Unable to carry one gender?

Krista - posted on 08/28/2011 ( 31 moms have responded )

24

11

38

My SIL has one child, a boy, and just had her second miscarriage. They were both early on (8-10 weeks) and so the gender was not known. My MIL is sure that both babies were girls and that her daughter is just unable to carry girls. My MIL also claims that her sister, who has two girls and had many miscarriages, was unable to carry boys.

Does anyone know if there is any science to this, or has anyone had this experience?

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/31/2011

21,273

9

3058

It is not saying that EVERYONE that has miscarriagaes has this problem. It is the idea that maybe SOME women have difficulty carrying one gender. Some women have a hard time carrying a child to full term at all. This is not trying to explain away all miscarriages, just certain circumstances.

Kate CP - posted on 08/29/2011

8,942

36

758

"@Kate -- none of those articles support the premise that a women would be unable to carry a female baby to term though -- the immunological attack isn't gender specific. I still vote that the MIL doesn't know what she is talking about. I agree with Jodi that to be claiming gender is the issue without even knowing the gender of the miscarried fetuses/embryos is kind of silly."

I agree completely. I was just rebutting the statement that there is NO scientific proof of this ever happening. There are some cases of women not being able to carry a fetus of a certain gender to term because of immunological response.

[deleted account]

@Kate -- none of those articles support the premise that a women would be unable to carry a female baby to term though -- the immunological attack isn't gender specific. I still vote that the MIL doesn't know what she is talking about. I agree with Jodi that to be claiming gender is the issue without even knowing the gender of the miscarried fetuses/embryos is kind of silly.

Jodi - posted on 08/28/2011

3,562

36

3907

I'm not suggesting to discount that it can theoretically happen, but to say that it IS, when you have no testing for the gender of the fetus, is silly. You could never be sure, and to make that claim when someone has one child and then 2 miscarriages is just a little bit over the edge IMO.

31 Comments

View replies by

Tammi - posted on 09/27/2013

2

0

0

It isnt bs. I have 5 healthy girls. Last night I delivered my 2nd stillborn son. June 30 2011 1st son delivered stillborn last night sept 26 2013 at 5am delivered my 2nd son still born doc believes that some carry a gene that produces antibodies that may make it less easier to carry a certain gene

Maxine - posted on 09/14/2012

1

0

0

i find this very interesting, my gran miscarried 11 boys and boy 12 survived only two weeks. baby 13 survived, she is my mom

Nikki - posted on 08/31/2011

5,263

41

574

Yeah I don't believe it, without being able to determine the gender of the foetus there is no argument. My mum had 6 miscarriages in between all us kids and she has two girls and two boys. I don't believe it.

Becky - posted on 08/31/2011

2,892

44

93

Well, no one is suggesting that that would be the only reason a person would miscarry. There are many reasons for miscarriages and often, the reason a person miscarries is never known. But to me, knowing several people who have had multiple miscarriages and ended up with all one gender of child, it seems like it could be a plausible theory. None of them, to my knowledge, found out the genders of their miscarriages, so of course, no one knows for sure, but I won't say it's not possible.
Now, on the other hand, if my 3rd is a 3rd boy, I wouldn't say it's because I can only carry boys, because I have never miscarried. I'd just say, I guess hubby's Y sperm are the better swimmers! :)

Merry - posted on 08/30/2011

9,274

169

263

I've never heard of this idea before, honestly on first thought it sounds ridiculous! I have no info on it since I just heard about the idea but I do know one family that has had 7 miscarriages and has two healthy kids, a boy and a girl so IMO that sounds like a no. And I know another family who has 7 daughters and only one son but IMO tits far more likely that gender is determined through a combo of how many male and female sperm a man makes and then also along with the condition of the moms vagina and uterus etc. It sounds odd to think that a mom would miscarry or have a still bir with a completely healthy baby simply because it is the 'wrong' gender for her body.

Lacye - posted on 08/29/2011

2,011

31

164

That actually makes a little bit of sense. Most of the people in my family are girls. Some of us have had miscarriages. I can count on one hand for all the male cousins I have on both sides of the family put together. Now that could have been the luck of the draw or it could have been that my family can't really carry boys.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/29/2011

21,273

9

3058

This is a very interesting concept. The human body is so complex, then add a fetus to the uterus, it becomes more of a mystery. Granted, we know a lot about the human body, but we must be humble enough to admit we don't know everything. This could be a possible truth, though not completely 100% fact. Who knows, it may be to many hormones, not enough, I am just guessing. But, I could see it making sense.

Amanda - posted on 08/29/2011

2,559

3

366

There is no proof, but my ex mother inlaw did still born 4 girls and gave birth to 2 perfectly healthy boys, but if you do not know the gender of the miscarrage someone cant make a claim like that.



As for Endro and boys, I call bullshit. I have endro and I also have 2 girls and a boy.

[deleted account]

Just reading stories there online.One woman lost seven boys(still born)she carried and birthed her girls perfectly.Now i am no doctor etc but something would raise a red flag there to me.To think shes got some sort of a problem carrying boys etc.



You have to of known the sex (like in the story i have above)to make a statement like this though..you can't just assume its the problem.

[deleted account]

There is something in genetics with gender. All my ex's Aunts had boys first then girls and all those children have had girls first then boys. Me and my SIL have both had a girl then 2 boys. It could be a coincidence but i think there is something to it. I also kind of believe some can't carry boys or girls.

Becky - posted on 08/28/2011

2,892

44

93

Yes, very true, Jodi. I just want to believe that my MIL couldn't carry girls because I have been told - and no idea whether it's true or not - that your family is more likely to mirror your husband's family, because he provide the Y gene. And I want a girl!!! Actually, I don't really think there's much to that theory either, because his dad's family had 3 or 4 girls and only 2 boys, and then his family was all boys. So it's all just a crapshoot. But hopefully I'm having a girl this time. :)

Becky - posted on 08/28/2011

2,892

44

93

I don't know whether there is any merit to that theory or not, but I do know several people who have had multiple miscarriages and ended up with children of only one gender. My MIL, for instance, had 3 boys, but multiple miscarriages in between her first 2. Now of course, we'll never know whether it was because they were girls and for some reason her body rejected them or whether there was another reason. But I wouldn't completely discount the theory.

Jodi - posted on 08/28/2011

3,562

36

3907

Oops,, I mean to add to my post that I later had a girl too. I think it's off too Rebecca. I have never heard of it. Endo has nothing to do with gender.



I also think having a couple of miscarriages doesn't mean anything. I had two miscarriages in a row before I had my daughter, it's not that uncommon. I mean, to CLAIM this is the case without having EVER had the fetus tested for its sex is just silly.

Mrs. - posted on 08/28/2011

1,767

6

30

The endo, only carrying boys thing has gotta be off...I have some of the most stubborn endo most docs have seen and I had a girl.

Jodi - posted on 08/28/2011

3,562

36

3907

@ Emma, I was diagnosed with endometriosis and 5 years later had a son. So yeah, I call bullshit.

Stifler's - posted on 08/28/2011

15,141

154

604

My friends sister reckons she can only carry boys because she has endometriosis. I think that that is a load of crap. Not that I've looked it up but it doesn't make much sense to me.

Rosie - posted on 08/28/2011

8,657

30

321

each gender can have certain genetic diseases, and the body COULD possibly be disposing of the "defective" fetus each time that happens. however without knowing the sex, or the genetic factors in this particular case i say it's just a crap shoot as to why. i had two miscarriages, i've never thought they were because of my body not being able to handle having a girl (i have 3 boys now). it seems kinda silly to think that without any known genetic issues specific to that sex in my family.

[deleted account]

I think i cant carry boys. I knew when i had gabby i was pregnant with a girl. I was pretty sure when I miscarried they were boys. I dont know for sure though because they were all early miscarriages.

Tara - posted on 08/28/2011

2,567

14

114

There is NO science behind this theory. Even in cases where the gender of a baby can be determined after a miscarriage, and even when a woman has miscarried the same gender and not the other gender, this does not mean there is a link at all.
Even the theory that a woman's body sees a male fetus as something to attack is faulty. A baby's blood whether male or female is different from the mothers, and the only cases where you would have miscarriage based on blood is in cases of RH incompatibility which has nothing to do with the gender of your baby.
Miscarriage rates are higher with boys than girls. The jury is still out on the reasons for this.
But no your MIL is wrong. As far as current science dictates anyways...

Charlie - posted on 08/28/2011

11,203

111

409

Yeah ive read about this before let me see if I can find a link more often its that women can't carry boys though.

[deleted account]

Maybe. There are some genetic diseases that are much, much more prevalent in boys than girls. Genetically speaking, boys are the "weaker" sex to the extent certain genetic defects are more likely to be fatal in a boy than a girl. For example, disprorportionately more boys are conceived than survive (either dying in utero or shortly after birth). And most neonatologists will tell you that premature little girls are more likely to survive and have fewer problems than little girls. I wouldn't be surprised in that a women or her husband could be carriers for a genetic disease that is resulting in miscarriages of boys. However, I would think is unlikely that a woman would be unable to carry girls using that same logic. I don't know of any sex-linked illness that exists in girls only. I know that my aunt had dozens of miscarriages and one stillbirth before finally giving birth to a child with muscular dystrophy. In hindsight, the doctors thought all those miscarriages were due to those fetuses having muscular dystrophy as well.

Kate CP - posted on 08/28/2011

8,942

36

758

Actually, there IS a little bit of truth to that. Some women's bodies see a male fetus as a foreign body and attack it.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms