Things to do before you're 30!

Sarah - posted on 12/21/2010 ( 41 moms have responded )

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Ok, so it's my 29th bday tomorrow.....so I was wondering, is there anything you think everyone should have done by the time they're 30??????
I've got 1yr to cram it all in! hahahaha :)

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Krista - posted on 12/21/2010

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1. Buy a piece of jewelry that you could see yourself passing down to your kids.
2. Learn how to properly cook a steak, make pasta carbonara, and select a wine.
3. Figure out how to be completely comfortable in your own company.
4. Travel to a country where you do not speak the language.
5. Figure out how to have an orgasm and how to communicate the instructions to your partner.
6. Learn what fork to use.
7. Sing in public, even if it's horrific.
8. Spend a day talking to someone who's a hell of a lot worse off than you are, so that you gain some perspective.
9. Forgive.

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Happy Birthday Girl!!! I agree with Krista's list but I also agree with what Julianne said about just living every day to the fullest you can. You're already a spectacular woman and mother, so really, anything you want to accomplish on top of that is a bonus ♥

*Lisa* - posted on 12/21/2010

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Happy birthday Sarah!
I like Krista's ones. Especially FORGIVE. Maybe make amends with someone you swore you'd never talk to again? Doesn't mean they have to be allowed back into your life. Ummm and maybe do something like a scrapbook (ugh personally) or photo collage or make a list of your BEST memories from when you were in your 20's.

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Fingers crossed Anika, it appears at least for the moment the airports are open and runnig again, it's unfortunate they have visited us when we're having such unusually bad weather. I'm loving it though as I have no need to go out, I only go out if I choose to :-)

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@Jodi - I don't want to hear any bitching about the weather then! LOL. It should be hot (and humid) for you though because apparently we're having a La Nina Summer or something. And bring your sunscreen, we don't have the luxury of an ozone layer.

@Toni - my MILs are in the UK at the moment so we get frequent updates. Fingers crossed they'll be able to leave after all that snow. And the weather isn't too bad here, we just had unseasonally awesome weather in November. It got everyone's hopes up and then went to shit. Total weather tease, LOL. I bought a paddling pool for my daughter a month ago and haven't had a chance to use it!

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Anika, yeah I'm not planning any overseas trips for a few years now, I want the kids to be old enough to remember the amazing places they have been too.

The reason we were planning Christmas is because it made it so we could have a longer trip, as we broke up from work on christmas eve and would have flown out christmas night then we had a week's 'free' holiday (not taken from our holiday allowance for work) and then we would have spent the first 2 weeks of Jan - otherwise due to my company policy I would have only been allowed 2 weeks off work. But now that is not an issue for me as I don't work :-)

Oh and I live in the UK the weather has got to be better than here in Dec - currently we have around 10 inches of snow (and my area got off lightly). I am really proud of the icicles on my house, one is getting rather big :-)

Jodi - posted on 12/22/2010

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Anika, we are coming at the very end of school hols - including the first week of Feb :) My kids don't go back to school until 7th February.



And don't apologise for the weather. It's pretty shit here too, i think you just get it a day or two after we do. I've been hoping to see some real summer weather before then, LOL

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@Toni - The thought of taking a newborn or any child for that matter on that flight makes my shudder with anxiety. We were considering taking my daughter to Ireland this past October when she would have been 12 months but after having a nightmare trip to Singapore I was too afraid.

And a tip, I wouldn't come at Xmas. It's when we have our holidays. It would be like going to Europe in August. Everywhere would be packed, the roads would be a nightmare and the weather isn't actually that good. February would be better.

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Happy Birthday Sarah!

Anika, I was supposed to go to NZ last Christmas, my nan died so we delayed booking the tickets then the sunday after her funeral we found out I was pregnant so we wouldn't be able to go, I didn't fancy that journey with a newborn :-) So our trip has been delayed for a few years, I had it planned out by the day what we were going to do as I wanted to do both islands in the three week trip :-)

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@Krista - doh, that's what I meant, outside in. Either way, I can usually fake it. I was never taught how to use a knife and fork and I've muddled my way through. I prefer chopsticks though LOL! Actually, thinking back to the last really fancy dinner we went to, I don't think they noticed my knife and fork skills because they probably couldn't get over the fact that my husband and I was so slobby! We had been taken out by some work acquaintances of my husband on the last leg of a 7 month holiday and we only had hoodies and jeans in our suitcase LOL It was in the US and they probably thought us Kiwis are really uncouth. Hahaha

Caitlin - posted on 12/22/2010

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Before i'm 30 (i've got 5 years to go..) I want to:
-Finish my Bachelors degree
-Get a career going
-Skydive
-Lose all my baby weight and get back into shape
-Compete in a triathelon (sp?)

Since theres 5 years left, I'll have plenty of time. A trick with the figuring out which fork to use is the one every one else is using, or you could just learn, it's not that hard...

Krista - posted on 12/22/2010

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Anika, actually you go from the outside in, as a general rule of thumb. :)

And Julianne: in certain company, if you ate with your hands, I can guarantee you that there would BE no conversation...it would screech to an absolute halt as soon as they saw you doing that. :)

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@Jodi - Yeah I remember you mentioning that about a month ago. I'll apologise for the weather now. It's pretty shit at the moment. Wet. And windy. And humid as fuck.

Jodi - posted on 12/22/2010

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Anika, I'm in NZ in a few weeks ;) But I'm going North Island this time, we did the south a few years ago.

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@Toni Yes, you must come to New Zealand! The plane ride over is an adventure in itself! LOL

And I think I did most things on Krista's list before I turned 30. I think I know about the forks...don't you just go from the inside out? And I suppose singing in public depends on your definition of public...and singing for that matter.

I totally agree with Julianne. Having a time limit on a list just puts unneeded pressure on yourself and disappointment if you don't achieve it.

~Jennifer - posted on 12/21/2010

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(P.S. - I'm not a good person to ask 'what to do' before 30, so I have no advice....I did everything I shouldn't have before 30, and wouldn't wish it on anyone.)

;)

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@krista this may sound gross to some people, i usually eat with my hands. (unless its messy food) most of the stuff i eat is "finger food" anyways.. so if i were eating with someone important...i would still eat with my hands....i wouldnt be too overly concerned with what fork to use, i would be too concerned with conversation :P

Kate CP - posted on 12/21/2010

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Lemme know if you want a great (and easy) recipe for spaghetti carbonara or a pot roast. I have both. ;)

Krista - posted on 12/21/2010

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Hey A, did you get yourself a vibe or showerhead yet? You PM me anytime you need advice -- I've always wanted to be a sex guru!!!

April - posted on 12/21/2010

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Well, I don't have much time. I will be 30 on April 20.
1. Conceive #2 before I'm 30
2. Travel somewhere for 1 week...to a state in the U.S. I've not been to (and perhaps conceive #2 at the same time)
3. Attend a LLL meeting (never went...never had courage)
4. Have an orgasm (never had one ever)
5. I would love to perform the Star Spangled Banner in ASL (American Sign Language) for the Philadelphia Phillies on opening day. *unrealistic, but it's a nice dream!

Jessica - posted on 12/21/2010

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Hey Sarah- my birthday is tomorrow too, happy birthday! I will be 26. I think my only goal for the rest of my 20's is to ENJOY them! I feel like I take so much for granted and its going by SO FAST its making my head spin!

Morgan - posted on 12/21/2010

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Happy birthday!!
I hope to have all my kiddies by 30
and I think I'll work on Kristas #3 :)

Krista - posted on 12/21/2010

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I stand by #6. You just never know where life will bring you, and in whose company you may wind up. I would have never thought I would have needed something like that, and the next thing you know, I was sitting there having lunch with the United Nations Undersecretary for Disarmament.

So yeah. Learn what fork to use. If you never need it, it's not like it took THAT much time off of your life, right?

Jodi - posted on 12/21/2010

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Learn to sieze every opportunity that comes your way and to make your own without fear. It's something I'm working on. There are opportunities in this world that are just waiting for us and we so casually walk by. My husband is really good at this! Our daughter got to ride a camel a few months ago because a petting zoo that came through town was tearing down, my husband was talking to the guy who runs it who agreed to let Jaelyn ride the camel to the trailer! That's just one example of so many doors he's opened for her! I want to learn how to do this so I dno't miss out on anything!!

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It is a pretty cool list, i dont need to do 1&6, 4 is the only one i really want to do. I would also like to go to a monistary on a retreat some day. for like a year....that wouldn't be until Gabby is a lot older. Maybe she might want to come with me :D





Happy birthday btw :D

Stifler's - posted on 12/21/2010

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That's an awesome idea too, a scrapbook of your 20s. I'm going to start making one hahaha. Even though I'm 22. It will be easier if I do it year by year.

Jodi - posted on 12/21/2010

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I got divorced when I was 30 :) That was a bonus achievement :P It was also the year I graduated from Uni (notice the priority of my achievements there???)

Seriously though, I like Krista's list.

Meghan - posted on 12/21/2010

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Happy Birthday Sarah!!

I have NO idea...finish school and raise a happy confident kid...hopefully pop another one (or 2) out....OH and find a decent guy to do that with. Jesus, I have some work to do

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/21/2010

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Krista, no orgasms huh? That would be one helluva birthday present for yourself!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/21/2010

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Happy Birthday Sarah! Mine was on the 17th. I just turned 27 again, and will until I can't anymore! So I still have "3" years to figure this one out for myself!

Stifler's - posted on 12/21/2010

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I agree with Krista, that's a pretty good list. Happy birthday Sarah x

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I'm not going to do any particular set of things before i am 30. My philosophy is live every day to the best that you can. Enjoy everything and allow yourself to be happy. If i died tomorrow i would know i did everything i was meant to do. Listing things that you think are important to do, just leaves you disappointed in the things you didn't get around to. When really everything you do regardless how small, is important because it molds you into who you are now. If you don't accomplish something, it just wasn't meant to happen at that time, doesn't mean you won't do it in the future. Plus if you have a time limit, you will get stressed out about it and regret that you couldn't "squeeze it in in time." I think as long as you can fully love yourself, and enjoy every moment you can. It doesn't matter what you do.

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Hmm I'm only 26 and I've completed Krista's list...well maybe not the steak but I don't eat it so I have no need. What can I do now to fill the next 4 years?

A couple of things I want to do before I'm 30:

1- Skydive (preferably in NZ)
2- Learn to cook the perfect roast (I suck at roasts currently they are hubby's job)

Tara - posted on 12/21/2010

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What Krista said.
:)Done all of the above before I was thirty,e xcept # 4 and #6.
Don't care what fork I use and I still plan to travel to a country where I don't speak the language, hopefully before I'm 47.
:)

Bonnie - posted on 12/21/2010

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I'm not sure on this one, but I hope there is not a huge list of things that come up. I turn 30 in just a couple of months lol...yikes.

Jackie - posted on 12/21/2010

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I'm right behind you... 28 on the 24th so I've got a year up on you...

I pretty much second most things that Krista just said except for maybe #2 and #7.

With the addition of having another baby (maybe?) and getting my body back in shape before I'm officially no longer in my 20's.

I'm sure there more. I'll be back

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