What do you consider cheating?

Lacye - posted on 06/04/2011 ( 28 moms have responded )

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I saw a post on another community about this woman who's husband was writing dirty messages to another woman over facebook. It got me to thinking, would it be considered cheating? I feel like it is because he was talking inappropriately with another woman. With me that's fine but not somebody else.

And with that, I am turning over to you ladies. :D

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Amanda - posted on 06/05/2011

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First rule to cheating, If you have to lie, hide, or sneek around you are cheating!

Jenn - posted on 06/05/2011

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If he is doing ANYTHING that is meant to be only between us, it's cheating. Kissing, fucking, oral sex, intimate touching, emotional involvement, dirty talk, etc.

Joanna - posted on 06/04/2011

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Cheating to me is acting on interest in another party, whether physically, verbally, or emotionally.

Dana - posted on 06/05/2011

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I view cheating as, if you won't be comfortable doing it in front of your spouse, then you're cheating.

Becky - posted on 06/04/2011

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If he was doing it secretly and trying to hide it from me, then yes, I'd consider it cheating, because obviously, there is something there if he feels he needs to hide it from me.

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Meredith - posted on 06/22/2012

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It should be personally customized between the couple. I will say reguardless of the tepe of realtionship open or whatever. Honesty is important. It is easier to work with lust and fucking and things like that but dishonesty is a deal breaker.

Nichole - posted on 06/05/2011

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That's definately in the gray area for me. If my husband was doing that it definately would show desire to cheat....which for me him having the desire alone would infruriate and crush me. But then since it's not my husband, I look at it, and part of me thinks well at least he's not actually "cheating" close, but not...so maybe part of him is trying to abide by his vows to his wife? I don't know I tried to put some optimism in there. But to me I don't know if it is "cheating" or not, but it is so NOT ok.

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No, I don't consider it cheating -- more like the expression of the desire to cheat.

The spirit is willing but the flesh is... pathetic?

Constance - posted on 06/05/2011

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Trust is the key with any relationship. But Facebook isn't a paid sex phoneline. These are real life people that can climb into bed with my husband. So I would consider it cheating and I am very relax about things other people may not be. But online relationship are so different then actually knowing the person. It i too easy for temptation with the internet.

Rosie - posted on 06/05/2011

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any type of behavior you wouldn't want your spouse to find out about is considered cheating in my book. now there's different levels of cheating, depending on how pissed your significant other would be.

Jenni - posted on 06/05/2011

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I think anytime it becomes an issue of trust there's a problem. Anytime someone is doing something without the other person's knowledge because they know it would hurt the other person.



So yes, I could see dirty text messages as being cheating. Just a more mild form of it than actual physical contact. Some people might also consider flirting a mild form of cheating... it would depend on the couple though.



I would say it's a mild form of cheating. It probably wouldn't hurt me as much as if my husband actually messed around with another woman but it would still hurt pretty bad and break our bond of trust.

Stifler's - posted on 06/05/2011

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And I agree with Amanda... if you have to lie hide and sneak around you're probably cheating.

Stifler's - posted on 06/05/2011

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It's cheating to me and I'd be like WHAT IS THIS if I saw it. Not that I snoop in my husband's FB.

Dana - posted on 06/05/2011

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I figure each spouse knows their spouse...if your wife or husband IS going to be fine with it being done in front of them then would they consider it cheating? I don't know...



My point is, to each their own. What's cheating to one couple, isn't cheating to the other couple. Whether some want to admit it or not, deep down they know what their spouse would find acceptable or not.

Mrs. - posted on 06/05/2011

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Yeah, Dana, but some spouses wouldn't have a prob giving oral in front of the other spouse...

Bonnie - posted on 06/05/2011

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Yes, I agree with what Jenn Morris said and I would like to add going out alone with another woman too.

Jenn - posted on 06/05/2011

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If he is doing ANYTHING that is meant to be only between us, it's cheating. Kissing, fucking, oral sex, intimate touching, emotional involvement, dirty talk, etc.

Charlie - posted on 06/04/2011

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"Cheating to me is acting on interest in another party, whether physically, verbally, or emotionally. "

I agree Joanna

Jodi - posted on 06/04/2011

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I think cheating depends on how you define your individual relationship. Everyone is going to think of this differently. Because it is ME he would be cheating on, it comes down to how I feel about it. If I feel he cheated on me, and broke my trust, then he cheated. End of story.

Mrs. - posted on 06/04/2011

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I don't mind flirting, as long as he comes home to me.

So, I guess it crosses the line if he is telling another woman personal details about our relationship and not letting me know/hiding that this is happening. Or if he puts his penis in her vagina..that'd be cheating.

Tah - posted on 06/04/2011

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Having an emotional/physical/technological relationship with someone other than me. Yes her situation is cheating absolutely. He shouldn't be talking to anyone besides her about sex or lusting after her in that manner. I'd just break his fingers..then how would he type???

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/04/2011

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No, but I wouldn't trust him after that so I'd leave anyway

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