Unusual Names: I Just Gotta Say!

Tshanna Ele - posted on 03/29/2011 ( 48 moms have responded )

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I've been reading around and there are SOOO many people on here who start a post about their unusual names... and then people leave comments like "think about your kid in the future" and "that's cruel!" I just want to set the record straight.

My name is Tshanna Eeyvohnne Louise Elizabeth (pronounced Tish-Anna and Ay-von). I think it safe to say i have a very unusual name. When people write that "they will have to spell and correctly pronounce their name to everyone they meet" and etc... YEAH! I DO!

I love my names. I love spelling it. I love saying it. I would rather have a beautiful, unique name that my parents put some thought into that having a name that could have randomly been picked out of a baby book or of the top 100 list.

Think before you write! I find it insulting, especially since most of the people commenting these things have names like Emily and Christine. Let people have their creativity.

AND one last point. If the kid hates their name all that much, they can wait until they are 18 and change it. Problem solved.

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Tinker1987 - posted on 03/30/2011

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so in a sense your being a hypocrite,you just judged those who have more "common " names. my son's name is Keegan. i didnt have too create the name but put alot of thought into deciding if thats what i wanted for my baby for the rest of his life. just because its more common it doesnt make it any less "beautiful". Unique names are awsome.but they dont stay Unique for long. before i never heard the name nevaeh,now i hear it everywhere and its on top Lists!

Stifler's - posted on 03/30/2011

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I find it insulting, especially since most of the people commenting these things have names like Emily and Christine.
Oh how tolerant and morally superior of you.

I have a trend name. 1988 must have been THE YEAR to call your child Emma. You yelled out Emma and everyone looked when I was at school. Same with Rebecca, Sarah and Jessica. I just used names that aren't so common for my own kids. Do you have a problem with people calling their kids normal names?

Lindsay - posted on 03/29/2011

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Is that not what happens with each generation though? There's always the "new, popular and trendy" names with each generation. I know that my mom thought she was being original naming me "Lindsay" until I got to kindy with 3 others in the class. We are all spelled different ways but we are still all "Lindsay".

Then there's the names that skip a couple of generations. My grandmother was Sophie and her sister was Emma. How popular are they now?

People always start out with an "unusual" name but if it catches on and people like it, it explodes and is no longer original. If people don't like it so much, it doesn't catch on and stays "original".

I've seen "new" names that I've really liked but more so than not, if you made it up out of nowhere and it has no meaning other jumbling letters trying to be creative, it ends up just sounding silly.

Kate CP - posted on 03/30/2011

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I like simple, traditional names. But that doesn't mean I like common names. My kids are Samantha (Sam) and Paul. Both are simple, traditional names but not very common.

I think a parent has to be comfortable with the name but also realize that some names ARE going a bit too far. Like naming your kid Apple or Superman.

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Toni is the feminine form of Tony - which is much more common, it is rare that I meet a Toni who is a girl (although I don't meet that many more male Tonys either). I constantly have to correct peoples spelling of my name - I get Tony, Tonie and Toney mainly, which I find incredibly annoying. I also get Toni? Isn't that a boys name? which I then point out that 1- no it's unisex and 2- spelt with an 'i' it is most definately a girls name. So as I have an unusual name, I do point out that by having an unusual name the child may become frustrated with having to spell it out and/ or having to correct people due to it being mispronounced.



Now I tried very hard to name my son an individual name because I didn't want to him to be one of the three Joshs in his class at school - I don't think we got that with our son, we named him Ethan (I could only name Ethan from mission impossible and Ethan Hawke) but since naming him we have found out the lad over the road is named Ethan and met another Ethan at the children's centre (nevermind). We are trying to name this new baby an individual name for the same thing but I am also conscious that I don't want a name that people will constantly question or spell wrong.



Yes a child may be able to change their name at 18 but when they are named things such as:



Teresa Green (Trees are green)

Andrew Hands (andy Hand)

Amanda Pratt (A pratt)

Michael Jackson

Tina Turner

etc (all people I actually know or have known)



They will endure a lot of tormenting during their school years as parents we should pay attention to what our children are named and the repercussions that may have on them, spellings should be included in those considerations. I can't see why you should take offense over that just because you love having to spell your name many of us don't and if I can help my child potentially not have to spell their name out then I will.

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Nikkole - posted on 04/01/2011

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My name is VERY common Stephanie Nikkole ( i go by Nikkole) there were always 4-8 girls in my grade with the name Nikkole BUT i was the only one that had a different spelling :) I like oth common and uncommon names my son's first name is common its Jayden and his middle name is a family name its Eackie you have to act like your coughing something up to say it lol and my daughters name is Isabella Elyse i picked that out :)

Vegemite - posted on 04/01/2011

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hahaha "Emily and Christine" I know my name's boring :( We thought we were being original with Harrison for our oldest. We chose it because I had a great great step grandpa called Harrison, he was A LOT younger than my great great grandma. We liked the name so we used. Then after he was born so many people would say to us oh I know so and so, they named their son Harrison...oh well. Our youngest is Aiden it means little fire and he is just that.

Christina - posted on 04/01/2011

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My girls have more unusual names than my boys. My girls are Ansleigh (Ann Slay) Novalee, and Ciarabel (Kira Bell) Juniper. My daughters LOVE their names. My son, Jaydn Toran, isn't too thrilled with his middle name. I told him that kids will only tease him if he lets them think he hates his name. If he is proud of it, then who cares. Everyone gets teased in school. My youngest son is Ryker Keelan. He loves his name as well.

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I think sometimes the most simple things are the most beautiful. My daughter is Nina May, beautiful by accident as we didn't really pick May but passed it on. There are unusual names which are lovely and there are some which are a punishment. I don't think you can generalise. What bugs me are those horrendous spellings, where someone picked a name and than changed every second letter just to be different. Not creative, just annoying. By the way, I'm Daniela. Super-common in Germany. In Ireland it translates into Danielle, Daniella, Danella, Danneilla, Danniella, etc. You can have the plainest name in the world, all you have to do is move...

Nichole - posted on 04/01/2011

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I went with a unique name for my son cuz my name is Nichole Renee (there's a ton of those) and my husband is Gary Ryan. Our son we went with Lacota Ryan.

Alexis - posted on 04/01/2011

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My son has a basic name Chance, and my husband actually put a lot of thought into it, he wanted certain initials that fell in line with our initials and since it was 8 years before we had him, and he wasnt expected, it is by chance that we had him. I thought that was the cutest thing ever. However we were afraid that the name Chance would get him teased, if he was overweight he would be called FAT CHANCE, if he was slow or not good with the ladies he would be called LAST CHANCE and many kids would remark that they had or knew a dog named chance. So to make it fair I gave him a middle name that was really popular so he could go by that if chance was a problem. His middle name is Aiden. But so far there has been no issues, and I am finding more and more popular people named chance and other kids his age....go figure! LOL

Sarah - posted on 04/01/2011

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Another Sarah here! lol I used to long for a more interesting name! In fact, I'm still not over keen on my name, it is just dull IMO, but it's too late to go changing it now!!

As my husbands name is quite dull too (Peter) we both wanted to call our kids something a little different to the norm. So our 2 girls are called Cadence Amalie and Shia (Shy-a) Essen.

I think it all comes down to what your own preference is. I mean I don't really like all the old fashioned names that have made a resurgence, but that's just me! I think it's up to you what you name your kid :)

Sarah - posted on 04/01/2011

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i've always been fascinated by names! Some i love, some i hate. :)

I'm Sarah. Lucky me hey! I had a Sarah in my class almost every year i was at school! I had Sarah's in all my dance classes too! Now i have Sarahs in my mums group lol but you get used to it i guess :) I always have to spell my name 'with an H' i say! and i have a weird last name (Colborne-Veel) which even my closest friends can't spell!

My daughter's name is Ceili. Yep- C E I L I. It's an irish name and word meaning 'a party with dance and music' Irish dancing and culture is very close to my heart :)
Just to be more confusing, Ceili is pronounced kay-lee. Having only met one other Ceili and one kaylee i thought it was fairly unique... I have 3 Kaylees in my mums group! 1/5 of my mums group is kaylee/kayleigh/ceili hahaha!
My point is what you think is unique may turn out to be common... luckily i don't think Ceili will ever be very common. :)
Her middle name is Jade. If she hates the name Ceili i would be happy for her to go by Jade or CJ :)
oh and her last name is ashfield so her whole isn't difficult :)

'unique' names i hate are nice names with ridiculous spelling (shorn instead of sean) oh and Ceili is an older name than kaylee and they are dif names so i'm not a hypocrite lol and i hate 'tough' names on little boys (blade or stone) i hope that doesn't offend anyone!

Bronwyn - posted on 04/01/2011

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I didn't read the "Emily and Christine" comment as being hypocritical...I read it more as pointing out that a person with a popular name doesn't know firsthand what it is like to have an unusual name. While some people I meet tell me they know another Bronwyn, most of the time I have to repeat my name a few times before people pronounce it correctly (it's pronouced "BRAHN-WIN") and I always have spell it (usually a several times), I don't mind. I guess it's just always been the way it is for me, so I don't know any different. The extra "trouble" has always seemed worthwhile to me as well, because I get complimented on my name often.

Oddly enough, I went to high school with a girl named Bronwen - same name, different spelling. I HATED it. My best friend Lisa, however, was one of 8 Lisas - she didn't really mind at all. But she thought the fact that I always had to repeat and/or spell my name for people was so annoying.

The way I see it there are pros and cons to both kinds of names. It really just depends on your individual preference. I personally think some common names are beautiful and some different names are atrocious and vice versa. But I would *never* tell anyone if I didn't like their name or the name they gave their child!

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I think (that if your name is all you have to worry about you're going to have a pretty easy life! Geez!

Rosie - posted on 03/31/2011

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i agree with the OP (for the most part, not the emily christina thing). while i do find some names really far out there, and aren't my cup of tea i don't think they're doing their child a disservice.

now, pilot inspektor....that's a whole different ballpark. to ME that IS just plain mean.

Lesa - posted on 03/31/2011

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My name is not unique but spelled differently and have had to spell it and pronounce it my whole life, which I hated when I was younger but now I love my name. With my children I picked more common names (Nicholas) which is very popular right now and (Naomi) which is not unheard of but is not popular. When a parent goes to name their child they research and stress about the perfect name to give their child. Each one of us must love our children's names or else we would not have named them that name.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/31/2011

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This is not to say I do not like common names....I am clearly stating that I have one of each.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/31/2011

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I have my son with a very simple name and my daughter with an extremely unique name. I went with 2 extremes. Though my sons name is popular (lucas) I have met only 1 kid his age with his name. It is not as popular as logan is right now. I love the name, so I am fine with it. Now my daughter on the other hand, people love or hate it. there is no in between. I am very fine with that. I love her name, and so will she.....eventually.....someday! I didn't like my name cause everyone butchered it growing up. I started to love it in my late teens when I realized it made me so much more unique. I have met a total of 4 other Marina's in my lifetime. Is it completely unheard of name? Nope....but it is rare, and i love it.

Alyssa - posted on 03/31/2011

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To me it is more common these days to have a fancy schmancy name than it is to have an Adam or Sarah!

I admire my friend who although she is quite alternative chose very "common" names for her children....this to me is more unique!

Pia - posted on 03/31/2011

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@ heather
I have a freya too...obviously slept differently to yours. It's such a beautiful name:)
My sons name is Anders. Both their names are fairly unique although not unheard of. I love unique names! But I also love classic names like Patrick and Amy. I do raise my eyebrows at some names but hey, we're not the parents, what right do we have to judge?

Pia - posted on 03/31/2011

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@ heather
I have a freya too...obviously slept differently to yours. It's such a beautiful name:)
My sons name is Anders. Both their names are fairly unique although not unheard of. I love unique names! But I also love classic names like Patrick and Amy. I do raise my eyebrows at some names but hey, we're not the parents, what right do we have to judge?

Tshanna Ele - posted on 03/30/2011

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Obviously, there is no offense intended, as i feel some moms are feeling i am attacking them. I wouldn't personally name my child a common name, however i have no issue with other moms doing so. My step-daughter's name is Emily. I don't love it. But i love her :)

Stifler's - posted on 03/30/2011

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I know a Shannon with an O who is a girl. I always thought it was a girls name TBH even though I knew a boy called Shannon aswell.

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I'm in NSW Australia and yeah not common for girls at all or at least it never used to be and even at the school around here it isn't. In Aus it is a more common boys name.

Merry - posted on 03/30/2011

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Wow I know like 7 shannons! All girls. I don't know any boys named Shannon. I had no idea anyone would use that name for a boy.
It must vary depending on where you live, I'm in Wisconsin USA. And around here, it's a very consistent girls name :)

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@ Jenn, I have honestly heard of only 1 other girl Shannen. I have heard of quite a few boys with the name but yeah, well there you go.

Amy - posted on 03/30/2011

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I was actually thinking with the rise of identity theft or accidental identity theft [ my husband and his brother have same initials/similar names and social security number only two numbers different!] - it's probably a good idea to name them something a bit different.

As far as "creativity" - names mean more to people than uniqueness. Sometimes it's carrying on a family name or it's a name you've chosen because it suits the child or whatever. I don't have to find creative ways to name my kids something when I'm more of a simple person and that's how I like to do things. I love the names I chose for my children. Some people say they're unique, others have heard them like crazy.

I'm Amy Anne. How more plain jane can you BE? YET, i love my name. And I read Anne of green Gables and was like...yeah, I'm ann with an E! Plain or crazy.

And even if you think it's insulting for some people to be frustrated by odd spellings that make it difficult for us to phonetically figure out the name, remember that insulting people with plain jane names for lack of creativity, isn't really much better, right?

Tawny - posted on 03/30/2011

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I was so grateful my mom liked different names I was the only Tawny until I got to highschool and then there was 2 others but they were spelled differently.. The problem I had growing up was people called me Tonya, bonnie, connie, toni people couldn't quite understand it even my stupid grandpa he wouldn't call my by my name it was always Tonya (they were interesting people) But I named my boys names that I thought wouldn't be so popular I hope!!! :) my oldest name is Dean Archer they are family names and my youngest is Keaton Sterling. So I hope when they get to school there are very few Deans and Keatons!!!

Sarah - posted on 03/30/2011

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Considering my son's name is the 1st or 2nd name on the top 100 names list (Ethan), I guess I'm lame, boring, and lack creativity. Oh well. My personal preference tends to lean more towards the common names. And Ethan fits him well. :)

Merry - posted on 03/30/2011

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I love my name, but I hated as a kid when I met another girl named Laura. I wanted our daughter to have a unique name but I hate names that are just different spellings, or just shortened versions, or just pronounced differently.

I wanted a genuine unique name.

And we found one!

Her name is Fierna, it's a real Irish name, but very unused even in Ireland and pretty much unheard of in America.

It means truth. I think it's fairly easy to spell and pronounce and we love it! I'd never spell it weirdly just so it looks different, I really want to make it easy as possible for people to read and pronounce and spell. Even though I still have to spell my son erics name every dr visit and phone call etc. Eric, Erik, erick, eriq. I thought I picked an easy simple name for him but yet I still end up spelling it everywhere I go!

Brandi - posted on 03/30/2011

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My kids names are Ayden Zeke Bartee, goes by Zeke Bartee.. and Xander Kye Bartee. Zeke and Xander. I love their names.

My middle name is LaShonda.... I have always hated it. But, I do get a lot of attention for it, LOL.

Jenn - posted on 03/30/2011

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Shannen isn't a normal girl name? I know lots of Shannen's (some spelled with an e and some with an o) I also went to school with a girl named Toni. Even though there were always lots of other Jennifer's in school, I'd much rather be called that than what my Mum wanted to name me: Hazel. ICK! I don't like that name - it makes me think of an old lady or a witch or something. I guess if it was my name I'd think differently, but I'll stick with Jennifer or Jenn or Jenny. I also answer to Mom, Babe, Hey You, Bitch, Henny Penny (my sister calls me that sometimes), Foo, Hun, Sweetie or Spunk (only my Dad is allowed to call me that now thanks to a stupid bet we made years ago).

Laura - posted on 03/30/2011

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Personally I think to each their own. I love uncommon names, my sons are Cian, Cameron, and Kelton. Not off the wall but unusual (except Cameron) But with a last name like Smith I really didn't want to go common. I love my boys names and so far they like them too.

My maiden name was Laura Hoff...easy enough yeah people constantly spelled it Lora Huff. Never got that but what ever.

Krista - posted on 03/30/2011

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I like unusual names, but there are some names that are so ridiculous as to set the child up for a life of teasing. So I think it behooves the parents to give their child a name that will suit her well into adulthood, and not just think about what THEY want when naming their baby.

Bonnie - posted on 03/30/2011

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I think it is a personal preference and for some people that is the way they were brought up; to only know the popular everyday names.

My name isn't popular, but isn't over used either. I have no problem with people wanting to name their children with a name no one has ever heard of before. Nothing wrong with that. I don't see why parents would want to name their child Clitoris though. That is just putting your child out there to be made fun of IMO.

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Yeah i'm going wih Hypocritcal much?

I hate my name i have for a very long time it's not abnormal nor is it normal for a girl. Growing up it was abnormal. The only reason i stick with it is because my parents gave it to me.

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I like unique names. I like being the only Julianne i know.
If people yell my name, I know they are talking about me. I don't have to say my full name because the first identifies me. . I get lots of nice comments on how nice it is when i meet people. People remember it better. Its mine and not many others have it. plus if you FB my name...im the only one who comes up (if you use my real last name. not marie):)

Nikki - posted on 03/29/2011

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I think it's just a preference, no need to be offended.

It's funny you say you are offended because people like Emily's and Christine's comment they do not like unusual names and that their parents obviously didn't put any creative effort into their names! Um hypocritical much?

It's great you like your name, more power to you. But just as you don't like common name there are other's that don't like made up or overly unusual names. I don't see the problem.

I don't like really unusual names, particularly ones that sound... um am I allowed to say ghetto? never have I think quite often some of them come across as trashy but that's just my preference.

Heather although I am not a fan of unusual name I love Freja's name it's gorgeous.

Johnny - posted on 03/29/2011

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My parents wanted to name me Heather. I was glad they didn't (no offense intended) because there were 3 other Heathers in my grade. I was the only "Carol". Of course, Tshanna (which is a beautiful name by the way) is right. When I grew up and joined COM, I decided I didn't like being Carol anymore (actually, I never liked it either) and changed my name. I'm applying for the legal change soon. Keep an eye out in the classifieds in case you want to speak up against it.

As for my daughter's name, people tell me all the time that they've never heard the name Michaela before. There were 2 others in our baby drop-in. What's unique one day can be run-of-the-mill the next.

Lady Heather - posted on 03/29/2011

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Being a Heather in the 80s was no fun because of the numbers of us. There were sometimes four in one class and the spelling never varies. I went by Heather Lee most of my childhood. I liked that much better.

The only time I ever had a problem with spelling my first name was at this little hotel in a zero-English place in Quebec. They clearly did not understand my name at all. So they were like "fuck it, let's just spell it how we say it". Edder. Bahahaha.

Becky - posted on 03/29/2011

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My name is Becky. I was one of 8 Beckys in highschool! People STILL spell my name wrong! And my maiden name was Hansen, which I was forever having to tell people is spelled with an E, not an O. No relation to the annoying boy band, lol! Giving your child a boring, common name is no guarantee they're never going to have to spell it for people!
My husband is that way about unusual names. He always says, "oh, their parents must hate them, they're going to get picked on at school." I tell him, well no, because their classmates are going to be named Mohammed and Raoul and Summer Breeze, so who's going to care what they're named?!
Tshanna, I think your name is beautiful too!

Medic - posted on 03/29/2011

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I think that (well I hope that) as our kids grow they meet people that see or atleast appreciate that there is a parent somewhere that is in love with that name and that it was so great to that parent that they chose it for their child. My kids names are not so different and I still get shit for them. I was one of 5 hundred Jennifer's and god and everyones middle name is Marie...my parents were not that creative. My kids are Daemyan James and Jacquelyn Salem and I usually use both of their names just because I love them.

Lady Heather - posted on 03/29/2011

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Knowing you love your unique name makes me feel more confident in Freja's name. She will always have to correct people on it unless she moves to Sweden or something. But really, look at my last name. Seems pretty straightforward right? Nobody ever spells it properly. Damn you Livingstons and your lack of e!

Jenny - posted on 03/29/2011

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Yep, the parents will make a bigger deal with it then the kids. I was usually one of two or three Jenny's/Jennifer's growing up and had to use an initial. I would much rather have something unique.

The classic names are nice too, my daughter's name is Grace.

Tshanna Ele - posted on 03/29/2011

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Agreed with Jenny "the Commie Canadian"

This is a new era! Its a time for new things! If we can get away from all of the old names and start some new trends, why not? There has never been a more accepting world to do it in! Pretty soon there will be so many unusual names that the boring names of yester-year will become beautiful again|!

Jenny - posted on 03/29/2011

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I think our kids generation will have so many unique names that it won't make much difference. I hope so anyways, it's a silly thing to tease over.

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