What is an acceptable amount of sleep for a 1st tri. 1st pregnancy?

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A regular customer came in and I asked how his fiance was doing and he was a bit upset about the amount of time she sleeps (apparently from about 12a-3p). I remember the sheer exhaustion, but it wasn't as bad w/#2 and well...it was 5 yrs ago w/#1...so I'm not real clear...? I remember getting up in the AM and eating (no morning sickness here) and taking naps after only a short while being awake...and ALWAYS feeling exhausted, never well rested! But w/#2 if was different because I just COULDN'T take naps w/a 3 yr old who refused naps running around...and I kinda just adjusted to it?



So I wasn't sure how to answer him when he asked "how much is acceptable and at what point should I be upset?" Which he then added that he felt she was pushing it a tad :/ So IDK? What do you ladies think???

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I slept a LOT when I was pregnant. First trimester, and halfway through the second. A LOT. I'd get up in the morning with my husband at 7am, have breakfast with him and then he'd leave for work at 8:30. I'd curl up on the couch and sleep until like noon. Eat lunch. Then back to sleep until around 4. I'd have to MAKE myself get up to get something done around the house because I didn't want him coming home at 6 and thinking I'd been sleeping all day lol Then I'd be in bed by 10ish every night. I only have one child, so I can't comment on the difference in exhaustion between different pregnancies but it makes sense to me that every woman would be different. A friend of mine is pregnant, just started her second trimester and she had to put off teaching her piano class the whole first trimester because she was falling asleep on the students lol There's no amount that's "acceptable". But one thing is for sure, next time you see that regular? Tell him to let her sleep all she wants to now because once the baby comes, chances are SHE will be the one who is sleep deprived worse than he will be.



Edited to add: Just wanted to mention that I had no iron deficiency or anything medically wrong with me when I was pregnant. In fact, my pregnancy was awesome from begining to end. I felt great except for exhaustion and heartburn. The exhaustion wore off about halfway through and then the rest of the pregnancy I was just "normal" tired. But in the begining? Oh hell yeah, I easily slept 15, sometimes more, hours a day. I'd wake here and there, eat and go back to sleep. And I was probably eating every 2 hours, small meals, snacks like apples and cheese.

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Erin she may have the same combination I had low iron and low blood pressure I was bed bound from 20 weeks on because the iron supplements weren't working and my blood pressure was so low i could barely get out of bed

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Ok, so I talked to her today...only for a minute, another person was waiting in line so I didn't get ANY in depth answers here...

She is apparently in her 5th month of pregnancy, she is high risk, not sure why? and she admits to sleeping ALOT, but I do not know if 15hrs equates ALOT...? I just said that her fiance came in complaining that she sleeps alot and she said "I do sleep alot" she apparently had to stop working because of her high risk situation? Again, NO IDEA what that is??? Hopefully I'll see her again over the weekend and will get some more answers?

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I don't think I'd take his word for it unless she actually TOLD him she does nothing but sleep all day. ;)

15 hours does seem excessive, but I think his reaction 'should' be concern over upset. Maybe there is something medically wrong that is causing her to need this much sleep.

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I remember probably getting about 8-9 hrs a night and taking a nap, if I took a 2-3 hour nap w/9 hrs of sleep were still talking about 12 hrs of sleep...so I don't know if 15 is all that far off...and I have a suspission she couldn't possibly be sleeping the entire time! He's at work until 3 and I think he sees her crashed and assumes she's done nothing but sleep all day, just a suspission...I didn't see either of them yesterday so if I see them this weekend maybe I can get a play by play from her?

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Amie - posted on 12/13/2010

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Charlene,

I meant the hips separating, the back ache, the constant peeing, being so uncomfortable you can't find a way to sleep. Blah. I don't know why I did it 4 times. lol

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Anemia...finally figure out why I was sleeping all the time when I was rejected for a blood donation in college...they test for iron deficiencies when you give blood...an iron pill usually does the trick...but then I skip sometimes because it constipates me...tmi???

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Bonnie and Sara me too me too!! mine looks long term because after 12 months its still no better do im getting tested for "other causes" haven't asked the doctor yet because i know its going to involve blood work :(

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Sara, do you mind me asking what type of iron deficiency you have? My mom has Anemia and Thalassemia, as does my brother but thankfully I do not!

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Bonnie, I have an iron definciency too, even when not pregnant. When I miss my vitamin for a few days, it's nothing to sleep that long. There are varying degrees to it.

Charlene - posted on 12/12/2010

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If she's sleeping this much, there may be something wrong. I wonder what she's going to be like further on, when pregnancy really starts to suck balls. Aime T.

For me, pregnancy progressively got better as the weeks went by. When I moved to Calgary during my first trimester, I started working nights, so I was still tired a lot, because I was trying to adjust, but at least I was able to keep my eyes open! :P

First trimester sucked balls for me, but I loved the rest of it. :)

Charlene - posted on 12/12/2010

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Well, for myself, I didn't have any morning sickness really, just a little nausea after meals, so my extreme lack of energy is what tipped me off to being pregnant, two weeks before my expected period.

At the time I got pregnant, I was working 7pm-12am every night at one of my jobs and as soon as I got home at 12:30, I went straight to bed. If I didn't get called into my other job the next morning, I slept right until noon, got up, ate something and then went back to bed until 4:30 or 5pm. I was so tired I couldn't keep my eyes open. And I was never a big sleeper. I usually only slept between 3 and 6 hours.

Jessica - posted on 12/12/2010

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I think it sounds like a bit much... I wonder if maybe there's something else going on, low iron or not eating right or something maybe? Also, I wonder why she is not going to bed until 12 am? That could very well play a part too, with the way our circadian rhythms work- its not only how much sleep you get, but when you get it. If I slept until 3 pm every day I'd feel like complete shit.

On the other hand, the first trimester of my first pregnancy, on days I didn't work I would easily sleep for 11-12 hours a night. That was one thing that clued me in before I got my BFP- I was sleeping a solid 11 hours and groggy for hours after getting up. This time around, I know I felt like I could have slept that much, but couldn't because I'm a SAHM to a 1 year old. That wore me out way more than working ever did, somehow.

Stifler's - posted on 12/12/2010

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Yeah I felt more like I'd done a hard days work, because I had. As soon as I got pregnant work went from giving me 10 hours a week to 40 and it wasn't 8 hour shifts it was like In Home Care where you go to people's houses and clean and give them showers and then get a 10 minute break which you spend driving to the next person's place. It was bullshit. Then I quit and felt like someone had drugged me and slept all the time.

Becky - posted on 12/12/2010

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That seems like a lot to me, but I do know everyone's different. I don''t think I slept all that much more when I was pregnant than I normally do. I've always had insomnia, and being pregnant didn't really help much. I was super sick, but I don't remember being that much tireder than usual. I guess I did tend to fall asleep on the couch in the evenings more often than usual though. I was still working, so I didn't really have that much extra time to sleep.
But if he's not around, maybe she's not actually sleeping all that time, just resting -lying on the couch watching TV or whatever? I know when I didn't have to work, I was on the couch a lot, because I did feel like shit most of the time.

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I'm with Laura. I was HELLA tired....it felt like I had been drugged. That on top of the constant nausea I had, I probably spent more than 15 hours a day in bed. Luckily I already wasn't working and didn't have any other obligations. In my first trimester the only thing I got out of bed for was to eat and use the washroom.

Dana - posted on 12/12/2010

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I felt like that Laura and I took naps but, there's no way in hell I could have slept 15 hrs straight everyday.

Isobel - posted on 12/12/2010

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but it wasn't tired like I'd worked hard all day, it was tired like somebody had drugged me.

Melanie - posted on 12/12/2010

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i dont remember being overly tired w/#1 & i worked thru his pregnancy (now 10) & #2 (now 5) but oh boy i felt it w/#3!! im a SAHM & have been since #1 was 2yrs old so i didnt even have the work excuse, i was up at 7:30am to get kids ready for school/kinda, frequently nodded off during day, even whilst on the phone a few times lol & had to set a daily alarm for kid p/up times (i needed that alarm most days) & i was in bed at 7:30 everynight (as soon as kids went to bed) thankfully my kids were old enuf to not destroy the house & in the end found it quite funny that mummy was sleeping sitting up on the couch! (little rascals) i had no morning sickness with any pregnancy & have no idea why i felt so tired with #3 & not the others.
i think any level of tiredness is acceptable in pregnancy & he needs to get over it & accept that she's tired & thats not likely to change for a while (lol)

Corinne - posted on 12/12/2010

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With #1 I was always asleep! I'd wake up, shower, get dressed, walk to bus stop, fall asleep. Wake up, catch bus, fall asleep. Wake up, get off bus, work a couple of hours, sleep. Wake up, hope the boss didn't notice I'd drooled all over the stock sheet, work a bit more, clock out, get bus, fall asleep. I was like this for the first three months and then, like my friends morning sickness, the fatigue vanished. On days off work I literally slept the day away. Wasn't the same with #2 as, like you say, you can't just leave a nipper to fend for themselves. Guess everybody's different and this guy shouldn't be upset as growing a baby is hard work!

Bonnie - posted on 12/12/2010

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If she needs or wants this much sleep now, how is she going to be once the baby is around and has to be up half the night? Or when she is pregnant with a second and has to take care of the first.

Bonnie - posted on 12/12/2010

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Sara and Kati, I had an iron deficiency when I was pregnant and I still do. I was still sleeping between 7-9 hours a night with one nap. And if she is iron deficient than she should be on a supplement.

Isobel - posted on 12/12/2010

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I would have if I could have...I really used to fall asleep the minute I got home from work, wake up to eat dinner and then go back to bed...no problem

Lady Heather - posted on 12/12/2010

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I had nausea the whole time too. I threw up three times. Each time I ate Cheerios. Stupid Cheerios. Not so cheery.

Yeah, it's true he might be exaggerating it. But you know - if I wasn't working I probably would have slept that much. I would have cooked dinner and cleaned up afterward and tried to use my wake hours usefully, but I also probably would have slept more.

Rosie - posted on 12/12/2010

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i think it's a bit much, but then again, she's not working and i probably would've slept longer if i had the opportunity to. i think i slept 9 ish hours a night and got my nap in about 2 hours. i was still always tired though. i never had that burst of energy either heather. it lasted my whole pregnancy.
i was nauseated but only threw up once during each of my pregnancies. and that ended with the start of second trimester. i had to pee really bad all through out my pregnancy too, it didn't get better in the middle like they say it's supposed to. pregnancy was just hell for me, tired, pissy (literally) and in pain constantly. lord knows why i did it 3 times.

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Like I said, I didn't talk to her...I talked to him and he's at work all day until 3p so he doesn't ACTUALLY know what she is doing all day? If you talked to my husband sleep was ALL I did too? They have a horrible sense of perception about these things...if my awake hours didn't produce money, a hospital clean environment, or a gourmet meal then I didn't do shit all day! So I kinda think he's exaggerating...when I see her I'll bring it up? I usually see them atleast 1x/wk

Lady Heather - posted on 12/12/2010

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Everyone's different this way. I can't really say someone is pushing it because maybe they just ARE that tired, you know? I slept from 10pm to 7am and then as soon as I got home at 5:15 I just went to sleep. Then I'd stay that way until about 7 or 7:30. And I almost always napped on my lunch break at work. I was just freaking tired. And I never got that burst of energy they talk about. I was like this through the whole pregnancy.



My husband didn't really mind because I have fibromyagia. While it's not bad now, it was when we first living together so the pregnancy sleep was actually an improvement on my worst sleepiness.



I don't know what hours this woman works, but to me it would make sense to go to bed a little sooner and wake up a little sooner.

Amie - posted on 12/12/2010

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15 hours a day? =/ That's way too much. I know it sucks, I was tired with all my pregnancies. I still got up after 8-10 hours of sleep and went about my day. If I needed to, I would have a short nap (about an hour) later on in the afternoon.

If she's sleeping this much, there may be something wrong. I wonder what she's going to be like further on, when pregnancy really starts to suck balls.

Sharon - posted on 12/12/2010

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If its really 15 hours - she's full of shit. Or something is medically wrong. She's lollygagging. I hate it when preggos do that. You're pregnant, not handicapped, and fuck, even the handicapped don't sleep for 15 friggen hours.

I slept NINE. I always sleep nine hours. If I get less than 9 hours, I've got issues all day. I dunno why, thats just the way it is.

Dana - posted on 12/12/2010

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I think everyone is exhausted their first trimester, I also wouldn't put it past some women to milk it a little. ;)

Katherine - posted on 12/12/2010

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I was exhausted. But that does seem a little excessive. Again though, if she's working and doing other things.....everyone is different.

Dana - posted on 12/12/2010

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Wait, am I getting this right? She sleeps from 12am to 3pm? She sleeps for 15 hrs? That's not even healthy. I actually just saw this morning that woman who sleep over 10hrs are at a higher risk for a stroke. And seriously, 15 hrs, your chances of getting a clot is HIGH.

Isobel - posted on 12/12/2010

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In my first trimester I used to fall asleep mid-sentence...being pregnant and home with another baby was HELL on earth...cause I just wanted to sleep all day every day.

Bonnie - posted on 12/12/2010

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I think she is sleeping too much. If she is really sleeping from 12a til 3pm that is. I don't know really. I think I got between 7 and 9 hours a night at that point with maybe a nap. I know that by 8 or 9pm I was dead tired...just couldn't keep my eyes open. Also, with my first pregnancy, I worked full time, so I couldn't really get more than that much sleep a night. With my second pregnancy, well that's a whole other story lol.

Jenn - posted on 12/12/2010

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I don't think there's a certain amount or that anyone has a right to complain. Obviously her body needs that rest or it wouldn't let her sleep that long. I was working up until 6 months along for my first pregnancy, but when I wasn't at work 6 days a week I was sleeping and eating - and that's about it!

Stifler's - posted on 12/12/2010

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I wasn't even that sick either. Maybe just lazy but I felt so tired.

Stifler's - posted on 12/12/2010

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I slept constantly during my whole pregnancy. The first I slept like maybe 20 hours of the day and if I wasn't sleeping I was eating or watching tv! Husband didn't care as long as he had food and there were no cockroaches. 1st trimest of my 1st pregnancy I was working so I only slept like 8 hours (as soon as I got home from work until 5 minutes before work!). Having a newborn was a rude awakening.

Nikki - posted on 12/12/2010

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That's true Erin, bad all day sickness really takes it out of you, it is tiring fighting the urge to spew 24/7.

Ez - posted on 12/12/2010

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See I only had very mild morning sickness where I only vomited once or twice a day and then I was fine the rest of the time. That may be why I wasn't as bone-achingly tired as some of you are describing.

Nikki - posted on 12/12/2010

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It seems like a lot, but each person is different I suppose. If I wasn't working I possibly could have slept my days away. I used to fall asleep at work in my first trimester at my desk until the phone would ring. So I guess I can understand. I remember once one of my staff went home sick so I was covering rest time in the pre school room, I fell asleep and woke up to 24 preschoolers laughing at me :) (there was another teacher in the room to supervise)

Ez - posted on 12/12/2010

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That seems pretty excessive to me, but it's hard to really say without knowing all this mumma's details. I worked full-time (9-6) and, yeah I was tired, but not to the point of being incapacitated like this woman seems to be. If I had a half-day and on weekends I would nap (I've always loved a good nap!), and I went to bed earlier at night, but I was certainly not getting 15hrs sleep a day.

But all pregnancies are different. Maybe this woman has other health problems that are contributing to her fatigue.

C. - posted on 12/12/2010

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I don't think she's pushing it. This is how it was for me:



1st & 2nd month: I got up at 530a to get ready for work, usually got home around 4 or 430p and immediately crashed sitting up on the couch before I could even take my shoes off (I eventually kicked them off in my sleep so I could lay down). Usually woke up around 2, 3 or 4a to eat b/c I literally felt like I was starving. Went back to sleep until 530a and started it all over again the next day. On my 2 days off during the week, I pretty much slept/threw up all day. (threw up a lot while working and also had to wake up a lot for that, too, but this is about sleep..)



Most of the 3rd month, it was the same way except towards the end. I ended up with a sinus infection, so I slept more. I ended up having to take almost 3 months off of work b/c I was sick all the time due to morning sickness (all day, really- it was the same in the first 2 months, but by the end of the 3rd month w/ the sinus infection on top of it, I could barely get out of bed b/c I was so weak from not being able to keep much down.)



All in all, if I wasn't working, I probably would have slept even more. I was exhausted while pregnant with my son. I'm almost afraid how sick and tired I'll be if I have anymore kids on top of the one I already have :/



I also knew a lot of guys whose wives were constantly napping/sleeping. They didn't get it and thought that they were just playing the pregnancy card. I think it really depends on the person with just how much sleep they'll need during pregnancy, though. B/c I've also known women who were extremely active during pregnancy and rarely napped during the day unless it was towards the last trimester.

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