. We get judged for everything, it's part of the job description, unfortunately. When we have little us-es people will find any reason to question our ability to parent.

Rosie - posted on 01/22/2011

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i havn't experienced it so far, except from my dad, lol! he has a heart attack that i'm "destroying" my perfect skin, and no man will ever want a girl like that. i told him obviously my husband wants a girl like that, lol!

but other than that, no, i havn't had it happen to ME yet. thank god, cause i'd freak.

Nikkole - posted on 01/22/2011

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I mostly get stares from older people and i understand it wasn't the norm back then just thought it would be interesting to see what others thought :)

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