The Breastfeeding Man

?? - posted on 08/25/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )

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There was a guy on the Tyra Show today named Ragnar from Sri Lanka. (I finished my laundry early so I got to watch some TV haha) He breastfeeds his daughter. His wife, the mother of his daughter died during childbirth. The child refused to eat formula so he put the baby to his breast and he fed her, they call it "blessfeeding". He said that no milk has ever come from his breast. He hopes to be the first man to lacate. He said that he would consider taking hormone pills if they were safe and proven to be effective but he doesn't want to be a guinea pig.

Do you think if men adapt to the ability to breast feed, will it take away from the mothers place in an infant/child's world? Is it a step in the right direction, eliminating that gender role? What are your thoughts on men breast feeding?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/25/2010

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This would freak me the hell out! First of all, it is physically impossible...If it was a gender reassignment women to male I could get it...or if somehow the male carried female hormones? I don't know...it is just not right. It would be the same as a man being preggo. It is not part of mother natures plan.

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So true Jenny. If men could breastfeed I bet it would greatly improve breastfeeding rights for women as well.

Jenny - posted on 08/25/2010

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I also wonder if men could breastfeed with their shirt right off. They can walk around topless while we can't, so would the double standard continue?

Charlie - posted on 08/25/2010

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Any man can breastfeed with enough Estrogen they have all the eqipment just not enough of the hormone .

Lots of men who have to take estrogen for medical reason experience milk production including a guy Jamie knew he did lactate , Coooper also had milk coming out of his nipples after he was born its how young baby boys get rid of excess estrogen .

I dont think its a good idea to increase estrogen in men to produce milk it can have all sorts of side effects .

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April - posted on 08/26/2010

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ava...he probably has milk from a milk bank. he is most likely wearing a tube around his neck that's also attached to his nipple. his daughter is probably getting milk that way? that is only my guess. nothing else would make sense to me

Ava - posted on 08/26/2010

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I wouldn't mind it and all, but it's impossible for him to lactate naturally unless he has high estrogen to begin with-- and if he doesn't produce milk now, then he doesn't and won't. That being said, if the baby won't drink formula and he's 'breastfeeding' her, I want to know how she's eating if he isn't producing milk.

April - posted on 08/26/2010

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i think it would affect the family dynamic in a good way. i have always thought that my husband takes me for granted because i am the only person that can produce milk for my son. that also means i am the only person that gets up with our son at night (he nurses between 2 and 7 times a night) . and "since you have to get out of bed anyway, you might as well change his diaper too". see how that works?? but if HE could breastfeed too...that philosophy wouldn't apply!

Mandy - posted on 08/26/2010

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If it happened naturally, I don't see a problem with it. There were times I wished my husband could have nursed lol.
It would certainly throw up some interesting ethical discussions. Would NIP still be such an issue if me could feed babies too? I know for sure that workplaces would be more breastfeeding friendly.
I certainly don't think it would take anything away from mum, it might actually make parenting more equal. Breastfeeding is a wonderful experience, I wouldn't want to take it away from anyone, even a man. I'm sure there are plenty of daddies out there that would jump at the chance to nurture their babies in such a close way.

Jenni - posted on 08/26/2010

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mmmmm man milk! I don't think guys could produce breast milk. Prehaps something more manly might come from their breasts like beer or motor oil.

Johnny - posted on 08/26/2010

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Well, I don't think that 99% of men want to breastfeed, so I'm not too concerned that if we give them the ability to do so, it would actually happen. I tried convincing my hubby to do it when I was so exhausted, and he just laughed in my face. Our daughter latched on to him by mistake one night while she was sleeping and he jumped up, freaked out and ran away. Yeah, I suspect his reaction would be the norm among men, so I'm not going to be too worried that men who can breastfeed will take away from the mother's place.

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I think man were are not naturally able to lactate and breastfeed and it should stay that way. I am not into messing with nature more than necessary. If it came on naturally, fine... if any drugs or medical procedures have to be done... no thanks.

we also have to think that men with an increased level of estrogen would become very emotional... this is my role in the relationship lmao.

Stifler's - posted on 08/26/2010

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There are actually stay at home dads now and stuff.. I think this would be good idea hypothetically if men could breastfeed and I don't think every man would choose to breastfeed just like not all mothers choose to stay home with the kids or breastfeed so I doubt it would eradicate the gender roles completely.

Tara - posted on 08/26/2010

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If men could produce boob milk without the use of drugs and unnatural interventions than I would fully support men breastfeeding their children. It would be a little weird at first, but we'd all get used to it. lol
But... the fact is that men can't lactate. They can not produce milk. They can offer suckling at the breast as a means to comfort a child such as in the case mentioned. I do think that sometime in the future someone somewhere will get a grant from some government agency to do studies on men to see if they can in fact be medically induced to lactate. But I seriously doubt anything will ever come of it.

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I think for the men who want to do that, fine&in that mans case its perfectly fine and thats really heartbreaking to read his story...Women were made to b/f not men..they will have to pump there bodies with drugs to do so.I know women need help sometimes to produce milk but i feel personally men shouldn't b/f.Again if your a male and you want to..go ahead.:-)

Jessica - posted on 08/25/2010

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I know a student studying Biology at University, he has only been there are year but has already started a projuect for his PHD level. This project is trying to make himself lactate. He uses a breast pump several times a day. According to his research, given enough breast pumping the estrogen levels in his body should rise and allow him to lactate. Non of this is proven though so we are all waiting on the results lol.

Charlie - posted on 08/25/2010

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I wonder if their breastmilk would contain the same antibodies and nutrients that female breast milk does ?

Jennifer - posted on 08/25/2010

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has anyone seen the episode of Family Guy where Peter was getting "in touch with his feminine side" and breastfed the unknowing baby, Stewie? absolutely hilarious!

i'm not sure how i feel about this. Overall, i think it could be a great thing...but if i apply it to my family, i think it'd make me sad, honestly. that time with my son is very dear to me and while my husband also deserves to experience that pure joy, i like knowing that it was my body that took a single cell and turned it into a fully developed human baby, and it is my body that is providing him with what he needs to continue growing now that he is out in the world.

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Okay, men CAN lactate if they are given drugs to stimulate a dormant gland. A female hormone drug. Which means that men should not be able to lactate under normal circumstances.

Charlie - posted on 08/25/2010

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Um but men CAN lactate with the right amount of estrogen in their bodies so its not THAT far fetched .

Sharon - posted on 08/25/2010

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If it were safely possible - I'd consider it a miracle and blessing and welcome it gladly. it doesn't display a mother any more than men taking their share of diaper changing.

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If we are talking hypothetically, it would be fantastic for the family dynamic. Maybe more people would choose to breastfeed. That and then both fathers and mothers could give their baby quality nutrition and bonding time.

Unfortunately, I can't wrap my head around that. The mental image is disturbing, lol. I'm glad men can't lactate because it just isn't natural. Also, on a separate note, wouldn't that mean men should be able to birth babies, theoretically?

Charlie - posted on 08/25/2010

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It would be fantastic !

It would save me having to pump milk so Jamie could feed Harry and let me get some sleep , i think it would have great effect on a mothers happiness which can be greatly depleted due to sleep deprivation .
on the other hand some women are SO protective of their ability to feed that they wont even pump to share the load , i can see them getting jealous.

i wonder how the people would handle male feeding in public?

Jenny - posted on 08/25/2010

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That would be fantastic. I think alot of domineering mothers would be put out of the place though, the kind that use their breastfeeding as a control device against their husbands.



For the normal couples though it would be great to share in the feedings while maintaining sanity. Although if you're both engorged it might just casue more fights on who gets the feeding lol. Now think of the possibilities if you had twins!

?? - posted on 08/25/2010

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Okay and if it were possible... estrogen or not... do you think it would affect a mothers place in an infant's life? Would it be better or worse for the family dynamic?

Hypothetically talking... since you're taking everything literally... lol

Charlie - posted on 08/25/2010

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It wont work , well i highly doubt it unless he can somehow stimulate a sudden surge of estrogen then it wont happen he will just have long sore nipples .

?? - posted on 08/25/2010

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That's exactly why he won't take any pills or hormones to make him lactate. He is trying to lactate naturally. He uses a breast pump, every couple of hours he excuses himself to pump. He's trying to be the first grown man to naturally lactate without the help of added hormones or pills or anything of the sort.

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