Valentine's Day

?? - posted on 02/11/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )




Does Valentine's Day mean anything to you? Or is it just a Hallmark holiday? Do you and your sweetheart do anything special? Do you and your family do anything special? Do you get hurt / sad if your sweetheart forgets Valentine's Day or if they don't get you anything? Does your sweetheart get hurt / sad if YOU forget Valentine's Day or if YOU don't get them anything?


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Lady - posted on 02/26/2010




Not like my hubby then, I think if ours wasn't on valentines day he would never remember, he has the worst memeroy - couldn't even remember my name the first time we met, he kept having to ask his mate then forgot again about two seconds later. He tried to get it out of me by asking me what my full name was but I guessed that he'd forgoten so made him wait until the end of the night before I told him. I though I'd better or he might not phone me.

Penny - posted on 02/26/2010




Thanks. Nah he is pretty good when it comes to that sort thing. So I neednt worry too much ;)

Lady - posted on 02/26/2010




Congratulations, it's a great day for your wedding anniversary. And believe me he will never now forget! lol

Penny - posted on 02/26/2010




I got married on valentines day this year. Didnt actually realise at 1st, we just chose the soonest possible date we could to get married(planned and got married in 2 and half weeks) due to terminal illness within our family. But works out well, at least he has no reason to forget our anniversary. But before that no, we never did anything special at all. Maybe he would get me a bunch of flowers on his way home from work, but thats about as romantic as it got.

Lady - posted on 02/16/2010




Valentines day is very special to me because it's also my wedding anniversary and my maiden name was also valentine. It was our twelve year anniversary this year and we had my husbands sister and her husband staying, we all went out with my 4 kids bowling and to dinner it was very nice but not all that romantic - we'll have to do that later when my mum visits and can babysit.
It quite nice that the whole world is celebrating love and romance on my special day and make it even more special for me.

Jodi - posted on 02/15/2010




I don't do Valentines Day, I never have. I think it is just another day made commercial. So to us, it really is just any other day. Admittedly, hubby did wish me Happy Valentines when he woke in the morning, but with no more or less enthusiasm than he greets me every day :)

Jocelyn - posted on 02/14/2010




We've never really done anything significant on v-day. I don't really mind too much tho. It is nice to get a card, and maybe a chocolate bar lol, but my hubby is about as romantic as a stick. I do get a little hurt if he doesn't at least wish me a happy v-day, but that's just because I love to celebrate any/and all occasions. But I always end up making my dh feel a little guilty because he doesn't like to celebrate anything and I'm always doing something :S so then he just "sexs me up" the night of lmao. His words not mine. I do always get a card from my dad tho ^_^ never fails!

Nikki - posted on 02/14/2010




We dont exchange gifts only a hand written card to one and other. After celebrating Christmas and Hannukah and our wedding anniversary is January 14th and his bday is January 26th , it's enough!!! We always spend the day together and do something fun in the day and at night have dinner in. For the last 4 or 5 years we have been going out and getting lobsters and steak and a nice bottle of champagne and cuddling up by the fire. ( last year we nixxed the champagne b/c I was prego and this year we got a little bottle)

We just show eachother how greatful we are to have one another and this year how lucky we are to have our beautiful little boy!!!

Sara - posted on 02/14/2010




I had a beloved uncle pass away very suddenly on Valentine's Day in 2001, so for me, it's hard for it to mean anything else since. My husband and I have now declared Valentine's Day as "Annual Smash Cream Pie in the Face Day". It's very cathartic, you all should try it. You'll love your significant other even more afterwards, since you not only get to express your love for one another, but act on all the times you wanted to punch him in the face throughout the year. :D

Isobel - posted on 02/14/2010




We are getting oysters, a bottle of wine, and then I get to choose the movie (and it WILL be one of those stupid chick flicks that he will never watch with me all year long).

I've never hated Valentine's Day even when I was single...though I feel kinda shitty for Joy right about now. (((hug)))

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I've always had homemade cards (except the birth of our son) from Sarno. I've kept the ones he has made for me.

We don't really celebrate vday, we tell each other everday that we love each other.

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I always liked VDay. I enjoyed making cards for my classmates when I was a kid. And I loved that my dad always bought my sister and I a tiny box of candy each and my mom a HUGE box of candy. That was always special.

When Jason and I first starting dating/got married (only dated for 1 Vday and we were engaged at the time, whirlwind marriage!) it was a bigger deal. My favorite Vday was our first year married. I came home from a long day of school and he had a bubble bath complete with candles, my favorite wine and book ready for me. While I soaked, sipped and read, he made dinner. LOVE!

This year he is working so I'll rent a movie for myself and pig out on Chinese food or something. Joy, maybe we should get together on Vday. (I know my situation is NOT the same as yours. It will be over soon!) But we are going out tonight (Friday) with some friends. We decided that's good enough this year.

Michelle - posted on 02/12/2010




Cassie-- I know it's so hard to leave the first time.... Good luck, you'll both do fine!!!

Joy-- I see your point, that would make it a lot more annoying.

I know it's a Hallmark holiday... I just don't see anything wrong with it. We don't spend hundreds of dollars or anything. We usually spend about $50 on each other and then go out to dinner, and they're little funny gifts.

Dana - posted on 02/12/2010




It's not a huge deal to me but, I always buy Matt candy and a card. He usually gives me candy, a card, and flowers. It always makes me smile when he does so I suppose I'd be bummed if he didn't. Of course he does stuff like that through out the year and I love having those special moments where he gives me something, vice versa, and we recognize our love for each other and making each other smile. For some reason things like that always makes me think of when we were first together and ridiculously cheesy and in love.

Amie - posted on 02/12/2010




Does Valentine's Day mean anything to you? --No--
Or is it just a Hallmark holiday? --Yes--
Do you and your sweetheart do anything special? --Nothing out of our ordinary special nights--
Do you and your family do anything special? -- As a family we help the kids with their school valentine stuff--
Do you get hurt / sad if your sweetheart forgets Valentine's Day or if they don't get you anything? --No--
Does your sweetheart get hurt / sad if YOU forget Valentine's Day or if YOU don't get them anything? --No--

Here's another interesting thing. Ryan has never and will never buy me cut flowers. (Something that is so ingrained as being a part of valentine's day.) He doesn't see the point of cutting a living plant just to stick it in water and watch it slowly die. He has bought me various potted plants though through out our relationship. Well except our wedding, we used real flowers and he paid for those. LOL

When I was a teenager it was a neat idea but I was never fully vested in it. Now it's just a waste of money. Ryan thinks I like it because I tease him about it. He does so much for me though through out the year, we do so much for each other. We go out a lot, he buys me little gifts all the time, we don't need a holiday to celebrate our love. If anything, that's what our anniversary is for.

JL - posted on 02/12/2010




l don't get into Valentines Day. Now that I have children I get them little gifts and help out with the school parties but other than than honestly I DETEST the holiday. It irritates the shit out of me and makes me wanna huddle up in a corner and eats piles of chocolate and then cry about eating too much chocolate and my ass being to big.

THe reason being is that I have a spouse who is in the military and in the 13 years we have been together we have spent only 4 Valentines Day's together because every time the holiday rolls around my husband is deployed and in another country.

Yes, he sends me a card and flowers but seeing all the gushy mushy loving couples who get to spend a romantic night together is simply depressing so I avoid the whole V-day rhetoric and crapola....Ugh, is it over with yet so I can come out of my house..LOL!

Cassie - posted on 02/12/2010




Valentines day doesn't normally mean anything special to me.

This year though, my side of the family and our spouses are going out to a fancy dinner, then to a piano bar in town. It should be a fun evening!! The best part though is that Corey and I are getting a hotel room together after the piano bar. We're doing all of this tonight.

I'm actually a bit terrified though. Corey's parents are coming to our house and spending the night with Kiera. It will literally be the first time that we haven't been together and slept together overnight. I know Kiera is going to have a great time with her memaw and papaw; I'm just worried about me! lol

ME - posted on 02/12/2010




The first couple of years that Travis and I were together, we went out to dinner at the place he took me for our first real date (Patsy's in Denver), but we went out to dinner all the time when we were first it wasn't that much different. Niether of us has ever thought much of Valentines day...I actually kind of hated it!!! When I was single (just prior to meeting Travis) I would go see the Vagina Monologues each year with some friends...I have never bought a gift for anyone for Valentines day, and I have never expected a gift from anyone either. This year we won't be doing anything ON valentines day...BUT tonight we are going out to dinner and a movie and my parents are keeping Miles for us. It just so happens that it's close to Valentines day was actually meant to be a mini-babymoon...I have 10 days left to go before D-Day, and we just wanted to have a night to ourselves before that happens!

Sarah - posted on 02/12/2010




We don't celebrate Valentines Day.
Mostly that's because my husband thinks it's just a money making scheme blah blah blah!
I think it's quite nice to celebrate it, if i was with someone else who would make a big deal about it, i happily would!

As Pete doesn't "do" Valentines Day tho, i've not got much choice in the matter!! I guess it does save me the hassle of getting a card and a present! :)

Michelle - posted on 02/11/2010




You know, I'm glad someone brought this up. I'm so sick of people being like "oh it's stupid, oh it's so made up, oh if people really love each other than they shouldn't need a day."
Ok, My fiance and I love each other very much, and tell each other that on a daily basis. We do special things for each other all the time, and buy each other gifts for "no reason but our love lol" too. But you know what? I still like V-day. Why SHOULDN'T we have a special day? What's wrong with making someone feel special? Why does it have to be ONLY on Valentine's Day or ONLY on every other day? Why can't I make my fiance feel loved every day but go the extra mile on V day or our anniversary or his brithday? It's the same thing as those days-- it's another day to show him how much he means to me.

And it's nice for us to be shown we're special too-- guys sometimes need special holidays to remind them to step it up lol. For example, my fiance's a GREAT guy. He tells me he loves me all the time, steals kisses when he thinks no one's looking, and helps me around the house so I don't get overworked. But OMG there is not a single romantic bone in his body. Like, we've been together four five years, and I've gotten ONE bouquet of flowers, even though those five years included two proms and two homecomings lol.... Luckily for him, I don't mind. I tease him about it sometimes, but I really don't mind. But, luckily for ME, all the crazy advertising for Valentine's day and Mother's day remind him that he has to go the extra mile sometimes. So even if we don't have a bunch of cash for that day specifically, he'll go out and get me something small and meaningful to us.

Erin - posted on 02/11/2010




When we were first together then yes it was a big deal. But now? Eh, not so much. I love him and he loves me everyday of the year. But a card and "Happy Valentine's Day honey" is always nice:)

Krista - posted on 02/11/2010




It's not a big deal for me anymore. I like my husband to remember the occasion and get me something little, but I don't expect a huge, elaborately planned romantic date (not saying I wouldn't enjoy one, but I don't expect it lol). Especially now that we're parents, I'm just as happy staying home and hanging out with my family as I would be stuffing myself in a crowded restaurant or lining up for an hour to see a movie. I do really want to see "Valentine's Day" though...might have to wait and rent it!

Charlie - posted on 02/11/2010




Yes it means somthing to me only as a celebration of our LUUUURVE LOL i dont expect anything fancy or expensive , hell i would be happy if he stole me some roses form the garden next door BUT i would get a little sad if he didnt do anything .

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