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Lacye - posted on 05/12/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My niece is a lesbian. She lives in the same apartment building as I do with her girlfriend. Her girlfriend is pregnant by her ex boyfriend. Neither one of them has told their parents that they have broken up. My niece's girlfriend hasn't even told her parents that she is gay. She's worried about what they might say, which I don't blame her since we do live in the worst bible thumping state in the US. But earlier today my niece and her girlfriend had gone to Blockbuster to rent some movies and they saw the ex boyfriend's aunt and uncle there. My niece's girlfriend walked away so they wouldn't suspect that they were together. I love my niece's girlfriend. But I hate to see that my niece is being hurt because of this. She came by my apartment a few minutes ago to talk to me and I could just see that she is hurt by this.

To be honest I'm not sure what my question is. I guess I just needed to say something because I love my niece and it just kills me to see her this upset. She is a great person and is ready to help her girlfriend raise this baby, the daddy is in the picture and he knows about the two of them and he says that he wants to be in the picture and wants to help the two of them as well.

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Jenn - posted on 05/14/2011

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Honestly, I think it looks MORE suspicious to have walked away - like you ARE hiding something. Why would it be odd to see 2 girls renting a video? Maybe they are just friends - his relatives wouldn't have known the difference and why is it their business anyway? I think she needs to be honest about the breakup and then it won't be so awkward. Tell your niece to just hang in there and give it some time.

Amber - posted on 05/12/2011

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I didn't think you were being bitchy. I just thought you meant the overall situation :)

That's definitely something that needs to be addressed, and I completely understand why she would be concerned. I can't imagine being in a relationship with somebody if everybody else thought that they were with another person....

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Bonnie - posted on 05/13/2011

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Ah I see. So seeing them together anyway is not out of the ordinary, just seeing them closer than close I guess, would be.

Lacye - posted on 05/13/2011

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They live together. I forgot to put that in. Sorry. Her parents know they live together, but they just don't know how close they are.

Bonnie - posted on 05/13/2011

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I also understand why she would be concerned. But I think for her sake it would probably be best for her to talk with her parents rather than either someone seeing them together and report back to her parents or even her parents seeing them together at some point and questioning it.

Lacye - posted on 05/12/2011

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She isn't trying to push her into coming out. She knows that it's something that's going to take time. But the thing she is most stressed about is the fact that her girlfriend and the father of the child hasn't said already that they have broken up.

I know this post sounds kinda bitchy but I'm not meaning it to be. :)

Amber - posted on 05/12/2011

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I know you're niece is hurting, but it's a complicated situation that she's gotten into.

I think her gf needs to at least own up to breaking up with the dad. That might alleviate some stress and uncertainty that she's feeling.

The rest might take a little while. If there is going to be intense backlash, it might be best not to stress her gf out while she is pregnant. We all know how hard it already is to handle pregnancy hormones/emotions, she probably doesn't need the extra stress.

Unfortunately, I think she's going to need to give the situation a little bit of time and let her gf decide when a better time is. As long as she doesn't wait years and years....

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