Too young for a cell phone?

[deleted account] ( 5 moms have responded )

So I'm talking to my BF the other day and she tells me that her ex has bought their son a cell phone. Thier son is only 4. The ex's resoning is that he thinks the son will call him more often if he has his own phone. (I don't know any 4 year olds that spend a lot of time chating on the phone) My BF says he's only 4 and no way does he need a phone. Too late the phone has been bought complete with cellphone case that hooks on his belt. (No, the son didn't ask for a phone) Now my BF isn't the type to encourage her son to call his dad but if he said to her "mommy, I want to talk to daddy", she wouldn't say no. The phone sits on the stand next to the home phone, it's on (my BF promised to keep it charged and on, to keep the peace) but hasn't been used. My BF won't let her son take the phone to JK (makes sense to me) or if they go visiting family/friends but if they're shopping at the mall, or something like that, then he can carry it.


I haven't gotten to the point where my son's asking for cellphones and, honestly, I don't see a reason for kids to have sell phones (I never had one growing up and my folks knew where I was at all times and how to reach me there). I guess I'm wondering at what age other parents got cell for their kids or if they did and what their reasons were.

5 Comments

View replies by

[deleted account]

My 7 year old has one. She only has it for when her bm (birth mother) calls (like that ever happens anyway...) and for when she's visiting her bm (her bm lives over 1600 miles away from us and only has visitation for 2 weeks every 3 months). We got it for her when her bm got mad at my hubby and wouldn't answer the phone while she had our daughter for visitation. We didn't talk to our daughter for 3 days and had to call the police to do a welfare check to make sure everything was okay (this woman is not the most responsible person ever... she routinely does stupid things... like stepping into the street without looking and getting nicked by a car... then posting all about it on yspace like it's funny! dumbass...). We got our daughter a Firefly (it's only $10 per month) and it's the best thing we ever got her. It stays at home while she is at school and is allowed to carry it with her other places (as long as she is with us of course), but she usually leaves it at home. It mostly goes unused, but we enjoy knowing our daughter is always reachable when she is away from us.

Isobel - posted on 11/16/2009

9,849

0

286

My kids will get cell phones when they are old enough to travel on their own. That way I'll be able to check on them when necessary (apparently with blackberry, you can route their GPS info to your own phone). I like that idea, both for checking on them and in case of emergency.

Jodi - posted on 11/15/2009

3,562

36

3907

OMG. I'm sorry, you can spin any argument you like. A 4 year old does NOT need a cell phone....... I find your BF's situation absolutely ridiculous, and sounds to me like her ex is a control freak. If he wanted to talk to his son more often, how hard would it have been for him to pick up the phone and ask to speak to him? Geez.....



I only just bought one for my 12 year old for his birthday a few months ago. I decided it was time. He earns pocket money and pays for the phone charge himself (it is a prepaid). I found he was borrowing mine if he went to the park or shops with some friends (well, I loaned it to him because I felt better if he had the ohone with him), and this summer, at the age he is, he will probabl;y spend a little more time out on his bike with friends or at the movies, etc. So he is ready for the responsibility of a phone. So far, he has been really good with it and he hasn't blown all his money on credit :)

Jodi - posted on 11/15/2009

3,562

36

3907

OMG. I'm sorry, you can spin any argument you like. A 4 year old does NOT need a cell phone....... I find your BF's situation absolutely ridiculous, and sounds to me like her ex is a control freak. If he wanted to talk to his son more often, how hard would it have been for him to pick up the phone and ask to speak to him? Geez.....



I only just bought one for my 12 year old for his birthday a few months ago. I decided it was time. He earns pocket money and pays for the phone charge himself (it is a prepaid). I found he was borrowing mine if he went to the park or shops with some friends (well, I loaned it to him because I felt better if he had the ohone with him), and this summer, at the age he is, he will probabl;y spend a little more time out on his bike with friends or at the movies, etc. So he is ready for the responsibility of a phone. So far, he has been really good with it and he hasn't blown all his money on credit :)

Sharon - posted on 11/15/2009

11,585

12

1315

Well a phone for a 4 yr old is just retarded. Wait till it gets lost. Hopefully it will go the route of my husbands stolen cell phone and tour the US in 2 weeks racking $$$$ in charges.



My son got one because he needed one. I keep saying this but we live rurally. If something happens he is 1/4 of a mile to a 1/2 a mile from a house and not all of them are friendly or accessible due to fencing and guard dogs.



With 3 kids someone needs to be able to reach us. & every minute counts, waiting fifteen minutes at the school desk to call us because they missed the bus, means 15 minutes plus 30 minutes for us to get back from town. Or worse if we've run to Tucson or Bisbee.



My son got his around 11 yrs of age..... I'm fuzzy on the details. Maybe he was 12 or 10....

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms