What do you find important?

Lesa - posted on 02/08/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I came across this in a blog today.

How much stuff have you kept from your past or your children’s past? How much are you meant to keep, or cleave away? Is it a parent’s responsibility to be the repository of the familial memories, is that our role? Memoir Preservers for the next generation. Or is it that the major family experiences are so strong, so poignant, you just can't throw away anything that reminds you of them?

So, what kind of things do you keep for your kids? I am quite the hoarder when it comes to my kids. I have everything right down to the pregnancy test that I took. lol I even have kept every article of clothing my son ever wore. Recently, I have come to the conclusion that I don't have the space nor do I think my kids will want EVERYTHING once they are grown. So what kinds of things do you think are worth keeping?

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Charlie - posted on 02/08/2011

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I keep lots of things .
First outfits
hair
art
birthday cards
ultrasounds
hospital bands
first shoes

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cards? I don't usually keep cards, but I kept the last birthday card his grandfather sent him before he passed away. I put them in a photo box in his room as he gets them throughout the year, in case there are sentimental ones, but at the end of the year, I usually toss them all out.

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I don't keep much....in fact, I've been accused of keeping too little, but the fact is, I live in a small home, I LIKE my small home, and I don't feel the need to buy a McMansion so I can hoard souvenirs.

I keep a few things from the very momentous occasions in our lives and let the rest go. I have my dress and veil and one invitation from our wedding (and an album of course). I have our hospital bracelets, some photos, and the outfit my son wore home from the hospital from his birth. I do have all of his Taekwondo belts, his first little league baseball hat & jersey, and all of his metals and trophies. I have a framed certificate from his first hair cut with a lock of hair inset in it......stuff like that.

I put most of it in my Hope Chest until I can have it framed or whatever I'm going to do with it, and when the chest starts to get too full, I clean it out. There is no point in keeping stuff crammed in boxes where I'll never see it, and won't remember it anyway, so most of the things I keep get framed, shadowboxed, or put into albums. When we found out we weren't having any more babies, I did pick out some of my favorite shirts that J had and my mother cut the front out and made him a soft quilt. I love that quilt and it is made in such a way that she can add a layer every year or so as we accumulate new shirts. I don't keep all the shirts....but the really cute ones or his jerseys and such.

Krista - posted on 02/08/2011

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I don't keep a ton. The hair from his first haircut, his first scribbled "drawing", and an outfit and a pair of teeny-tiny socks. And the cards congratulating us on his birth. The whole shebang would probably fit in a shoebox, so it's pretty good, really.

I definitely understand wanting to preserve memories, but I don't understand keeping EVERY outfit the baby wore, or EVERY drawing that the toddler did. Your memories are in your mind, not in a onesie.

And if you are worried about losing your memories when you get rid of the stuff -- just take pictures of all of the items before you get rid of them. That way, you can still look at them and be reminded of those things, but the photos will take up a LOT less space than the items would have.

Kylie - posted on 02/08/2011

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I dont keep much..i have a few outfits they wore when they were newborns. I kept their first gift from Daddy, their hair from the first hair cut, a lot of their art and of course photographs and ultrasound videos
I live in a small house and clutter drives me crazy.

Katherine - posted on 02/08/2011

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I keep EVERYTHING. I even kept my daughters bracelet from her first hospital visit.

I have kept locks of hair, pictures, shoes, clothes, hairties etc.....

I hoard.

Edit to add: EPT's too. All ultrasounds, I did keep my daughters belly button but later on my husband thought it was a bug and threw it away :(

Stifler's - posted on 02/08/2011

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I keep cards too. I have a huge box of "congratulations on your baby" cards and all Logan's first birthday cards are in his baby book same with just dumb things like appointment cards from the antenatal clinic, newspaper announcement and photo, ultrasound printouts even though I have the disc oh yeah I kept the disc too LOL maybe I'm a hoarder :S

Becky - posted on 02/08/2011

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I've kept a fair bit - but my kids are still little. I still have all their baby stuff, but that's because we still want another kid. Once we're done, I'll get rid of most of their clothes, but there are some special things I'll keep - coming home outfits, things my mom made for them, special blankies, etc. We haven't gotten to the losing teeth stage yet. I think I might keep their first lost tooth, but not all of them. I have the hair from Cole's first haircut - the place we went to puts it on a certificate for you, it's kind of cute. And I have their hospital bracelets and all that stuff. Not their umbilical cords though! Ick! I did keep their foreskins...on their penises, lol! (sorry, I just had to go there!) I kept my pregnancy tests for awhile, but then decided that was gross and I didn't want someone to have to deal with my pee sticks after I died. :) I have pictures of them though.
I still have a lot of my own stuff from elementary and highschool that my mom kept. I can't bring myself to throw it out, but I don't know what to do with it either!
My problem is pictures. I have sooooooo many pictures of my children! They're 1 and almost 3 and I have already filled almost half of a terabyte hard drive with pictures of them!

Lesa - posted on 02/08/2011

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I didn't keep teeth either. My parents kept all of ours but as an adult I don't want my baby teeth. They were really gross and yellow. But I understand why people keep them. I don't know many that keep the umbilical chord but my sister did, I believe she still has it too. The nurse yanked my son's off on his 1 week baby check. We had no idea it was close to falling off and she looked at and said "I see his umbilical chord is ready to come off" then yank. haha She then threw it in the garbage.

Lady Heather - posted on 02/08/2011

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Eeew. I tried my best not to even look at the umbilical cord when it was on her. Just...gross. I made sure I didn't see it while I was giving birth too and I wouldn't look at the placenta. I don't know why. I've dissected a bazillion animals and I can't handle a dried up piece of umbilical cord.

But why would you keep that??? Teeth I almost understand, but I won't be keeping them.

Lesa - posted on 02/08/2011

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My sister kept her daughter's umbilical chord and it really freaked me out. I was making fun of her one day and I tapped on it in the baby book and a bug came wiggling out of it. I screamed so loud. hahaha My sister laughed so hard at that. I guess she got the last laugh on that.

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I used to keep a lot. Now I keep practically nothing. I do keep shoving all the girls report cards in a file, but only cuz I don't feel like going through them and only keeping the last one per year. I'll get to that though..... one of these years. ;)

Lady Heather - posted on 02/08/2011

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I have a few things in her baby book (lock of hair, hospital bracelet, measurement thing from the hospital, first "drawing"). I have all her clothes for future kids, but I am keeping one of her preemie onesies aside. As for birthday cards, I covered a matte with them and framed her first birthday picture with it. That way she gets something for her wall and I don't have a box of cards laying around. I cut out all the signatures and glued them to the back of the frame.

I'm trying to be balanced about keeping things. I have major hoarding tendencies that I've been battling and I don't want things to get out of control. I had this urge to keep every little single scribble she makes and it actually pained me to recycle a few.

I really want to get a growth chart going. My mum had one on a wall that she transferred to paper when we moved and it's such a neat thing to have. My brother went from little boy to 6'5. And our friends are all on it too so my husband is on there but he was only 14. Hahaha. I also want to work on a family history book while I still have some older relatives to quiz!

Jenn - posted on 02/08/2011

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I keep all birthday cards (for now - my son just turned 5), I have 1 newborn outfit for each kid, I have their umbilical stub (gross - I know LOL), hospital bracelets, ultrasound pics, a lock of hair from their first haircut, and I will keep their baby teeth. I also have some of my favourite art projects that they have done. Who knows what else we'll accumulate through the years.

Now, as for your tiara - I think everyone should own a tiara. It's fun to wear sometimes just around the house LOL!

Stifler's - posted on 02/08/2011

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I kept everything from our wedding too like our dumb looking feather pen, my tiara, our server set, my notebook of plans.

Stifler's - posted on 02/08/2011

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i keep everything, it's embarrassing. His first suit, his first dummy, first birthday candle, first socks... lol. I don't think he will want them, but I will!

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