What is your “Code/nickname” for sex?

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 12/17/2010 ( 52 moms have responded )




My husband and I call it Hot tea…that way if he’s joking about something referring to sex he will say Hot Tea (when our son is around)

If you don’t have one do you just say lets have sex?


Kylie - posted on 12/18/2010




My hubby has all sorts of code names like a jolly rodgering, canoodling, get nasty, gonna get it inya, need a service? lets have a go, rumpypumpy ...arghh there are more and hes always coming up with silly things. I'm more direct, a sneaky grope if the kids are around or a pash is usually how i suggest/initiate it.


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We don't have one and it is never the same "question". We do and say different things but it is always sex or make love.

Shauna - posted on 12/27/2010




haha, we dont have one for sex, but when my husband wants oral sex, we call it "great rewards" ..... like example: Hey hubby great rewards for you if you go buy me some ice cream etc

Hannah - posted on 12/27/2010




We call it "doing the dirty" or my husband will say "I'm going to bend you over".

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no secret words, just body language. hubby is more likely than i am to get fresh and gets this look in his eye, then bites his lip and if he's within arm's reach, he'll rub the small of my back. if i'm the one instigating, i usually run a finger down the middle of his chest or act all lovey-dovey with him. no idea what we'll do after Julie gets bigger. our sex-life will probably fizzle...i don't have as much drive as he does as it is...

when just talking about it in passing, though, hubby calls it sex and i call it " doing it." makes me sad that hubby doesn't call it "making love" but the little crack-head i had a 2-week fling with DID call it that...hubby would just get upset if i told him, though. about calling it "making love," not that i had a fling (it was during the year we weren't together). he knows about that...

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We started calling it "canoodling", but I can't remember why. What's funny is that now my nearly 4 yo will say "Yeah, you should do noodling!" Not having any clue what we're talking about.

Nikkole - posted on 12/20/2010




Ill ask my husband if hes in the mood in front of the kids but if we dont have them ill just jump on him and start taking my clothes off :)

Tah - posted on 12/20/2010




we call it bingo because the first place we ever had sex was in my then car behind a building where people played bingo....so when we are playing around in front of people we say, things like.."you must wanna play bingo"...lmbbo

Caitlin - posted on 12/20/2010




We like to joke about calling it "doing our taxes". But most of the time it's pretty direct. If the kids are up, we kind of just give each other the look, then look towards the bedroom, and this is rare because they a rarely both occupied properly.

April - posted on 12/20/2010




lol...we just say it now, but back in college when we had more time for wild sex, my husband would tell me he wanted to go some place hot and tropical. He named my vag South Africa (although SA is not a tropical place..lol)

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If we're referring to sex, not necessarily for ourselves but say, a couple on TV are on the verge of having it, we call that 'Brown chicken, brown cow'. Go on, say it out loud, it sounds like porn music "Brown Chicken, Brown Coooow". LOL. My husband has many interesting turn of phrases for sex. They're all crude and stupid. For example "I'm going to jump your bones". He'll make innuendo out of anything. We also have a hand signal which I think we got from the movie High Fidelity (I think that was the one), which is running your middle finger on the palm of the other person's hand, when holding hands.

Stifler's - posted on 12/19/2010




We don't have one haha we're just like... how about you kiss me somewhere else?

Vegemite - posted on 12/19/2010




A "tap on the shoulder". When he gets home late from work and I'm asleep he gives me a tap on the shoulder or if I know he'll be late when he's leaving I'll tell him to give me a tap on the shoulder when he gets home.

Sara - posted on 12/18/2010




"Hide the salami -- I win!!" is frequently heard around my house as well. So romantic.

September - posted on 12/18/2010




We don't have a code name. Nor do we ever really say let's have sex. It usually just happens naturally :)

Barb - posted on 12/18/2010




hahahaha @ discussing thanksgiving dinner.

We were childless one weekend and going wild one morning when i felt a little hand patting me on the shoulder "bawb? bawb?" I turned to see darling blue eyed, blond, Mason, from down the street. We quickly covered up with blankets, as if he hadn't seen everything walking into the bedroom. "yes Mason?" "would make me some bweakfest, i'm hungwey?" I started to get up and then a hand on my chest pushed me back down. Doug; "you have a Mother! go wake her up!" Mason; "what are you doing?" Doug; "Private Wrestling! Go home!"

Poor little Mason. We started locking our doors after that.

We call it "Private Wrestling" or "pokety poke" or "hide the sausage" But i like some of the new names i've learned on here.. LOL

Bonnie - posted on 12/18/2010




My husband and I don't really have a code name for it. We usually just do it. We never even try to do it when the boys are awake because we know it won't be long before they come looking for us hahaha. We flirt and grope when the boys are awake though. Kind of hard to keep your hand to yourself all the time lol.

Rosie - posted on 12/18/2010




theres no secret code in my house, lol. it's pretty much, "you wanna go do it?!" all the time, lol!

C. - posted on 12/18/2010




Bahahaha!!! Sara.. That reminds me of a story my oldest sister told me a while back.. Let's just say she walked in on our parents about 9 months before I was born..

Sara - posted on 12/18/2010




My family jokes and calls it "Discussing Thanksgiving dinner". This is because when I was about 4 I walked into my parents room and found them naked in bed together (they weren't in the actual act -- thank goodness) and I said "What are you doing?" and they said "Discussing Thanksgiving dinner" and I said "Oh, ok" and walked out.

So, my husband have adopted it as our term too when we're trying to be incognito.

Jenn - posted on 12/18/2010




I don't think we really have a code word. Usually it just happens which I prefer - I HATED it when my exes would say "let's fuck" "wanna fuck" or something similar - "ummm - not now I don't!" Brian used to say that we made love because that's what it was - now he never says it. UGH - this last week I'm really starting to ponder a few things - it seems something is off with him and I'm just not feeling the love like I used to from him. :(

C. - posted on 12/18/2010




Usually my husband and I will say 'wanna have some fun later?' if our son is around. Sometimes if our son is around and he's playing with toys or something we'll also just kind of grope each other quickly while he's not looking at us and we know.

Also, hubby's keen on the term 'make love'.. I kind of hated it, but I guess it's growing on me. But we usually use that one when our son is asleep.

Johnny - posted on 12/17/2010




I usually just squeeze my boobs together and he knows. Our nickname for sex is just nookie, not very creative, but boob squeezing is generally easily done on the sly. Nothing wrong with little flirtation.

Charlie - posted on 12/17/2010




no words just "the look " combined with "the smirk" and if I really want to get my point across a little incognito groping .

Kate CP - posted on 12/17/2010




Don't have one. Most of the time I'll just look at him and say "Wanna fuck?" He gets the hint. ;)

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i don't think i could handle a crazy spike in my sex drive when i get to around 30.. I already have a high enough sex drive.

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We just do, we don't talk about it really. At least not before hand.
Joy- I can definitely relate to that, a friend of mine said I'm probably hitting that crazy spike in the sex drive that comes around 30.

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hahaha joy my bf works back shift so he does that at like 6am when he gets home...i dont have a problem with it, since i do the same thing when i put the baby down for a nap lol

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Well, normally Steve will ask me, "wanna join me in the shower?" But lately, I don't know what my deal is, but I'm horney as hell a lot and I've been making sure Jacob is occupied and going in and waking Steve up by just jumping his bones. He seems to like that "approach" :P

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 12/17/2010




we say lets have sex as well....but sometimes my hubby will ask when we are at dinner or riding in the car...and with our son around (the oldest) we came up with hot Tea.....it started off as a inside joke years ago...and it just stuck...
if you dont have one...i dont think its "Boring" your calling it like it is...I just wanted to know if i was the only one....LOL

Kayle - posted on 12/17/2010




My fiance makes more of a sound than calling it a name. ch-chick. I think thats how I would spell it if I had to.

Me, I used to say lets go do the dirty...now I add laundry to the end of it. lol

Dana - posted on 12/17/2010




Wow, we don't have a code word, now I'm wondering if that's rather boring of us...
We just say let's have sex, I guess. We don't really talk about it though, we just do it.

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Usually we just come on to each other. Sometimes we sayt lets have sex....it all depends on how creative we are willing to get i guess....

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