What about you?

Veronica - posted on 03/10/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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What in your life, makes you the person you are today??? I look up to assertive women - Im more passive than assertive, and i despise that about me. Im def. all about standing up for my rights and beliefs - but im easily bullied, and i will avoid confrontation at almost all costs (more so in person than anything) My biggest problem is that I hate feeling vulnerable, and then my emotions get the best of me - so instead of being able to stand on my two feet and pronounce my self at someone - i start bawling --- i hate it i hate it i hate it!!!
To change this has been a difficult road for me - we were taught to shut our mouth, respect our elders, we were to be seen and not heard, therefore we weren't valid nor what we had to say was valid either.
Then i went through some rough patches as a teen/young adult which made me a bit stronger - and since having children Im able to stand up more for myself/kids.

What makes you you, what do you want to change, what's your weakness?

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April - posted on 03/11/2011

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Growing up in different countries made me who i am today. Not only did i learn to be more knowledgable about other countries and there cultures but i also made lifetime friends who are scattered around the globe. I learn things from them, i have learned what it's like to live in a first world country and a third world country. I hate racism and DON'T tolerate it at all. I love being bi-racial (filipino/australia). It makes me who i am.

One thing about myself i wish i could change is my hot-headedness/impatience. I get angry very fast. Especially if i truly believe in something and feel like someone is putting me or my friends down. I wish i could be more calm..I tend to worry a lot about trivial things. Which causes stress and me constantly thinking, thinking, thinking. I hate that too. I wish i could change that about myself :/

Louise - posted on 03/11/2011

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I hate injustice and over the years I have learnt to stand up for myself. To the outside world I am a strong go getting woman who will fight anybodies corner. I am not afraid to speak my mind and I will go into battle for any of my mates to sort out problems. I know my rights and the law and I am not afraid to assert myself. But behind closed doors I am vulnerable and shy. My husband can't beleive the things I get up to to help people out because if we row I burst into tears and leave the room. Yet I will take on huge organisations to put right in justice. So I suppose I have two sides a strong independant woman and a shy retiring wall flower. Odd when you think about it. I think if I were a single woman I would be a force to be reckond with as that would take away my vulnerable side.

Mel - posted on 03/10/2011

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Shannen my husbands boss told his parents about the baby second time around, first time around he told them but they later found out they were the last to know. I know it sucks when someone else tells your news, especially since I specifically said to these people they dont know so dont tell them.

I realised I never answered the last question what makes you you. What makes me me is the way I was brought up the people Ive met te experiences Ive had. I wouldnt have it any other way cause its made me who I am and its made me fight for what I believe in

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Honesty. It's so important to me that one o fmy old friends was asked to not tell anyone about my pregnancy i found out that the same night i had asked her to not tell anyone she had gone and told someone. I asked her about it and she lied to my face. I walked away and haven't spoken since. I know it's only small but if she can lie about something so small what could she lie about that might be life changing or affect me personally.
I have no tact i think that would be the one thing i would change.
I don't think i have a weakness well not one that i can think of off the top of my head.

Sarah - posted on 03/10/2011

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I think the fact that I stutter has made me the person I am today. In some ways it has affected me negatively & in other ways it's impacted my life in a positive way. When I was younger, I had an especially hard time with it. It hurts emotionally when it takes you 30 seconds to get your name out. My self-esteem suffered A LOT & I dealt with tons of fear & anxiety on a daily basis. But, as I got older, the stuttering taught me that everyone has something in their life that makes them unique. It taught me empathy & it gave me the opportunity to help others in the same situation. A lot of my life choices have centered around my speech disorder...some choices that I'm happy with & some that I regret.

I would change the fact that I am very self-conscience. Even though my self-esteem is better than it used to be, it's still not as high as I'd like. I wish I could fully accept who I am, but I still struggle with it sometimes. One of my weaknesses is that I have a hard time standing up for myself and speaking up in certain situations. In the past, especially at my former jobs, I got walked on a lot because I was afraid to stand up for myself. I guess that's something I'd like to change about myself, too. :)

Mel - posted on 03/10/2011

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I hate fake people so when I see someone who appears genuine I stick with them. What I admire in someone is someone who's trustworthy someone who's there for u , someone who's going to go out of their way to help you and your kids someone who alwys tells you what they are feeling and if they are upset with you whether its good or bad. And someone who has your back as a friend will always defend you always support you. This is ideally who Id like to be and I already know Im honest, that I will will supoort friends, but there is alot of things about myself that I need to work on.

Id rather avoid something or someone then deal wth it, until it gets to breaking point then I go off and say stupid things I regret because thigs have built up over a period of time that Ive been angry but had to bite my tongue so when it comes to the final straw I let them have it, and half the tie figure out things werent what they seemed, or that I coukd have sortd it by talking to that person in the first place. Theres so much I would like ot change about myself I could write a book so I wouldnt even attempt to go into on here.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 03/10/2011

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My soul makes me; ME, it is original to me
They’re are plenty people that do things very similar if not the same as me, thinking the same as me…ect

Im loyal to my friends, I value trust, and just being yourself….because I am that way That’s why I don’t just let any ole body into my world, and at times that can come off as stuck-up, or quiet….ect

Im in the process of working on me =D

My weakness would be my Boy’s
(Mama Bear will rear her UGLY head >:-} , I would pity the fool)

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