The key to a happy family........

Sarah - posted on 04/07/2011 ( 43 moms have responded )

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is having 2 daughters!
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/articl...

The secret of domestic bliss is having two daughters, according to a study.
In a finding that will surprise many parents, researchers concluded that two girls are unlikely to fight, will play nicely together, rarely annoy their parents and tend not to wind each other up.


'BEST' TO 'WORST' COMBINATIONS OF CHILDREN:
1. Two girls
2. One boy and one girl
3. Two boys
4. Three girls
5. Three boys
6. Four boys
7. Two girls and one boy
8. Two boys and one girl
9. Three boys and one girl
10. Three girls and one boy
11. Two boys and two girls
12. Four girls


Interesting, I have 2 girls, and they DO fight, and DO annoy me and DEFINITELY wind each other up! However, the majority of the time, they get along well.
Your thoughts on the "perfect" combination?

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Jodi - posted on 04/07/2011

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Or you could never have one at all and just buy a dog......was that one of the options??

Stifler's - posted on 04/07/2011

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I don't believe there's a perfect combination. All kids fight with their siblings!

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ME - posted on 04/08/2011

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I have three sisters and we are best friends! I think my parents would be shocked by this "study". Of course...to be fair, we did have an older brother, and he doesn't speak to any of us any more, so our actual combination isn't on that list.

I have one boy and one girl, but they are both pretty little...they love each other to pieces right now...but who knows how it will work out in the future...I think all families are different. There might be some significant statistics, but they aren't going to hold for all families...Human behavior simply isn't calculable...

Sarah - posted on 04/08/2011

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Um, I had a sister and we fought all the time, wound each other up AND annoyed our parents!

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Hmm weird. I have to brothers and we get along brilliantly! I love them to death and we always hang out together. That being said, I always thought that having 2 girls would be the worst! Lol.

Stifler's - posted on 04/08/2011

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I'm dreading having teenagers full stop in this town. Full of drugs and rich bastards.

LaCi - posted on 04/08/2011

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The study I read said that marital happiness (not family wide happiness) is linked to having boys. Personally, I think If I had two girls I'd hang myself in their teen years. I very much prefer boys. I wouldn't mind having A girl, singular. But definitely not multiples :/

Rosie - posted on 04/08/2011

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well, my sister and if fought like cats and dogs until the brother came around later, lol. then he got the brunt of it. before then though, my sister and i always did things together, just decided that throwing irons at each other, along with wooden shoes, and her pulling me around by my ass length hair was a good idea...:)

my 3 boys are a handful. full of energy, i'd like a girl to balance some of it out, lol.

Bonnie - posted on 04/08/2011

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I think it depends on the children individually not the gender. Every child has their good days and bad days.

Casey - posted on 04/07/2011

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I don't think it matters what sex your children are they are all going to drive you crazy at some stage ;)

Merry - posted on 04/07/2011

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Well I'd like 3 boys and 4 girls, that isn't on the list so I guess it's not possible to have more then 4 kids and be happy....... :)

My family was two girls then one boy. We fought very little. Then added another boy quite a few years later and he didn't add much stress....

I have a boy now, and a girl due in 3 weeks so I guess I'll see how that combo goes, but baby number three won't be too far behind so whatever!

Charlie - posted on 04/07/2011

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They say couples with daughters are more likely to divorce too so I take this and the other research with a grain of salt because we ALL know the key to a happy family is a happy MOTHER haha.

Johnny - posted on 04/07/2011

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Analyzing this list, I'd have to assume that since I have just one daughter, I must be beyond domestic bliss. Ha!

Alexis - posted on 04/07/2011

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I was a one girl one boy combo and we fought like cats and dogs, my 3 boy cousins get along like a dream and my mom and her 3 other sisters do fight like rabid dogs and two of them are always not on talking terms at some point in time. I don't really think combos are the trick but parenting, personalties and maybe ages.

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I'm from a family of two girls. I'd say we're pretty happy. Now I have two girls. They are still very small, but we are happy. Of course, we'd be happy with whatever combo we had.

Stifler's - posted on 04/07/2011

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My parents had 3 girls and 1 boy only the boy didn't come along until I was 13 so I pretty much missed out on him growing up, I moved out of home when he was 6. 3 girls, we ALWAYS fought. There wasn't a day we DIDN'T fight.

Amy - posted on 04/07/2011

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My thoughts on the perfect combination is that any combo given is perfect for that family.

Not sure about the only one child and less stress. My sister had only one for 6 years and she was ALWAYS stressed. :) I had two and she's like..how do you do it? ?? Don't know. Doesn't seem hard. I have a boy and girl.

Desiree - posted on 04/07/2011

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HAHA I wonder on what planet the perfect combination is one child. One Child = No fights.

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Me and my sister hated each other fought like cat and dog right up until she moved out lol whoever came up with this is talking through their hat.

Lady Heather - posted on 04/07/2011

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Well I liked growing up in a two girl, one boy house. My sister was the devil in high school and I'm pretty sure she would have been no matter who was present. I have to laugh at the 4 girls being at the bottom of the list. That might explain my uncle's heart problems. Now that house was CRAZY. Fun for holiday, not somewhere you'd want to live. Ha.

Jenni - posted on 04/07/2011

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Odd how more often than not it ranks girls ahead of boys. But then ranks having four boys 6th and having four girls 12th. Then ranks having three boys 5th and three girls 6th.

How did they come up with this? I'l have to go back and check the link i guess.

I rank #2 and on every other weekend I rank #7 :O No wonder I'm tearing my hair out every other weekend.

I don't know... I think you really have to take into account individual dispositons and personalities. Just because you have two girls doesn't mean you're in family bliss because those two girls could have very conflicting personalities.

You could have 4 girls who are complete angels while another family has 2 girls who are total terrors. I think this is an extreme generalization.

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Well I suppose if I have a girl or a boy this time my combination is not too bad according to the list no.2 one boy and one girl or no.3 two boys :-)



A boy and a girl would be MY ideal and best combination I have always wanted one of each, and I have been told by my hubby AND my midwife it may be best for me not to get pregnant again after this one as pregnancy doesn't seem to agree with me :-)



Edit to add: Realistically I do think it depends on the parents, their parenting style, the children, their temperaments and the environment they are raised in, gender does have an impact on how children interact but not significantly.

Tara - posted on 04/07/2011

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well I have 3 boys and 3 girls, but due to age spacing I would be listed as number 10, counting the 4 youngest and eliminating the teens from my dynamic (oh how I wish that could be true sometimes!!)
And yes my 2 oldest girls fight a lot and it drives me nutty. But I put it down to their very different personalities not so much their birth order or make up of their family.
I think these types of studies are just basically a cross section of society that was asked a bunch of random questions and then they took those results and did a bunch of math and came up with some stats.
Meh... everything makes a difference in family happiness. This would be pretty insignificant to most people.

Jodi - posted on 04/07/2011

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Sounds like me and my brother Krista. I had 4 brothers, but the older one (he was 15 months younger than me) and I just never got along. We are still very different. Do you remember the metal rakes? Well, I waked one of those over his head because he pissed me off so bad.....prong end down. I put a hole in his head, I was bloody lucky I didn't kill him.

Krista - posted on 04/07/2011

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Bah-ha-ha-ha-ha!!! I have one sister, and we fought ALL THE FREAKING TIME! We probably played nicely together when we were quite little, but as soon as the pre-teen years hit, all hell broke loose. She once chased me up the stairs with a MEAT CLEAVER, for pete's sake!!!

Stifler's - posted on 04/07/2011

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That is true! Didn't think of that. I wonder who wrote this list lol

Jodi - posted on 04/07/2011

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No, see that's the thing, the dynamic is different than if they live together all the time. That's why I would take that list with a grain of salt.

Stifler's - posted on 04/07/2011

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I would have just said that was 2 boys and one girl Jodi hahaha. Growing up none of my friend's parents were together except one guy and his parents got divorced when we were in year 11.

Jodi - posted on 04/07/2011

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Well, they don't have a combination with one boy, one girl, plus a boy who visits alternate weekends.....

My thoughts? Given the percentage of divorces these days, and therefore the percentage of blended families, split families, etc, only half the population fits into these lovely neat little boxes :P

But honestly, I think it really depends on the kids.

April - posted on 04/07/2011

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That's funny, i have two sisters and my husband has two brothers. The three of them get along much better and surprisingly more respectful of one another than my sisters and i LOL, i think it's more on the personality of your children and how they are raised than it is about gender.

I have a boy and a girl. Even though the list says it's the second best combination i still worry they'll fight like cats and dogs LOL (they're both still young so i'll have to wait and see)

Sarah - posted on 04/07/2011

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That's the same ages as my 2 girls Ashley! Well, my youngest is nearly 3 now, but close!

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I have two girls, there MY perfect combination.There so protective of each other.They get on great, they do have there moments but for the most part, there great girls.Great daughters.:-)There age 2 and 6yrs.



My girls are asking for a little brother lately as our good friend had a baby boy 9weeks ago.They have 3boys and were told this baby is going to be a girl.Suprise, its another babyboy..hes so cute.

Mel - posted on 04/07/2011

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my girls are 2 years, the exact gap I wanted. I here close gaps are better. I dont know how much gap there is going to be now before we have baby 3 and 4 probably at least another 3-4 yrs

Sarah - posted on 04/07/2011

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I always wanted girls, so I'm very happy with what I got!
I reckon the age gap between them might play a part in how well they get on too.......there's 4yrs between my 2, and they get on quite well. There's 6 and half yrs between me and my sister though, and we didn't get on so great when we were kids. We're good now though. :)

Mel - posted on 04/07/2011

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well I guess Im lucky I have 2 girls then lol. But Ihave no idea my kids are too young for me to be able to comment

Amber - posted on 04/07/2011

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I also think it's more likely to do with temperament and personality of the child. It also would have to do with the temperament and personality of the parents.

Some parents are overwhelmed by one child if they have opposing temperaments. For example, the parent is really outgoing and active but has a shy, withdrawn child.

But then you see all these moms with a half dozen kids who seem to really have it together and be happy.

I think that I'll feel a little cheated if I don't get to have at least a girl and a boy. I don't mind how the rest balances out as long as I get at least one of each.

Pia - posted on 04/07/2011

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I would think it depends on the temperament of the individual child not the sex...

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